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Discombobulated

Platinum Shy-Bi Girl
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Discombobulated last won the day on June 20 2016

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About Discombobulated

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    Multi-Orgasmic
  • Birthday 05/03/1972

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  • Music
    An eclectic mix from Coldplay, Rihanna, Katy Perry and anything from the 80s onwards
  • Location
    Sheffield
  • Interests
    I love animals, I have 2 dogs, 1 cat, a bearded dragon, 2 goats and a rabbit.
    I like to do Pilates and pole dancing for fitness but I'm not all that good at either!
    I like walking and mountain biking.
    I love holidays, especially to France (Brittany) I also loved Thailand.
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    Rihanna Rebel
  • Favourite Book
    50 shades of Grey
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    Grand Designs, Amazing Spaces, Escape to the Country, A Place in the Sun
  • Favourite Film
    The Bodyguard, Secretary, 50 shades of Grey, Bridget jones Diary, Four Weddings and a Funeral

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  1. The strapless strap ons myself and my fellow bi friends have always found awkward to use, having to clench around them to keep them in is hard work. The strap on ones with a firm harness are best. I have the love honey deluxe one https://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=30701 although I’ve upgraded to a metal cock ring to hold it in place because we found in doggy style with me fucking her from behind the dildo kept popping out of the ring! We’ve extensively tested it and it’s good for all positions. Not tested it anally though. It’s good for orgasmic fun for the giver and receiver ;-) I love the purple dildo on it and the length and curve is good. Theres a pocket on the harness to insert a bullet vibrator for more fun, a strong one you can feel down the dildo.
  2. Discombobulated

    I Don't Want A Threesome

    Since this thread was started, and I last posted we’ve had a lot of experience on the swinging scene, MFMF foursomes, MFF, multiple FFF - the most was 10 girls on a bed! And a few MFM. One time however, my husband forgot to pay me any attention in an MFF and I felt very left out, and kind of retreated into myself which made it worse. It was one of the worst experiences of my life. I didn’t speak up at the time and it left me feeling left out, angry and upset. We’ve had a few MFFs since then, but that experience left me feeling like I didn’t want to do swinging any more, the thrill of it had gone, I was so scared of anything bad happening, once I’d had my fingers burnt. So, make sure you only do what you want to do, for you, not for someone else, otherwise you could feel resentful in the future, and it may affect what happens to you. Girls only fun is my ultimate favourite and luckily my husband is happy for me to do that on my own without him being involved. I did have a break from it because I was going through such an emotional time with everything I didn’t feel like doing anything at all. Hence why I tried to bury my bi side and ignore it, and didn’t come on here in ages! My husband was very sorry about what had happened, I said we were both at fault and it shouldn’t have happened, but the urge to swing has gone completely. He wants me to have fun with girls on my own, luckily one of my friends from the scene wants the same, so I’ve restarted my journey of fulfilment once again, with a night with her.
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    Threesomes

    I have had a lot of experience on the swinging scene, MFMF foursomes, MFF, multiple FFF - the most was 10 girls on a bed! And a few MFM. The advice I would give is make sure that you are happy with the situation, any doubts and you shouldn’t do it. I’m married and we started going to swinging clubs initially just for me to have experience with other women, however, despite talking about it for ages first, my husband was not happy not being involved and we had a break before restarting with soft swap situations - ie oral and hands everywhere but no penetration. He never pressured me but I knew he wanted to do more than what I had intended- I only initially wanted girl girl fun after all. We moved on to full swap foursome fun, I felt ok with it all and after that MFF. MFF was my least favourite play situation but despite that we had many great threesomes, we always made sure the lady was fulfilled. One time however, my husband forgot to pay me any attention in an MFF and I felt very left out, and kind of retreated into myself which made it worse. It was one of the worst experiences of my life. I didn’t speak up at the time and it left me feeling left out, angry and upset. We’ve had a few MFFs since then, but that experience left me feeling like I didn’t want to do swinging any more, the thrill of it had gone, I was scared of anything bad happening. So, make sure you only do what you want to do, for you, not for someone else, otherwise you could feel resentful in the future, and it may affect what happens to you. Girls only fun is my ultimate favourite and luckily my husband is happy for me to do that on my own without him being involved. I did have a break from it because I was going through such an emotional time with everything I didn’t feel like doing anything at all.
  4. Back again after a long break! 

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    Married & would like a girlfriend

    I’m married, there are sometimes ladies only nights at swinging clubs, I have recently had a lovely time with a lady I met through swinging, she is also married. we met up alone for some girls only fun. We had a meal, evening out and then some hot sexy fun, before sleeping together in the hotel room, breakfast and some clothes and lingerie shopping. It was the first time for both of us doing anything like that. It was so good, we are planning to repeat it again ! We are used to leaving emotions out of sex play so our husbands are both happy for us to do this.
  6. So, I'm relatively new on here, but I need help/advice from other people who may have gone through this, or something like it. I've been happily married for 20 years and want to stay that way, and so does my Husband. We have a great and very active sex life ;) I always felt attracted to girls since I was about 18 I think, but never did anything. Since we got married, in the past we have been to sex shows, and on one occasion I got to kiss a woman and play with her boobs, but that was the limit of my experience until recently. One night about 15 years ago there was 2 women in nightclub who were obviously into each other, and my very drunken husband said he'd like to take us all home and **** all 3 of us. That freaked me out, as I have a low self esteem, don't have much self confidence and generally feel vulnerable and jealous if he looks at other women too much. I thought to myself that I would shut my bicurious side away, because I couldn't cope with him having an interaction with another woman. Last autumn my best female friend came out as being bi, so I told her I was too (we have a purely platonic relationship) since then I have found there is no way that I can shut off my bi side, it's stronger than ever. My husband and I talked a lot about it, and he was very supportive, and said that I should have whatever experiences I want with a woman, I told him I love him and would never want to leave him, and I that I don't want a relationship with a woman. Mid December we said we would go to a swingers club to see if we might meet a woman who would want to play around with me. My husband was really wanting us to go, Not to swing, just for us women to play. My husband admitted beforehand he would like to be involved in a minor way, but I was so upset by this to the point I said I couldn't go if he had to be involved. He said it was fine, he would watch and interact with me. When we were there first I was terrified, not that he would try to force anything to happen that I didn't want, as I know he would never do that, but that he would want it, or that it would affect our relationship. Anyway, it went really well, we met a lovely couple and me and the woman played around together and I had my first sexual experience. It was fantastic, and I know she enjoyed it too ;) During the course of the evening she said to my husband, wait till you get your first double blow job. I said something like we weren't going to do that, and we carried on with the evening. When we got home, everything was great ;) and the next morning too, but then later that day my husband was acting really quiet and I asked him what was wrong, and he said he was upset because he fantasises about having a blow job from 2 women, and that he wasn't going to get one. I was really upset that he felt so bad, that he wanted it, and felt as if I almost wished none of it had happened. It felt worse because I had been so scared, then thought everything was ok, then felt like I'd been knocked off my feet. Since then we have talked for hours about it, he tries to explain how he feels about it, and that its just a normal male fantasy that he's admitted to. For a while after I just kept imagining that he would be thinking about another woman when I was giving him a blow job. He said he wished he'd not said anything, that we would have gone again by now and he's sorry he's put me off. I tried to suppress my attraction to women but I couldn't. Then, a few weeks ago, just as I was feeling better about it all, he blurted out that he fantasises about having a threesome with me and another woman, and that has made me feel really upset, I couldn't stand to see him having sex with another woman. Over the weeks we have talked about it, he's tried to explain he feels it would be great the 3 of us writhing around together, I said it might be a fantasy for him but that it would be my worst nightmare. Which made him really quiet for a while and I felt so bad for what I'd said. He wants us to go back to the club, and I do (for obvious reasons ;)) but I keep thinking we shouldn't. He says he doesn't expect to be involved, that he wants to see me with another woman, but my emotions are all over the place with it all. I don't mind him watching at all, and being involved with me whilst I am with the woman, but I don't want him to have sex with her or have a blow job from her. I know I must come across as really selfish and wanting to have my cake and eat it, I am so lucky he is so supportive of me wanting to have sex with a woman, he's so laid back about it all, but I am my usual uptight and worry about everything, it's making me feel quite confused, my emotions are all over the place and sometimes I feel really depressed about it all. I'm not sure if I am coming up to the menopause, but I feel really hormonal. Sorry this was such a long post!
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