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  1. 11 points
    I guess that this is the post that I wanted to make when I joined a few days ago. So, after posting about tattoos and erotic books, here goes! I realised that I liked boys and girls when I was in the second year of high school. I had major crushes on two teachers who couldn't have been more different. The male teacher was around 40 and there was just something about him even though he wasn't good looking in the conventional sense. Whatever that is. The woman was absolutely gorgeous and I looked forward to her German lessons more than any others! As regards my own age, I had one major boy crush at school but lots of girl crushes. My young mind played out many fantasies at that time in my life. My older mind still does! At Uni, I slept with men and women but there were no serious relationships. I met my husband at work and it just felt right to settle down with him and get married. But, even then, I knew I was more attracted to women than men. We have 2 daughters who I love more than anything else in the world. I love my husband too but it has never been the kind that makes my heart flutter whenever he's around or similar. We have a good marriage and he is a good person most of the time. We have had really massive fights over the years and, on a few occasions, I've been tempted to leave him. I never did because I wanted my daughters to have their parents together if at all possible. I guess everyone has those types of moments anyway. I can't say that I'm unhappy now. I'm not. But, for the last year or so, my old feelings for women have become stronger and stronger. They have always been there but now I can't stop thinking about how it would be to have a relationship with a woman. Whenever I'm driving or out walking, I find myself looking at women all the time and I've lost count of all the books that I've read about women loving other women. Maybe all these feelings are getting stronger because my daughters are older now. One has moved out and the other is growing up so fast. I would hope that I wouldn't act on all these feelings in a physical way while I'm still with my husband. In other ways, I'm not so sure. One thing I do know is that if I was no longer with my husband, any future relationship would be with a woman. No doubt in my mind. I've been carrying all this around for such a long time now and don't feel that I can talk about it to anyone. I wish that I could. I wish I could tell everyone that this is who I really am. I'm sure that there are many women here that are in a similar situation and I feel better knowing that people will understand. Apologies for the long post!
  2. 7 points
    @treelover123 and @moonbynight - As someone who has been practising lesbian sex for many years, I can tell you that, yes indeed, it absolutely can last for hours and hours...and hours and hours...and hours...and hours...AD INFINITUM (with occasional breaks for food and drink, so that we don't starve)... Of course that isn't always the case - why would you think it would be? Let's face it, if we only ever had sex for hours and hours, that would be extremely impractical, because we would only be able to have sex when we have lots of time to devote to it...so not at night, unless we can be up all night long...not in the morning, unless we rise at 3am...and not when we get home from work, unless we decide to skip dinner... So, while all of these situations do occur in lesbian households, resulting in sleep deprivation and weight loss , sometimes we just want to have a 'quick one'... Sure, our definition of a 'quick one' is an hour or less...but I'm sure you know what I mean. In my experience, lesbian sex is as diverse as the individuals engaged in it, because it has no 'rules' pertaining to gender (like the way the male takes the lead in most hetero relationships), and as you would expect, things unfold according to our mood and needs in the moment. So sometimes we really do 'just wanna be fucked', and other times we want gentle kisses and caresses...or intense, passionate sex/lovemaking...that might go on for hours...and sometimes, as @TBD78 said, sometimes we need to come quickly (for all sorts of reasons, including as a stress release), then, if we're in the mood, will continue. With regard to your comment No, you're not a 'bad lesbian', but it is definitely possible that you have been conditioned (not 'ruined') by many years of hetero sex, or that you are impatient...or possibly selfish. Making your girlfriend come should be about her and her needs, so if that's what she wants, then that's what you should do...but if not, then you should slow the f**k down, because she'll probably get alot more out of the experience and come harder that way. It's important to remember that the thing that makes lesbian sex totally different from hetero sex is that it isn't phallocentric and linear, so the idea of 'running to the finish line', as most men tend to do, isn't really an issue...because, in reality, there is no finish line. As a girlfriend of mine once said to a homophobic guy who was harassing us, 'Honey, this tongue and these fingers STAY HARD ALL NIGHT LONG.'
  3. 6 points
    I haven't met her yet. I just have a feeling that she's somehere out there and waiting for me. When I do meet her, that's when all the difficult stuff will start. Conversations with my husband and my family etc. I already feel guilty feeling this way now so goodness knows what I'll feel like then. It's been a very, very long time since I've been with a woman and I just want to feel that special connection again.
  4. 5 points
    Well... There's no one way to do poly. The only real poly rules are honesty and communication. Beyond that, it's all about what works for ALL the people involved. That includes your husband. Many poly people do have some sort of rule where the uninvolved partner has approval or "veto power" over any potential partners. This is kind of a double-edged sword. On one hand, it helps protect you if a certain person pushes your buttons or makes you distrustful. On the other, it can be used as a control tactic, where you're poly in theory, but one partner is never actually going to approve anyone. Which might be what you're seeing. In this case... I think it's likely that, since you had an affair with this woman, he does feel uncomfortable with the idea of you dating this woman in particular. He may suspect this whole poly thing is just a way to continue the affair. Or perhaps it isn't really about her, and he's just uncomfortable with the reality of it. You have to talk and figure out what the actual issue is, and whether it is something that can be worked out. In my opinion, he has no obligation whatsoever to accept you being involved with this woman. Again, you're totally changing the ground rules of the relationship, and he's allowed to have a say in the matter. And you're under no obligation to stay married to him if your desire to be involved with this particular woman outweighs your marriage. That's basically what it comes down to. I strongly encourage both of you to read at least one book like The Ethical Slut, Opening Up, or More Than Two before diving in head first. I suggest a book because you're not going to really get an idea of the nuances from some brief article online. Then have a real discussion about how you see this working (for both of you!) and boundaries and that type of thing.
  5. 5 points
    The other day we were doing our usual morning texts, which led into her asking if I could come over and do reiki on her chest. My heart skipped a little and I smiled. I texted her saying sure, but we all know more was going through my head. She said she would rub me in return. @Veronica Seriously?! Do reiki on her chest?!!! Well, I've heard many an obvious come-on line, but this one really takes the cake! While we were in the kitchen, she made sure her son was occupied in the other room. She leaned me over on the counter and started massaging softly, which gradually got harder. I turned to look around because it took me by surprise. “What’s wrong? Do you want to do this somewhere else?” She asked me. I would interpret this to mean 'Do you want to do this in my bedroom?' She began using her fingertips down my spine. It felt like a thousand lightning bolts went straight down to my vagina. Oh. My. Lord. She was running her fingers down my arms, hips, upper legs. I was throbbing down there. My breathing was deeper and faster. I swear if she kept going another 5 minutes I would have orgasmed. ... You could cut the sexual tension with a knife. Wow. She kept looking at my chest right after that, and I kept smirking at her looking at her fingers. I didn’t have time to do reiki on her chest. Too bad, because any excuse to touch her chest again! ... And like she has done in the past, she became distant after this happened. I’m so afraid to make a physical move. It’s way out of my comfort zone. What do you think? Is she making it obvious and giving me an opening to make a move? YESSSS!!! She is definitely making it obvious and giving you an opening to make a move. She's obviously not confident enough to just come out with it, and either say what she wants, or get more obvious, like kissing you. She probably became distant because she was plunged into uncertainty or was just disappointed that you didn't take the bait. But if she knows you well, then she'll know that you're also too timid to make a move. Another issue here is that she may be setting you up to take the blame if anything goes wrong (an unfortunate tendency of bisexual women who are just coming out, but are afraid - of rejection, of their own feelings, and what might happen in terms of their marriage), which is why if I were you, I would try to broach the subject verbally instead of making a physical move - otherwise all of that continuing beating around the bush (as it were) will totally drive you insane. It's best to chat about this sort of thing over wine or coffee, not when she's massaging you, or you're otherwise engaged in physical contact. You should put the ball in her court, and say something like, 'So, how are you feeling about our relationship lately?' If she replies, 'What do you mean?', then go for it and say, 'From my perspective, there's alot of sexual tension', and take it from there.
  6. 5 points
    I've been a member now for a week and am fascinated by all of the different stories that I've read on here. Many that are similar to my own but so many that aren't. I was wondering how many think that they have met the love of their life. I know that the meaning of this is very broad and can mean different things to different people. I am with someone that I love and am happy with. However, I don't think he is the love of my life. I think she is out there, somewhere, waiting for me. I keep imagining us together. She doesn't have a face but I see us cuddling on a sofa together, drinking a glass of wine and talking about our day. Of course, I imagine us doing other things together too, but that is my main thought of her. It just makes me happy thinking about it.
  7. 5 points
    That's really great! Good to hear it went so well. I've met all my crushes in similar ways. It's not just Zumba. Any activity or hobby with organised classes is brilliant. Get out there and do things. Don't look for love. Just enjoy doing lots of activities. Love will find you.
  8. 5 points
    I'm blessed to have found true love on both sides. They both just get me and allow me to be me! A supportive, loving, open-minded hubby who's also a male best friend, as well as a super sweet, sensitive, caring and sexy-cute GF who's my female best friend. Bonus their friendship is also growing
  9. 4 points
    Are there any women here who are only looking for friendship? A friendship that doesn’t include sex? I feel like I’m the only one on this planet who is wanting a really close soul-sister emotionally close and slightly charged relationship with a women who likes women. I am looking for someone who is keen to watch gay chick flicks, attend gay bars and shows with, etc etc. I do not want to go with a straight friend, nor do I want to always feel excluded from a society where women who like women can go and socialise. I feel like I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place, either pretend I am a lesbian, or give up the idea of having a close friendship with another bi woman. Incidentally, I am still considering joining a lesbian women's network (they have social outings too) and telling the women there that I’m married, so that people don’t assume I’m looking or available, but not telling them the sex of my partner. Should it really matter anyway? Should my partners gender even come into it??? The lesbians I have talked to have this idea that I’m either confused or there is an ‘eww how can you like dick’? I’ve even heard some say that women who sleep with men and women are ‘dirty’. I’ve only met narrow minded lesbians who do not accept me for who I am, and as for straight women, well they just don't seem to get it either. I wouldn’t have thought in these times that it would be so difficult to make friends as a bi woman, and that is why I’m pretty quiet about it all. I am out with my close friends and family, however that still doesn’t mean I have friends willing to go to a gay movie with me. And for some reason, taking my husband would be equivalent to taking my parents. Just won't happen. Would ruin the movie for me and create a sink my boat kind of feeling. I don’t want to share my gay side with my husband, just as I didn’t (and won’t) share a gf with my husband. Which he was 100% supportive of. He didn’t want to know the details and he is happy for me to have girly weekends away (with straight, gay or bi women, he doesn’t care so long as it is not with a man). But… do you think I can find a friend who only wants someone to enjoy outings with without it having to end in sex? And how do I go about advertising myself? "Women looking for bi women to have fun with which does not include benefits... you can call me Friends without Bene"
  10. 4 points
    An interesting article which people may relate to. https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwjegeGv2JzfAhUIeH0KHbBcC64QzPwBegQIARAC&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.huffingtonpost.com%2Fhelene-tragos-stelian%2Fthings-lesbians-want-you-to-know_b_8577926.html&psig=AOvVaw3lEGB5ulsMB-B2Knrcl8yu&ust=1544786520555318
  11. 4 points
    I 100% identify as gay now. When I joined here I was married to a man that I had met when I was 17, we were together 13 years and at first I figured I had to be bisexual because how could I not be? But when I met my now wife on here I immediately had my eyes opened to how a relationship should be. I loved my ex husband and honestly had no idea I was gay or even bi when we married. But the emotional and physical connection I have with my wife leaves no doubt that I am gay.
  12. 4 points
    I identify as gay, but if you want to get down to brass tacks, it would probably be more “homoflexible”. When I joined the site, I was married for a guy, and I was on the search for a woman as well. But I had identified as gay before I was married. I’d had terrible luck meeting women, and out of loneliness and frustration, opened back up to guys, and met a very abusive man who exploited my vulnerability. I felt like I shouldn’t leave him because of my sexuality, as I’d known before I met him, but he was so awful to me that I did eventually leave. I knew that when I left him, it would be women only moving forward. I’ve had two relationships since my marriage ended, and they have both felt like they fit more than anything with a man did. The woman I’m with now makes me happier than I ever knew I could be.
  13. 4 points
    “ And ever has it been known that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation.”
  14. 4 points
    Meetups in general are a great way to make friends. There are definitely accepting lesbian groups out there. Obnoxious "gold star" types are often the loudest, but they're not the majority. In general, the lesbians I'm friends with take the attitude of "I don't see the appeal personally, but whatever makes you happy." If you have a hobby such as sport or music, there are often gay organizations centered around shared pastimes. The fact that everybody is there for a specific, nonsexual purpose means there is no expectation that people are looking to hook up. I'm in a women's chorus that is a member of the Gay and Lesbian Association of Choruses (GALA Choruses) and it's been wonderful. We are unapologetically queer, but at the end of the day we are first and foremost there to sing with each other. They're very accepting of bisexual members, of which there are many. We even have a few straight members, though in some cases I didn't realize it at first. It's nice being in a space in which the default conversation about marriage is "tell me about your wife" "husband, actually" rather than the reverse.
  15. 4 points
    @FarmHer I'm sorry that this has happened to you. That's why for me, it's important that husband knows little about my wide scale thoughts and feelings about women. I can talk about my sexuality in comprehensive details but NEVER my feelings or thought towards a woman of my interest. Your husband has his own anxieties, insecurities and flaws (everyone has, my goodness). Those things are given. For now, yes, you are reacting to his reactions but IF you can slow down (yes, I think you can do this) and pause for a while and break reacting, then, you will do yourself a favour from not getting too stressed out or commiting a mistake (for example, saying hurful words to one another). You are a human being and yes, you will say that of course you will react. You have reacted already. That's done. What I'm trying to say is break the cycle to HAVE a clear head and slow down your pulse (stress isn't good for your heart, lol). I am hopeful in your case that "this too shall pass."
  16. 4 points
    I was poly many years ago, before my husband, but without a word for it. I just felt bad about myself. I internalized a lot of biphobia, too. After a difficult couple of relationships, I started off with my husband just focusing on him and falsely accepting for a time that I could force myself to be straight and monogamous. So, I came from a different place than other bi women, who discover their sexuality later in life. Several years ago, I realized that I could no longer keep up the pretense and forcing myself to be someone I am not is not sustainable. We started off very slow. My husband is 100% happy that I am bi, but monogamy is natural for him. It was mostly conversation at first, and going much slower than I wanted or needed. Ultimately, taking it slow worked for our relationship. He has seen how much less stressed I am now, and a happy side of me that was hidden for too long. He is happier in our relationship when I am fulfilled. I want to be with him more, when I am more myself. I no longer ask from him emotional or sexual elements that he just doesn't want to give. It took a lot of work to get here. It wasn't easy. I haven't had a girlfriend in a couple of years. But, we still maintain the open communication and work on progress to make things even better. Things are certainly better than when I was trying to pretend to be someone I'm not.
  17. 4 points
    While you have a lot to lose, you have so much more to gain, like your sanity, your happiness, your independence, your right to pursue your dreams and someone who will be better suited for you. Often the scariest things are the most worthwhile.
  18. 4 points
    They are different things, as is frottage. Scissoring is what you see in porn. Legs at opposing angles, bodies apart, looking at one another in the eye but no where near close enough to kiss. The body contact is primarily the labia and vaginal opening. Both women are sitting or lounging. Neither one can easy touch the other's breasts, or upper body. The only clitoral contact is through hand stimulation. I've never known women who want or do this on a regular basis. It seems to be a turn on for people who like to watch two women together. Frottage is where the legs or other body parts are intertwined as the women embrace and both women have clitoral stimulation from the other's thighs (or whatever). Faces are usually close together to kiss. You can touch other body parts with hands or caress. Someone might be "on top" or "on "bottom" or could be side to side. Orgasm is easy for both women to achieve as is there is constant clitoral stimulation. Straight people call this "dry humping" disparagingly. But, with two women, I've found it to be common, popular, and adored. Tribbing is very close to frottage but with direct contact clit to clit instead of thigh to clit. One partner, usually the bottom, has to spread her legs wide or wrap them around her partner The top has to angle herself to position both women's clits in direct contact. Side to side is almost impossible with this one. The orgasms with this position can be powerful. For women who experience it, this is usually the favorite sex act. It is rare to see this in porn, but when it happens it's just a crotch shot.
  19. 4 points
    @MidnightBabe Maybe my rules can help. I've posted this in another thread "He's okay with it but now..." ************ RULE # 1 - NEVER share everything to my husband. RULE #2 - NEVER share the intimate details with my husband RULE #3 - NEVER confide and make my husband a sounding board. Find a friend to do this (or share here). RULE #4 - when sharing (“there’s a woman...”), I talk to my husband like it’s a matter-of-fact professional business without showing emotions like being too keen or excited. Be brief and straight to the point. RULE #5 - meditate and gather the sexual energy in me to satisfy the emotional and physical needs of my husband in bed. Make love. Have sex. Make love. Have sex. This is to assure him that I am present and will always be. I cannot do this all the time especially if I’m physically stressed from work. The point is, this works for my husband. These are the rules I made for myself. Like many of you, I had stumbled once and I learned that my husband wasn’t immune to jealousy and insecurity despite of knowing how much he accepted me. Over time, I have developed a certain way on how I communicate with him about my sexuality and active interest in women. We both understood the meaning of “privacy” and even if he wanted to know more, he wouldn’t want to have it if I feel compelled to do it. When you are compelled to do something, then you are not free. He doesn’t want me to feel that I am a prisoner of our own relationship. ****************
  20. 4 points
    Hi everyone. I was on here a bit many years ago. Then I guess my life went its own way. I had my boyfriend, the occasional little crush here or there but nothing much to talk about. It would be great to come back to the forum for a bit if you'll have me here! I'm Jo, living in England. I've known I was bi since I was very young. (I remember having a discussion with my mum about whether girls could like girls because I was pretty sure I did). I've had some wonderful women in my life, but never been in a proper relationship or had sex with a woman. I guess maybe I'm usually not quite sure they like me, you know. The consequences of being wrong seem so much worse. And when I am sure - then I am terrified! Because... it would be so good... but so scary. I very much regret not being braver when I was younger.
  21. 4 points
    I thought I did 27 years ago and at the time it seemed right. I believe that true loves evolves. The two of you grow and become stronger together, remaining independent at the same time. I now know that I haven’t. We may find a love that is right for us at that time but becomes apparent whether it’s sooner or later, it’s not making us a better person. That’s when we need to decide do we hold on because it’s convenient and comfortable or do we look back with loving memories and start to search again for the one! I agree with you that The One is out there waiting to be found and searching as well we just need to stay positive and live the best lives we can while we are waiting for our paths to cross.
  22. 4 points
    Hi Everyone! I've been looking for a place like this for quite a while and I had such a wonderful feeling as soon as I pressed the register button. I've been browsing the forums for a few days now and am amazed at how many people are in the same situation as me. I've known that I was bisexual since I was at high school but since I married. (quite a few years ago) I've felt like I've been hiding a huge part of me. I am happily married to a man. We have had some bad moments over the years but mostly it has been a good marriage. He has no idea about me. Family and friends also have no idea. To be honest, I don't think it would be such a big deal to most of them. In fact, I have a feeling that if my eldest daughter found out, she wouldn't be that shocked and would have no problem at all with it. She is the most liberal person I know! Anyway, I'm so looking forward to reading more of the forums. All of the posts that I've read so far are really inspirational and I'm happy to have found somewhere that I can really be myself. I haven't been able to do that since University. P.S. Loving the stories too. Very nice.
  23. 4 points
    Never thought I'd fall in love again
  24. 3 points
    I did it! I went to the bi women group and it was *fantastic*. I had so much fun with bi women across the spectrum: mostly straight, mostly lesbian, married, single, closeted, out. It was a bit like this forum but IRL. It felt free and wonderful. Totally worth driving for an hour. Making other bi women acquaintances for talking and laughing felt so much better than either straight or gay groups. I hadn't felt that relaxed meeting new people in ages. This must be how other people feel all the time. Imagine no stress that someone is going to find out that I'm a married bi woman seeking other women! Some of you have been saying that it's too far or too difficult or not worth it. Well, I felt really alive all day both traveling there, being there, and going back home. Please, don't write it off. Give it a chance. Now the next step is to have these everywhere for ALL the bi women. We need this, not just a few of us, but all of us. Friendship and community is so important to addressing all the challenges we face as bi women.
  25. 3 points
    Andrea Hewitt, who has the blog that is mentioned in the article is a wonderful lady. After a couple relationships with women and reading about her experiences and her blog, I now identify as gay. I've still not come out as such, but it's a process and I'm working through it. The more I explored about myself and my past, the more I related.
  26. 3 points
    I think there are a lot of things at play here. On the surface, I think it's normal for him to not want you to be with this woman. You've already shown him that you will violate your agreements with this woman, so that's what she represents to him. It will constantly remind him that you cheated on him with her (and you CAN still cheat within a poly relationship by not sticking to your agreements). It's very common when people open things up to agree not to see people you've cheated with for this very reason. Below that surface, there is the fact that your marriage is already hanging by a thread, and that he is not mentally healthy. This is a very common place for people to be when they explore polyamory as a last-ditch effort to save their marriage, and is often the fear of other women you might meet- that they'll get caught up in the drama. He's probably doing this in a hostage situation- do this or the marriage is over. That's not the best reason for this, though not an uncommon one. Just be aware that if you do pursue someone, it will likely bring out a very ugly side of him, and you've already seen a lot of his ugly side lately. Sometimes a guy will give a green light with trepidation, and will make so many limits that it's prohibitive of actually being able to meet a flesh-and-blood human, like she can't be local, she can't be anyone you know already or be connected to anyone you know, she has to disappear after you fool around, she can't have a name with a vowel in it, etc. It becomes unrealistic and not feasible to meet someone, outside of a sex worker, that meets the criteria.
  27. 3 points
    Top/bottom dynamics isn't only a BDSM thing. Tops basically do things to bottoms, to keep it really simple. For example, in gay male relationships, a top would be the one to give, anal sex, and the bottom would receive. With women, some women are strictly one or the other, though it's less common than with gay men. Some women don't want to give oral or wear a strap-on, for example, but enjoy receiving ("pillow princesses"). It's still pretty vanilla terminology, and isn't as relevant among lesbians, though it's important to talk about what you are and are not into (some don't like penetration, some love tribbing/scissoring, some don't, etc). What's "vanilla" is very subjective, and would still require a conversation. Dom/sub would be more BDSM, and may or may not correlate to top/bottom dynamics. Most people think of whips and chains with BDSM, but there's a lot more to it; a lot of it is mental. Which can be incredibly hot!
  28. 3 points
    This is me And to BiTriMama - good on you for getting out of that relationship and moving on with your life. Too many women unfortunately stay with their abusers. So sad. I don't know you personally but I'm glad to see a happy ending to your situation. Hug.
  29. 3 points
    Do you ever look back on your life and think how foolish you were to allow someone to treat you the way they did? I finally decided, after many years of thinking that I would, that I will never allow HER back in my life again. Along with the wrinkles, grey hair, weight gain, aches and pains I musta grew some self respect. It feels good, I am finally happy with myself.
  30. 3 points
    I am a 4 on the Kinsey scale and although my divorce papers say that I’m ‘gay’, I feel more comfortable with ‘nearly lesbian’, because of my 14 year relationship with a man. I have ended that because I know that I no longer want to be with men, being with a woman feels completely right. I have considered myself bisexual since my late teens, but my feelings have changed over the last 2 years.
  31. 3 points
    Before Shybi, I used to think that all the good bi women sites online were defunct. I thought what was left was dating sites, swinger sites, and Twitter. I'm glad I was wrong. I didn't think there was a site for genuine community with other bi women, especially biromantic women. I'm really enjoying reading the wide variety of stories and experiences of the full spectrum of us.
  32. 3 points
    Before ShyBi, I used to think... I'd have an easier time understanding women because I am a woman. I regret to admit I am inept at the very basics of interactions between women.
  33. 3 points
    She sounds like a 16 year old boy. You’re better off without her and finding someone worthy of your attention/time.
  34. 3 points
    OK ladies, I'm new here, 36 yes old and happily married with kids, but I have what's probably a really silly question. Here goes, do any of you ever think that it would be so great to have a really good female friend that you could be very close to, talk to, hang out with, but yet have a mutual attraction and possibly be romantic...intimate even, even with or without sex? I know this sounds crazy but its kinda my ideal scenario lol. Close friendship with attraction that goes to the physical, but with like appreciation and respect for each others life? OK I'm rambling! Help please!!
  35. 3 points
    I'll just compile a list here https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph5b1c718972ae0 https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=1538644238 https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph582e3c5b95535&fbclid=IwAR323JZaBpMqM6HmWniYlZXSp3eEKohC48J72frjNr0OjCelPzqZS2-7dvg https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph591c505f33053 https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=1785620682
  36. 3 points
    It’s pretty commonly used on this site. I think it goes along with many women on here figuring out (or admitting to themselves) that they are attracted to women later on in life. And yeah I guess it does regress you to feeling like a teenager all over again the first time that happens. what else would you call it? Obsession? Lusting over? Crush seems pretty accurate to me.
  37. 3 points
    These things are so hard to discuss with our DH's. I remember having many long conversations ..... sometimes through the evening and into the morning and it can be tiring and hard work although for me personally it was worth it for the growth and increased understanding on both sides resulting from the conversations. Approaching a conversation with phrases like "I have ammo" etc does not set the conversation up to be positive however. This sets it up as combative and I am not sure it will really help you to get the understanding about being bi that you need. Honesty, calmness and the desire to understand the other person is what I think works best with tough conversations like this. We are all just a ball of insecurities, ego and fragilities wrapped up as a human. When these are triggered we end up talking defensively and this often is not productive. I wish you luck with your "discussions" and hope you find resolutions
  38. 3 points
    Yep, can totally relate! Married 11 years, 2 kids (5 and 2), and the last year my desire to be with a woman has just grown. Last year I was diagnosed with cancer (I'm ok now, for now), but that was a wake up call to stop denying what I truly want out of life and to stop putting things off to the "some day." I had a difficult talk with my husband, but he's been supportive, and I recently connected with a woman online. We've seen each other a couple of times, and have plans to meet every couple of months for "sexy time". Lol. I don't know how long this will last, but it's fun for now and satisfies my desire to be with a woman. It also helps my marriage and kids remain my first priority. It's been a bit of a crazy road getting here, but the first step is honest communication with your partner, unless you can emotionally handle an affair, which I cannot. But in my experience these feelings won't go away and only get stronger. Good luck!
  39. 3 points
    It's difficult, eh? @Ronit from what I can see, this whole situation is psychologically taking control of you. Whether the woman is flirting or keen on you, nothing much is going on here REALLY. If you can channel this attraction to a more positive place, then you won't be worrying about this attraction too much. Your wholeness desires this strong infatuation because this is like a drug, you know. This kind of drug, though, can be detrimental (worrying, anxiety, etc) or beneficial (getting inspired, being happy, becoming a better person) to anyone. You cannot just switch this off. Unless she does something very stupid to you or hurt you emotionally then your defense mechanism will shut it down to help you survive from it. You don't have to forcefully stop it. It will gradually stop on its own with a little help from you. Continue to acknowledge your feelings AND don't interpret hers. In this way, YOU are focused on your own state of mind and less to react whatever she does to you. And what I mean to "less to react" is that you wouldn't mind if she is flirting with you, messing your head or truly have feelings for you. You would be able to take things with more control. You'd be able to hold the situation (the situation and not the person) in control. Then, you'd find that this infatuation can affect you positively rather than negatively. My 2cents. Good luck. -Blue-
  40. 3 points
    @Rani Northern Arizona and Southern Utah have spectacular scenery and offer lots of outdoor activities. There probably won't be bisexual meetups at the national parks but there may be some in Las Vegas which isn't too far from the Grand Canyon, think a 2-3 hour car drive. Zions National Park is about the same. The Grand Canyon in the fall or spring is the best time to visit. The crowds are smaller and the weather is cooler. There's camping, hiking, river rafting (one of my favorite things to do). You can also do canyoneering which involves cliff jumping, repelling and walking/swimming in the river If you are interested, just Google canyoneering Grand Canyon and you'll get hits for guides to take you. I haven't done it here, but I have in Italy and it's a blast. You need to book campsites and hotels early, like a year in advance, from what I understand. You have to have a permit to camp in the Grand Canyon and the link provides the info. I've never been to the Grand Canyon but I am planning a Rim to Rim to Rim hike in the Grand Canyon next year. It is already sold out so I'm hoping someone cancels. Havasupai Falls is really popular and is located in the bottom of the canyon. It's a reservation which is owned by the Havasupai Indians. It is beautiful and my friends who have gone highly recommend it. This may be the most enjoyable hike for you at the Grand Canyon. You need ressies and you can book February 1 for 2019. Be advised, all openings will fill up within a few hours. Havasupai offers camping and they also have cabins. There is a long hike down into the canyon and a long hike up the canyon. Havasupai Falls: Here are websites for the Grand Canyon National Park https://www.nps.gov/grca/index.htm. https://grandcanyon.com/planning/south-rim-planning-planning/havasupai-falls-arizona/ https://www.havasupaireservations.com/ This website looks like it covers almost everything about the Grand Canyon. https://www.summitpost.org/grand-canyon-national-park/151112 Zions National Park: This National Park is located in Southwestern Utah. There's many of the same things available here that you will find at the Grand Canyon I think this park is prettier. You can hike on your own or hire a guide. Like the Grand Canyon, you should plan your trip early. There are lots of day hikes here and you can stay in one of the many hotels just outside the park (Springdale Utah). Here are some websites to help you plan. https://utah.com/zion-national-park https://www.nps.gov/zion/index.htm Angels Landing (Zions) ) The Narrows (Zions) You should absolutely hike the Narrows and, if you aren't afraid of heights, Angels Landing. If you want to venture further into Arizona, the town of Sedona has lots of liberal residents with some pretty good hiking and the scenery is lovely. Similar to Zions with Red Rock and green foliage. I can't comment on the lesbian/bi scene. https://visitsedona.com/ Hope that helps. Let me know if you have other Qs. XO ETA: After seeing @California shy offer to accompany you when you arrive, I would do the same if my schedule allows and you're interested.
  41. 3 points
    Ive joined this new bi support group in my area. I had brainstormed a few ideas of how we can help support bi married/single ladies coming to terms with their sexual orientation, or have come to terms with it and need support with what to do about it. Or support with their partner/kids etc when it comes to being bi. Here are some ideas A bi stories by moonlight where people can hear others talk about how they realised they were bi, their coming out story or if they are closeted what that means to them. They love this idea. Maybe meetups in different locations. Restaurants/walk/movie club/book club/cycle club. Fun non sexual but sensual activities as i know openly sexual activities might make some people feel guilty. Things like a massage workshop, or a same sex couple dance classes which we have plenty of in our city. People can take a new bi friend or their husband/partners as well. Maybe an erotic writing workshop. There are some lesbian cruises which offer that. Something fun to do with food. Maybe a book or movie club where we rotate with a new bi book or movie. Other activities i have not thought of yet. Down the line a support group for partners to let them know they are not alone. This is for those who have out partners. . A bi mums group and a kids play group. This way it can be easier to connect with those in a similar situation. Having online/virtual skype etc groups as i realise married parents with kids or married people may be busy Eventually link in with bi groups in other countries for shared activities/travel. Maybe by skype. I see a lot of awesome people here on bi but in all different places. I am trying to gather more ideas by 8 december where i hope to mention them. So if you any idea at all please let me know. Let your imagination run wild.
  42. 3 points
    I met her at her Zumba class. I didn't realize at first I was attracted to her. Then as we became friends, it hit me just how attracted to her I was. My first girl crush! I didn't know I had a same sex attraction! Our friendship blossomed into the greatest, deepest, most passionate romance I've ever known. So no. I wasn't looking for her. Or anyone. I was married in a stale, kind of toxic marriage. And I had no idea what was about to happen. Moral: take Zumba classes! It's better than you can imagine. Transformative, to say the least!
  43. 3 points
    Sure, but I wonder if a lot of women who wish their husband would be cool with it would actually be cool if their husband (or wife or boyfriend or girlfriend or whatever) would want to see someone else? Or if they have ever been in that situation.
  44. 3 points
    Full Lips, tasteful tats, jeans that accentuate all those beautiful curves
  45. 3 points
    I think we can be happy with a few different people in the world. That said, I cannot imagine someone being a better fit for me than my GF. We are “compatible opposites,” as in, she is totally the yin to my yang. We really balance each other out, and bring out the best in each other. We encourage each other to pursue our dreams, and have each other’s backs. We have similar visions of the future together, and I can’t wait to see where life takes us.
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    Kissing is amazing period! Man or woman if done right. But the softness of a woman’s lips, the feeling that u could be lost in that moment forever! The desire mounting between u from just a slow, soft, wet kiss is indescribable! So if I had to choose...
  48. 3 points
    Sadly, my experience is that this is very true... it's like having another child that SHOULD know better, but doesn't, or does but chooses not to act on it. It's a constant frustrating battle. I don't think this is all men, but it is alot... way too many!! I personally only know two exceptions, my brother and uncle, who are great dads and human beings. My mum asked me what it was like to live with a woman, and I told her it was amazing, like living with another adult who can actually take care of themselves and is a whole capable human being who sees what needs to be done and just does it, I love it and will never go back...
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    It’s true when they say it’ll come when you aren’t looking, or when you least expect it. I responded to someones post just to show support and maybe become friends. We started talking non stop and finally met in person this past weekend. It was an incredible weekend and I can honestly say that she completes me. I could have never imagined being this happy or finding someone like her, but I did. And I honestly wasn’t expecting it at all. So don’t give up. It’ll happen when you least expect it, too.