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  1. Mate, I think you incidentally meet your match. I'm a willing student here, perfectly gaining knowledge from this course, Art of seduction 101. I am indulging on velvety smooth, chocolate filled ice cream at the moment. For some reasons, I am having different sensation reading this thread and the ice cream is not bringing my temperature down
  2. @CallistoDidNotWin I did not confess my romantic feeling for the new friend who triggered my sleeping bisexuality (it's long story). But she knew that I felt differently for her because of the nature of my text messages, things I did for her and of course my actions. She's bisexual, too. I was tempted to tell her to get it off my chest. I was not expecting to have a relationship with her. For some reasons, I did not tell her. It was the best decision I made between the two of us because we became very close friends who look after each other like sisters after I got over her. But, then, my feelings for her was rather on the caring, romantic side. Not sexual at all. My feelings had dissipated over time (not seeing her, meeting other women) and honestly, I can't remember what it felt like. These days, we're like BFF when we see each other. We hug, put our arms around each other naturally. She and her GF sometimes have dinner at my house and she plays with my little one. I go to her when I am brokenhearted. I go to her to tell about a new woman who makes my life happy. She comes to my house (or we go for a drink) whenever she and her GF has disagreements. Had I confessed my feelings for her, it would mess up the future friendship. Of course I didn't know the future. BUT, at that time, I was not in a secure and stable position to support my feelings for her in case she's got feelings for me. Plus my husband was still trying to come into terms about my bisexuality and it was creating a bit of shaking in the foundation of our marriage because he got confused. Every situation is different. My point here is, if one is going to confess to her friend, she should have a clear head and know (more or less) what her objective is. In my experience, if I don't have a plan to follow through my feelings then I don't tell. I don't just dump and leave.
  3. Errr @Rani mate, this thread is up to the next level. I need another bag of crisps and open the window.
  4. Blimey! @Rani I hope I'm not late for the party. But all I want really is to get an invitation for the seduction seminar that you may conduct in the near future. Mate, if you keep doing this, expect your inbox to explode though I'm sure you can handle it. Well done. Looks like we're having an awesome time here! @CallistoDidNotWin you're looking swell since you welcome Rani-ism Cheers!
  5. Easy @kairi . Sometimes, a woman wants to tick it off on their list. Lol. @Storm9, you may want to negotiate this. What about airport showers?
  6. Butterfly
  7. Looks like it’s getting higher and higher. Lol! Take it easy dear.
  8. @Meeseeks23 You do sound lost but who isn’t. From time to time, even the most enlightened one would feel a bit lost for the track course in life isn’t always straight. If I’m right, you’re in the Questioning phase right now. It’s good that you’re trying to reflect and recollect things that happened from the past. I should just caution you though to be gentle with yourself for you may stumble on something that you are not prepared to face. If there is nothing to worry about then continue knowing yourself through recollection. Whatever happened in the past, easier to say but it’s the only way - LET GO. Your present is the thing that determines your future. Your sexuality, whether you are lesbian or bisexual, or bicurious — work on loving yourself as who you are. It’s good that you want to feel comfortable in your own skin. You don’t have to tell anything to your mum. I’m sorry that it looks like she’s not helping to boost your self-esteem. If you can surround yourself with friends or support group to help you to be yourself, do it. You don’t want to be around anyone who demean or put your spirit down. Come here often and check the older posts. Ask advice if you must. Share your thoughts if you need. This site is especially made to help people who are looking for answers like you. Take it easy. -Blue-
  9. @CallistoDidNotWin Welcome to shy land. The site is a haven for everyone who seeks solace and understanding of whatever she is undergoing especially her sexuality. No one is going to judge you here for the site is made to comfort, accept and help one another. Advice is given here but remember that a given advice is not a one-size that fits all. Pick what is best for you and your situation. But, before that, try to reflect what your heart really wants. Parents (yours, mine and others) were brought up in different time and possibly certain homophobic attitude from the community or their elders had been passed on to them. Some are lenient and others are not. They have their own beliefs and principles which may be opposite to yours. But it doesn’t mean that they are not capable of still loving or accepting their bisexual or homosexual sons and daughters. Sometimes, the acceptance may take a lot of time before it happens because of their own principles in life. For example, the religious parents. I saw a religious mother who wept and asked God why her daughter was any different. I was beside her, listening when she questioned her motherhood if she ever failed. She, felt lost herself. It took 3 years before she and the whole family accepted my friend’s sexuality. The mother still doesn’t agree on same sex relationship in general but she accepted her daughter’s. Shame and guilt. That is understandable for you to feel. Work on loving yourself, accepting who you are. When you achieved this completely, the opinion of others will not matter anymore. You do not have to come out to the world (but if you feel later on that it’s what you want, then, do it with caution), not even to your parents or husband if you are not ready or comfortable. What is important is YOU. How you see and feel for yourself. Work on it and you will realise and feel that it’s damn amazing to be who you are. You will be alright. Take care and all the best. - Blue-
  10. "Hey. How's it going? You look lonely here." This was what she said and sat very close to me. We only met once on another meet-up weeks ago. I replied with my usual "hey, you look cheery tonight." I was never approached by a lesbian before and man! She was hella confident yet casual and friendly like talking to me as if we knew each other for a long time and even asked me about my family, the school holiday. We were in group but this woman didn't mind touching my shoulders, my hair and leaning to me to whisper. I liked it and very impressed. After dinner, some of us went to the pub, and things escalated there. Vodka is always equal to sexy night, I must say. So, yes, I think I prefer to be approached like this. Light conversation. Casual, friendly, subtle and then attack (!) after making me feel relaxed! No pressure.
  11. So beautiful and inspiring. Thank you @celeste teal