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About softfruit

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  • Music
    songs are playing in my head almost nonstop
  • Location
    Manchester, UK
  • Interests
    Radio 4 Extra. Strawberry cider. Recording queer history. Meeting other bis in real life rather than just online. Writing for bi/queer magazines. Being flirted with through the medium of bacon sandwiches. Helping other bis follow the path to working out who they are a little more easily than it happened for me. Being flirted with through the medium of bacon sandwiches. If I say it twice maybe someone'll take a hint :D
  • Favourite Book
    At the moment: "Just One Damned Thing After Another", or "Here Lies Arthur".
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    Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
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  1. softfruit

    Bi Visibility Day

    Happy Bi Visibility Day everyone! I'm a haggard veteran of it now having been at the one UK event to mark it when it began way back in 1999 - I can't believe how it's grown and grown so much since! In Manchester there are two different events this evening, we have bi flags on three of the local town halls, the fire service HQ and the university, and a bi banner on Canal Street. If you're in a city there's probably something happening near you!
  2. softfruit

    The Bisexual

    Oh to have had her technique. And her face. Her face helped a lot :'(
  3. (from a press release on BiVisibilityDay.com) It’s the 21st annual Bi Visibility Day this September 23rd. The date highlights bisexuality and the challenges posed by biphobia and bisexual erasure, as well as celebrating the work of a growing number of local, national and international organisations around the world which champion bisexual visibility and equality. It was first marked in 1999 and recognition has grown greatly in recent years. Last year there were more than 175 events marking the date, up from 130 the year before. These ranged from exhibitions, talks and film screenings to picnics and socials in bi-friendly bars. A host of public buildings around the world flew the pink, purple and blue bisexual flag. This year is set to be even bigger. Jen Yockney MBE, who has run the international listings site BiVisibilityDay.com since 2001, commented, “We saw events in more than 30 countries around the world in 2018 – Bi Visibility Day, like bisexual visibility in wider culture, keeps growing and growing. “I’ve been organising events marking Bi Visibility Day since 1999 and the transformation in that time is huge. We are more talked about and more heard as bi people than ever before; yet also the challenges and particular needs of bisexuals have been thrown into sharper relief over that time. “Back then, bi was often seen as a kind of ‘gay lite’ with bis experiencing less impact from social homophobia, but research increasingly shows bi people have greater mental and physical health challenges than gay or straight people. We’re more likely to experience domestic violence from our partners, too. “Far from the ‘best of both worlds’ cliche, the challenge of either persistently reasserting your bisexuality or having part of your life erased proves wearing for many bi people. Where lesbians and gay men have one closet to escape, many bi people find that leaving the one closet leads to being put in another. “Greater bisexual visibility is the best solution to that problem, helping more bis find a space where they are neither in the ‘straight closet’ nor the gay one.”
  4. softfruit

    Updated UK members topic

    I've been in Manchester for the last 25 years but for @burgled!'s benefit, I grew up in Wales
  5. softfruit

    Bi Pride breaks records

    The UK's first "Bi Pride" festival draws over 1,000 people making it the UK's biggest bi event thus far and one of the biggest worldwide. https://www.bicommunitynews.co.uk/9752/bi-pride-breaks-records/
  6. Maybe worth giving Paves a bit of a google as the local organisation making bi spaces happen round there?
  7. softfruit

    Hello! Nice to meet you x

    Welcome aboard! There are lots of people here in similar situations to you - and many more of us know about how it can be, keeping a hold on your bi identity when in a relationship that makes the rest of the world want to decide for you that you 'picked a team'! Have a browse around, chip in to an existing thread of discussion or start one of your own
  8. softfruit


    (This was an event in London yesterday - big kind of indoor Pride festival just for bi/pan/omni/polysexual people, many hundred people attending) Anyone else go? What did you think of it?
  9. softfruit

    Loads of bi stuff this week!

    It is! Sadly no mass-tweet to easily join in any more, the Russian bots ruined that for people so that website went away :( But www.bivisibilityday.com/year2019 will have loads of stuff - 21st year of the 23/9 being marked...
  10. softfruit

    SF Bi Convention

    San Francisco is to get its own bi conference/convention (how does it not already have one that has been going for like decades?!) The first one is coming up quite soon... https://www.bicommunitynews.co.uk/9484/a-new-bicon/
  11. softfruit

    BiCon to return to Leeds

    And bookings for it have opened as of a couple of days ago... https://www.bicommunitynews.co.uk/9731/bicon-bookings-open-2/
  12. softfruit

    UK's first Bi Pride

    The first UK Bi Pride festival is in London this weekend. With a venue to take about 3,000 this could be nearly ten times bigger than the country's previous biggest bi event. https://www.bicommunitynews.co.uk/9746/bi-pride-weekend/
  13. softfruit

    2 Mins Ago, I Was _____

    Swiping right... hope springs eternal
  14. Breaking it down by gender is hard cos several of them it was when they were still identified as the gender assigned at birth not their actual gender, so do I count them for this column or that one - and then there are the enbee and genderqueer people who wouldn't fit either of the popular boxes. So something like 20 women, 4 men and 6 other. But with a bit of fudge on those numbers...
  15. softfruit

    Squirtle...Does anyone remember me?

    I think I remember that name @binurse yeah it had a big revamp about a year ago!