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  1. It's been awhile.  I need to check in more often.  

  2. You are not alone. Everyone of us has been or is going down a road of self discovery. I was married for 20 years and never told my husband. Tried once but he didn't want to hear it. Most of my relationships have been with women who are married. Some of their husbands new and some didn't. I think mainly you have to decide where your comfort level of outness is, and go from there.
  3. I don't want to go to work. I need to figure out how to make money and be with her all day...
  4. So a co-worker told my other co-workers I'm a closet lesbian and she is going to be my first! LMAO She's about 30 years too late for that!  

  5. Alone time is hard to find when you both have other responsibilities. I hope you can make it work. Remember, you must be doing something right, after all she is with you.
  6. I suck at communication! Don't let that hold you back. Actions speak louder than words right!? I try to force myself out of my comfort zone often, it has helped me grow a lot as a person. I was very shy when I was younger.
  7. I invited my girl over for a night of intense relaxation once. I sent both our families out for dinner and movies and then told her to show up at my door at a certain time. When she showed I had a hot bath waiting for her, nothing but candlelight, a bottle of her favorite wine a soundtrack playing that I had created just for her. I let her soak and enjoy and then I wrapped her in a warm robe right out of the dryer took her into my massage room and gave her a full body massage. After which she led me to the bedroom and I made love to her. She had such an amazing release that she was crying afterwards. I don't think I've ever been held so tight. This makes me think, I need to plan something new, it's been a while. I try to be romantic often, but it doesn't always come together as well as it did that night.
  8. If you are interested in her, give it a little time. You don't have to come out to her right away. Just do little things like paying a little more attention to the things she says or be more complimentary. If she responds you will be able to tell where she is going with it and go from there.
  9. I think that is a very good discription. The feelings I get have never been easy for me to explain. It's so much more than just a physical experience.
  10. She's been looking at me like she's leaving me for a few weeks now, and today she did.  Now I'm just waiting for my heart to start beating again.  

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    2. blueberry


      From what I can see, this is mainly about her trying to cope. Give it a time, she'll be herself again. 

    3. mollyb


      I hope so.  I think you're probably right.  I try to just accept things and move forward without putting expectations on her.  I just want her to be honest about how she feels. I know being in a relationship with me can be very intense and it's hard to balance when things aren't that way with your husband.  I'm usually the one who walks away when I don't think they can handle it.  I just can't do it this time.   

    4. blueberry


      Sometimes when certain situation or conflict arises in a relationship and it's overwhelming,  we tend to react in a heightened emotion. It's natural but not helpful.  Often the only way to do it is to wait for the dusts to settle. You usually walk away when you dont think they can handle it. Don't you think that this is too quick for you to judge. If she says she loves you, if she's exerting her effort to juggle things to spend time with you then she wants you. You know this. You acknowledge this fact. What's causing you to feel that you want to walk away, I presume, is whenever she's being weak herself. When she's  losing her grip on things. It's okay. This is her weakness and you know that she has insecurities, trust issues, etc. Meaning to say, perhaps sometimes she has moments of facing her demons. This is the time she thinks out of proportion and you should be able to recognise it. It's a hardwork if you think about it but you can make it easier for yourself if you can stand back, acknowledge,  then come back and reassure her. 

  11. She called to tell me she missed me...I had only been gone a couple of hours.  Just now she called to say she told her husband she was spending the evening with me, because I needed some adult time! (He doesn't know about us).  Totally out of character...  Not complaining just confused.  

    1. Hungry


      I think she meant that's what she needs... but I hope you had a good time anyway :P

    2. mollyb


      Yep.  I had a good time, and so did she, but I feel something has changed.  She is holding my hand like she is afraid to let go...  She won't tell me what's going through her head.  I will know when she is ready to tell me I suppose.  For now I will just wonder at the changes.

    3. Hungry


      Ugh that's awkward. Maybe something came up and now she's insecure. It's not great, but it seems you're more adult in this situation! :P

  12. Eight years and still just one simple touch from her and my whole world comes back into focus...

  13. I am in need of willpower today.  Temptation is going to be the death of me.  In more ways than one!:)

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    2. blueberry


      I see. It is very exciting in the beginning. I can understand that. Unless you know how to tame the fire don't touch the fire because it will burn you. That's my two cents. Take care. 

    3. mollyb


      Good advice.  Thanks.  It's flattering, but I have calmed enough fires in my life to get too excited over it.  As always though I will just kick back and enjoy the show.  Whatever will be will be.

    4. mollyb


      Meant to not get too overly excited...

  14. I like to think that we are all capable of loving many people. Unfortunately there is a point with relationships where going in to many different directions can become stressful. Balancing a husband and a girlfriend was never an issue. Before I married I was at one point very serious with my future husband and three women, one was married, one had a boyfriend and the third one I lived with. I loved them all and still do to this day. Even the x husband. It was probably the only period in my life where I was completely content. As far as how do you know if your in love? It always hits me like a ton of bricks. It's like an awakening and I usually cuss myself, because I'm fairly certain that lust is less My current gf was standing in her kitchen one day completely pissed off and she gave me this look that should have burned me to the ground, and through my head went "oh shit! I'm in love with you!" followed by No no no! And then hmmmm this could be Point is you will know when its love and yes you can love both at the same time.
  15. I agree. It should be respected, but it has to be respected on both sides. Flirting is a lot of fun, but when you know someone is into you and you have no interest in that way, then it is cruel. Follow your own intuition. Don't over analyze, and just see what happens.