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One year on

lsroses

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I found shys on a random google search one evening and was soon hooked. I had finally found a place where I could be open about my emotions for the first time in my life! It’s liberating!

I have connected with some of the most amazing people who have made me open up (something I really wasn’t used to), they’ve listened to me on my down days (there have been many). We’ve laughed and shared stories and experiences, and every single interaction has made a huge difference to my life and how I’ve handled things along the way. I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to listen to me pouring my heart out even when you had your own problems to deal with so for that I am eternally grateful.

One unique lady became very special to me early on. I felt that magnetic pull towards her and I wasn’t sure what or why I felt that strongly, but I did. We hit it off quickly. So much in common, the same interests and desires. Everything just clicked into place. She was all I could think about. We messaged every day and grew closer and closer.

We were both open with our husbands, but sadly, they both became very insecure with our connection, which, to be fair, was stronger than either of us had ever experienced before, although we never told them how strong, I guess they could tell. As much as we love our husbands, we grew to love each other too and it consumed and scared us both. Despite their insecurities we had to see each other, with their consent, never crossing the line, and sticking to the firm boundaries that husbands had set. If you were hoping for a raunchy shys story, this isn’t it. It was however, the most romantic and loving relationship I’ve ever experienced with anyone before and I’m fortunate enough to have a best friend at the end of it too.

It’s been 11 months since our first messages and we’ve become so close, even if friendship is all we can have. The connection we made is unique and special and I’m a better person when I’m with her. I’m forever grateful to this place for making that possible.

So while her husband can’t bear the thought of her being with anyone else, mine is coming around to the idea. The journey I’ve been on with my marriage is a post for another time but he has been truly amazing and in an odd way it’s brought us closer. Lots of communication and trial and error, which has been really hard at times. In the end it all comes down to one simple but crucial point….that he must always feel like he’s my number one priority above anyone else. I neglected him at times and I see that now. He accepts I may have relationships with other women if the opportunity presents itself, as long as he never feels like second best. Sounds simple enough right?? I thought so until I fell in love with a woman. It’s…..intense! I have so much to learn.

So this is where I am now, a year later. I finally accepted who I am, I’ve dipped my toes in a world I was afraid of for a long time and found I’m quite at home here. I just need to figure out what I want, and I'm working a little harder on my marriage because he really is an incredible man.

Right now this is just a big thank you to the people who set up this wonderful site and allowed a highly supressed bisexual to express herself in ways she never thought possible. I hope it helps others too.


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Beautifully written!! Shybi has found a special place in my heart as well. I have not found love...but I've found friendship, support, compassion and understanding. I may never be the person I want to be, or have the life I want to have, but shys has given me a new perspective on many things, mainly myself. I value the friendships I've formed here, and I am truly grateful to those you've gotten to know me on a personal level. 

I loved reading your story @lsroses, it's so genuine and heartfelt. I always enjoy hearing of romances found here, because it sounds like such a beautiful thing...like a fairytale. I hope your fairytale is everything a fairytale should be. Thank you so much for sharing, I wish you all the best :)

Oh, and a big cheers for shys and all the shybi ladies :drinks:

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I hope so @BenedettaC! I really don't have a clue where I'm going but I quite like it this way :)

@Cute&Curious this place really is special and I'm glad it's helped you too. The women here are truly wonderful. I've followed your story and it must be incredibly hard for you. I wish you all the best too and hope everything works out. My fairytale isn't exactly what we wanted but we're lucky to have a mutual understanding and respect as all good friendships should. Accepting we would only ever have a platonic relationship was a very hard and emotional conversation for us both at the time. But we had a meet up scheduled and we stuck to it knowing it might be difficult. It was a little emotional, but in a good way. Knowing the other person is happy and that we have some infuence in bringing that happiness is enough right now so it feels like everything is as it should be. 

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  what a wonderful post. I think this site has helped so many women like ourselves. I am with you in Thanking the creation of such a community.

Like you I have no idea of my journey but I am in a much better place in my life having this outlet.

I think its remarkable how you were able to find a love even if its platonic, that doesnt deminish how deep you can feel for someone. 

Thank you for this lovely post.

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Wow, ok so we are now well over a year on.... going from the butterflies darting in my tummy everytime i checked shys, to loving my best friend !. The first time we met and those agonising extra twenty minutes you made me wait ... i'm joking! Was such a remarkable day . We walked around as we do now, in our own little bubble, everything a blur around us and just enjoying every second we spend together. I love the fact we set our own standards for our relationship, what was right for us and our families and said forget how others view it. Its down to us! Yes we both have amazing men in our lives and have happy marriages , beautiful children and now have the very best friends-how lucky are we?!

I believe it was fate to chat and our paths to cross we needed each other and you came at the perfect time. You will never realise how truly special you are to me as i simply do not have the words . X

Shys will always be home and i feel very thankful to the site and the ladies who helped make sense of things for me and made me feel i was not alone.

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You're an incredible lady @Amysecret

You've been so understanding and supportive and life really is brighter with you around. Thank you! xx

Also, the late thing...... lol! You must be used to my terrible timekeeping by now, right? :air_kiss:

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Wow, super happy for you and congrats on learning from the experience and finding a suitable balance!

*I tip my hat to you* 

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If anyone is gonna make the best of things and work out a way forward it's you @lsroses you and @Amysecret both together and separately. You two have yourselves to thank for fostering your connection and trusting each other to explore and moving forward considering everyone and everything - the site just gave you a starting point and I'm glad it did :D

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You know you never have to thank me. I've never doubted your resolve and care, not just for @Amysecret but for everyone and yourself underneath it all. I should really get in touch, shouldn't I? I always feel like I'm the one saying I don't have time, doesn't mean I don't care though :P

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Lol! I told you I have manners and you deserve a thank you! 

I was just thinking how I need to catch up with you! It works both ways you know, and I have been out of action too after the hols. Anyway, you have had a bloody good excuse so I'll let you off :P 

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This is such a happy,  feel good post! It definitely sounds like your paths were meant to cross.  When you find that pull,  and someone who gets you,  it's hard to ignore! 

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wow, thank you for sharing.  i can relate so much to everything you wrote.   i can safely say that i feel like i am in a very similar situation (about a year and a half since I joined Shy) and i wouldn’t be where i was if it wasn’t for the honesty and kindness of the women I have met though this forum.  it has made me way more confident in what i want, how to ask for it and is helping with how i move forward.  i wish you happiness and clarity on your future and appreciate hearing I’m not alone in experiencing this wild adventure.

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You are an amazing woman lsroses! Wishing you an adventurous year (!) and may you always have peace and balance at home, much love!

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Thanks you lovely lot :)

I'm glad you like it. Everyone here has their struggles and women have such an incredible way of supporting and encouraging each other. It's a powerful force and I wish all of you the best too.

@rgold72 You're way too kind and I will make sure we catch up properly when one of us isn't working or sleeping! Time differences are rubbish! 

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