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  1. What I would say when I first joined shybi and what I would say now are quite different. I would want a life long friend, with a sexual relationship after we are established as friends and companions..
  2. @Femme Lusting I really have to agree with you. It's really hard for me to openly say that I'm bisexual - even to myself (I go back and forth between bi-curious and bisexual on a daily basis). I may never have any actual experience. But, I do not think you have to ever have had any experience with women to know that you are attracted to women. I lean more toward men and love sex with my husband, but there is a part of me that is turned on by women. If I was not married, I think it is quite possible I could have a wonderful relationship with a woman. In fact, if I was divorced or widowed, I think I would prefer a relationship with a woman rather than with another man.
  3. Lots of moaning during intercourse...sometimes long and low pitched, gets kind of quivery when it's really really good. Occasional words of encouragement. Quiet when being licked - until orgasm and then I can't control the long, deep moans. Those first few seconds of penetration after an orgasm... not only do I moan, but husband says my eyes roll back and eye lids flutter. Oh, oops! Lost in the moment. Yesterday was great sex.
  4. Interesting. It is difficult to understand why people find their anti-lgbt to be compatible with their Christian religion. My religious beliefs are quite different from the majority view (I would guess). While I don't believe that the Bible is anything other than a somewhat inspirational (if you subtract some of the worst parts of it) book written by men, I do believe it has a central message. That message is love and acceptance (the golden rule). There really isn't much else to it. So why bring so much hate, disapproval, and negativity into the Christian religion - or any religion?
  5. Relationships are so full of ups and downs, and people get so used to each other that they can fail to appreciate what they have. Isn't it ironic that the people that we trust the most with our feelings and vulnerabilities are the very people who can, and do, hurt us to the very core of our beings. My husband has caused me unimaginable pain and heartache, but it doesn't necessarily last forever. Out of the heartache and pain we've come to a better place in our relationship. He's still a mean ass at times, but we are better. Don't give up. Don't completely harden your heart. It protects you from the hurt, but it can be hurtful in it's own way.
  6. Ok @Cute&Curious, thank you for that. I had already looked up the first four words (that I didn't know until Sjybi), but that's the first time I've heard of a flesh light. Now I've looked up that one too!
  7. @myladylove Please don't think that I was implying that your hygiene habits aren't good. It's just the way that women are built. Way back when I first started having the problem, I felt like I was doing something wrong and was ashamed. I don't feel that way anymore. It's just anatomy. This may sound weird, but after sex I urinate immediately, and instead of wiping with paper, I actually poor 3 glasses of warm water over the area and blot dry with a towel that is used only for sex. I don't know if the effect is real or psychological, but I also take cranberry tablets several times per day, every day and it seems to help. As far as who you have sex with, enjoy. If it ends up being a man, remember that there are over the counter pills for pain, and ways to try to prevent it in the first place. If it's been 6 years, you'll probably need lubrication.
  8. I used to get it all the time when I first started having sex. Part of the problem is women's parts are so close together. When you have sex with a man, the movement could push bacteria into the urethra, and up to the bladder. Being dry during sex could also be a cause. I would say make sure you always urinate after sex, and carefully wash up.
  9. Any opinions on what makes people click when they have chemistry together, but have absolutely nothing else in common? When you are sometimes profoundly against some of that person's views? When you, none the less, love that person, and feel that person is the only one who can really comfort you (except when that person is the one causing you grief, heartache and pain)? When that person is the one who has caused you the most pain and heartache? This baffles me.
  10. Have you asked yourself what you want to do with this new found attraction to women? What is your motivation for telling your husband? Are you looking to have a relationship with a woman, or do you just want your husband to know about the attraction? Are you looking for your husband's blessing on having a relationship with a woman? Is the relationship with Chad ongoing? Is this something that you want to keep secret from your husband forever, or are you thinking of telling him about this too? My only advise is to do some soul searching before you proceed.
  11. I'm not quite sure, but there are people in my life that I have an un-explainable connection. I have a friend that I haven't seen for over 40 years (we parted on less than positive terms). I met her again just recently and we instantly connected again. She introduced me as the best friend she's ever had. We must have hugged a dozen times, and we talked just about non stop. I may not ever see her again, but I will never doubt our friendship. I don't know what makes us click. When we met over 40 years ago, I was shy, quiet and living in everyone's shadow. She was the opposite, yet made every effort to be my friend.
  12. It's a conundrum. Which will you regret more? Are you the kind of person who places high value on security, and "what you know", or are you the kind of person who seeks adventure in other parts of your life? I have no experience with women, but then for all practical purposes I just about don't have any experience with any other men than my husband. I could equally say that I might regret never having that experience with a woman, as I could also say I might regret not having experience with men other than my husband. Now this is just me - everyone sees it differently - would I risk my marriage to have an experience with another man other than my husband? I have to ask myself the same question about an experience with a woman. What am I willing to risk? For some people it's worth the risk. For me, without my husband's knowledge and agreement, I can't risk my marriage for an experience with a woman or another man.
  13. Don't be so hard on yourself. It's not unusual to be sore after a long time with no sex. I have no idea how old you are, but age can also play into it. And you were probably too nervous and put too much pressure on yourself for it to be successful. Men can be total jerks, but he may have also felt kind of like a failure. I don't know anything about your man, but men in general don't seem to be very good about talking about "feelings", so they just avoid dealing with it at all costs. Hope you can work it out and find some way to talk about it together. Or it may be time to seek help from a therapist.
  14. @southern star Sounds absolutely magical. How lucky you are to have had that experience.
  15. I know when I've had stretches with no sex, what I missed most was just being touched by another human being. I love being hugged and kissed. If I absolutely HAD to, I could give up sex (but I sure wouldn't want to). I can not do without touch, without hugs.