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N00Bi last won the day on December 21 2017

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About N00Bi

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    Beastie Boys, silversun pickups, twenty-one pilots, Hamilton, auf der mar, alternative, but pop 2
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    dogs, running, TV, pop culture, the interwebs, Jesus, self care, art journaling, social media, fandoms
  • Signature Fragrance
    sweat & salt water. mostly sweat
  • Favourite Book
    Jane Eyre; The Time Traveler's Wife; Harry Potter; most Neil Gaiman & Nick Hornby
  • Favourite TV Show
    Doctor Who, Community, GoT, Parks & Rec, OITNB, Orphan Black, 30 Rock, Will & Grace, Ink Master
  • Favourite Film
    Moulin Rouge

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  1. N00Bi


    Hey! I'm on O'ahu! Welcome.
  2. N00Bi

    New in Michigan

    Hi, Jenna! I'm from Livonia. I might visit this summer.
  3. N00Bi

    I Wish....?

    I wish I could accept and be at peace with where we are.
  4. Sitting in the car; chilling while the kids are in archery.
  5. N00Bi


    So painful and powerful.
  6. N00Bi


    So glad you're here and I totally understand that relief. Most of us do.
  7. Coffee & cereal, then taking boychild with me to pick up a free corner cabinet.
  8. YAAAASSSSS I forgot about that aspect. I was feeling dead inside and needed to feel alive. That hasn't totally gone away.
  9. First of all, I am so glad to see you back. I know it doesn't mean that you are healed or anything, but it I know a lot of us were worried about you and wanted to know how you were doing. Thank you for writing this. I don't think it's weird at all. Any of it. My dad died almost a year ago now, and I am a completely different person. I have been unmade and I am still being made. And being extremely sexual has definitely been a part of it. Embracing myself as a very sexual being and not being ashamed of it. In my brain, it has just been a fact. This is me, this is something I want, and I'm taking it. So yeah, I've cheated on my husband. And I don't feel really guilty about it. And he and I have talked about it. I'm hoping we are on our way to some consensual non-monogamy. But I'm not ashamed of who I am and what I've done. I needed it. And I just wanted it. I have always figured that if my husband ever died, I would need some other guy to get me almost immediately. I would need a lot of sex. Or at least some really good fucking for a bit. Yes, I'm sure that there are some people who are surprisingly prudish in their thinking about this. For you. That you should be wearing black and sad all the time and all the stuff. They don't understand grief. They don't understand the up and down and back and forth. They don't understand that everything has been turned upside down and sometimes you just fucking need something. And that is how you survive. I totally get it if you don't even want to deal with the possibility of those attitudes from people. So keeping it a secret isn't the end of the world, just don't be ashamed of it. You are totally normal. I get you.
  10. N00Bi

    Who's Your Celebrity Crush?

    @Melvie Oh, yes Colbert. Did you see him some years back when he shaved his head? Lordy he was hawt.
  11. I got this in an email today from queer theology. It's one of the daily affirmations. It was for thinking about how this might apply to us in queer culture. I think it's really interesting to think about, especially as bisexuals, that we are straddling these different communities as well as making our own. We have input from the gay community, we have input in telling us how we're supposed to be from the straight community, and then we form our own bisexual community and still have our own ways of thinking there. And for those of us who have a faith, we also have whatever is coming at us from sometimes multiple streams of that faith. And then if you are part of a non-dominant culture, that adds to it. We have a lot going on and a lot to process. Being bi is not easy.
  12. I saw this quotation I'm going to share and see if anybody wants to talk about it, but I figured this could also be where other people can post similar things without starting a new thread. Cradled in one culture, sandwiched between two cultures, straddling all three cultures and their value systems, la mestiza undergoes a struggle of flesh, a struggle of borders, an inner war. Like all people, we perceive the version of reality that our culture communicated. LIke others having or living more than one culture, we get multiple, often opposing messages. The coming together of two self-consistent but habitually incompatible frames of reference causes un choque, a cultural collision. - Gloria Evangelina Anzaldúa
  13. Today I paid for my first haircut in probably a decade. I called the salon and I asked for someone good with curly hair. I am told that this woman is good with the curly hair and she has curly ish hair. She doesn't listen to me. She doesn't leave it funky she cut it way shorter than I want. I am full of sad right now.

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    2. myladylove


      Hairdressers appear to be getting more and more careless these days. They are very ‘clicky’ places. If they don’t know and like you then they don’t try very hard. I haven’t been to mine for a couple of months because of this attitude. If you don’t sit there and regail stories of a full exciting life they don’t want to talk to you or bother much with your hair. The last time I went and had my colour done she put the wrong tone in and my scalp went bright red. She then proceeded to tell me I must have bacteria on my scalp and I should use baby shampoo. Yeah right. I had been going there for four years and they treat me like I am a stranger. The whole thing becomes a tortuous ordeal. I have been getting a quick fringe cut elsewhere and letting mine grow cos I am so angry and fed up with them. Positive side? It’s saving me some money. I sympathise with you, hope you find somewhere better next time.

    3. amsterrock


      I think cutting hair is way harder than it looks. I've had some bad experiences as well. Just try someone new next time, be more picky about what you want, and you ll eventually find someone that ll fit perfectly! I know it sucks right now, but it'll pass. 

    4. N00Bi


      I usually don't let anybody cut my hair. I don't really need to. I have curly hair I keep shaving parts of it and I cut it off and I do it myself. Like I said, I hadn't paid anyone to do it and probably a decade. I'm growing it out and it just needed a little bit of shape. It isn't, in and of itself, a bad look. It just is the exact freaking same my hair was a few months ago. Except a little bit worse. Instead of it being asymmetrical, it is the same length all the way around and so I will be in the exact same place I was before the cut yesterday in just a couple months. All that growth I was doing is gone. It is now at my ears once it's curly instead of the front pieces being down below my chin. I'm just really pissed that I paid for it.