Popular Content

Showing content with the highest reputation since 08/25/2017 in all areas

  1. 19 points
    I just got what I've wanted for so long. I can still taste her on my lips. I can still smell her. She tastes amazing. She smells amazing. She looked beautiful. The sounds she made. The way she arched her back. The way she looked at me. The intensity of her staring into my eyes and smiling while i could feel her fingers inside me. Everything else faded away. I kept wondering if it was really happening. My bra and panties are still at her house, they're hopelessly lost for tonight. I don't give a fuck because of how that came to be. I have other bras, and she'll find mine tomorrow and remember why it's there. I almost got to fall asleep in her arms. But there were interruptions. She was asleep before the interruptions. (My dog is an asshole and wouldn't shut up... dog, husband and i ended up going home because of that). I only wish i could have fallen asleep in her arms. Held her close. Woken up with her. Gone down on her again in the morning. Saw that face she made again. And before i left, after she was asleep, her fiance thanked me for fucking her. And i thanked him for allowing me to. After nearly 4 years of wanting her... Did this really happen?? Holy fuck.
  2. 8 points
    And, i just realized i put my leggings back on inside-out
  3. 8 points
    I've learned my lesson. Many times over. Unless someone outright tells me they are interested I am not reading any flirting into any of that.
  4. 7 points
    I have an Auntie who is about to turn 101 years of age...and, while she has led a very interesting life, she always conducted herself according to societal conventions, or 'the rules', as she calls them (which, of course, changed as the decades progressed)... She was a practising Catholic, and unfortunately, fell in love with a divorced man called Frank, who asked her to marry him, and although she really wanted to, her mother forbade her to do so...because it would be a sin in the eyes of the Church, and she might be ex-communicated...with the result that she never married...because, she told me, Frank was the only man she ever loved... She also had a very close, intense friendship with another woman, called Adeline, that bordered on being a love affair...but although Adeline made her romantic feelings clear, and Auntie felt the same, she never dared take the plunge, as doing so might upset and disappoint her family and friends...and it would be a sin in the eyes of the Church... When I went to visit my Auntie this past July, in the nursing home where she lives now, we chatted about her life, and I asked her if, in retrospect, there was anything that she would have done differently, and she replied, 'If I could do it all over again, I would tell my mother to go to hell, and marry Frank, and I would go on that cruise with Adeline and have sex with her, like she wanted me to! In fact, I'd tell the Catholic Church and anyone who ever told me what to think or what to do to go to hell! I really would!' So, the moral of the story is: Be who you are, and do what you want to do in life...because otherwise you're liable to end up sitting in a nursing home, feeling very pissed off, with lots of regrets...
  5. 7 points
    Eyes are definitely a key factor. I had a woman invite over to watch a game one night when her husband was out of town. Didn't think much of it until her voice dropped an octave. Something about it was so sexy I knew I was in deep trouble.
  6. 6 points
    She is my person. She gets me through the good, bad and ugly. She knows just what to say and do to put a smile on my face and a pep in my step. She is more then just a best friend and a fwb. She is a soulmate. She is connected to me emotionally, spiritually and physically. Our affections and intimacy allow me to be freed and she gets to experience the "real me." Our chemistry is off the charts and we are almost always in sync. She is a special love, one that is real and honest and understands the complexity and balance of our "traditional lives" and our "secret life." She is my lover, my burst of erotic and my pleasure and I am hers. She is compassionate and always makes me feel safe. She lets me vulnerable. She is my fun, my side kick, the music that lifts me up. She is my girl and she is way more then just sex. She is the piece to my ultimate happiness. So not a straight forward answer, but one that fully describes what I need and want with a woman.
  7. 6 points
  8. 6 points
    i often feel attracted to older women, especially when their wrinkles tell stories of laughter and wonder. These women seem to have halos of grace and composure. They don't seem to hurry, or strain, or worry because they already know they are where they're meant to be and where they're going next. They also tend to have a unique fashion sense, expressing themselves through clothes collected over time, instead of opting for whatever is currently in season. The same goes for their values and out look.
  9. 6 points
  10. 6 points
    Shy seems to be full of accounts of women giving off confusing or misleading signals, and from what I can see, these women are unsure of or struggling with their sexuality, or just toying with the object of their attention or playing childish games for their own egotistical satisfaction. That makes perfect sense... So, if you want to be able to interpret a woman's flirting signals (eye contact, body language, etc.) with relative certainty, go for someone who is a totally out bi-woman or lesbian...and who appears to be confident and secure in her sexuality... When we stare at you, or make sustained eye contact, we usually mean it!
  11. 6 points
    I say dress and have your hair how you feel comfortable having it. Don't worry about what others think. You be you.
  12. 6 points
    Mmm...chair sex... I do love that... I used to have a judge's chair that was discarded from the Federal Courts in downtown Manhattan... I found it sitting on top of a pile of other furniture, in a skip out on the street in front of the building... and took it home and refurbished it, painting it with black enamel...and then used it only for sex... There were rules pertaining to that chair - no one was allowed to sit on it for any other reason... I took my sex toys very seriously back then...
  13. 5 points
    I just wanted to make a short introduction. Glad I stumbled upon this website. Was being a little douche-y and browsing the forums for a few days before mustering up enough courage to actually sign up. Even though, one can be as anonymous as one wants on here, I am still feeling a bit nervous and cautious. Been married for 14 years with two beautiful children. Absolutely in love with my husband. Feel extremely grateful for my life and all that I've been provided. However, just like a lot of ladies on here (remember stalky me was reading up on you guys?!), I have always felt attraction towards other women since forever. I had casually mentioned that to my husband when we were dating and he had made comments like, "oh too bad, you missed your chance" and "let's have a threesome!" We both knew that was just a lighthearted banter going nowhere. Plus, we are not that adventurous. Over the years, we'd talk about who we found attractive and agreed we had the same type! Again, this was all just talk. He is a pretty straight vanilla guy who just happens to be open minded enough to have chats like that. Him and I have an incredible relationship, he is my best friend and our greatest strength is healthy communication. Well, I had a very honest conversation about wanting to have an experience with a woman before I turned 40. Like a goober, I was hoping he'd give me his blessings and maybe even help coordinate! In reality, that conversation got quite intense and I think at that point, he may have realized that I was serious about it ...I had always been serious about it. He basically said that his biggest fear was that I'd leave him for a woman and he will be devastated. That broke my heart. And I kept reassuring him that, that wasn't going to happen. I have told him several times and I've meant every bit of it, that he is all the man I need or want and what I am curious about is something he can't give me. Our last conversation on this topic ended with him saying that he would like me to be happy and we have one life to live so if I want to experiment, I'd have to do it in secret. He wouldn't be able to be ok with it. I don't want to hurt him but I also agree with him that I should be able to experience what I think will bring me joy. I have found certain people attractive off and on throughout my life. I am finding it to be true more so now than before. I have never been with a woman before but I have a very strong feeling that I will love it provided the stars are aligned and the chemistry is there. I wouldn't even know where to begin. I can't see myself being the initiator. I am hoping it'll all happen organically. That's the only way I can justify it with minimal amount of guilt. Guilt. That's another topic for another day. Sigh. I have NEVER admitted to being bicurious to anyone other than my husband so writing this post has been terrifying as well as liberating. Thanks for reading and thanks for allowing me to be part of this community. I promise to keep my douchery to a minimum! Cheers.
  14. 5 points
    Sometimes I am afraid. I'm afraid that if I take the plunge I will never want to come back. I'm afraid to die with regret that I never explored beyond normalcy. That I never took a chance, and was never adventurous. I'm afraid of losing everything I hold dear for a mistake. I'm afraid to step out of my comfort zone. Afraid to be wrong about myself. Afraid to be judged. I'm afraid to risk the perfectly happy bubble I live in. Afraid to offset the balance and comfort I have created. Why seek something more if I am perfectly content as is? Why risk this pleasant life?
  15. 5 points
    While I believe there are people who are truly bicurious, I have come to realize I am not. As of yesterday I have stopped identifying as bicurious, and am now certain I am bisexual. Here's how I came to this revelation: 1. I used to think inexperience disqualified me as bisexual -- even when I am certain I am attracted to both men and women. I think this came from the faulty equivalence I made to the common saying, "How are you sure you like/don't like something if you haven't tried it?". The more I thought about it, the less it made sense. Inexperienced (virgin) heterosexuals who are certain they are exclusively attracted to the opposite sex don't say, "I'm hetero-CURIOUS because I have never been with ANYONE." So, I have to ask myself why I should hold myself to a different standard. 2. I bought into the myth that you can only be straight or gay, and that if you are a woman who has only been with men, then you are either a closeted lesbian, or a straight woman angry at or unhappy with their man. Complete nonsense! I think I have through the years inadvertently incorporated the very nuanced but very pervasive sexual stereotypes into my own identity. It contradicted everything I know about myself and that is: I am bisexual. I am most certainly, without a doubt, bisexual. (And happy to be one too!)
  16. 5 points
    I can relate to what @Ambrosia and @amsterrock described. I am very happily to married a man with whom I share an active and fulfilling sex life that has never lost its spark in 18 years.. I don't fantasize about him because there is no need to; he is already with me. I also feel nothing for other men, no desire whatsoever! However, I am very turned on by women, beautiful, smart women...ah, how they mesmerize me... Last night I opened up to my husband about exclusively fantasizing about women and that I do that while I enjoy sex with him. He replied, "I've always known that, and I like how you pleasure yourself to that.". Then I admitted to him that I will never share a woman with him even though I enjoy watching FFM threesome porn. He joked, "What? No threesomes for me! That's okay. I can live with that as long as the two of us continue having good sex.". Then I said, "You'll always be my #1." Okay...okay... I'll stop the bragging. My point is that there are ways to consolidate your feelings with your relationship. This is going to sound cliche, but it's been overly stated for a reason: relationships strengthen when we learn and become confident enough with ourselves and in the people we care most about to be honest and open about our dreams and desires. I have grown that way through the years, and I know there is still more for me to learn.
  17. 5 points
    Hello anyone, I am new at this so please bear with me.......I didnt realize there were others like me. Not sure how this works, im just putting what is on my mind. Sometimes thats a scary place.
  18. 5 points
    I signed up for this site about a week ago and it took me this long to get up the nerve to post something... My story is pretty basic: mid-twenties something takes a long hard look at herself and realizes "damn...I'm into girls too". It was weirdly gradual but what really set it off was about a month ago, I remembered how back when in either high school or college, I was out shopping with my aunt and I saw this girl and I just could *not* stop looking at her butt (even years and years later I still remember my brain saying "why are you looking at her butt? stop looking at it, seriously stop it, you weirdo" and feeling really conflicted). Add that to the fact that now that I'm a grown ass woman with access to the internet and have had time to realize just what tends to draw my eye; the conclusion was obvious. So far only my best friend knows though I have a feeling my family suspects *something*. There was a weird incident just recently while we were all sitting around talking where it was heavily implied that there was "no judgement here". I've only ever had two boyfriends, neither worked out for personality compatibility reasons, so sometime I wonder if they think I'm a lesbian. Anyway, I suppose that's enough nonsense for a first post. Thanks for listening to my ramble.
  19. 5 points
    Welcome to the site! If you haven't yet, be sure to check out How Our Forum Works to see the site rules and other helpful posts. I left a very unhealthy marriage a couple of years ago. I'm sorry to hear you went through what you did. Give yourself time to process everything that's happened before forging ahead with finding a woman. You'll start to see more in hindsight as you get more distance from him, and it may hit you hard emotionally. Do you have anyone in your life that you can be truly honest and raw with? You might consider seeking out LGBT support groups in your area. Online support is great, and this site is such a unique space for exactly this kind of thing, but don't be afraid to reach out to a group and/or counselor to help you through all this as well.
  20. 5 points
    Hi guys, I'm a 40 year old mother of 4 adult children. I'm a nurse and I'm married to a male nurse. I've been bisexual since high school and I've been happily married for almost a decade. I'm out to my kids, my hubby, my best friend, and whoever figures it out or just asks. I'm an intellectual and I read quite a bit. I look younger than I am, thanks to my mom's great genes. I'm an active person who loves the gym and bicycling, walking, and hiking. I'm fascinated by forensic science and binge watch Forensic Files on Netflix whenever I can. I love true crime books. I grew up military so I've lived in lots of places. I love to travel and I do as much of it as I can and still hold down a job. I journal often. I collect leatherbound editions of classic literature. I'm a practicing solitary witch. I am a dog person with one fur baby that will be 14 in December. I am not a drinker. I can tolerate the occasional 1/2 glass of wine but that's it for me. I'm 420 friendly but do not partake anymore. I've never done any drugs other than that. I love to laugh but I don't find crudeness or ditziness funny. Dry sarcasm tends to crack me up, like Sheldon on Big Bang Theory. I've been told many times that I'm intimidating. I don't really understand this, as I'm 5'2", 130# and I'm not loud, snobby, or sophisticated. When I'm not in scrubs I'm usually in lounge wear, ripped up jeans with a tie-dyed t-shirt or a long gypsy skirt with peasant top. I have a very Bohemian style about me. I have dark naturally curly hair with an olive complexion. My hubby is 9 years older than me and adores me. He swears that I keep him young. He started going grey in high school so his hair is pure silver now and he has blue eyes. I think he's gorgeous but I'm biased. Lol. Both of our daughters got married this summer, one of which married a young man with a little boy, so I'm an overnight grandparent. I'm great with it although it's an adjustment in self perception. Our oldest son is leaving for boot camp in 9 months. Our youngest son is a musician and producer on scholarship in college. Through the years I've tried different types of relationship arrangements. I've tried threesomes involving my hubby and private relationships that didn't include him. I've dated bisexual women and lesbians. Our marriage isn't open, as my hubby doesn't venture beyond our bounds unless I'm involved and I don't venture with other men or other women who want to act like he doesn't exist. Friendship with my husband is a minimum requirement for me. It has not always been easy to navigate the realm of bisexuality and I'm thankful to have found this community.
  21. 5 points
    Hi! Thanks for the great intro. I love finding other women madly in love with and happy with their husbands, even as they desire women. It calms this new girl's heart.
  22. 5 points
    I was almost 43 when I accepted it! AKA about 3 weeks ago! I can look back all the way to when I was 9 to see the seeds. In talking with my gay baby sister today, I realized that I never really even knew about bisexuality or thought it was an option. I'm mostly attracted to guys, so when I would think about women, I was scared I was a lesbian. I didn't know there was another way. (There's that bi invisibility for you.) I'm thrilled to be able to claim this label. It gives me clarity and peace.
  23. 5 points
    It's pretty common, especially for a newly out lesbian, to go pretty butch right out of the closet. There will be a lot of rainbows and pride stuff over the next couple of years, then it'll settle down a bit. Do what feels good for you! If that means shaving your head and buying shit-kicking boots and flannel, then go for it! LOL It's hard for people who haven't been there to understand. I did the same thing coming out of my marriage, even had a faux-hawk a couple of years ago (while working as a urology nurse, so lots of old people getting naked around me)! I loved it, and it took maybe 5-10 minutes in the morning to do my hair, and boy, did it dry fast! But I grew it out, and now I'm working to get back to having a ponytail. I've tempered down the butch some, though I love a good puffer vest and Converse shoes! You do you. Allow yourself to express whatever feels good, and that may change from day to day. Secretly wear an "I'm not gay but my girlfriend is" tee shirt under your work shirt, or rainbow panties! Have fun with it!
  24. 5 points
    I think it's time to go find a chair.... thanks ladies
  25. 4 points
    I went to goat yoga today and had so much fun!
  26. 4 points
    I found shys on a random google search one evening and was soon hooked. I had finally found a place where I could be open about my emotions for the first time in my life! It’s liberating! I have connected with some of the most amazing people who have made me open up (something I really wasn’t used to), they’ve listened to me on my down days (there have been many). We’ve laughed and shared stories and experiences, and every single interaction has made a huge difference to my life and how I’ve handled things along the way. I can’t thank you enough for taking the time to listen to me pouring my heart out even when you had your own problems to deal with so for that I am eternally grateful. One unique lady became very special to me early on. I felt that magnetic pull towards her and I wasn’t sure what or why I felt that strongly, but I did. We hit it off quickly. So much in common, the same interests and desires. Everything just clicked into place. She was all I could think about. We messaged every day and grew closer and closer. We were both open with our husbands, but sadly, they both became very insecure with our connection, which, to be fair, was stronger than either of us had ever experienced before, although we never told them how strong, I guess they could tell. As much as we love our husbands, we grew to love each other too and it consumed and scared us both. Despite their insecurities we had to see each other, with their consent, never crossing the line, and sticking to the firm boundaries that husbands had set. If you were hoping for a raunchy shys story, this isn’t it. It was however, the most romantic and loving relationship I’ve ever experienced with anyone before and I’m fortunate enough to have a best friend at the end of it too. It’s been 11 months since our first messages and we’ve become so close, even if friendship is all we can have. The connection we made is unique and special and I’m a better person when I’m with her. I’m forever grateful to this place for making that possible. So while her husband can’t bear the thought of her being with anyone else, mine is coming around to the idea. The journey I’ve been on with my marriage is a post for another time but he has been truly amazing and in an odd way it’s brought us closer. Lots of communication and trial and error, which has been really hard at times. In the end it all comes down to one simple but crucial point….that he must always feel like he’s my number one priority above anyone else. I neglected him at times and I see that now. He accepts I may have relationships with other women if the opportunity presents itself, as long as he never feels like second best. Sounds simple enough right?? I thought so until I fell in love with a woman. It’s…..intense! I have so much to learn. So this is where I am now, a year later. I finally accepted who I am, I’ve dipped my toes in a world I was afraid of for a long time and found I’m quite at home here. I just need to figure out what I want, and I'm working a little harder on my marriage because he really is an incredible man. Right now this is just a big thank you to the people who set up this wonderful site and allowed a highly supressed bisexual to express herself in ways she never thought possible. I hope it helps others too.
  27. 4 points
    Hello out there. I have never talked about any of this outside of my own head. I am happily married to an amazing man and have one wonderful daughter with him. I have known for some time...possibly forever that I am 100% attracted to women as well. Usually I can put these thoughts and feelings away, but they always come back and always get stronger. It has come to a point where I am not enjoying intimacy in my marriage because my mind is so busy elsewhere. I'm sure my husband notices... Browsing these forums has been helpful, just seeing there are so many others in my situation is helpful. I'm really just looking for an outlet and like minded women to talk to. My biggest hope is to gain insight on how to talk to my husband about all of this, especially if my goal is to maybe explore some of these desires. So hello, that is my story in a nutshell
  28. 4 points
  29. 4 points
    It's important that you two talk about this. What does she expect and what do you want? Do you want her to be exclusive to you? Or you two can have open relationship? For her, are you two dating or just bestfriends fooling around? Because you are already worried about the "what if" she finds someone else (man or woman), then you have to process your thoughts and think about what is fair for her and yours in case. Having said this, don't overanalyze things because it is quite draining and kills the fun. About being clueless on what to do, honestly, don't think. Just do what your body is telling you. It will happen naturally. Pay attention to her: the way her body moves, the sounds she makes, her breathing, her hands, her touch, her eyes, her warm lips. Use your five senses. This is very important especially if you are more of a "giver" (yep, I am), meaning you are the one who is giving her pleasure down there. As time goes by giving and receiving makes the dynamic so much better although some givers don't receive and some receivers don't want to give. It's a matter of preference. She'll probably want to receive so do her the favour and do it. You'll be alright. Do it naturally. Don't think. Build the sexual tension then proceed gently, lightly, a bit of rough if you feel being rough or you can feel that she does. You can always ask what she wants you to do in between of kisses and pauses. Skip the toys for now. Have fun! Update please.
  30. 4 points
    Is there such a thing as a super orgasm? Since experiencing a relationship with a woman I've learned a lot more about my body and how to enrich my sexual pleasure. Multiple orgasms, which were a rare occurrence are now commonplace, even when on my own. A month ago I had some 'me' time. I relaxed on the bed and got out a vibrator. After a short while I climaxed, as the pleasure dissipated and I continued. It felt good but nothing more, then all of a sudden this tension started to build. It grow stronger and body started to shake. Then these waves of pleasure just erupted through me. It was amazing, like having a number of orgasms at once, but deeper. I was completely immobile for what seemed like ages, whilst still feeling tingles of pleasure. I've not been able to achieve it since but would love to know what I did.
  31. 4 points
    Yes playing with my hair is top! Haha I change my answer to that!!!
  32. 4 points
    I have no idea what I am about to to talk about in the blog post. But I would first like to thank whoever invented the software that corrects spelling, it has saved this girl on more than one occasion. ( I just misspelled occasion, I am going to auto correct so no one would be the wiser, just to let ya'll know I was spelling with two s's instead of one). Don't get me started on how I really butchered the word philosophical. So lets begin, I would just like to know, who in the heck in America, decided we would park in a driveway and drive on a parkway? Seriously? I am going with the obvious that this must have been some man joke, you know, hey Bob, wouldn't it be so funny if we just switched the meanings of parkway and driveway and really screw up with people, yes Frank that would be funny as heck ( Insert a jolly old laugh from both Bob and Frank). These are the things that go through my mind in the wee hours of the morning when I am unable to sleep. I know its really really sad and yes I am aware that google more than likely has the answer, but I like to think Bob and Frank are still chuckling about how this fantastic joke stuck. I also would like to discuss Ice Cream. Now I believe the besides being its own food group ( or should be) that ice cream was designed for several things in particular. It seems it is the ultimate comfort food for many, not all, but tons of people turn to ice cream in crisis. Say, you just broke up with your BF or GF hell this is Bi site lets go crazy, you just broke up with your BF and GF or they broke up with you,, what do you do, 1. Call your BFF 2. She/He shows up with wine and ice cream, I am pretty sure it is in the Best Friend Handbook, when said best friend calls crying ( especially about a break up) you must go to them immediately with wine and ice cream in hand. Also, ice cream is the extra good to help ladies during their time of the month, you go to the freezer see a pint of ice cream take it out get a bowl but notice it's almost empty, so instead of dirtying up a bowl , you just grab a spoon and scoop it right from the carton and into your ice cream hole. I believe it tastes best during the flowing days and also you can feel like a complete bad ass rebel who doesn't need know stinking bowl! Anybody out there like rainy days? Oh I do, I love a wet rainy stormy day/night, but not like severe weather, nothing tornadic (red googly lines have to stay software on here doesn't show tornadic as a word). I find rain to be so pleasant and refreshing like, washing away all the old stuff to be replaced with new stuff. With rain you can use all your senses, you can touch feel it on your skin, face, lips, you can hear it, most certainly smell it, see it of course and lastly but not least you can taste it, just go outside and tilt your head back and open your mouth and taste the rain ( sure that isn't weird for a grown up to do that *shifts eyes**) I do not know what the love affair is with rain, but I a certain it has to do with my mother, just kidding, I mean my child hood. Played in the rain so many times, it was so much fun to ride your bike and feel the rain and wind on your face, making sure you hit every puddle you could find on the way home, feeling the water splash up on your legs; sure you got soaked to the bone but it was so worth it. Now when it rains, I just love to listen watch it and smell it; I admit it makes me feel nostalgic and oh so sleepy. But its still extra wonderful when it rains. I think that is all for this installment, I hope it wasn't to boring and if you think I am insane well, please don't tell anyone LOL . I am off to try and see if sleep is real or some made up thing people like to say they get, it better be real or I will be back and typing my nonsense up for everyone to read. I know what your thinking, I really hope she finds sleep.....
  33. 4 points
    Yesterday was fantastic. I'm a part-time photographer and had a rather large gig yesterday. Husband and fiance were gone for fiance's bachelor party, and she came along as my assistant, while my dad was my second shooter. So glad i had them too, that was probably the most difficult job I've done so far (and I've photographed several weddings). Dad and crush got along really well. I had them doing individual shots and group photos (it was a class reunion with around 200 attendees) while i photographed the program and took candid shots/dealt with the sign-up sheets. I kept looking outside at her and thinking "dad has no idea that later tonight i have every intention of being face-deep between her legs..." After we got done, we went to the liquor store and got 5 bottles of wine and a case of beer. We'd finished 2 bottles and a beer each before the boys got home.. It happened again. Godddd I'm addicted to her. She's so beautiful when I'm going down on her. Her little fingers, so delicate but so capable of soaking me. Her mouth.... how can someone be so gentle, yet so aggressive simultaneously? I need more. Even just the skin-on-skin contact leaves me tingling. Didn't get any cuddles again. Fiance and husband were involved, and fiance passed out in the middle of it, so we stopped and went home. All i wanna do is just fall asleep with her and wake up with her. Please, let me have that..
  34. 4 points
    Not that I am an expert but here is my two cents. You are right dating sites are not for everyone. But if u are a married woman, a little shy and terrified that people can see right through you. So flirting with a woman is never an option! Your family knows everyone u do, all ur friends and u never really get time alone to urself and if u do you have to explain where ur going and who ur with! I never thought I would have gone to a dating site either - I guess you could say I used to be very paranoid now I am just a little paranoid! I am not getting any younger so I started thinking about my wants and my needs and I didn't want to have any regrets ! I am not encouraging or discouraging a dating site all I am saying is don't rule out anything until u give it a try. Especially if u feel there is no other way of meeting someone, maybe because ur under a microscope at home, maybe u feel u don't have gaydar or both as was the case for me. All I knew was I was missing something and I needed to try. Remember there are no guarantees in life u have to be smart about everything u do and trust urself. I just wanted to let you know that sometimes a dating site can work. Wishing you the best of luck!
  35. 4 points
    As much as I hate to admit it, your crush sounds just like me a quite a few years back. I hadn't really thought about the term "internalised homophobia" to describe myself back then but it seems to fit the bill. I met a woman on here when I first joined and feelings developed. I was so hot and cold with her it was unbelievable and I honestly don't know why she put up with me for so long. We eventually became intimate and she was the first woman (and still the only woman) I had been with. I cried after we were first together. I was with the boyfriend I still am with now and he knows we were together but he didn't at the time. I felt guilty, disgusted with myself and consciously tried to block out any moments that were pleasurable, where I had let myself go. It was as if I wasn't allowing myself to to feel anything good about the situation. I am also similar to your crush in the sense that I can have sleep problems and anxiety. At the time when I was with her I wasn't happy in my life. I was confused, I didn't know who I was or what I wanted, and I took it out on her. I have never been very confident or accepting of myself apart from my sexuality so I think that's probably why I had such a hard time with it for years. If your crush is anything like me all I can say is that I don't think she'll be like that forever. She's unhappy and she doesn't know the answers to her questions or how to solve her problems, but she'll figure it out in time. And I very much doubt she means any of the negativity she has displayed towards you. As much as it hurts to ignore any romantic feelings I think the best course of action is to let her know you're there for her as a friend, without bias or judgement, if she needs to talk to you about anything. Although it seems that's pretty much what you're doing anyway. Good luck with everything, I know it must be tough.
  36. 4 points
    I love it when my phone lights up and it's you calling or texting me again asking "wanna chat?". You live a stone throw away from me and never in a million years I would have thought that I would be so lucky! Every night we sit outside, have a smoke and talk, we can talk forever and a day and it still won't be enough. Mostly it's you talking 'cause you are such a chatty girl, but I don't mind, I'm a "love to listen" kinda girl, we fit together. I love listening to how your day was, who pissed you off and what made you laugh and all the time we keep that eye contact going. Everytime our eyes meet you give me that sexy little smile and I feel myself go weak. Eventhough I love listening to you, there are moments that I get so lost in you that I sometimes don't even hear what you are saying, I really don't do this intentionally but damn you're so beautiful. I try to concentrate so hard, but your brown eyes are so alluring when they sparkle just for me, the way you move your hair away from your face OMG I wish I could do that for you, your laughter makes my heart skip a beat and everytime you lick your lips I just want to grab you and kiss you like no other has kissed you before. The sexual tension and connection between us is so strong that I fear that when the day comes for us, I think I might just go out of my mind. I want you so bad it hurts in places that I never even knew existed. And then it's time for us to part. We go in for a hug and just for a second I swear it felt like you moved in for a kiss but we both nervously turn our heads and hug instead. A hug that lasts longer than it should.....and then you walk away and do that thing that brings me to my knees, you wink and blow a kiss and say: "see you tomorrow night"! Fuuuuuck, I just can't wait that long! I adore you my girl.........these nights make my days worth living for.
  37. 4 points
    @amsterrock - You say, 'Why seek something more if I am perfectly content as is? Why risk this pleasant life?' But if you are considering your various fears in the way you are, and posing these questions, then you really aren't perfectly content as is, are you? Some people really do live in an opaque bubble of their own creation, and manage to be totally oblivious to the world and possibilities outside it...but you don't appear to be one of those people, and that's a very good thing... The very fact that you are engaging in a kind of risk assessment shows that you have an adventurous side struggling to get out... You know the saying, 'Nothing ventured, nothing gained'... Well, I can honestly say that in over 30 years of being an out bisexual woman, I have never encountered anyone who said that she regretted going for it and having sex with a woman, or many women...or coming out, or living a bisexual or lesbian lifestyle...not one single person... But I have encountered plenty of women who have said that they wished they had gone for it sooner...or had sex with lots more women...or had more relationships with women...
  38. 4 points
    Welcome @Missme!! You don't sound like a mess at all and please don't feel depressed about your feelings. You're not alone and this is the way many of us feel which is why the support of people here means so much. You want to be true to yourself and live life without regrets but at the same time you're battling with loyalty to your husband. Sadly a lot of husbands/partners are only truly comfortable if there is something in it for them, hence all the threesome suggestions. But just do what feels right to you. Right now you're figuring out what to do. Things will change again when you meet someone and want to take things further than friendship. Personally I don't think I'm really 'dealing' with anything, more handling each situation as it arises. It's just a matter of taking it day by day, keeping communication as open as possible, trying to establish boundaries and being honest with him. If you meet someone you really like, be as honest as possible with him, depending on what you think he can handle. Some husbands are totally fine with an open relationship, others won't allow it at all, and some allow it within boundaries. My husband has been through all 3 of those levels at some point this year! But things are getting easier now he knows I'm not going anywhere. I hope you can figure it out together and he understands and supports you. And if you're struggling you always have an outlet here, with lots of support if you need it.
  39. 4 points
    I really appreciate this site as I can see there's a lot others who have been thru similar situations as me. I can't help but to feel so happy. Much love to whoever made this site!
  40. 4 points
    Yeahhhh.... it happened. And we've already agreed it's gonna happen again... continually... Thanks for believing in me! Haha
  41. 4 points
    I am not really upset with Disney on the whole some day my Prince will come ( someone came but he lacked a little prince and a littl charming lol) myth. What annoys me is the fact zero woodland animals have ever come to clean my house! I mean really Disney??? Get a Girls hope up just to snatch it away, so cruel!
  42. 4 points
    So I've been a member here for a year now, and I feel I've learned a lot in the last year...and yea, there's the obvious sentimental stuff...but I've also learned a lot of useful/useless (depending on how you look at it) information...some of which I'd like to share with you, just for fun. I've ran across a couple of new terms here that I'd never heard before, mostly as it applies to sexual acts...such as tribbing, and rimming. Not that I didn't know these acts existed, just didn't know they had a name (I've gone neither). Queefing is another new word I found, although not a sexual act in itself. Another fun word I learned here is...and don't laugh.....unicorn. I remember coming across a thread called "my night as a unicorn" (or something to that effect). I dismissed it, thinking...wow, this chick must be smoking some crazy shit, lol. After hearing it used in a sentence, during a later conversation with a friend here, I realized what the thread was really about and went back to read it. Last, but not least....flesh light....I was reading a thread about sex toys and read that some women like to use a flesh light, although it's typically used by men, they find it very arousing. Never having heard of a flesh light before, I immediately assume it's a typo...which led to "what the f*** are these women doing with their flashlights" lol These are just a few of the silly things shybi has taught me. What have you learned since joining this site, silly or serious...I'd love to hear it.
  43. 4 points
    I'm out to my husband, my best friend and my older sister, who then came out to me and told me she'd slept with 3 women!! That certainly wasn't the reaction I expected. I'm happy with the few people that know. I'm very private on social media. Most of my family wouldn't understand and it's not fair on my husband and daughter, being in a small community. But when anyone asks me my opinion on matters to do with sexuality I'm honest about myself and my views. How much information I disclose would depend on who they are and why they're asking though!
  44. 4 points
    Thanks Ona! I felt like it was inevitable off and on, but i got discouraged on several occasions because though I felt like she wanted to, nothing ever happened other than a few instances of kissing/making out/holding hands, and occasionally veiled discussions about stuff. I started thinking the sexual tension was all in my head, guess I was wrong. Haha. I'm not sure which of us initiated it, it just sort of happened. We were at the same bar we made out at back in January, i hadn't been there with her since (at one point before we left to go to her house, I told her the only time I've had a good time there was when she was there. Haha). We did a couple of shots and started getting a little affectionate and huggy, then started making out. At that point, i figured it would just be a repeat of the last time we made out, so i was just going with it and enjoying it. She lives just a couple of blocks from there so we went back to her house and continued making out on the couch (which was where the night was leading back in January, but we had to drop off my neighbor before going there, and by the time we got there, her fiance was puking and she was mad at him and just went to bed). Then we progressed to the bedroom and clothing came off and she was on top of me. I remember telling her at one point that I've wanted her since we met. Apparently the guys came in about halfway through, but I honestly was too wrapped up in her to notice them much. She was so vocal, it sends shivers through my body remembering her voice. And the eye contact was electrifying. I've always thought she was beautiful, but never more beautiful than that night. She was so soft, and so aggressive. It was her first time with a woman, but she was amazing. I'm dying for more. I'd fantasized about what she looked like naked for years.... and my fantasies were dead on. Down to the size/color of her nipples We all started to fall asleep, she and i between her fiance and my husband, and she was wrapped so tightly around me. It felt perfect. Buuut my little pomeranian started barking, so husband got him some water, but their wolf kept drinking it before he could get to it, so husband got frustrated and wanted to take him home. Soooo no morning cuddles for me but i did go over there the next day (yesterday) while husband was working and we just sat around watching tv and stuff for most of the day. It was brought up, so there's no weird awkwardness pretending it didn't happen (i didn't think there would be). Thanks @celeste teal! It was mind-blowing. Her fiance texted the next day before I went over there to ask if I had seen her purse, and tell me they'd found my bra, and he ended up saying something about "maybe we should do it all again", i told him I'm not opposed to that. Then he sent me the Giorgio meme from ancient aliens (that usually says "aliens") but there were two women kissing between his hands and it said "lesbians". Haha. Soooo, I'm hoping to get another chance Thanks @BiTriMama! I'm hoping for a next time too haha She's not my only BFF, but she's one of my closest friends. I'm her maid of honor next month Hahaha Hahaha. If you want a little more x rated version, feel free to pm me Haha there was definitely pent up energy, at least on my part! Thanks so much @TBD78 Oh, believe me, I'm already wanting more. I've been with women before, but she's my exact "type", and I've been crushing on her since I first met her (before she even met her fiance haha). I just can't stop replaying it in my head!
  45. 4 points
    Hello all: I just need to tell all my ladies here at Shybi about my latest accomplishment. I bought a vw van over three years ago and it had been living in a farmer's field for a long while. It had a rusted out body but good bones. It ran but needed work and the inside also had some repair work needed but I wanted one that was beat up so I could really make it my own. Last night I completed my dream...to take a vw van and do a complete makeover-body, mechanics and all...and now my baby is born. She is gorgeous and has murals painted all over her...very feminine inside and out and she honors the hippie bus vibe. I just am overjoyed at the feeling of accomplishment and am empowered by the fact that I did all the work on my own without the assistance of anyone. Just wanted to share... Hugs Ladies
  46. 4 points
    My partner and I are very distant these days, and I have never discussed my feelings of bi-curiousity with him. I think it would be lovely though, to be able to talk openly with other women in a similar situation. I think as we move through life, the idea of a brief encounter with another woman, a secret kiss, an unexpected hand brushing across your breast, soft fingers on your thigh slowly moving up between your legs...oops sorry got carried away...what I was trying to say was...the desire grows stronger as we get older. Has anyone else found this?
  47. 4 points
    I agree that gender plays a big role here. I think it also makes a difference in how we view others. For example, a woman who believes herself to be straight doesn't necessarily respond to men the same way she responds to women. She likely shuts down any flirtation or anything that might threaten her relationship that comes from a man, because she obviously already has a man and understands that she has attraction to men, and wears blinders with men (the way monogamous people do, myself included). With a woman, if she has always identified as straight, she may just see a woman who is flirting with her as friendly, but definitely as safe, at least until it sparks more than friendly feelings within her, at which point, seeing her own feelings for another woman when she's always identified as straight, her mind explodes. It's like learning a new way of thinking, and it opens up a whole other channel, whereas other men are in the same line of thinking she's always known. Filling a void she never understood existed until it was filled. I don't know if I'm making any sense or getting my point across well, but I think it's something many women experience when they meet a woman who stirs that part of them.
  48. 4 points
    It took me a good while of soul searching for it to all make sense to me. Finding the yin to my yang while being married to a man, raising young kids and focusing on a career threw me for a loop. Falling for a woman was the furthest thing on my radar until it happened and my world is forever changed. while I have a green light in a don't ask don't tell kinda way and I have my balance I can't help but feel both complete and guilty for having "my cake and eating it too" (no pun intended there). Finding and falling for her definitely help me fill the void of what I had been missing and just simply can't get from my husband. Receiving the love she has to share is also so different from the love he gives me and together it works for me. I can't visualize a life in which my path followed that of the author (at least right now) but I applaud her and all those who know and can go "all in." When they find the missing link.
  49. 4 points
    I don't have to point out that many women on this site can relate to this! I think that emptiness is why I dove into marathon running the way I did when I was married. Then when we met our GF, so much just felt complete, and my ex-husband (NOT the perfect husband by any means) used that against me. It was very liberating to leave and be able to not only escape his abusive ways, but to be able to pursue women as I see fit. My son is happier when he is with me as I am now than he ever was while my ex and I were together. I am a much better mom now.
  50. 4 points