Happyninja

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    One day I'll be brave enough to fill out my profile! Until then I really do appreciate your visit.x

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  1. Thanks, Brit. Yes, think you are right. Previous crushes have just faded away without much drama. But this one is something else. Spending this evening thinking about those red flags. Hopefully never, ever again.
  2. Since so many of you have unrequited crushes thought you might have an insight into what's happened to me. I'm in a weird numb emotional state at the moment and wondered if anyone has been in a similar situation. I've been in love / madly infatuated with my straight (bi-curious maybe) friend for well over 5 years. We became good friends but she wasn't interested in anything more. I accepted that and settled for a very one-sided friendship. I would do most of the organising of get togethers and I put far more into 'us' than she ever did. I could never bare the thought of not having her in my life so I was willing to always do more for her. Guess I was like a love sick puppy. Now after many years of this set-up I've finally come to realise just how unhealthy this relationship is. And although there is still some attraction there I have fallen out of infatuation with her. Its like everything I admired and thought about her has just dropped away and instead of thinking she is this amazing Goddess of a woman I now see her for what she is, flawed like the rest of us ! In fact she has treated me quite poorly on many an occasion, but I always forgave. She is doesn't have the qualities that make a friend and its taken me this long to come out of an all encompassing 'spell'. It has to be for the best that this has ended, as it has been very emotionally exhausting. But I am left feeling anxious and very lost. I've cried a lot, felt angry and now just a bit confused. I should be feeling liberated, right ? What's going on. ?
  3. Never let these opportunities pass ! I regret all of my missed chances, just give it a go ! Good luck.
  4. Love the user name :)

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      Happyninja

      Thanks ! Haven't been on here for a while, sorry for the slow reply.

       

  5. Not weird at all ! You've identified that you are not happy, that is the first step. Do you think you could fix your relationship ?
  6. You have my dream relationship, a deep friendship with affection. Looks like things will move on naturally, wishing you the very best.
  7. I keep mine on - its part of my identity and honesty is important. Plus its really hard to get off !!
  8. Hey, quick update. Hugs are back on!! Didn't have to ask or anything and definitely wasn't expecting them. So all is cool, guess she just trusts me again.
  9. Thanks for your thoughts Shebop. She does know I like her, though I haven't pursued anything with her. She was bicurious a year or so ago but pretty sure she is straight. It's hard seeing her so tactile with others whilst I'm denied a simple hug, especially lately. Yes, I know I should ask her. Pick my moment and risk pushing her away more.
  10. Question is why doesn't my friend crush ever hug me? My friend, who knows about my bisexuality will never hug me or touch me intentionally. Yet she is touchy / feely with everyone else. She will dance close to me and will be close if we are having a photo taken, but will not give me the same affection she gives others. Recently I have been very upset and obviously a hug from her would make the world of difference, whereas my other friends are happy to give me one, she offers nothing. How would you deal with this? I'm not out to my other friends, but I worry if I was they too would back off. I'm apprehensive to talk to her about it but it won't go away, what would you say?