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BenedettaC

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  1. BenedettaC

    My Fairy-tale

    Here’s to you two!
  2. Starting the week out right...

     

  3. BenedettaC

    Disobedience

    My friend reacted very strongly because of her own experience, but I do know of other people whose families are more accepting, and I recently saw a news report on the BBC in which an Orthodox woman was discussing her ongoing support of LBGT+ awareness lessons (the No Outsiders project, etc) in British primary schools, and how so many other mothers in her religious community had contacted her to thank her for speaking out. So, it appears that things are changing...albeit very slowly. If there’s one thing I’ve learned over time with regard to lesbian/gay culture it’s that beard marriages exist everywhere, in all societies and communities all over the world, with religion being the primary motivating factor, but also just general societal disapproval (for example, in small rural communities). Sometimes the seemingly heterosexual couple’s families and friends are actually aware of their true dispositions, but choose to deny them, and are just happy that they have conformed and fallen in line (so are no longer a threat to the status quo). NYC is full of people who have opted out of this type of situation, including lots of ex-Amish from PA and ex-Mormons from Utah.
  4. How wonderfully poetic, @Katy !
  5. BenedettaC

    The Art of Reading

    Ha, ha... We actually went on a bit of a bender during that trip...and I ended up spending three very action-packed days with her, which was very intense, to say the least. She was a person who really lived life to the full, and so wanted to do everything conceivable thing worth experiencing wherever she went...
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    The Art of Reading

    This image reminds me of the late American intellectual and author Susan Sontag, whom I had the good fortune to know back in NYC in the 1980s. I first met her when I booked her to speak at my college. She insisted that we come pick her up in person, instead of sending a car, as the result of which I got to spend a couple of hours in her apartment, browsing through her amazing library and record collection - a dream come true! She was truly the greatest bibliophile I have ever met, and as we approached the city where our college was located, she asked us if there were any good antiquarian book shops there, and if so, if we could stop off for ‘a few minutes’ so that she could have a browse. There was indeed an amazing book shop, which looked very similar to the one in the painting above - a total labyrinth of shelves heaving with all sorts of literary gems (first editions, etc) on three floors...and ‘a few minutes’ turned into an hour...then two...and we ended up missing the drinks reception being given in her honour, and nearly not turning up for her lecture! That really was quintessentially Susan...
  7. BenedettaC

    The Art of Reading

    What a fabulous combination - reading and a pug! What wonderful little characters they are!
  8. BenedettaC

    Weirdest date you've ever been on....

    Definitely not a good sign!
  9. Maybe the woman on the receiving end is saving up the screaming from the part where she gets f**ked with the huge nails... Could be a ‘lesbian porn’ acting technique...
  10. BenedettaC

    How do they do it? Long distance

    I agree that this question is absolutely key to long-distance relationships of all kinds, including remote/electronic ones. I have had three long-distance relationships where we met in real life (in NYC, which is one of those cities that draws people from all over the world, as tourists and for work, among other reasons), back in the pre-Internet days when our only communication options were (very expensive) telephone calls, letters sent by post, and telegrams - none of which had the immediacy of FaceTime, Skype, texts or e-mail. My girlfriends and I were all extremely sexual young women in our 20s, and it was tough! But despite varying degrees of frustration, within each situation we made it work, and also really enjoyed the excitement and glamour of travelling to see one another, which was very sexy. Again, it’s all a matter of expectations... However, having said that, in my experience, there can come a point when the distance is just too much to bear, and you want to be together all the time, so then must make the choice to take the plunge and enter into a greater level of commitment and live together (with one person moving to the other’s location) or end the relationship and walk away. I did the former...and must admit sacrificed ALOT to make it happen, but then, for various reasons, it didn’t work out. That’s the risk you take in such situations...
  11. BenedettaC

    Weirdest date you've ever been on....

    Just to clarify, I didn’t mean that women instinctively know how to perform heterosexual sex, just that heterosexuality, and by extension phallocentrism and phallocentric sex, are still generally the norm (in all parts of the world), and that as the result, women’s sexuality is still considered secondary (or worse) to men’s. I take your point about young people having much greater access to sexual information these days, but reading about how to go down on a woman or perform other sexual acts is very different from actually engaging in those acts, because emotions are usually involved, so some women (of all ages) still sometimes become overwhelmed and freeze up... ...and the weird dates go on... :)
  12. BenedettaC

    Weirdest date you've ever been on....

    Just to clarify, I didn’t mean that women instinctively know how to perform heterosexual sex, just that heterosexuality, and by extension phallocentrism and phallocentric sex are still generally the norm (in all parts of the world), and that as the result, women’s sexuality is still considered secondary (or worse) to men’s. I take your point about young people having far greater access to sexual information these days, but reading about how to go down on a woman or perform other sexual acts is very different from actually engaging in those acts, because emotions are usually involved, so some women (of all ages) still sometimes become overwhelmed and freeze up... ...and the weird dates go on... :)
  13. BenedettaC

    Weirdest date you've ever been on....

    Sure - it should be straightforward, but sadly sometimes isn't, especially for younger women who lack confidence/experience or have issues with regard to their sexuality (perhaps due to guilt, homophobic parents, etc). On top of that, although masturbation has become more generally accepted and practised by women in Western countries over the past 30 years or so, sadly we still live in a generally patriarchal, phallocentric world, where women's sexuality is still considered inferior to men's, or totally insignificant/non-existent in many societies, and so alot of women don't even know what their own vagina looks like...let alone having well-developed sexual preferences...
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