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  1. A great, positive post! I totally agree! I've worked for several companies and those that worked best always had women on the board. I worked for an all male company where I was the only woman that sat in on the meetings, not on the board, but that co turned to shit from their greedy male egos. When there's an equal M/F balance it works brilliantly! Women are far more capable than they're given credit for, unfortunately they miss out on many places in society because they're viewed as risky. Employers won't hire a married woman in her 20's/30's in case she gets pregnant and leaves. I was even asked once in an interview if I was planning to have a baby soon! That's not allowed these days but it goes to show what they were thinking at the time. Luckily I've earn't respect over time and the gender pay gap is being scrutinised and reviewed by many companies. I see too often that women totally rely on men and lose themselves in the process. Many are stuck in the life they have because they have nothing of their own and would struggle without them. In my view, if you want it, go out there and get it! There's always a way! The only strength men have over women is just that, physical strength, and even then, if a woman wants to be as strong as a man she can train to be that way, she just has to work a little harder, as always, but she's used to that.
  2. My thoughts exactly. You can feel the ripples running through them in that moment with the slightest touch. Beautiful!
  3. Permission to be naughty? No, I'll resist, but I will give my "expert" view as someone who read the first book and watched the first 2 films. 50 shades of grey was written by a woman who had no idea how much of a success it would be. I'm sure she did some research, but ultimately, she had fun with it and used her imagination. It was aimed at bored housewives and women that needed a little libido pick me up. As one of those women, (and just because everyone was banging on about it), I read it, and it had the desired audience reached....libido temporarily raised.....but not enough to compel me to read the other 2 books. The movies were mildly entertaining, I mean who doesn't like Jamie Dornan half naked doing exercises, shower sex, gentle spanking and sex toys. It's a bit of fun and should be taken that way. However, it does nothing for me anymore. And even though I know zero on the true D/S subject, I would never think that 50 shades was particularly good research, but it did contribute to the baby boom of 2009/10. So thanks for that at least, E. L. James!
  4. Beautiful gif sequence @celeste teal
  5. Is that the sound of a can of worms being opened.....???
  6. I think it depends on the individual. I was never like that, mainly because I was so scared of being found out. And if any of my friends were like it with me I was rather uncomfortable, again for the same reason. So I don't think someones sexuality could be assumed from that really Only one person broke that for me.....My best friend is generally flirty, but very affectionate with me. I know she's straight and only behaves that way because she's comfortable and 'safe' with me. And I'm comfortable too because it's just the way it is with us. I always loved that I could have that girly connection without her getting weird about it. She'll cuddle me, hold my hand and tell me she loves me and I have never once read into it any more than friendship. We've been friends for 15 years and she's like a sister to me. So yes, I agree it can be totally platonic. You would have to look at the bigger picture to assume any differently. For instance, my friend and I can go days and weeks without contact, but if we couldn't stay away from each other I would probably believe there was more to it.
  7. I think there might be some truth in your theory @Violetta. Many (not all) women will assume a man takes control, because that's how we've been programmed to respond. So we tend to let them lead, and end up believing that we're submissive because that's how we are with men, especially in a LTR. Then we're faced with pleasuring a woman and we're given the opportunity to reverse those roles a little, when in actual fact you're probably quite dominant anyway, you just don't get to do it with him. So it's a valid point, and maybe we consider women to be more equal in some way, or, for some, inferior. Though I must say, even if you believe you're in control, she's still in charge, you just have no idea how much. My other theory is that it's easy for a man to reach orgasm, and if he's a considerate lover and has made sure your needs are met during foreplay etc, then it's only really about the 2-3 minutes required for him to be satisfied so what you want cos I'm quite happy here. Then there's women......and the pleasure needs to build slowly, and you have a pretty good idea of what to do cos you know what you like, and you want to hear the incredible sounds she makes and know that you're the one that's doing that to her. It's just generally more satisfying for both of you and likely why men prefer being in control too......because women have an incredible ability to give you pleasure by being pleasured! Amazing!
  8. Great news that everyone is on board and things are working out for you! Sorry about the accident though.....Thank goodness you're ok.
  9. Thank you for keeping us updated. I think we all wish we had the answers, but I admire you so much for having the courage to leave and be true to yourself. And in the long run, if you know you're truly gay, you're doing the best by him by allowing him to be with someone who can give themselves completely. You worry if you can make it through all this, but is the alternative staying with a man who doesn't make you happy? Try not to let outside influences affect your decision. The way I see it, people come into our lives for a reason. Of course you will have gone through a lot together and maybe you needed him to get through that. But maybe that chapter has closed and you no longer need each other for the the next stage. You'll know when you've made the right decision, so take your time. Sounds like you've got a good man and partner who's trying to support you, which is great, and will hopefully lead to an amicable split, should that be what happens. Please let us know how things go. Wishing you all the best!
  10. Beautiful.......
  11. Good luck today @She’sBi You sound like you're very sensible and are sensitive to your husbands needs in all this, so I hope all goes well. Interesting that your bi curiosity started shortly after your libido shot up. A similar thing happened to me when I came off the pill and had no more hormones keeping things at bay. Though I knew I was attracted to women at a young age and had kept it locked away for many years. I just found the key with raging hormones in my mid thirties! Yes, please do keep us posted!
  12. I wish I could offer you advice but every person and relationship is different and what works for one person might not work for another. However I totally understand what you're going through. It's incredibly hard, and I imagine it's been a bit of a shock for you if you've never had feelings for a woman before. And it's complicated. You have to see this woman on the school run everyday so you need to tread carefully, for your kids sake too. Luckily English law favours the mother unless there's danger to the child so you're ok in that respect. I would say, if both of you are on the same page and are able to balance all the emotions and sexual chemistry which is building between you, as well as the guilt and secrecy, then go with your gut and do what feels right. But you also have to decide if she's worth the risk, because there is a lot at stake here. You say she feels the same, and that both marriages have suffered, so it sounds like you're both heading for a split from your husbands and a relationship together. Maybe you won't end up with her, but your life is certainly heading in a new direction, and it sounds like this isn't entirely to do with her and there are already issues within your marriage that you're trying to address. There isn't a right answer here. You either sacrifice your own happiness for your kids and a man you're no longer in love with, or you break away and follow a new path. It's certainly not a decision you can make overnight so don't rush anything. The way you feel right now will likely change in 6 months to a year, especially if you're in the early, exciting stages of a new relationship with this school mum. Take your time, be careful, and hopefully everything will work out as it should.
  13. As one of those married women that @BenedettaC mentioned, everything she said is spot on. He will probably ask you to be more open about what you want sexually, what turns you on etc. At first it will probably excite him, but then the prospect of losing you kicks in, and it sounds like this is where you're currently at in your relationship. So, my advice to you is to decide what you want to do, right now. If you decide to pursue something, with this woman or someone else, be prepared for a potential change in your relationship with your husband. Can you be sure that he will always be your priority and nothing will change between you? That you won't be thinking of her while you're with him? That you won't end up falling in love with a woman? If the answer is no, then you need to decide if the pursuit of your desires is worth risking your marriage for. Maybe this is curiosity for you and nothing more, and that's fine if you and the other person can handle that. But I made that mistake and then realised just how satisfying a relationship with a woman can be. There are very few married women here who's partners are totally ok with them exploring outside their marriage, but it is possible if your marriage is stable and secure to begin with. So have those talks and address those insecurities immediately. Only you will know whether he can handle it or not.
  14. Sometimes we all need a giggle to cheer us up a bit. I saw this sketch about wonder woman today which I wanted to share with you and hopefully make you smile. Anyone who's seen the film will appreciate this, I'm sure. Hopefully you can share your favourite sketches, jokes and you tube videos too.....