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About Hunguponu1

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    London Grammar, The National, Lp,Royal Blood, Tegan and Sara
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    Reading, Listening to music, Hanging out with friends, Spinning, Gym
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    House of Cards, Game of Thrones, Line of Duty

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  1. Hunguponu1

    Northern Ireland/ Ireland

    Hi Clare, good to see another few Northern Irish girls on here.......there are one or two of us about!! Whereabouts in the North are you from then? I live bout 30 miles from Belfast but work there, so I'm there everyday for my sins:)
  2. Hunguponu1

    Newbie alert!

    No apology needed Clare, each to their own lol!!
  3. Hunguponu1

    Newbie alert!

    Hi Clare Welcome back to Shys:) I'm also from Northern Ireland and have been on here for a few years myself! There are some lovely women on here who will always give great advice and are happy to help. Speaking from a personal point of view, I have certainly benefitted from advice and help given to me on here, though my circumstances are different from yours in that I identify as gay. I'm blond (sort of lol), Gemini, I lover to read, listen to music, socialise with friends and a massive football fan ( Man Utd) for my sins lol
  4. Hunguponu1

    Dating in your 40s-50s plus

    I agree with you on this one. I agree that I would much prefer to be single than be with someone for the sake of it, that would make me feel much more alone tbh. I'm 41 and came out as a lesbian late in life at the age of 39, so I do find meeting women tricky, in addition I am fussy too lol I don't think it's a bad thing though!!
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    I really enjoyed it too:)Thought both Rachel's were excellent in it! Sort of wanted a happy ever after for them at the end but it did leave it wide open I suppose. I readbthe book and much prefered the film's ending to be honest. Sex scene was ok, I have seen worse in some lesbian movies didn't know what to make of the spitting thing though lol
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    Anyone seen the new lesbian film Disobedience with Rachel Weisz and Rachel McAdams ?Any thoughts?
  7. Hunguponu1

    Is Online Dating Futile?

    Hi esore Fellow irish gal here, I'm from up North:) Yeah I found that was my experience as well, mind you I had all sorts of fakes on there too. Even having a genuine conversation with a woman was rare never mind making friends, which was my intention, then see how we go type of thing. Didn't even manage that lol I now tell myself that the right woman for me isn't on there so I gave it up completely for now, I may go back to it at some stage, I dunno. I've been to one or to meetups in Belfast but a lot of the women were older and had their partners with them but it doesn't discourage me from going to others. I was single forever before I met my exgf so I understand being single and lonely completely. Am now single again and I wonder whether I'll meet another special someone, so yeah finding what you want in a woman is challenging but not impossible, or so I keep telling myself!
  8. I'm a (relatively recent) out lesbian who dated a bi woman exclusively for a year and a half, so I have an idea of how you feel. I would never judge you as I understand how difficult it must be. I would totally date another bisexual woman, because at the end of the day it's the person who counts not whether they're bi or not. My honest point of view is I still believe bi women will still end up with a man simply because there will always be more straight men than bi/lesbian women in the world, it's a simple fact.
  9. Hunguponu1

    Is Online Dating Futile?

    Hi Brinny:) My confidence was already fragile after a painful break up with my exgf and I was trying to put myself out there, not to find true love necessarily, but to meet new women and have a laugh, no such luck:(. I live in Northern Ireland with a poor scene for gay women , so online seemed the way to go as I have literally no gay friends male or female. I definitely dodged one or two fake bullets mind you lol. Just wondering now how to get my confidence back:(
  10. A lot of what you have said LeedsLass has resonated with me. My exgf broke up with me 8 months ago and now she has moved on and met someone else, which hurts a lot but she's allowed to move on and entitled to be happy, like I am. Unfortunately it might take longer for me to meet someone new, but I know I'll get there. I agree dwelling on things is very unhealthy and can lead to depression which happened to me to the point I had to see a counsellor. Exercise saved me, it was great for my mental health and gave me something to focus on other than her. Meeting someone new is going to be hard (online dating is a disaster!), when I do I know I'll never compare a new gf to my ex because I'd be over her so there would no need to do that. Pining over someone for 4 years like Magdis175 is something I'd never want to do.
  11. Hunguponu1

    Is Online Dating Futile?

    I have found it a horrible experience tbh. I've used a couple of sites for the past 5 months or so; lesbian only ones, paid ones and a couple of others. I've had fake profiles, women asking for threesomes, you name it. I never got one date out of any of them so I'm permanently giving it up, found it soul destroying and erased the little confidence I had. I thought to myself maybe I'm saying or doing the wrong thing on there, perhaps it's me in that I don't know how to talk to women....sig:(
  12. Hunguponu1

    Northern Ireland/ Ireland

    Any gals from Northern Ireland or south of the border on here?! Just wanted to say hi!!!!
  13. My experience has been mixed so far. I'm a lesbian (came out late in life at the age of 39) and I was in a long term relationship with a bi woman which sadly ended last year and before that I also briefly dated a bi woman. The thing is I would be a lipstick lesbian and am attracted to and into feminine ladies, who, if they are bisexual tend to be femine looking as well. I personally feel that most bi women will date women and have meaningful relationships however, ultimately will end up with men simply because there will always be more men than lesbian/bisexual women in the world.
  14. Hunguponu1

    Considering online dating....

    Hi there was reading this discussion with interest as I have recently (well this last couple of months) put myself out there the online dating scene. I live in Northern Ireland so the social dating scene is practically non existant for lesbians and I find it hard to meet like minded women even for friendship..........my experience thus far has been awful to say the least. I've been propositioned for threesomes quite a few times (Think it's because I'm very feminine looking and am into femme ladies) and just the other day I had been chatting to a (seemingly) lovely lady from Dublin and when she gave me her number I messaged her, she oddly asked me for a picture of myself. I found it strange as she would have known from my dating profile what I looked like, so I got her to send me a picture of her instead and lo and behold it was completely different from her dating profile, hence her dating profile was utterly fake. So I'm feeling so discouraged right now and am tempted to delete my profile. Anyone got any advice n my next step??