Hungry

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  1. I didn't really like giving in the early days, but I got into it. I didn't like receiving for years. The early women in my life were definitely more bi and had a lot of affection and experience with men so they understood my desires slightly better, I had no problem pleasuring them either. With great delight in fact. My poor experiences came later and stayed stayed through quite a few different attempts, it really threw me to suddenly think how can I not be into it? I still put in the work though. I always say if fingers and tongues is all it's gonna be, I can do 50% of that myself! I never mentioned it. Choosing to study up, just so I knew what I was working with internally and then went by what I was presented with, feel reaction etc. I did feel insecure for awhile but also you're downplaying your own pleasure long term too. Practice all sorts, toys could be a good way to go. But also you communicate the things you know you like and mention that you might need guidance, direction, ask them about their tastes if all they like is the basics, then you've got a lot to learn together, that's a positive, find ways to turn any intimate moments you have into something worthwhile. Generally finding someone who is happy to let you explore everything and be ok with you not ever wanting to receive oral. I can say that in my most successful relationships I WANTED + WILLINGLY did both, but it took years for me to ask for it and guide it to greatness. Trust me, you're figuring out early what it took me a long while to communicate in a same-sex relationship which is not only what I'd like to experience/receive but also what I want to give as a lover. Don't rush, but if you feel the pull, explore it. All the time you avoid licking the bullet in this case, you're just gonna wonder what if?
  2. 'Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering, 'It will be happier.'  -  Alfred Lord Tennyson
     

  3. It's interesting you wrote this post cos when you think about it a bi woman has a lot of options or at least potential pools to try. But I think there is variation and preferred relationship style/choice. I'm bi, but I tend to only engage w/ other bi women or women in open setups, poly or group dynamics. I lean towards men and find it a lot easier with women who are attracted to them also. I did my share of lesbian dating but long-term it was never gonna fit for me. I could see myself pursuing a relationship with the type of women I mentioned because I feel like they always seem to either share or have more understanding of my values and desires.
  4. I think looking to the L Word for any real guidance on actual female relationships is the problem with this question I certainly saw subsets of the community growing up, bars/clubs were a dom/sub dynamic was prevalent but that stems from the type of club and the fact that a lot of the people identified with clear cut identifers in those settings such as femme + andro vs. butch. I think bisexuals and gays who've had a bit of experience at least in the areas I've lived/travelled there isn't a clear dynamic in my relationships or my friends from what I can see. I think geography and age might play a part in why some women may assume that's the kind of relationship they'd have or desire based on stereotypes
  5. Based on my previous experience of which I've done it early, later and not at all. Out in the open is best for sure. I usually mention it whenever the conversation turns to dating, partners etc. No big gesture, just drop it in. You don't have to be "bisexual" I usually say I've had relations with women, but it's still quite obvious I like men. The response is usually small to really positive, but as long as the person knows and if the guy you're seeing is open don't miss an opportunity to express yourself!
  6. None of my business - but you know me enough to know I mean no harm by what I'm about to say. Even if you don't have "sex" with your bf I guarantee that pleasuring him while he watches porn just once or twice will help change how he views porn and sex. If you make some effort with this, he'll most likely see less seperation between the two. It's a tough one and the only think I've known to help individuals/couples where there is an addiction. I think I've probably answered before so I'll just stick to it's not cheating - the only reason in my book someone would think/say this is because they're confusing lust/desire/personal pleasure with emotional connection and take it personally.
  7. Apologies to everyone I said I'd contact, I lost the details. I think I've got most of them in PM, but if you don't hear from me, maybe send them through again :P

    Hope everyone on board is keeping well!

    1. myladylove

      myladylove

      Hello my spiritual friend, hope life is treating you well also.

    2. Hungry

      Hungry

      @myladylove you came back :D I'll be in touch to check in, some of your updates have me worried but I know you're resilient. Always got time for a friend!

    3. Rocker83

      Rocker83

      Let me know if you still have mine. Nice to see you again :)

  8. Are you going?? Why? 

    1. Hungry

      Hungry

      Oh you're late to the party - I just can't be bothered anymore and life is changing for me.. if you PM me, I'll happily share contact details. Despite me asking people to use those. I'm still getting PM's lol. 

      Look forward to hearing from you :)

  9. I thought I'd drop by with a word post - @JadeBleu15 I really hope this topic stays! This word came up today to descirbe living in the moment.
  10. Totally and I've had an email exchange with @la-femme and while I won't be on the site I'm happy to help out and one thing she said she definitely needs going forward is help in running the site so I trust they're many who'd be willing to step up. Take care of yourselves
  11. No refund was issued and the case was closed. A member panicked messaged me, said the site was down. I had said to them previously that if the site went down I would split my refund for them and another member who gave when they couldn't really afford to. Given that it was inaccurate I cancelled the claim I just wanted you to know that money wise is the same as it was before this post was made. I've offered to support admin in the future privately and I'm glad everyone seems on board.
  12. shybi

    While I understand your point and agree. I also think you would need to look carefully at choices. Willingness and likablity can't be the only factors in the mix. @BiTriMama has already stated that she doesn't feel comfortable with backroom tech, so it's looking is there anyone here who is, cos you need to look at the future, there needs to be balance in the dynamic - it's why for actual maintenance and tech, it should be a paid thing, less pressure. Is there, any point with doing admins/mods now with the site in it's current state? If it was me, I'd hold fire. It's enough to know that admin is considering it. It's too early to draw up a poll too really. It would be worth @la-femme talking to the current mods and establishing communication there, obviously some must be long gone and have no interest but some might be happy to be active if things are on the up and new people just makes it more complicated. Best later option: open it to a poll based on ability/other positives and any current mods who don't make the cut would hand over to the new mods on a specific date, final decision would obviously be made by admin and I think people who are newer to the site should be considered too. It sounds clique and scattered in the past for certain periods so it's gotta be about best for the site, always first and forever. See the above answer as an example of when someone offers an idea or mentions something how my mind works. I'm glad you feel this is a new era for you and your involvement in the site. However, lots of these things to make the site better aren't optional, they're necessary and not every point is up for debate if you want the best outcome. There does need to be real knowledge to run anything well, somewhere in the mix. I can't feel like I'm pushing all the time. It comes across as disrespectful, I've had people say to me they think I have been to you and while I think you know that's not my agenda, just in case - I'm sorry if it feels that way. It's just for every point, there's a point which is why this thread has so many posts in such a short space of time, with very few hard facts and I'm not sure I want to witness this because it's not a pretty process. I'm not gonna agree with a lot of things both you and the members say or do and I'm not saying I'm always right, I'm not, but I don't want to go around trying to explain why and be irritated/irritate anyone. I love this site, I want it to prosper. I just don't believe I'll hold that affection if I stay.
  13. shybi

    I am not up for this challenge, plus don't think @la-femme would pick me anyway. I can't see whatever happens, happen moment-to-moment here so I'm just posting a blog up on what this space and all of you have allowed for me, but now feels like time for me to jump off the island. My pick if there is a vote @BiTriMama has always been a good contributor and I beIieve the newest mod addition, so that should go in her favor. Personally I've always found her to be kind, fair and honest. If the only reason the current admin hasn't appointed others is because they're bitchy, bratty, and risky, then I'm pretty sure she's a safe bet.
  14. shybi

    I was referencing site payments not your personal life, that would be invasive! Just so it's clear, if funding is needed. In terms of Admin there is the option long-term of paying someone not involved in the site for maintenance this would stop some of the drama and issues. It's something that I would be willing to back anyway. I am agreement with looking into all the other points at a later time.