I posted this in a discussion but feel it belongs in a place of its own here on this blog. Here's what I wrote a few days ago:
While I believe there are people who are truly bicurious, I have come to realize I am not. As of yesterday I have stopped identifying as bicurious, and am now certain I am bisexual. Here's how I came to this revelation:
1. I used to think inexperience disqualified me as bisexual -- even when I am certain I am attracted to both men and women. I think this came from the faulty equivalence I made to the common saying, "How are you sure you like/don't like something if you haven't tried it?". The more I thought about it, the less it made sense. Inexperienced (virgin) heterosexuals who are certain they are exclusively attracted to the opposite sex don't say, "I'm hetero-CURIOUS because I have never been with ANYONE." So, I have to ask myself why I should hold myself to a different standard.
2. I bought into the myth that you can only be straight or gay, and that if you are a woman who has only been with men, then you are either a closeted lesbian, or a straight woman angry at or unhappy with their man. Complete nonsense!
I think I have through the years inadvertently incorporated the very nuanced but very pervasive sexual stereotypes into my own identity. It contradicted everything I know about myself and that is: I am bisexual. I am most certainly, without a doubt, bisexual. (And happy to be one too!)