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  1. 4 points
    Well after much scheduling trial and error, I finally went on a first date with my new potential lady-friend! We had planned on going to coffee this past Saturday but then when I texted that morning to double check we were still on (she'd been having car trouble all week) she suggested going either to Sunday brunch or drag bingo (aka awesome bingo for a good cause wherein a fabulous and fabulously funny drag queen is the bingo caller). I had no idea that drag bingo existed but I know I would definitely do it again. It was so fun! I was so happy with how the date went. She is super nice and funny; we had a great time chatting about our crappy coworkers and about how awesome drag bingo is. My new potential lady-friend is also very pretty and very tall (seriously, I feel short next to her and considering I'm 5'7'', that's an accomplishment indeed makes me extremely happy *dramatic swoon*). After bingo we stood out in the parking lot and talked more, I think we would've stood there longer if it hadn't been for the fact it was absolutely freezing out. We're still texting and it's more frequent than before which I figure is a good sign. I'm really looking forward to seeing her again
  2. 1 point
    About a month or so ago, a friend of mine went to a yoga class at our local YMCA. It was a nice class and we had a good time. However, between the combination of the coming new year's resolution workout crowd and the instructor's announcement that that particular class was her last one since she was going to be having her baby soon, that was our only time going to that yoga class. Now you're probably wondering what this has to do with my previous blog entries...well, flash forward to today. I was talking with my lady friend and I mentioned I wanted to get back into yoga. She asked if I went to a class or if I did yoga at home and I told her that I usually did it at home but I did go to a class one time. I gave a brief rundown of going to the class and why I hadn't been back yet and didn't think anything of it. And then I found out that my lady friend had been at that class too! But wait there's more... Because right after that revelation the conversation moved on and I mentioned how cute she was (we've been snapchatting and seriously, she's soooo pretty). It was then that she mentioned that when she saw me in class, she thought I was cute too!!! *Double Gasp! So yeah, I'm having a pretty good day now.
  3. 1 point
    In the time that I needed someone to notice me, I got just that. She is a wonderful person to me. She cares so deeply for me, for how I feel. She makes me feel like my life has finally started. She is my missing piece. I wish she could see how much I care for her. I know I'm closed off a lot of the time but that's just me. I'm so scared to lose her though. I don't know how to just shut it off me being like this. I don't know what I can do to make her see that she changed me without even trying. She changed me to be the best that I could be for me.
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    Well it's been a while since I've added an entry to my blogs here. Guess it's time to get caught up. Netty and I are both counting the days now until we can become each other's wife. My youngest daughter and I will make the trip out to her place this summer and we will get married then. I never thought these days would get here so quickly and it's kind of bitter sweet for me because my youngest will be graduating high school in May. Netty and I talked about that day when we got together four years ago and I can't believe how quickly the time has flown by. I won't be able to stay after we're married I will have to come back home and work again for nearly another year. The goal is that sometime shortly after the new year of 2020 I'll be able to make the move. I'm just looking forward to us being able to start our lives together. Yes I will miss my children here, but they will all be doing their own things and very independent. My two older children have found wonderful partners and I think they'll both be married in the next year or two sometime. Not quite sure what my youngest is going to do but I do know that she's planning on going to college and pursuing her love of acting and maybe make a go of it for a career for herself. I have no doubt that she will do well at whatever she strives for because she is a very motivated and driven child. She is so talented and she looks like she was born to perform when she's up on the stage. She's very comfortable up there so I will support her and her dreams wherever they may take her. As for me and netty, we will be living in the place she has now and I will get to be a step-mother once again. Hopefully we'll all be able to live together and get along but when we have our disagreements hopefully we'll be able to talk them out and work through them so we can all become more unified and on the same page. It's not easy having a blended family, but then again if it was easy then everyone would try it but not everyone is always willing to take that risk. Guess that's about it for now but when I think of other things, I'll write another entry. Take care and hope you've enjoyed my blogs so far. W.
  5. 1 point
    We live in a time of unprecedented and constant change and sometimes it's hard to see the process of change because it's slower than our day to day concerns but when looked at from a different viewpoint or time scale some changes can be seen as occurring extremely rapidly. One example that everyone can relate to is the use of smartphones which were launched around 2005. As of 2015 smartphone use in the US was around 75%; in 10 years their use has grown from no one using them to nearly everyone, which is an incredibly fast adoption rate. The rapid and widespread adoption of new technology such as smartphones is easily evident but there are other kinds of changes occurring in our societies as well such as changes in attitudes, values and behaviours which together with technological change are aspects of cultural change. The study of cultural change has been going on for decades and one of it's most important written works is the book Diffusion of Innovations by Everett M. Rogers. It's a pretty dry read but you can get the jist of his main ideas by watching the short 3 minute youtube video below: What does the above have to do with Shybi.com? Well, I recently came across a research paper published online in June 2016 entitled Changes in American Adults' Reported Same-Sex Experiences and Attitudes 1974-2014 by Jean M. Twenge et al. Twenge and her colleagues Ryne Sherhman and Brooke Wells examined the very large data set compiled by The General Social Survey (GSS) and reported on the same-sex attitude and behavioural trends they saw. We know of course that there has been a change in the acceptance of same-sex behaviour in others as gay marriage is now legal in much of the western world, but the magnitude and rapidity of the change is surprising. Twenge reports that in 1973 only 11% of Americans felt that same-sex behaviour was "not wrong at all". By 1990 the number had only increased slightly to 13%, but by 2014 the number reached 49%, and was even higher among women, reaching 54%. The number of people engaging in same-sex behaviour also showed increases over time, but not to the same extent as acceptance of same-sex behaviour in others. Still the trend shows constant and continual increases over a 25 year period from 1989-2014 and when data points are placed on a graph one gets something that looks very similar to the early stages of a Innovation Diffusion "S" curve: The pink data points are taken from the Twenge paper, and the teal data points are ones I calculated using the growth rate in the pink data. It is interesting to note that the pink data represents the "Innovator" and "Early Adapter" parts of an S curve and the teal data represents the beginning of the "Early Majority" group of an S curve. Will we actually see such increases in same-sex behaviour among women? I think we definitely could because there is no apparent reason for the existing trend to suddenly change. My conjecture is that we are seeing a series of "waves" of cultural change that are inter-related and reinforce each other: The first wave - is the acceptance of same-sex behaviour in others The second wave - is the acceptance of same-sex potential in ourselves, this is an internalization of the scientific finding that women's sexuality is fluid and can be influenced by environmental factors, which are increasingly showing same-sex behaviour positively The third wave - is the increasing number of women who have sex with other women What will our culture look like when a large minority of say 40% of women have had sex with other women? What if the trend continues to over 50%? I think another wave of change will start: The fourth wave - major changes in how women and men relate, mate and raise families. Early Adapters, showing the benefits of the Innovation References: Dolphin Wave - Jeffrey Oldham http://fineartameric...-art-print.html Diffusion of Innovations - Everett M. Rogers https://www.amazon.c...s/dp/0743222091 Diffusion of Innovation Theory: Part 2 -The "S" Curve - Rare, narrated by Alexandra Jabs Changes in American Adults' Reported Same-Sex Sexual Experiences and Attitudes, 1973-2014 - Twenge et al. http://link.springer...0508-016-0769-4 Young women kissing in public - I haven't found a source yet [edit - I found a source] The picture is nominally called The Kiss From Marseilles by French AFP photograper Gérard Julien and was taken on October 23, 2012. Two students, Julia and Auriane, decided to kiss in front of an anti-gay marriage protest using love to challenge hate. The picture went viral and in France became a symbol for gay rights activism. Apparently a movie was made about the kiss - here is a link to a trailer - https://vimeo.com/94636719