suncat

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About suncat

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  1. I've recently started dating someone who I have very strong feelings for and really want to be with. They (they're non-binary) are polyamorous and were in a long-term relationship when we started dating, although they broke up with their primary partner quite soon afterwards. I imagined that this was only going to be something casual but it's quickly turned into something more. I didn't mind the thought of polyamory when I thought that this would only be a sexual relationship, but I have some doubts about whether a poly relationship is for me in the long term. However I really want to be with this person and I can see the benefits of polyamory as well. At the moment they are seeing one other person apart from me, and I'm not seeing anyone else (although I do have a date with this woman this weekend). It's just all quite new to me (to both of us actually) and I'm not sure how to feel secure in such a relationship and how to deal with jealousy. It seems that a lot of the people on this forum are in some type of non-monogamous relationship so I would really love to hear about your experiences and appreciate any advice for how to make it work and be happy in a polyamorous relationship.
  2. In general I feel like I'm more submissive than dominant but my fantasies vary depending on the person I'm into. With a woman though I do enjoy the idea of being in control and witnessing her pleasure...
  3. Haha I've never quite figured out what flirting actually is and how it works (apparently I accidentally do it sometimes though?) but yeah I agree that talking about a more serious topic is a better way to really get close to someone than endless small talk. I must admit I know nothing about physics or cryptocurrency though also working on the queer vibes thing.
  4. There are plenty, but one that comes to mind at the moment is Desert Hearts. Loved that one.
  5. YES this is pretty much where I am at the moment as well, I really do feel like I'm a teenager again. I had my first experience with a woman a bit less than a year ago and since then I have not been able to stop thinking about it and wanting it to happen again and I didn't even realise before that I had all these feelings haha. Got back on tinder a while ago and am now kind of seeing this non-binary person, although they're in a relationship and poly so this is more of a casual thing, but very fun and exciting. Never really did the whole dating thing when I was younger since I was in a relationship with a guy from when I was 18 into my early twenties and didn't get to explore this part of myself until now.
  6. I like wrist-holding, being pushed up against walls, neck kissing and gentle biting, her sucking on my fingers... umm, I could go on
  7. I definitely like people to be very direct and assertive because I'm pretty shy myself and get very nervous about approaching women. I always worry that I've somehow misinterpreted the situation and that I'll come across as creepy.
  8. Give yourself time, I find that you know you're ready for something at the point when you want it more than you are scared of it. Online dating/dating apps definitely have their flaws but for me at the moment I find it to be the best way to meet people as I'm not great at approaching people in person.
  9. I miss both the physical and emotional intimacy, just being able to be crazy and totally yourself with someone and lie in bed naked and talk.
  10. Welcome! I'm also new here. It's great that you've been able to start exploring this part of yourself, even though it's always much harder when you're in a relationship. I noticed after the first time I slept with a woman it unleashed a whole bunch of feelings I didn't realise I had. For a long time I didn't feel like a very sexual person but, well, now things have changed! I hope you find the support you need here x
  11. Thank you both! Unfortunately it's sometimes too easy to be influenced by the way others see you. I'm also now mostly interested in dating women and it's so exciting to be able to do that.
  12. Hi! I joined this site a couple of years ago because I was having trouble being open about my sexuality despite years of knowing I was into girls but never having had a chance to explore it. Even though my friends are open minded and a couple of them queer themselves, I've found it difficult to really be open about this part of myself. Partly out of fear that I was wrong because for so long it all just kind of felt like it was in my head, and because I thought based on my relationship history that people would somehow not believe me. Anyway, I'm now 26 and since about a year ago I'm now out to my friends, my mum and basically anyone who asks. I guess there just came this point where I could just no longer hold it all in. I slept with a woman for the first time and it really confirmed my that my feelings were real, and I've been trying to start dating more now (which is sometimes scary!). So a lot of things have changed for the better, and I honestly NEVER thought I would ever reach this point. However sometimes I really feel the need to talk to other bi women because a lot of my friends have moved away and sometimes I just have too many feelings to process about girls and life in general Last time I was here everyone was so supportive and lovely, but then for whatever reason I didn't end up coming back to the site. However I'm here now and very excited to hear all of your stories!