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I no longer identify as bicurious

Femme Lusting

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I posted this in a discussion but feel it belongs in a place of its own here on this blog.  Here's what I wrote a few days ago:

 

While I believe there are people who are truly bicurious, I have come to realize I am not.   As of yesterday I have stopped identifying as bicurious, and am now certain I am bisexual.  Here's how I came to this revelation:

1.  I used to think inexperience disqualified me as bisexual -- even when I am certain I am attracted to both men and women.  I think this came from the faulty equivalence I made to the common saying, "How are you sure you like/don't like something if you haven't tried it?".  The more I thought about it, the less it made sense.  Inexperienced (virgin) heterosexuals who are certain they are exclusively attracted to the opposite sex don't say, "I'm hetero-CURIOUS because I have never been with ANYONE."   So, I have to ask myself why I should hold myself to a different standard.

2. I bought into the myth that you can only be straight or gay, and that if you are a woman who has only been with men, then you are either a closeted lesbian, or a straight woman angry at or unhappy with their man.  Complete nonsense!

I think I have through the years inadvertently incorporated the very nuanced but very pervasive sexual stereotypes into my own identity.  It contradicted everything I know about myself and that is: I am bisexual.  I am most certainly, without a doubt, bisexual. (And happy to be one too!)


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I couldn't agree more...I am very inexperienced and realized a long time ago that I could see myself with a man or a woman... It was while I wax hanging around my gay bestie who I started falling for when I thought I was a lesbian, that made me realize I was bi...I think you were spot on about straight people not having experience and knowing they were straight... That could of been me...looking back I believe that growing up I wasn't straight... I just was never interested in dating guys and I developed tons of crushes that weren't going anywhere... I felt different from other people and it wasn't until I realized that I was straight that I knew why.... 

I think its awesome that you are so proud and happy about who you are! This is something I'm working on...

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Heterocurious lol. In high school I used to tell male friends "no hetero" after making an affectionate comment. At first it was a serious way to indicate that things were just platonic, but over time I started saying it more often to satirize the double standard.

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Congrats on figuring that all out.  Your logic there makes total sense.  That's sort of the same path I went through mentally figuring it out the first time.

Also, Heterocurious looks like a dinosaur name.

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9 hours ago, NoOne said:

Congrats on figuring that all out.  Your logic there makes total sense.  That's sort of the same path I went through mentally figuring it out the first time.

Also, Heterocurious looks like a dinosaur name.

Why not a binosaur name? :P

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