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  1. I think she cares just as much but on top of everything else she's no one's #1. She clearly doesn't feel like #1 to either of her guys and she can't be your #1 because you're married. But I have a feeling you will at least remain friends. She sees how much you care. Try to stay positive.
  2. Hi, Flagirl. First let me say that I'm sorry for what you're going through. Losing a connection that makes you happy is hearbreaking. However you have had an experience that you've wished for and there's value in that. From what I can remember of your story, your friend was a little hesitant to change the dynamics of your relationship, but clearly it was/you were important enough to her to give it a shot. As a result, you have some amazing moments to look back on. Please try to find it in yourself to let go of the anger. As I was reading this post I automatically thought your friend must not have been able to handle her growing feelings for you and what that could mean about her sexuality and sure enough, you said just that at the end. And there's also the fact that she's juggling 3 sexual partners. I can imagine that would be mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting. I understand the hurt, but don't be angry with her. She seems to still care for but needs a breather to figure things out. To me, you are one lucky lady. :-)
  3. Hello lovely. Saw you stopped by and see you peeking from behind that tree. Waving at you. :D muah xx

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      Inside my head

      :D Hope you're having a fabulous weekend. muah xx
    3. deshy452


      Yes, enjoying my weekend. Shopping yesterday and relaxing today. Hope you're enjoying yours too!

    4. Inside my head

      Inside my head

      Sounds wonderful, especially the relaxing part. I'm giving myself the day off and plan to be intimate with the couch. lol ;D muah xx

  4. Hi mumbojumbo. Please continue to update us. I'm interested to see how this unfolds. I've never been with another woman either but I can see why you feel something might be there. I think women can generally tell if another woman is just checking out their outfit or sizing them up. But when when there is ackwardness silence and/or stares yet you still end up in each other's space and not by accident, you know there's something more.
  5. Yes, Bessie! Either you're interested or not..but I know that's unrealistic considering the circumstances. The whole thing is scary for me too but like you said we are in a more 'thought out and ready to take a chance' stage. Thanks for the kind words.
  6. Funny you mentioned her being in a different place because I just said that to another shy member (my new friend). I am open to talking more about it when she's ready. Since my big reveal she hasnt asked about it anymore but has continued to be the same person towards me, including the blushing. :-) It's hard for me to carry on as just friends when there is obviously a conversation yet to be had. I do however respect her choice not to cheat.
  7. I had a similar situation, Kelkee. There's no doubt in my mind that she knew all along how I feel and that she has some attraction to me. There was a lot of blushing, nerves, and stares between us. Id catch her looking across the room at me and vise versa.My friend even invited me over for a sleepover to sample wines while her husband was out of town. She ended up cancelling it because her husband cancelled his plans but admitted she never told him about our plans. Well after the cancellation I needed up telling her that Im attracted to her as I felt pretty confident that we were in a good space to trust one another. Her immediate response was to let me know that she is not 'that way' and apologized if she gave that impression. She too had questions for me. We scheduled a lunch to talk about it. I dont have any experience with a woman and she is my first "crush" so her questions were about how long I felt this way, had I shared this with my husband, what she said or did for me to believe she had feelings for me, what I planned on at the sleepover and if I considered it cheating and so on. I told her I think about her much more than I should and that she is attractive and that I feel a deep connection to her. She said she feels all these things too but as a friend. She admitted she had thought about what it would be like with a woman but doesnt think she can go through with it. The last reveal she gave was that she had cheated before and because of the way it made her feel she would never allow herself to do that again. However, she insisted that our relationship not change in anyway. I appreciated this at first seeing her as a true friend for not walking away, but now that Ive had a chance to let everything settle I'm realizing that means she is OK with the flirting? I'm not sure how I feel about that especially when she cant atleast admit how she feels even if nothing will happen. She knows I'd never tell anyone because she is the only person in my life that Ive shared this with. I am not openly bicurious.
  8. No, I have not told him and never will.