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  1. A Reprise If our first time together was beautiful, and intense and magical, then what adjectives can I use if this time was all that x 100?
  2. I love giving oral. Far more than PiV sex. Probably because I'm in charge and I love to see him totally at my mercy.
  3. Aaaaaand the 2019 Pirelli Calendar preview is out and its again something different from the previous years. The website says: Watson, who has shot iconic portraits of Steve Jobs, Alfred Hitchcock and Kate Moss, visually narrates the individual journeys, understanding the emotive power of their dreams, the dramatic turning points in their lives, their moments of victory and defeat – and most importantly how they faced each in turn. Featuring seven stars from the worlds of fashion, film and dance, the four vignettes are displayed in an aspect ratio of 16:9, representing their cinematic nature. Supermodel Gigi Hadid portrays a woman who is wealthy, accomplished, the envy of her peers. She has all the trappings of success and she looks to have it all, but there is sadness in amongst her glory. She relies on her mentor, played by the fashion designer Alexander Wang, to bring meaning back to her life. French actress and model Laetitia Casta plays an artist dreaming of her future. Full of doubts about her talent, she works as a waitress as she strives for success, her boyfriend played by the Ukrainian ballet dancer Sergei Polunin offering her support. Ballet star Misty Copeland plays a dancer dreaming of joining the prestigious Opera Ballet in Paris along with her boyfriend portrayed by fellow ballet performer Calvin Royal III. She works as a striptease artist as she waits for her big break. Hollywood actress Julia Garner’s character is a photographer who works in the botanical gardens capturing still life portraits of rare plants. She is happy to let success happen slowly as the work itself is more than a reward for her.
  4. We are still figuring it out, but we've tried it and its awesome. It makes our LDR a little more bearable. It still doesn't address the craving for sweet sweet kisses and skin to skin contact but It definitely opens up some new possibilities for sexting / phone sex. Or public indecency, as @BenedettaC suggests. There are a few different products on the market and some have better reviews than others. The girlfriend did all the research and I think she made an excellent choice.
  5. Btw... Has anyone else discovered the pleasures of teledildonics?
  6. So back to LDR. My LDR is a permanent situation. We stay continents apart, we are both committed to our families. We get together once or twice a year. After the last time I saw her, I went into a three month funk. The longing for her was intense. I felt like life was unfair. I looked at all of the things I get from her that I just cant get in my day to day life. I'm seeing her again in three weeks. How do I prevent the post visit blues? How do I make it easier?
  7. Whahahaha. You crack me up.
  8. Yeah. There is a problem here. I have a big problem with anti-vaxxers and those people who send along warnings that your kidneys are going to be stolen. Because, you know, science... The stuff that makes your kettle boil and the interwebs work. And because, you know, stupidity... The thing that you get a Darwin award for, if you are really good at it. The upshot is, postmodernism EXPLAINS alt-facts, post-truth, and any -ism that could be preceded by a name. I think the problem occurs when you mix one part post-modernism and subtract all traces of critical thinking and bring zero grams of social contracting along. So here on Shy's we were having a debate with parties exchanging their critical thoughts. Yay! Critical thinking! And in comes a mod saying "continue your debate but remember, there is a way of doing things here" Yay! Social contracting! And we all live happily ever after. We still havent agreed on whether we should #droptheb though. And we probably won't.
  9. When I think of post-modernism, I think of the Movie "The Matrix" hence the "no spoon kid" Postmodernism suggests than when it comes to the social realities, there is no perception apart from the limitations that come with subjectivity. There is your truth and my truth, and truth that may be accepted by large numbers of people, but that still doesn't make it *the truth*. There is no truth.
  10. *the truth* Nooooooooo! Respectfully of course. (Again). Not that I'm promoting post-truth and fake news, but you know... Postmodernism and all that?
  11. Mmmmmm.... I'm thinking, I'm thinking* Why does male and female have to define the range for gender? What if the traits that you regard as male, are seen as "human traits" that are distributed across genders? Why does it have to be on a continuum? A two category conception of gender certainly is a useful and convenient heuristic, and it works for most people. But as with all heuristics, sometimes its off. And I imagine it causes real pain and anguish for people if they dont fall neatly in the gender categories of male and female. (Check out the issues Caster Semenya has in trying to compete in sport with a view that there are only two sexes. Its a sex categorisation issue, not gender, but it talks about the pain of not fitting in) Worldviews are changing and there are some that are very different from mine. So if there are people who, from their lived reality, tell me that they don't fit in either of the two boxes, well, I kind of feel obliged to listen to them. They might be making this all up, but I'm thinking not. I read the indigenous people of North America have a category called "two spirit" for other-gendered individuals. Perhaps the choice of label supports your point, but the idea that these people recognised a long time ago that there is something other than male and female, is fascinating. Different worldview, different conception of gender. In 20 years' time there might be a greater understanding that gender has more than two categories. I guess the label "third gender" might also be rejected in favour of non-binary since "third gender" again wants to place things in boxes. The ticky tacky type that won't hold up. ;-) *Thinking... Thinking... a little like this:
  12. Nooooooooo! (Respectfully, of course. :-) As the song says: Little boxes on the hillside, Little boxes all the same. There's a green one and a pink one And a blue one and a yellow one (not just pink and blue) Sexuality and biological sex and gender are all very different things. (If you've never done gender studies 101, you should hang out on shy's. Its amazing what education you can get here). And there are more than two boxes for all of these. There certainly aren't only two (socially constructed) genders. Really. In some countries a third gender is already legally recognised. And sexuality is also more than homo or hetero or a combination of those two. What about asexuality? Pan sexuality? Etc. Etc. And even biological sex is not only male or female. There are people whose chromosomal makeup isnt xx or xy. And you must know that some people are born with genitalia that's difficult to categorise as either male or female.
  13. The individual's baseline matters. If they're touchy feely with everyone, it doesn't need to mean something. Context matters too. I"m in a dance class once a week and the amount of really intimate touching that goes on there would be totally inappropriate elsewhere. But it doesn't mean anything. Unless the two people involved wasnt it to mean anything.
  14. And here we are. T-40 days until we see each other again. Its precious to look back over the bits of our journey that I've shared here. In the past two years we've experienced so much joy. Falling in love, talking everything to death, becoming a real presence in each other's lives. She is my best friend. Her presence keeps me centered and makes for all kinds of naughty excitement in my days. After leaving her last time, I went into a three month funk. All because I can't quite understand why it worked out that the person I love so intensely must be so far away. When our contact was limited in a time that was really tough on her, I felt so powerless, so allone. We survived it. We also survived my infatuation with another woman. That was tough on her. On us. We got really real about our wants and needs and the implications of our arrangement. But oh happy day! I can almost taste her on my lips again.
  15. @ConfusedWifey This might apply to you? demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a emotional connection. It's more commonly seen in, but by no means confined, to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being "halfway between" sexual and asexual. Nevertheless, this term does not mean that demisexuals have an incomplete or half-sexuality, nor does it mean that sexual attraction without emotional connection is required for a complete sexuality.