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  1. 19 points
    I just wanted to make a short introduction. Glad I stumbled upon this website. Was being a little douche-y and browsing the forums for a few days before mustering up enough courage to actually sign up. Even though, one can be as anonymous as one wants on here, I am still feeling a bit nervous and cautious. Been married for 14 years with two beautiful children. Absolutely in love with my husband. Feel extremely grateful for my life and all that I've been provided. However, just like a lot of ladies on here (remember stalky me was reading up on you guys?!), I have always felt attraction towards other women since forever. I had casually mentioned that to my husband when we were dating and he had made comments like, "oh too bad, you missed your chance" and "let's have a threesome!" We both knew that was just a lighthearted banter going nowhere. Plus, we are not that adventurous. Over the years, we'd talk about who we found attractive and agreed we had the same type! Again, this was all just talk. He is a pretty straight vanilla guy who just happens to be open minded enough to have chats like that. Him and I have an incredible relationship, he is my best friend and our greatest strength is healthy communication. Well, I had a very honest conversation about wanting to have an experience with a woman before I turned 40. Like a goober, I was hoping he'd give me his blessings and maybe even help coordinate! In reality, that conversation got quite intense and I think at that point, he may have realized that I was serious about it ...I had always been serious about it. He basically said that his biggest fear was that I'd leave him for a woman and he will be devastated. That broke my heart. And I kept reassuring him that, that wasn't going to happen. I have told him several times and I've meant every bit of it, that he is all the man I need or want and what I am curious about is something he can't give me. Our last conversation on this topic ended with him saying that he would like me to be happy and we have one life to live so if I want to experiment, I'd have to do it in secret. He wouldn't be able to be ok with it. I don't want to hurt him but I also agree with him that I should be able to experience what I think will bring me joy. I have found certain people attractive off and on throughout my life. I am finding it to be true more so now than before. I have never been with a woman before but I have a very strong feeling that I will love it provided the stars are aligned and the chemistry is there. I wouldn't even know where to begin. I can't see myself being the initiator. I am hoping it'll all happen organically. That's the only way I can justify it with minimal amount of guilt. Guilt. That's another topic for another day. Sigh. I have NEVER admitted to being bicurious to anyone other than my husband so writing this post has been terrifying as well as liberating. Thanks for reading and thanks for allowing me to be part of this community. I promise to keep my douchery to a minimum! Cheers.
  2. 7 points
    I am mad,mad at myself mostly for letting her be like this with me, for allowing her having this manipulative behavior.All my life, I spend all my life feeling less because she made me feel like this,took me years to love my image, my body and realize there is nothing wrong with me.FUCK I am MAD.Everytime I tried to do something she managed to convince me that I can't do it because she knows better, because she is so selfish and don't want to be alone and she doesn't care what the fuck I want.Always live by hers and society's standards, always go with her mood.Well what about what I want?how I feel?my life depends from her and I hate it, I hate that she has this power over me and I am really ashamed of that.And why do I stay?I keep coming for more hurt, more manipulation. I think I am a f..ing masochist,that's the only explanation I can give.She doesn't even know me, the real me,she thinks i am the person she tried to make.I am so tired of listening to her that i zone out,she talks and talks and i just don't care to listen and because she is in love with labels i am the person that doesn't care about anything.Well i have news i care about everything,she just made me not to show my feelings.I managed to hold my reactions and how i feel because i don't want to listen to her rants and confrontations and because from when i was child i knew that she wouldn't listen,so why bother.What does that make me?i am guarded because of her,all my life I m listening what the world will say from her,all my life I am compared and judged, well fuck you I am not my sister, I am not my cousin,I am not the stupid neighbors kid,I am me with my short hair and my jeans and my flaws and insecurities,ME, without labels,perfect in my imperfection,living in my head, in a world you can't and never will understand.
  3. 7 points
    Cut off all contact with her! I know it seems hard and impossible. But you should do it for your own sanity. And to feel like you have some control of the situation. and find someone you can talk to about it (or keep posting here). Eventually you will get over it. It may take months (for me it did, and it wasn’t even a real relationship, but a crush and all in my head) but you will move on. Also writing letters that I never sent to her also helped to get all this out of my head. Thats the best advice I have. And work on yourself, question why you feel the way you do, is she worth your pain? Etc. hugs! I know it’s really tough right now, but if you can use it to learn more about yourself and just become more comfortable with who you are and what you want, you may feel it was all worth it. I know I did!
  4. 7 points
    I am going to add my two cents to this topic while I have the opportunity (busy weekend). I have been married for 5 years now and hubby knew from the start I was into women. He would help me check out females when we would go out and at first we would just talk. Getting used to the idea while showing him that he is my number one. Any insecurities, I would talk to him and remind him how important he is. Basic fear of getting left for a woman, which is normal male or female in a relationship at some point. We even had a threesome which didnt end well cause of the immaturity and mixed feelings on their part. Now I have a huge crush (make juicy post about later) of a temporary manager at work and he pushed me to go hang with her after she got off from work on her last day. Needless to say we talked for 5 hours nonstop. Now my husband has opened up to me that he is also bi. And i get to return the accepting supportive behavior that he showed me. Main thing is, communication and taking your time. And don't be sneaky, be open!
  5. 6 points
    In the bi/lesbian world, among women of all ages, 'cute' is usually meant in a very positive way, to mean attractive, and it can definitely mean 'hot' too... In fact, I haven't ever heard it used in a negative way...and it's usually said with a particular emphasis, as in 'She's really cute' (emphasis on 'really cute'), or 'She's cute' (emphasis on 'She's')... I'm sure you get my point... So, you seem to think that women are saying you're cute because you look younger than you are, but that may just be your perception...and the issue concerning women not realizing that you're hitting on them is probably something separate... You really don't need to try to change your appearance to attract women... Just relax and be yourself, because there's nothing more attractive than a woman who is confident, and comfortable in her own skin...
  6. 6 points
    You ladies with supportive husbands are so, so lucky. I didn't realize until years into my marriage that I wanted (needed, craved) to be with a woman. About a year ago, when I finally kissed a woman for the first time, I couldn't keep it in anymore. I finally just kind of blurted it all out to him, and I honestly didn't think he would think too much of it... but he completely flipped out. Long story short....he considers it cheating, doesn't think he will ever be able to "be okay" with it, is deeply hurt, and is very resentful. We have young children and want to stay married (not just for them; we've been together for ten years and truly love each other) but our marriage has been terribly strained for the past year and a half. Sometimes I think that if I just had his blessing to explore this, then my life would be perfect. Not sure what my point is, other than to say count your blessings & don't take your amazing hubbies for granted! lol
  7. 5 points
    This all resonates and having "made it to the other side" I can say, create your fate. My experience started very similarly in that I opened up to H about it as a fantasy, he was supportive. At first the rules were very clear "full disclosure" and in the beginning I didn't have awareness as to why it would be hard.... I began crushing on a best friend of about 3 years. We met Bc if our kids. Things moved very quickly once I had a green light and in the beginning it was fine to share Bc much of what we did was relatively innocent (kissing). As soon as I realized that our chemistry and connection was well beyond an experiment.... I stopped disclosing and her and I ended up having a whirlwind romance that was only for us. It imploded Bc her H caught wind and it was pretty devestating. But I learned a lot from it. I was able to have conversations with my H informing him that should I go down this path again I wouldn't be able to share, I'd need this for me and over time, he agreed. Needless to say, after 7 months of torture and rebuilding a friendship, her and I held on tight to boundaries... but finally did crumble. Moral of story, sometimes you have to make things happen and when you want something so badly and all the signs are pointing in the direction that yes indeed you can have it, make it happen. Life is too short.
  8. 4 points
    Hi everyone! I am a bisexual woman, surrounded by a lot of close minded people. And I am just looking for a save place to rest and be myself. I am married, to my wonderful supportive husband. We have been married for 5 years now. He is also bisexual but not as comfortable as me. I am an outdoor, animal loving... unique person who loves good conversation...and coffee. Hi!!!
  9. 4 points
    I appreciate that my husband is doing some reading and investigating on his own. Even though we're not discussing me acting on anything for a while, I know he thinks about it. He's seen that some people do gendered monogamy and he sees that as a possibility.
  10. 4 points
    Here's the thing, I could tell from her lets not talk for awhile - she was cutting ties with you for a reason. She also probably had/has reasons to keep her distance. Mostly because it suited her. Not only during breakups but also in relationships, a person's actions are very telling. I see this kind of situation from all sides, I've been the flake, the cold-hearted one and the lover pursuing and maintaining the connection at all costs when close and at a distance. I do believe everyone should cut ties with an ex, at least for awhile, her I'd probably make it a long time, possibly forever. I know that seems hard now, but given that this isn't the first time you two have been in this space - it's definitely the best thing for everyone, especially you. She isn't feeling the same pain, or having the same thoughts. You cannot fix, change or feel good about any of that. I don't think she is worth your time and she is certainly not worthy of your heart. We all have our highlights and flaws, but you can't live off scraps and it's not your anxiety/mental health making you feel this way - it's her. The further from her you are, the easier it'll be to get in touch with yourself. Choose whatever medium you'd like and in the fullness of time maybe therapy would be helpful - but this kind of pain don't instantly lessen by talking to a professional. Look out for yourself and your needs. After some time, you'll be able to see why you chose to go back to her/allowed yourself to be treated in this way. Everything is an experience and while many of us can be self destructive, eventually you realize that some people and things are not meant to be. I am not shocked by her actions or revelations, in fact it makes a lot of sense. However, I am sad for you. Your heart will heal and you'll grow stronger, I know you probably can't see it now, but eventually something will spark and you'll discover more about yourself and what you really need for the next time. Take care.
  11. 4 points
  12. 4 points
    It's not a question of preferring one over the other. I want both. I want to give. I want to receive. Both are important. Why would I choose one over the other? I might have some preferences about how. I want her to give on her knees. For her, giving is an act of worship. I want her to receive on her back, because for her, receiving is an act of surrender. She's surrendering to the pleasure and the sensation I give.
  13. 4 points
    Came out to one of my oldest friends today. Every time I come out to someone, I feel more free.
  14. 4 points
    don’t sweat it, cute is hot! the right person will be totally attracted and mesmerized by cute! well... at least in my opinion...i dig cute be you!
  15. 4 points
    Touché, dear @ChemFem ! Women can ejaculate too...but it would be pretty damn difficult to do that prematurely...
  16. 4 points
    Agh...I'm going through this right now and I'm struggling with what to do about it. The conversation hasn't been going on very long so I'm still giving him time to adjust. And giving myself time to work out what it is that I really want. *have all of the hugs* Sorry I don't have any advice to give. I just totally relate to your feeling like a ball of crazy. I feel one myself right now with almost the exact same questions. Maybe our journeys will help each other...? I guess, just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in this feeling/experience. This, too. It feels like it just crept out of the darkness and slapped me in the last few months. Maybe the unhappiness in my current relationship opened the hole to these old suppressed feelings. Who knows. I know I've felt this before, but I was single at the time and just never found the right girl. I ended up dating a guy, and then another guy, and then this current guy.
  17. 4 points
    It's hard when you can't sleep and your brain keeps going with all this stuff. Hopefully, seeing your therapist will help. What about keeping a journal, and writing out your thoughts before you go to bed? You could even keep it next to the bed to help you work through your thoughts that keep hitting when you go to bed. You can also try meditating, listening to music, reading, something else to distract your mind from this. But allowing yourself to mourn and process will really help. It takes me awhile to get over a breakup sometimes, and you just have to let it hurt for awhile, and let the emotions come. The more you try to stuff it down, the longer it will take to heal. I've had a couple of on-again, off-again relationships, and I think sometimes they can be the hardest to shake. Cutting off contact entirely helps me to be able to move on. One has had a hard time accepting that I said I would reach out when I am ready, and has continually tried to contact me (a good reminder she still doesn't respect my boundaries, one of the main reasons we broke up). It takes time to get past the hurt and other emotions of the break up, but you'll find yourself there eventually. It kind of hits you when you find yourself in a situation where you might normally have talked about it, but then you find you don't feel the need.
  18. 4 points
    I can and I did contact him. He's awesome and I can tell him everything. Also a friend offered me an ear. I'm hesitating only because of the money part,I'm quite tight with money right now. But I think I need this To all those who have had their heart broken, bon courage!
  19. 4 points
    After 27 years, I finally came clean with hubby about my curiosities. It was the most painful thing to admit to him. He's a very old fashioned guy, and basically close minded. It's been 7 months, and when we have discussions, it still twists my gut to talk about it. But he has given me the freedom that explore alone, and once I'm comfortable, we will explore together. I can totally relate to you.
  20. 4 points
    After my last tattoos I told myself I wouldn't get any more, but part of me really wants the deathly hallows tattooed somewhere. I do pretend sometimes that my lightning bolt tattoo (for my kids - their initials are AC DC) is a harry potter one haha
  21. 3 points
    You'll get over this but it'll take time. Healing always take time especially if the cut is so deep. You can try mindfulness meditation. It helped me when I was heartbroken. I joined a group doing it. Then, we were encouraged to do it on our own regularly. Sometimes I do it. It helps me relieve some stress. I believe that it even tapped the left side of my brain which works on creativity.
  22. 3 points
    Hey @Ona, thanks for your opinion. now that shock is subsiding, anger is rising and I really feel tempted to say certain things but I have to refrain from it, not for her sake, but for my own.Just need to wait till this urge passes and I don't make it even worse. I talked to some friends and they kindly gave me support and consolation but it still hurts, of course.Like she thrust a knife in my heart and turned it for a bigger effect. there's no trust anymore, I don't know where truth ends and lies begin, was everything truth or was it all lies? No, it doesn't matter. I don't care about her motives. I am offended for myself, I made mistakes, I assume them but be treated like that? that hurts and I will need time to get over it. I deleted her phone number, but I need to clean my phone and everything I have. I feel very sad :'( It feels like a betrayal
  23. 3 points
    I will not write her anymore It is sad that she has lied to me and because I am not someone who does rebounds, it is inconceivable for me that someone is "in love" with someone within days. I have lots of health problems that i have earned due to stress and relationship turmoils, I was told I need to take care of myself right now. It's not healthy to give someone such power over you that they can diminish your self-esteem and feel unworthy when you have done everything, everything to make it work
  24. 3 points
    We already have a number of things we do on our own, we worked hard to each have something of our own outside of the marriage in order to not loose ourselves in the "we" (if that makes sense) so his worry about me spending time away from him is because we already are quite busy. That's why I think it will have to be baby steps to see what he is comfortable and where his boundaries are. I am hoping though that taking it very slow and keeping him in the loop all the way though will make him feel included and a part of the process, and then we'll just take it one step at a time and see how we're both feeling. That's at least the plan, haha! We'll see what actually happens but I'm really really hoping it will all work out ok
  25. 3 points
    Family. They mess with our minds all through our childhoods then absolve themselves of all blame for the consequences. They criticise, ridicule, withdraw support when we need it, disown us, turn community against us, try to make our decisions for us, they are that all encompassing power that we can’t seem to get away from no matter how old we are. You are not alone in this depressing and frustrating dilemma. I have lived with this all my life. I have stood there like a dumb ass while my father proceeds to insult, criticise and verbally abuse me. I have had him force descisions on me that I have lived to regret. I have studied at college to get him to like and respect me. To no avail. Only recently have I finally found the strength to walk away from an approach, to walk away before the hurtful and demoralising words start, to show him that his power is at last waning, that I am beginning to find freedom, peace and sanity from the over critical, manipulating, non caring and selfish family. I will no longer be their scapegoat. It’s a lifetimes work Kairi and I wish you well with it. x
  26. 3 points
    It's far better to be clear from day 1, and not to get into any potentially compromising situations, because those can quickly get out of hand... At the risk of being controversial (yet again), I should also point out that male influence in such situations can sometimes lead to women doing things that they wouldn't consider otherwise. Men can be very gung-ho generally, and particularly about sexual matters, which can lead to women feeling pressured or pushed in some way. There are plenty of examples of this on Shy, where male partners have 'encouraged' women to have sex with other women in front of them (in a seemingly beneficent way, but actually with their own ulterior motives), or to have a threesome, when that isn't what their female partner has actually wanted. (If that's what you really want, then go for it, but I'm talking about finding yourself in a situation that you haven't planned and really don't want.) Back when I was in relationships with men, I frequently found myself in that kind of situation, because my male partners knew that I was bisexual and considered it an opportunity to have two women at once, or to watch two women having sex, and that usually signified the end of that relationship for me. Frankly, it got to be a real bore, and ultimately contributed to my decision to be with women only...and it's a common tale among bisexual women I know. I wasn't married to any of those men, and obviously being in a marriage or LTR with a man is a different dynamic, with different issues and aspirations, and so forth, but I just thought I ought to mention it, as you are venturing down an untrodden pathway and might find this advice useful.
  27. 3 points
    It can be done but it’s not easy or at least it wasn’t for me. Hubby knew what I was doing but was resentful at times because it took time away that I could have been spending with him. I also had to endure homophobic comments from him. Bearing in mind this was a long time ago now. Overall though it never took from the love and commitment we had for and to each other and indeed our sex life benefitted as I found libido increased I was just so full of love for him and her. It did unfortunately end in tears between her and I and we broke up after a year and a half but do I regret the experience? No.
  28. 3 points
    I think it's a good thing. When referring to my crush, I'd describe her as cute. She's also beautiful, gorgeous hot, sexy, and fiiiine as hell. But if i was making a comment to her about herself, I'd probably tell her she was cute or pretty. During a regular conversation, that is. Sex is a different story
  29. 3 points
    Oh yes we are. We are very interesting
  30. 3 points
    So...threesome chick is ghosting us. Dh is disappointed. I'm not too heartbroken. Couple chick has continued to be sweet and flirty via text, and we've set a date to meet and have a drink (this Sunday!). I'm happy about this, even if just for a potential good friend who I can talk with about bi/poly whatever stuff. We talked about doing a double date too as soon as we can fit it into our schedules.
  31. 3 points
    @FarmHer thanks for the post! I really want to feel empowered, but it is quite a process. But the more I read the more I do start to feel that I am heading in the right direction to find my truth. @NoOneThank you also for posting. As everyone else has been posting, this is a feeling that won't go away. I remember telling my mom in the laundry room when I was around 14 that I was into girls, and she said it was a phase. Well, this phase has been happening for over 20 years now. I hope that your relationship works out and he gives you the opportunity to work things out. Please keep me posted as it seems we really do have a lot in common right now! haha
  32. 3 points
  33. 3 points
    Let's try to stay on-topic, ladies. One of you are welcome to create a spin-off thread. OP, I agree about being wary of women who send nudes right away. Have you spoken to her at all yet? Verified she's real?
  34. 3 points
    Aww thanks a lot @Cute&Curious, that's an awesome welcome I've already read through quite a few threads in the forum and as you said - I can literally hear my thoughts, feelings, worries and so on in so many of them and just reading them is already such a help. Yeah, I'm really lucky that is have sucha supportive husband, often times I'm actually my own enemy because I overthink everything to the point of giving myself a headache, haha! But I've not got some books to read thanks to you guys and so much more of th forum to read through so I finally feel like I'm making a small step towards figuring this out, at least getting a bit more clued up about things So thanks to everyone for the warm welcome and all your suggestions ^_^
  35. 3 points
    All interesting points. I'm learning a lot...I think. To continue my original thread, though, threesome woman got back to me today and sent me a nude photo. This is moving fast! I don't even know what to do right now!
  36. 3 points
    Would it be different if he were okay with her sleeping with other men as long as there was no emotional involvement? Are friends with benefits only okay as long as it's a male? Or should we all only sleep with people we're committed to regardless of gender? It sounds like the women she's involved with are on the same page as she is, and as long as feelings are taken into consideration and communication is abundant, i don't see this as objectifying women. I care deeply for the woman I'm sleeping with, and really don't desire any other woman now that I'm involved with her. But that doesn't mean i want to divorce my husband and marry her. And i don't want to sleep with another man. My husband has stated that if i wanted to, i could because I'm in charge of the decisions i make, but that he'd feel more insecure about himself and whether he's satisfying me than he does with me sleeping with a woman. Because he has a penis and he'd like to believe his is enough for me. He does not, however, have a vagina, so he can't help me in that arena, and therefore doesn't feel his penis is inadequate because a vagina and a penis are very different things. So while objectification of women does happen way too much, i would hesitate to describe every instance of this as objectifying women. Details are key before we jump to conclusions.
  37. 3 points
    It has been very hard to find a girlfriend while being married. Not to say that I have not had a few but it is still hard. Not many women want to get attached to someone who already has a life partner unless they are in a similar setup(which comes with another set of difficulties). At the moment, I'm not looking for another gf but I did start using the app FIESTA to see if I can make some friends. From what I have seen though, it is mostly used for dating and you have to verify who you are so there is less chance of being catfished. You could try it out! As far as how I've met my past girlfriends, well Shybi isn't a dating site but I happened to connect with a really wonderful person here and we began dating. It lasted only a year but we are still very good friends. The girl before her sort of just fell in my lap and was a horribly flaky on/off situation that went on for about 5 years. There were others before that that just sort of fell in my lap and one stalker turned lover. So truthfully it's just random.
  38. 3 points
    Yep you sound like one here, lol! Looks like you have a lot on your plate at the moment but not too bad compared to others. How are you handling the break up? Is there a possibility of reconciliation? And if there is, how are you going to make your bisexuality happen with this guy who doesnt want to share? That's major and I'm asking because it would certainly affect your exploring if you don't have a clear head. For example, you might end up meeting an amazing woman who's really into you, only to be crushed by you because you are not sure or a lot of things are happening in your life and you can't focus. Then, bam! Let's call it quits. This is just for you to think about before you do explore. Having said these, I fully agree on everything @FarmHer said. Do it. Your bisexuality is part of you. It will keep coming back to let you know, "hey, I'm here. Where is she?"
  39. 3 points
    Some days are better, some days are worse. Look for the blessing instead of the curse. Be positive, stay strong and get enough rest. You can’t do it all, but you can do your best.
  40. 3 points
    good for you to get it all out there - putting these painful feelings down in writing is so therapuedic. from your writing it seems like this is the best choice for both of you and is enough closure to begin healing. like all of us, u will get through the sad, heartache, longing and you will come out of it stronger if you don’t let it drag u down. sending hugs!
  41. 3 points
    I have a Harry Potter related tattoo(the word always on my forearm) and a simplistic logo for the game Kingdom Hearts on my other forearm. I want to get many more game related tattoos. Video games have been a big part of my life and I want to eventually make my own
  42. 3 points
    My husband and I nearly split a few years ago and everything your saying was apart of the motivation. The reality though is that I'm not giving up 16 years together to chase potential women. I love him to bits and I'm pretty convinced it's a case of the grass always being greener on the other side. let's say you split from your husband and find the woman of your dreams, what's to say you won't be craving a bit of male companionship at that point? Unless your open to poly relationships you may not be able to have your cake and eat it too.
  43. 2 points
    @bluebell I'm so sorry, honey. That's a punch in the gut. This article doesn't totally apply to you, but I think there are a few things in here that you will be able to latch on to. I am going through the things in this article and it really helps me. Things like not wanting to feel like you're in high school and not staying in a toxic situation. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/lifestyle/wellbeing/lesleygarnerlifeclass/5231487/I-have-a-fantastic-husband-but-I-fell-in-love-with-another-man.-How-do-I-move-on.html
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    Yes, they were totally kick-ass...and Anabella was a unique performer... I remember first seeing them as an opening act for the Pretenders in a sleazy little bar in Allentown, PA, where there was no stage, so the acts stood on top of the bar to perform... But there were lots of bikers and...hicks...there that night, and they started bombarding them with bottles, so they had to beat a hasty retreat, aided by yours truly... (I was a college DJ back then, and we were sponsoring their performance, so I was also their guardian for the evening...) The guys were originally in Adam and the Ants, and were enticed to form a new band by Malcolm McLaren (who had formed the original British punk band, the Sex Pistols), and then he recruited Anabella, who was 13 at the time...They were pretty controversial because she was so young and, when she was 15, posed nude for one of their album covers, which led to a Scotland Yard investigation and grounding them in the UK until Malcolm agreed to be good, and not use the photo or promote Anabella as a sex object (he was famous for his exploitive publicity stunts). But the photo, which is a play on Manet's painting Le Déjeuner sur l'herbe, was still used for the cover of their 1982 album The Last of the Mohicans (but only in certain countries). You can find both images online.
  46. 2 points
    Long term. Yes. Falling in love and being inloved. Yes. Don't know how I will reconcile that to my present situation but that's what I do hope. There are days that I'm full of hopes. I'll find her and she'll find me. And there are nights that I just sigh and look at the stars with a heavy heart. Oh, well. On the flip side, I am open to FWB, casual sex as long as there's chemistry.
  47. 2 points
    Backgammon is a great game if you actually wager on it. The stakes don't have to be high. Ten dollars a point. The luck element means an amateur has a shot at winning.
  48. 2 points
    Agreed Kairi. However, I have read numerous posts on here about women having their cake and eating it too. Partners are aware and accepting, women are spending time with their girlfriends. I can’t help but wonder and wish for such possibilities.
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  50. 2 points
    Hi #No1Crush. Thanks very much for the recommendations. We went out in Soho that weekend - looks like we'll have to do it again to try the places you've suggested We were briefly in She twice, at the start and the end of the evening. It wasn't exactly what I expected - in the basement and pretty small. It was empty early in the evening (rookie error!) At the end of the night, it was packed and people were having fun. It was club night - not exactly our/my thing (my friend would probably be more up for it). We'd definitely go back there on another sort of evening. We also went to Ku on Frith Street (much nicer venue; not many women around though) and Freedom (very trendy; far more men than women; didn't seem to be much chance of getting talking to people there). We also looked in on a pub during the daytime (Retro Bar), which seemed like a friendly sort of place, with as many women there as men. A bit disappointed that there aren't more lesbian bars. Very glad to have your suggestions for next time!