Platinum Shy-Bi Girl
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About Cloudburst

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  • Birthday 06/28/71

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  • Music
    Eclectic variety, ambient
  • Location
    CA Central Coast
  • Interests
    Aircraft, flying, poultry, hiking, embroidery, gardening, cooking, trail running, laying around, the beach, writing, feng shui
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    Water Goddess oil
  • Favourite TV Show
    Twilight Zone
  • Favourite Film
    Wrist Cutters, The Hours, Groundhog Day

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  1. In desperate need of some downtime.. Perhaps in a month if I'm lucky.

  2. I attend two different Lez meet-ups, both are in separate two hours north of me, the other two hours south of me. So far I only know of one woman (who is now a close friend) who has never been with a man in all her 60+ years on this planet! Another woman I friended says she is really a heterosexual in a relationship with another woman who she considers marrying when her gf moves to this country. Everyone else in both groups have either dated, or been married to men before. Some consider themselves bi or queer, while some like me identify as lesbian but all are welcome as women who love women.
  3. Interesting that this topic came up in one of my lesbian community meet-ups. Many of the women in the group have been married to men, and some define as bi, while others lez. But a handful of us single gals question what we should label ourselves while not in a relationship. Some of us felt it is necessary to be in a relationship with another woman to call ourselves "lesbian" and not default "bi" because we have been with men. But if your single and just taking a break from dating or being in relationship what do you call yourself? Probably not something a straight person would ever consider...
  4. I totally agree on the importance of being a feminist today to even the playing ground! But what I'm also interested in is what we define in ourselves to be feminine. I just remembered an occasion over this past summer where my son was thanking my father for taking him on the best vacation ever. My father started crying and excused himself because he missed is testosterone shot shot that month. As if being emotional is not a masculine trait.. Another example..I was watching a video on the topic and the woman mentioned that one learned trait of femininity is to be manipulative. That we have taught ourselves this as a way to take back control, to get what we want while feeling powerless in a male driven society. Thinking back to my own marriage I did a lot of that, esp. when I wasn't working as much. Interesting to figure out what is learned behavior, hormones or perhaps real differences...
  5. That was only one job and was a private corporate job. I've worked on and off in the corporate charter world and never enjoyed sucking up to picky rich people! I've had many other flying gigs where I was well respected, and the flights had purpose because they revolved around getting doctors to their patients instead of rich people to their hunting parties.... But enough about my story. What is important is that it really made me question what sort of images, or gender parameters western society (because that is the only world I've lived in) places on us. Imagine if the world woke up one morning with amnesia about who we were. Imagine if we woke up with not knowing how to read, but only knowing our native spoken word. (This is sounding like a good Twilight Zone episode!) How would we interact? How would we carry ourselves? How would we reorganize society? Would things be more equal between the sexes? Would trans people identify with any gender? Maybe I should have been an anthropologist..Lol!
  6. I'm a bit on the "dainty" side and was told customers don't like that.. (I'm a commercial pilot).
  7. I joined the group mainly to meet new women, and also to discuss, argue and learn thoughts and information on a topic I haven't put much thought into. What I like is that the women in the group range in age from their 30's to 70's, so there is a wide range of perspectives. I honestly don't have a definition for what is feminine, although I've been defined as being such, and it's cost me employment because of it. So I am curious about other women's experience is with their own "femininity"...
  8. So I just sat through an intro to a women's group starting in January which discusses the "divine feminine" and will be accompanied by a discussion of the book "Leaving my father's house: A journey to conscious femininity". by Marion Woodman Haven't started the book .. Anyway, the group is being led by a wonderful Jungian psychologist and in the meeting the other night she brought up an interesting point: For the past several thousand years woman's "femininity" have been interpreted and defined through the eyes of men. We see this in their art, their religions, their books etc. and we've succumbed to those views. But now in this time period we can all see gender being redefined (especially in the Western world) , men being called out for hurting women and others, and more women in leadership roles. So the question being asked to the group is "how do we define our femininity as women, not as men" ? What does it really feel like to be female? Any thoughts???
  9. That is an interesting point to think about... I mean now that we have texting, and our phones are pretty much on us 24/7. I mean for myself there is this sort of rush I get when I'm constantly in communication with someone I love, yet at the same time I'm sure that probably contributes a lot to the feeling of suffocation!
  10. I have two strongly opposing core desires: Freedom and connection. Having been married (and in several relationships) which I felt very controlled, I have a strong desire for freedom, and to do things my way now. In fact when anyone tries to tell me how to do something, or I feel the slightest hint of an attempt of control of me (whether real or imagined) I get triggered. But at the same time I desire connection with another woman, and a future relationship. I guess connection is a really basic need for everyone, but relationships not so much for all. What I want to know is can we still feel free in a relationship? How does it work?
  11. Having been raised in the Catholic church (currently more agnostic myself) I think it's morals are more or less governed regionally in the US. In the Bay Area my aunt attended a predominantly gay Catholic church, while I went to mass at a rural mission with women still wearing veils. In fact I remember being lectured by the mission's wedding coordinator "now you two are doing this because you believe in the church and promise to raise your children Catholic, and you're not doing this for cultural reasons".. while the priest looked at us and rolled his eyes! So yes the culture is changing but there still is much resistance and I'm happy to not be a part of it anymore. (But I still light candles!)
  12. I hear you..I've been going through this long divorce process after also being married for 17 years, and have two kiddos. Most of the arguing and games have stopped and we are being civil and working together in the final stages. I'm actually excited about this new transition and looking forward to starting a new life. It's been so long since I've been financially independent though, so learning to budget again on one income is challenging.
  13. What about trying no underwear and a skirt? Wish I had that problem instead of having to go pee!
  14. Not having the feeling of being connected, and having to face the world head on alone.