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  1. I remember being taught in Sunday school that "love can't wait to give". Meanwhile, "lust can't wait to get" , which is apparently a damaging bad selfish thing you'll never recover from. They thought they were being really progressive and open-minded by talking to teenagers about sex. A gazilloin years later, I have to say that "can't wait to get" can be a beautiful thing. And feeling like someone loves you so much that they'll do you the favor of having sex with them is about as unsexy as it gets. I need a balance between the two.
  2. Amal Clooney. (Sorry Georgy!!). She's so fucking classy, and she puts all that privilege and fine eloqution into taking on important causes. Yeah, she may seem a little uptight, but that's only because she hasn't been with me yet.
  3. Just stopping by to say hello! :)

  4. I'm certainly not innocent when it comes to affairs, but why do you put the word "affair " in quotation marks? Be honest with yourselves. If you like someone, or love them, you'd never want anything horrible to happen to their family. Keep reminding yourself of this every single time the longing gets difficult. And be proud that you are doing the difficult thing but the loving thing.
  5. Well which is worse? Stereotypical Lesbian saggy crotch pants, or its nemesis, Camel toe? Personally I'd prefer to err on the side of saggyness. HOWEVER if we're talking about a woman in nothing but damp lacy silky panties, a hint of camel toe is downright irresistible.
  6. Welcome, fellow Floridian. I'm suffering from "husband would never understand "syndrome myself, and I also hate not being who I am. It's driving me a little crazy.
  7. Hi Guilia. Welcome. Where in Florida do you live? I'm in a similar situation to you. I don't see anything good coming from telling my husband I am so attracted to women.

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    2. Giulia1098


      I'm working on it! And baby steps... baby steps LOL!

    3. Giulia1098


      And thank you :) Hopefully I won't stay a scaredy cat.

    4. 63395


      The group is full of people who were scaredy cats at first and are really welcoming now.

  8. I'm so happy you are dealing with this together. Im sure things will be easier with him being understanding your needs.
  9. So your husband "had you get counseling" against your own wishes, and now they are not prepared to do the same? Obviously transitioning is unimaginably hard in many many ways, but I'm not seeing your husband doing ANYTHING to try to make you feel understood, cared for, or considered. Do you think they still want you in their new life as a woman? My heart breaks for you. You have to keep things seeming normal for 5kids, keep a huge secret from anyone who could support you, and be loving to a changed person when you don't even know what to call them.
  10. Unfortunately, just because all parties are AWARE or in agreement doesn't guarantee their (or your) marriage will survive your involvement. The potential for causing pain is ever-present. I learned this the hard way. In fact, it would have quite possibly been less devastating to their marriage if he was spared from having to be aware of it at all.
  11. "Trying not to care so much" is my theme for this year. There's so much involved for many of us. Secrecy, shame, embarrassment, confusion, partners' feelings, children's happiness, financial security, religious guilt, self consciousness, shyness...... She didn't go from thinking you are the hottest girl imaginable to complete disinterest overnight. Other stuff is going on. Don't see it as a bad reflection on you.
  12. Babdeers, the answer to "how does it work?" Is "it doesn't always work". None of us know your husband. I guess just trust your intuition above anyone else's advice. Nobody wants to cheat. Nobody wants to divorce. Nobody feels able to "make bi-ness go away". But for many of us, those are the ugly choices we're left with.
  13. I'm covered in freckles..... okay not completely covered. You ladies have me feeling really sexy and cute.
  14. Mr Very Accepting is actually very accepting of the theoretical porn fantasy version of having a bi girlfriend where she brings a never ending parade of gorgeous horny women into his bed. Pay heed to the wise and experienced Bitrimama!! Get extremely clear in your head what it is you need NOW before you are married with kids. It's the only fair and loving thing you can do for him and yourself in the long term.
  15. I agree that spring is a nice break from the cold. There are gorgeous rivers and waterways for kayaking. There are lovely birds and animals to see. Alligators are everywhere but they usually don't bug people. If you prefer the inland waterways there are Dolphins. No alligators there , but sharks.