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  1. I guess some of it is my perception, probably because of how I get treated - asked what do I study (obviously thinking I'm 18), being talked down to, etc. And then the whole you are so small (5'3) which then people add the cute thing too. Added to that no one has flirted with me in a very very long time, I just feel down about myself
  2. Hi everyone So the other day I was telling someone that girls always think I am at least 10 years younger than I am due to my face and the fact I am always getting id'd (I'm over 30!). She said but it's a good thing and you look so cute! I told her that it has affected me going on dates and again she said the whole cute thing. At this point I started to think about the fact girls do not hit on me or if I flirt with one they don't seem to get that I am. Does anyone else have a cute problem? I really don't want to be viewed this way but have no idea how to get out of it. Even when I am assertive or more dominant I am still told I am cute...sigh! i feel like I need to change something about myself to break away from this but I have no idea what. I feel I always end up being the friend of a girl I like while she tells me about the 'hot' girl she likes. I guess I just need some advice.
  3. Hey everyone, thanks for your replies. I have an update that I saw her again earlier in the week sober and she mentioned what happened and still seemed set on being my 'wife'. There was no touching or anything. Then we just went out and alcohol was involved again but not as much and management was present. She was hugging me again, touching me, holding hands and just really close. A coworker mentioned there was this electricity between us and some of the others were like looking with a wtf expression so I think it's noticeable behaviour. I probably have to just ask her like you all say but she has gone from 0 to 100 just recently- I could never have imagined her doing this before and now it's like a thing. Not sure if it would freak her if I asked or if it is just fun
  4. Hey everyone Do you think there is any truth in the things people say or do when drunk? I was drinking with a group of friends. One had been really chatty with a guy but he started coming on strong and she seemed like she had enough. Then she just wrapped herself around me and kept saying I was her gf. She continued wrapped around me for ages after - I can't explain but her whole body was so tight and pressed up against me and she buried her head in my neck and just left it there for ages. She kept holding my hand too. I never thought she liked girls but when we went out a lot of things I didn't think she was like seemed to come out with the drunk. I don't know if it was drink and she felt safe with me with crazy guys around or if she actually liked the closeness with me. What do you guys think about that sort of behaviour?
  5. I have an update. I feel like she gave me more today. She was talking about the country she is from and how she thinks a relative is a lesbian and how hard it is for her. She said that in her country you can't be gay and how hard it is for people if they are. I thought this was an opportunity to get a reaction from her so I said "I know you have been through some hard things too yourself but at least not that". She then said "this is how I feel, it doesn't matter about whether it's a man or it's a woman, I fall in love with the person". So I asked her whether she had ever liked another woman, she thought for some time and said no but then told me a story about how another girl tried to touch her one time. Then she talked about how another girl she used to work with used to fancy her but that if she did like women she wouldn't want to go with her as she didn't find her attractive. Then as we were leaving the place we had been having lunch, she said she had slept with a woman and I was like you mean slept in the same bed but she was walking out the door and either didn't hear me or just didn't want to answer what her comment meant. As we were walking back to work she asked me how I knew and I said I always knew I was a lesbian but what really cemented it was when I kissed a woman, I said that if is she was curious then that's how she would know. She again mentioned this woman she used to work with and that she wouldn't kiss her because she wasn't attractive but that she didn't like girls anyway and she likes men. I feel like the whole convo was confusing but that there was curiosity on her part?
  6. Thanks for your comment BiTriMama. I've been waiting so long for her. She made a funny comment today about when we move in bigger offices with more people then she will be able to start living her life. Another coworker said 'what an affair?' To which my crush replied yeah and laughed. Maybe I have a long wait as I dunno, I feel like she is isn't into me and is looking at guys
  7. Yes she knows I like women. In fact I have said before that I like this one that she made the comment about. HappyFrenchie did she eventually open up to you about liking women? If so did you just let her find her own way in telling you?
  8. Hi guys. So I have this friend, who I think is at least bi curious. She does this thing that I find funny and I wonder if any of you do it or understand it. So sometimes when we pass a hot woman she comes out with how hot the woman is and how that woman is her type. Yet sometimes we will have a conversation about a women we both actually know and she phrases it with "if I was a man then I would want to be with her". I find it funny as we both know this woman is a lesbian so being a man would not help that situation. I don't understand why she starts it like that and doesn't just say that she would get with this woman?
  9. So we were all out for drinks after work, I was with my crush and one other girl. My crush asked her about her bf to which the other girl said they had broke up. My crush said maybe you should bat for the other team and gave this over the top laugh. Then she started talking about this other girl that has turned up and how she used to try to get her to go to gay bars and how another friend had eventually told her she should. I just found it interesting she brought that round to herself and not only yhat but a lesbian thing and not hetero like this other girl has been talking about. I was trying to get my head around her doing that
  10. She's so hard to get out outside of work, as she is always sorting her family out. Sometimes she mentions shopping which might be good as at least we could talk? She isn't big in texting/social media either which she admits to not liking. I will keep trying to crack her though, I need to think of some remarks next time she mentions my eyes!
  11. yesh flannelfish that's what I have a problem with figuring out, she's really warm to me. Like she is a sweet person anyway but particularly so to me. We have been through quite a bit together and are close. I don't know in what way though. The other day she said that a friend who has passed away had said that if you love someone you should tell them, so I turned to my crush and told her I loved her, she paused for a while and then she told me she loved me too and when I looked up at her, I can't describe this look she had, like there hwas something really there. She has jokingly said 'love you' before but the pause and the look felt like something more- I don't know if I can explain it right! She mentioned the other week a few times we should take a day and go for a spa day or go somewhere for the day. I feel like pushing her on this but she gets a bit panicky and I wonder if that's because she has more than platonic feelings and she is married to a guy who she has said wouldn't like to share her. I don't want to scare her off but at the same time I care for her so deeply and want more. HappyFrenchie- I've been giving her some compliments back ;)
  12. Hey everyone. So I've been trying to figure out if this girl has a crush on me/if she could be bi. I've been trying to gauge her reaction when I mention if a woman is hot to see how she reacts. She seems pretty up for checking them out and comments in a positive way. A few things stood out for for me this week though. She has on a couple of occasions mentioned she likes strong women and always comments that I am really strong. Another thing was that she says that I'm neither too butch or too femme and she likes that about me. I was trying to figure if you would say to a friend - I felt it was more that she perhaps like me in a romantic way? She also mentions a lot about my eyes, how pretty they are and says things about how beautiful they look as the colour of my shirt reflects in them and on one occasion I was saying that one girl in meetings never gives eye contact and looks everywhere else and my crush said "she should look up, then she could see your beautiful eyes". Then we were all (work people) sat at a table and although she grabbed another girl on the arm when laughing once, I noticed that she kept touching my hand that I had resting on the table a lot. I find it hard to figure her out, she's so nonchalant sometimes that I just find myself questioning how she likes me?
  13. I wish my crush did this with me! I'm going to admit I'm slightly jealous of your situation here. I would kiss her!! Wow what a story!