Gemini82

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  1. Oh, I’m so pleased for you!!! I hope you have the most amazing time together x
  2. Hi @Aussiemum79, I’m in a similar position - recently separated from my husband because I’ve realised I want to be with women. Sending a hug, because it’s a hard and long road out of marriage. I can imagine your heartache in the situation with your girlfriend. I do hope that she is feeling better soon and you can both get back on track. My oldest friend suffers heavily with depression, and she always goes quiet when she’s in a dark place. It’s so hard not to take it personally, but each time she comes out the other end she always says she’s glad I kept in contact, even though at the time she couldn’t bring herself to reply.
  3. I won’t lie to you - it’s horrible and it hurts and I don’t want it to happen! But neither do I want to be living a lie, so I’m just taking it one day at a time, thinking of the bigger picture. Yes, things are happening quickly, but neither of us can afford to move out and my mind has been made up, so we might as well get on with it. Nothing is going to be achieved by us living in the same house not moving forward in any way. My bravery ebbs and flows, but I have some wonderful friends who pick me back up and all the time I’m having to tell people and their reactions boost me too - you only live once, people change in different directions, you’ve got to be true to yourself, you’re so brave, everything will work out, you’re doing the right thing, etc. For me, there was a catalyst and a reaction and it all cane to a head - if that hadn’t happened, I’m still be plodding along, not listening to myself, for goodness knows how long!!!
  4. We felt it was fate too!!! We just clicked instantly, we live in the same country, and I also had a work trip planned to the city that was bang in the middle of our miles apart. It was definitely meant to be. It’s so hard to work out, but hopefully you’ll find your way forward.
  5. Thank you Ame, Your words of encouragement are really appreciated and came at the right time. I needed to hear that!
  6. Although this forum is not a dating site, I was lucky enough to meet someone from here. I’d replied to her post, she messaged me to say thank you and we’ve since met up and had the most incredible night together! As for meeting people in the real world…I don’t know! Just stay open to opportunity I guess.
  7. @barbie!girl I think I was where you are for quite some time before the catalyst of my amazing night. I pushed things to the back of my mind, but now with reflection I can see that I was slowly withdrawing from my husband in many ways. It’s not easy and only you can work out what is best for you and if you are ready to move on. Good luck with it all x
  8. Thank you for your replies ladies, it means a lot. An update: my bravery started to run out over the past few days, but I was lucky to have support in my life to help me see the bigger picture and be honest to myself and my husband. He has been desperate to make things work, clutching at straws and offering me different scenarios to try and keep our marriage. But I know that I couldn’t fulfill his wants and needs, and I can see that he felt out of control and was trying to claw some of it back. Yesterday, despite not wanting to, he filed for divorce. Today we tell our daughter and in 10 days the house will be photographed to go on the market. All these things fill me with dread, but I know in my gut that it is the right thing to do.
  9. Thank you for your replies ladies. It’s been such a horrid week, I feel like I’ve pulled out my husband’s heart and stamped on it. Even more so tonight as he’s been pleading with me to make it work somehow, but I know in my soul that I can’t. Despite a good family life with our 7 year old daughter, I just can’t live a lie. I can’t be the wife he wants me to be. @Storm9 I thought I would be able to carry on and pretend, I really did. I didn’t see this outcome until it was too late. Thank you @Cloudburst; it’s reassuring to know you’ve done the same. I said those same words to a friend yesterday. The woman I met can’t leave her husband, and I understand that. I would never expect her to, neither would I want her to go through the heartache that I’m in right now. Yet, I too (like @MidnightBabe and @ZoeAnne) just want HER. In time, I will move on, but I can guarantee she will always have a special place in my heart.
  10. I never thought I would be writing this post…but a week ago I told my husband that our marriage was over. My bisexuality has developed, to the point where I don’t want to be with a man at all and I don’t love him in the way that a wife should. About 18 months ago, my feelings towards women really stepped up a notch and in that time I have struggled to connect sexually with my husband. I got to the point where I was feeling really unhappy that I might never get to be with a woman sexually again (previous experience was limited and many years ago). My husband, who has always known of my bisexuality, tried to understand my desires and said it would be ok to find someone to explore with. Recently, I met a wonderful woman online, who also had an understanding husband. We messaged non stop, then moved onto phone calls and FaceTime and very quickly had made a strong connection with each other. We met at a hotel and had a proper date - a first for both of us. What followed was the most incredible, highly erotic marathon of a night that I never, ever want to forget and I hope that we will get to repeat. Wow! During our time together, something clicked into place. Every thing that this beautiful woman and I did, felt right. It was natural, I enjoyed every moment of both giving and receiving and I was distraught at the idea of never having that again. Less than 24 hours after saying goodbye to this incredible woman, the reality kicked in that I might need to end my marriage. I couldn’t see myself going back to my husband and being happy, or being able to remotely enjoy sex with him. I was worried that I would just be pretending. My worries were correct. I had to do the right thing and be truthful and honest to both myself and my husband. I don’t regret my night of passion one bit; that incredible woman has helped me to realise that sex can be absolutely amazing and that I was ready to make a change in my life and start accepting who I really am. I don’t regret my marriage either; my husband and I have had a wonderful 14 years together, we have a beautiful daughter and will remain a great team - both for parenting and support for each other through life.
  11. Welcome to the forum, it’s a really lovely place to be!
  12. Welcome to the forum!
  13. It can be a huge thing for them to take in - suddenly you aren’t the person that they thought you were. He may feel threatened, scared, angry - all at the same time. He might need some time to adjust If you get into a meaningful conversation with him, it would be worth sharing how you felt by his reaction of exposing you - no one expects to be treated that way by their loved one. Good luck for your situation, I hope things are calmer very soon.
  14. @MidnightBabe I don’t think it’s possible to get a quick turn around on this. It takes time and even then, you might not find your perfect outcome. My hubby has always known about my bisexuality and we recently talked about my having a relationship with another married woman (this has slowly developed from 18 months ago agreeing that I could kiss a woman if the chance ever arose). Some of the time he says the right things and seems to be ok with the idea, but then there are signs that he wouldn’t be - worried, jealous, wanting to know intimate details and control of the situation. There’s also the chance that if your/my husband did agree to a poly situation, they may decide at any point that they are not comfortable with it any more and demand the extra relationship to stop. Another shys lady pointed this out to me last week and it really stuck - I would be devastated and then most probably have negative feelings towards him. There is a lot to consider - good luck with your situation.
  15. Thank you all for your responses ladies - I feel like the nail has been hit on the head. He finds the idea arousing and would want to know details for his sexual fulfilment. Also to have knowledge that I’m not going to leave our marriage and run off with another woman. He has said ‘I’ll be ok with it, if it makes you happy’, but that isn’t the point. He is a worrier, he dwells on things too much. I think the doubt, unease and jealousy could kick in and ruin us. Right now, it obviously isn’t for us and I really appreciate all your replies which have helped me to see that. Maybe years down the line, things might be different.