ChemFem

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  1. That is positively angelic compared to some of what people say in this forum
  2. erotica

    Equal parts sweet and sexy, I love it
  3. Not that into Master/slave but that was quite good
  4. Sex

    Mmph I wish someone that age would "take advantage" of me...
  5. Lol the cleaning crew!
  6. @Sithandra are you volunteering as a headwrecker?
  7. Great reminder. The dynamic will be different around different people, and few people will fall completely to one extreme or the other. Like you said, some people can grow out of being headwreckers, but don't count on it happening while they're with you.
  8. HI

    Hi! Happy to have you back.
  9. Hi @Bella Blake. I had a lot of the same thoughts when I was your age. I say that like I'm so much older, but I'm only 23 myself. It's amazing how much difference a few years can make in growing into your identity. There is enough programming out there to be straight that in my case, and likely in yours, i figured the fact that I had seriously considered being with a woman at all probably meant I wasn't exclusively heterosexual (spoiler alert I'm not.) Hopefully being on here will help you contibue to figure yourself and find the words to describe this fluid, complex mess we call sexuality.
  10. @Sukeybaby if Offspring are a local band for you does that mean you're from SoCal? I'm from Long Beach.
  11. Hi! You're definitely in the right place to discuss bicuriosity. Good that you've already initiated a conversation with your bf. Friendship is a good basis to build a relationship on. Most of the members on this site have expressed a preference for independent exploration over threesomes, so you're certainly not alone in that regard. Hopefully you will find good information and support here on ShyBi.
  12. I'm working to be a unicorn. Right now i want to take the opportunity of being single to work on myself and be a positive influence to those around me.
  13. Take your time, there's no rush.
  14. So sweet. I didn't actually realize that you two have never seen each other nude. It will just make it that much more special when you can meet in person.
  15. Yeesh. Have they heard you talk about your girlfriend? Like, ever? Cause at this point I'd bet on a nontrivial chance that you marry her. You're taking the high road by focusing on the love they have shown in the past, and good for you. I'm not sure I would have that kind of patience.
  16. Absolutely. I'd still be poly even if I were straight. More and more I've been looking on my bi/pansexuality as a gift rather than a burden. It makes it easier for me to see the good in everybody and generally spread love to the world. I sound like a hippie wannabe when i say that but it's true, i just want to show everybody some love and care.
  17. You did the right thing and behaved honorably towards her. It's difficult sometimes to accept that someone you have feelings for is not in a position to hear it at the moment, but putting your desires aside and giving them what they need is a mark of true love. We'll see how this plays out. Good luck.
  18. @QuestioningMarried sorry to hear. It's good that you're being honest with yourself, but does make the next steps more difficult. Are there any LGBT-affirming therapists in your area whom you could discuss this with?
  19. At the risk of being obvious, ask them! There are many posts on here, and really any internet space populated by queer women, about the frustrations of trying to guess whether somebody is flirting or just being nice. If you are in an area where it's unsafe to be out, then caution and signaling are warranted. However, in many places the worse that would happen is a polite "no thanks, I'm straight." If she's a reasonable adult, the conversation can move forward; if she's not, best not to get involved with her anyhow.
  20. I want somebody who is level-headed and understands that I lead with my head, not my heart. I want her to be compassionate about my flaws while pushing me to improve, and I will do the same. I want someone who genuinely desires polyamory, rather than just going along with it to be with me. Married or single doesn't matter to me, but I would prefer no kids. If I took on a stepparenting role I would really want to do it right, and at this point I don't have my life together enough to be a good role model for a child.
  21. The picture of Emma Gonzales and her special lady is especially good to see. She's been through a ton and deserves something to smile about.
  22. Welcome back!
  23. Eyo! I've read some of your older posts so I actually didn't realize you'd left the site. For the record i don't like cream cheese, so I'd prefer to be smooth like peanut butter. <3
  24. Hi Katy! My mom spells her name the same way so I can already tell you are a quality individual
  25. +1 on The Ethical Slut. Happy to see you finally giving Janet her due as coauthor @BiTriMama