blueberry

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  1. It’s beautiful @kairi. Whether it loses its translation or not, you’ve given us, the reader, an inspiring and truthful translation that your heart and mind could bring it into. Thank you. -Blue-
  2. Exactly! I suggest to steer away from 50 shades of grey in regards with truly understanding the d/s dynamic. One thing, if the dom and sub found each other and clicked like a perfect fitting puzzle, it could lead to a beautiful deep relationship that outsiders might not be able to understand.
  3. I bet @kairi has got the better one so....Carry on!
  4. You said “growing up.” I was thinking more of cuddling and holding hands with girls (like teenage years and maybe up to early 20s) not adult women. In some cultures especially Asians, this is completely natural. In fact, you see them everywhere if you’re living in their country. That’s how they treat each other and don’t mean anything romantic or sexual.
  5. "To break and be able to grow together again in a better way: that is the difficult art."

                                                                              - Asger Jorn -

  6. I say, that's the most logical and appropriate to do for now. You've got to be very careful that you are not getting so swept in to the NRE (New relationship energy). Don't overthink. Enjoy each moment. Goodluck.
  7. Ice cream for me here. I think it's gonna get hot.
  8. @sasha420 Thank you for sharing your story. I am moved by this. A lot of us (the married women or in an exclusive heterosexual relationship) thought here, "if only I were single then it'd be easier to find love with a woman..." Obviously, it's not that simple. And by reading your story, something struck me. I had never thought about this but I probably gave up on women and focused on dating men after my relationship with my GF fell apart. I always thought that there were no women in the picture that's why I dated men instead. But, probably I developed a defense mechanism. I didn't bother to find another woman to date. I focused on the heterosexual attraction instead of being open to possibility of any gender. I might had unconsciously blocked my attraction on women because of seeing the relationship as merely futile. It was blocked and buried for quite some time but came back after many years when it was triggered. . What a speculative thought this is! I can relate a lot in your story. As what @Femme Lusting said, "stay true to yourself, and don't opt for a man because it's easier." Another thing is, let go. If my theory about what I had gone through was correct, then, it must be because I didn't manage well to let go of my hurt feelings. I was only fortunate that even if I didn't end up with a woman, I ended with a wonderful man who I truly have a connection with. But...maybe if I had learnt to let go and be mindful of my attraction with women, then, I don't know, maybe I ended up with a woman. Again, thank you for your post. I hope that you find love and happiness in the end. Stay strong. Take care.
  9. Oh dear! I must say that you had a close call in this. Who would have known? But, yes, dating site’s tricky or should I say there’s always one like that anywhere, online or not. I have a strict rule for myself in my online interaction: never combine FB with women (potential date or new bi friend). I rarely go to my FB nowadays and I stopped accepting Friends request. I understand that this is very terrifying for you. Rest for a bit. Take your time and maybe come back again to dating sites when you’re more comfortable and less anxious. Sending positive vibes.
  10. Absolutely! I cannot forget the time when a song brought a deluge of happiness to me like what one felt when they’re adolescents. I was driving to work when the radio played an 80’s song that brought a flashback. I was driving and there, that moment I saw my 12 year old self having her first dance with this sweet, cute boy with a very nice brown complexion and dimples on his face whenever he smiled. I remembered my pink skirt, his shirt and his hair. The innocence. I love it. It was two years ago when this recollection happened. Because of this, I have learned what song to listen to every time I want to consciously extract a happy memory from the past that’s associated with the song.
  11. ***Initially, this would be a response post to @Bilady84 then I thought this could be an interesting topic. So, fire away ladies! *** Whether there’s the epiphany to explore your bisexual side or first time to get back into track again after being married (or in an exclusive relationship) with a man for many years, ladies, how do you let him know that you’re also attracted to women? Here’s my go: The idea is to collect information about his outlook. CAN HE THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX (even if he said and you knew that he’s a conventional monogamous guy when you got together)? Can he be okay with it? We know that it’s not always a good idea to sit with your hubby and lay the cards on the table. Sudden news could create an imbalance that previously you didn’t have. Either way, you can go hard and be frank OR you tread, be sensible and go slow. It’s your choice. Whatever, you do, may I remind that there’s a consequence for every action. This thread is for those who want to go slow and decide to plant some seeds of thoughts. In the end, your man will eventually get it, ask you bluntly or you’ll have the guts to tell him. ****For some planting seeds ideas: Do you read newspaper at home? Buy or grab your office’s nationwide paper with LGBT articles/news and read it obvious to him and talk about it casually. Or check some trailers in YouTube on comedy films with threesome or gay/lesbian sub-theme (Sausage Party, this is hilarious!) and share it with him how you find it funny and interesting. If there’s a film, watch it together. Do not watch romantic lesbian film with him. No, no, no.
  12. Sounds pretty normal to me. But, drama is inevitable. There will be drama at some point. No matter what.
  13. @Rani Your fantasy isn't weird at all. I'm sure there are married women who will bite this enticement because that's what they fantasise as well. Maybe not as much as having the element of forbidden fruit and being found out to be the driving force. When you're in your 20s and single, the "we want what we can't have" can be hot and mind blowing but more unlikely to attract you when you're married and juggling 3 or 4 things in your life including bisexuality. Most bi-married women want a genuine girlfriend or a reliable sex buddy. If you can be either of the two, then, maybe you're the dream woman they're waiting for.
  14. Cute, I feel your grip in this. Envy is a strong negative emotion but like other emotions, it can either destruct you or motivate you. I hope that you'll find yourself the motivation rather than resentment in the complexity of life. Continue taking baby steps even if it feels forever. If you need to head outdoors ALONE to let go of your thoughts, to scream it out, I suggest that you do it. Sending you positive vibes.
  15. Wow! @ConfusedWifey thank you for sharing your story about you and your lady friend. It usually makes me giggle whenever I heard or read shybi accounts like yours. Whether it’s serendipitous encounter or sudden discovery, they’re all making me smile. I should not be worried if I were you, but it’s natural to get confused. When I re-discovered my bisexuality, I, too, was only attracted to only one woman. It was a romantic attraction. I didn’t see other women attractive in romantic or sexual way. But, after I was over her, I started noticing other women and checking them out. Enjoy the journey and I suggest not to overthink. Keep us updated if you permit. Stories like yours add positivity in us. Take care.
  16. My, my, my! We are the same and the minority here I suppose. Even if the boobs are the first thing I can see just because of the eye level, my eyes will wander off to the woman's legs. And yes, you're spot on about the stockings or tights. I find it very sexy (I wear them, too). Of course breasts are a must. And may you experience to get your lips (eventually your mouth) on them. Goodluck!
  17. Welcome @Dark&Twisty! I must say your screen name screams double trouble but we love it here as long as it brings fun. Majority here are from USA and UK. Please remember to read How the Forum works and surely you'll avoid being banned or be under monitoring. LOL. I hope the site helps you in any way, and feel free to contribute your wisdom here whenever you're comfortable. Have fun!
  18. Very well said @kairi. @Punkbettie I can understand where you’re coming from. I never experienced this with any ex-gf or bf but I did from a friend who had hurt my spirit. I moved on, time passed by until the wound had healed. She wanted to bring the friendship back again for old times sake. I tried but the warmth and interest were gone. I didn’t have enthusiasm so the friendship got never recovered.
  19. @Bilady84 Just make sure the garden bed is suitable to plant your seeds or else they won’t grow as you want it. The good thing here is that he knew about your adventurous side when you’re a teenager. Whether it did sink in to him or not, it’s a matter of his perspective in life in general. I said LIFE and not just MARRIAGE or monogamy. Where the former speaks of broad and even limitless ideas, the latter emphasises its very own contract which stipulates certain rules and boundaries including monogamy. You know your husband so tread carefully if you must. Take your time. Do a bit of little trial and error experiment.
  20. Yes. I love my body. It’s not flawless but I’m happy with it. Compliment does not determine our beauty but it helps to boost our self-confidence. All the more if it’s coming from someone you bare your body with and genuine in her or his words. Whoever I want or am attracted to is beautiful for me. Naked or not.
  21. @treelover123 why did you think that she’s got zero respect for you? I’m more curious and not questioning. She’s got a hot for you and still banking on the possibility to win you, I think.