Sign in to follow this  
Followers 0
  • entries
    2
  • comments
    11
  • views
    881

Movin On...

Sign in to follow this  
Followers 0
myladylove

428 views

First time I have written a blog. Haven't had my thoughts together enough, have had too many domestic problems and too much crap in my life for a long while now. I came to shy's as a result of being bullied and harassed by neighbours regarding my past private bisexual history. To be honest it was something I had given up on. Like many of the married ladies who post on here the need to express my bi side became very strong to the point I knew I had to act on it. I met and had a year and a half long relationship with my gf which sad to say ended quite badly even though when we first met she said she felt that we would be friends for life and that I was like the best friend she never had,,,blah blah....yeah right. I tried once more but 'nothing could compare to her' and decided to leave the whole issue alone and got on with my marriage. This was in 1990.

 

Fast forward to 2011 and tragically I lose my hubby and primary partner to cancer. Fast forward to 2014 I move to new house to be near grown up sons. This is where the aggro starts. Suddenly according to my neighbours I am a Lesbian, slut, tart, old slapper, should make up my mind if I am gay or straight, should not be entitled to my home and pension and main perpetrator states she will be 'fly in my ointment and make sure I don't make any new friends'. Gee wiz, this is straight women for you, one wiff of any lesbianism in a womens past and they get all superior on you. Oh and btw according to this woman as well 'people like me should never have children'. Well cow face, I had them and they were a damn site better loved and cared for than I ever was. All this crap and a string of domestic crisis to deal with plus still dealing with grief and having old wounds opened up.

 

Present day 2016. Final straw have had it. I have persevered but for my own sanity I am gonna have to move again. I have had support of a kind from local ASB team but had to close the case cos I had no video evidence and was afraid to properly identify main perp. It has become a case of being ganged up on by all the neighbours anyway. It feels like they are running my life for me, imposing choices onto me that I might not be ready for or was never contemplating making anyway. For me it's like it was too long ago, long forgotten. I am a much older woman with a medical condition to contemplate these days and would struggle to find the energy. I mean what the hell difference does it make to them? They don't pay my bills.

 

So before this becomes depressingly boring it's just to say that I have had my property valued and all being well it should be on the market next week. Easy. The hard part being finding suitable housing for me and ensuring that I, as an older and vulnerable woman am never subject to this kind of disgusting, unjust and inappropriate harassment again. Is that too much to ask?


2
  Report Entry
Sign in to follow this  
Followers 0


8 Comments


Best of luck on your pending sale and move. This is probably the best way to resolve the unfortunate predicament you find yourself in. I guess thinking of it as an adventure rather than a chore might help a tad.

 

If there is any way you are able to get a sense of the personalities in the new neighborhoods you are researching, prior to actually moving there, that might be a good investment of time. Perhaps take a walk in the area or visit a coffee shop in the community and see what the folks are like or if they know anyone near where you are looking to move.

 

And, of course (and most importantly), talk it over with Amber! She'll give you the most honest opinion!

 

Take good care!

0

Share this comment


Link to comment

Poor Amber, she is the one I feel so sorry for, cats just hate being moved and here I am contemplating yet another one. Yes I have thought about somehow getting some info or finding out who lives near me before I move. I haven't found anywhere yet though, it's a long old process and can become quite stressfull.

 

Thanks for your input OIMDs it's nice to hear from you again. :-)

 

 

 

 

0

Share this comment


Link to comment

I'm happy to read your making steps towards moving. I know it's a long road and a stressful one, but at least it will end you will be happier, healthier and safer away from those nut jobs.

 

I have one question though, if I maybe so forward? How do they know or assume you're gay/bi?

 

Was it just a wild guess they latched onto or did they somehow discover this?

0

Share this comment


Link to comment

Wow; I live my happily sheltered life and I often wonder what kind of vitriol people get for being bi, or anything, really, from bigoted onlookers. I don't know where you live but I find this enraging.

 

I agree, though, who has the energy for that kind of stupid hatred, at any age? Especially when you have to fight the fight alone...

 

It's also hard to know how you can ensure that it doesn't happen again. A gated community won't help if the monsters are inside the gates. And if it's endemic in the culture of whatever area you're in it might mean a bigger move, which can be either harder or easier.

 

Either way I look forward to hearing more. Stay strong!

1

Share this comment


Link to comment
On 06/06/2016 at 8:40 PM, Hungry said:

I'm happy to read your making steps towards moving. I know it's a long road and a stressful one, but at least it will end you will be happier, healthier and safer away from those nut jobs.

 

I have one question though, if I maybe so forward? How do they know or assume you're gay/bi?

 

Was it just a wild guess they latched onto or did they somehow discover this?

For some reason I only just seen this reply, been thinking about updating my blog. I may have answered this question in another post. It's very complicated but this all seems to have come to the fore since moving to my present address, old friends and family who knew at the time spreading the glad tidings around where I live.

0

Share this comment


Link to comment
On 07/06/2016 at 3:44 PM, Veruca Salk said:

Wow; I live my happily sheltered life and I often wonder what kind of vitriol people get for being bi, or anything, really, from bigoted onlookers. I don't know where you live but I find this enraging.

 

I agree, though, who has the energy for that kind of stupid hatred, at any age? Especially when you have to fight the fight alone...

 

It's also hard to know how you can ensure that it doesn't happen again. A gated community won't help if the monsters are inside the gates. And if it's endemic in the culture of whatever area you're in it might mean a bigger move, which can be either harder or easier.

 

Either way I look forward to hearing more. Stay strong!

Thanks for this reply. The sale didn't work out. I have briefly worked with the ASB (anti social behaviour) team but they only keep a case open for three weeks and can't do much without video evidence. Things are quiet but with intermediate and unprovoked verbal attacks. You are right I need to work on how I can prevent this from happening again. I am considering retirement housing but the facts and figures have to add up first. After that I don't know.

1

Share this comment


Link to comment
14 hours ago, myladylove said:

For some reason I only just seen this reply, been thinking about updating my blog. I may have answered this question in another post. It's very complicated but this all seems to have come to the fore since moving to my present address, old friends and family who knew at the time spreading the glad tidings around where I live.

Is there any reason for them to do that though. If they don't have any real bad blood with you? It's not my life or my business. But something about the proportion of their efforts - ie. hate doesn't sit right with me. Just my $0.2, I'm sorry you have live through it regardless of the catalyst.

0

Share this comment


Link to comment

Well one old friend from way back in my skinhead days doesn't like my financial status and has verbally expressed what she thinks it should be. As for family, well they just don't want to take responsibility for their past mistreatment of me and would rather blacken my name based on my past sexual experiences. However if I were to enter into this game my family really have no moral high ground and I could tell stories about their past behaviour as well. The aforementioned old friend also has a history of unhinged behaviour when upset so they are all a bunch of hypocrites really. It's hell when these people join forces against you though.

0

Share this comment


Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!


Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.


Sign In Now