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  1. Basically hungry i blame my gf for her love, loyalty and commitment to me. She is taking 14 weeks to stay with me in the middle of nowhere and planning to move to australia. No other girl or guy i have talled to online have offered that. She says i am her first priority but i am not the first priority of the many others. It males me value her love higher. And makes me want to climb up mountains to be with her, to want to spend my life and my final moments with her. Im.also marchinh openly in our gay prode parade as part an australian south asia queer group. Not sure i will remain in the closet as politically ive beem very active last 5 months. Now that ive started coming out hard to go back
  2. True they cant do much.i just wouldnt want my family to face stigma and be affected by others. My dad, brother, my aunt and grandma all voted yes for marriage equality. They couldnt tell others in their neighbourhood to vote yes because of the backwardness of the mentality. When she comes over my family might be ok with it but not accept marriage to her as its not something they are used to. My brothers ex gf is a christian homophobe who dumped him because he wasnt christian. He still likes her and they talk frequently. She was trying to convince him to vote no to ssm but in the end he listened to my arguments and voted yes. One of his best friends is an evangelical Christian. My dad tried to convince his work colleagues to vote yes. Some east asian and some east europeans but they voted no. Not to generalise for all. My family voted yes because i was convincing but they dont know about me. I dont think they will disown or ostracise me but might tolerate but not accept my gf. In australia only 12 out of 150 places voted no to ssm. I live in one place and work in another. It might not be that much of a strain but people around me especially my friends will keep talking of boys and marriage. Even if i tell close friends what if it slips out from.them. A cover, according to me, and maybe im wrong would end all this speculation amongst people. A gay cover would be in the same situation and would understand. He would not interfere in time i could spend with my gf. I couls cuddle with her at night, hold her when she has nightmares from.the past. We could cook for each other. She could pack my lunch for busy days like she wants to. For a brief time last yr i had found a bi guy who was divorced with 2 kids. He accepted my relationship and had number of good qualities. Except he kept conparing himself to my gf and seeing himself as less. My gf would reply to me everyday and he would once every few days because he needed space. Another thing was he was bitter against women and feminism.due to hia custody battle. Initially i was supportive then i found out he had been emotionally abusive towards his ex wife and had slapped her.That was unacceptable regardless of reason. I just didnt want to be emotionally involved with a guy or deal with ego issues or insecurity issues. With a straight guy even in an open relationship i might face this issue. He may not be comfortable with me spending nights with my gf. My gf supports my career success, she doesnt have ego and understands i may need to marry for societal reasons. She was part of a british queer muslim group where some of the girls had married gay guys for convenience and met up with their gfs regularly and in holidays. Its kind of sad but that had become their world. A bi guy in a relationship would be good. But its really hard to find someome understanding, without ego issues and for someone who understands your point of view. I think the gay guys i know here would react same as your friends. There are a few with parents overseas who may be ok with it. Basically the guy is to come to social occasions or at events involving family friends and any homophobes i know. We can live close together or even in the same house but i would live with my gf and be there for her. If he was straight or bi it would be on a rotational basis 4 days with her/3 days with him. Then the next week would be 4 days with her/3 days with him. They are free to have their own other one relationship (with safe sex) or pursue leisure activities. If he was gay he would provide sperm for children and if he was straight/bi he could help with procreation. My gf wants to carry my child so he would have to be ok with that. He can contribute sperm. Haha i know this sounds complicated and amusing. I dont really think im going to find such a person. I really love my gf from what ive known so far so if i did marry a guy he would have to know about her. Maybe i could just move because the backwardness of my community wont change. Its just my dad is a widower and my aunt and grandma have various health issues. I want to be there for them as i was away for medical school. My gf wants to help out with my family and she is a great cook. We plan to jointly make some healthy meals for my dad when we visit. She has offered to buy him a shoulder brace /pack thing for his back pain I hope they wholeheartedly accept her. I will find out when she visits. My brother suspects me and my dad has some suspicion. Theyve told me not to marry just for them at the same time when my dad talks of marriage he only mentions marriage to a male.
  3. My gf lives in the UK and im from Australia. We have had phone sex, online sex etc in our 6 month relationship but i feel like real life might be a bit different. We are both from sheltered south asian families so this will be our first everything together including first kiss as embarrassing as it sounds. I am of Hindu background and she is of Muslim.background but lived in UK all her life. . Its been hard to come to terms with our sexual orientations. I never thought i would explore this side till i met her. In our 6 months so far we have not had any issues. Our main issues will be intolerance and homophobia from the outside world. She is coming at a time when i have a work placement in a rural area away from.my family and friends so we can just be together and forget the outside world. Even when my family later encouraged to find a bf i never found someone i had enough emotional connection with to kiss. The guys i met online never had that emotional connection i have with my gf. I am hoping our first time to be a day together. As in the experience should last for a day at least. She asked me what lingerie i like for her so i told her the type and colour with garters so will request her to wear it on that day. I feel like i dont want to rush things so my idea of foreplay is going to be long. 1. Spend a day doing fun and adventurous activities she likes such as hiking and in between getting time for kissing. 2. First kiss as the sun sets on the beach and the waves gently caress our partially naked legs. Then going for a long walk along the beach while holding hands and caressing each other. 3. Candlelight dinner by the beach. Plus use of food as a tool to enhance intimacy. Whipped cream, melted chocolate, blindfolding her while she guesses the exotic fruits i eat off her body. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/gmp2736/food-sex/&ved=2ahUKEwjP0fv2luDYAhXHULwKHdICAoAQFjADegQIDxAB&usg=AOvVaw0Ss4LbINrd7Jwe_aqS9Js4&cf=1 4. Then heading to our romantically set out beach cabin with candlelight, rose petals and her favourite flowers. Her favourite flowers and music playing. She likes the song "love is in the air" and symphony. Or boyz2men "i'll make love to you." So hoping to slow dance while kissing her neck. We plan to go to these rainbow dance classes together where same sex couples and others can dance. I want to be able to do those dipping kisses. 5. Kissing and caressing her entire body from.top to toe while she is clothed. Undressing her bit by bit and kissing the freshly exposed skin from her upper chest, shoulders, cleavage, upper arms, arm pits and abdomen. Unhooking her bra then caressing/kissing her back. Taking a strap off an arm caressing/kissing the arm then doing the same on the other side. Likewise she can do the same to me. 6. Showering together so we can soap each other and kiss under the water 7. Or being in a bathtub together with rose petals in the water surrounded by candlelight. Feeding each other fruits and champagne. Telling her how lucky i am to know her and sharing poems we have written to each other over the 9 months. 7.5 with the skin being the largest sex organ with number of nerve endings ot definitely needs focus. Like smooth satin gliding over surface i will touch her gently and slowly with the tip of my middle finger over her shoulders, jaw, cheekbones, neck, arm, legs, feet, buttock, back of knees and sides. Then would run my fingertips over her body in wavy strokes. Using the heel of my palm i would use gliding and long strokes all over her body to relax her and more responsive. 8. A whole body massage from her feet, ankles, soles of her foot up her legs while using her favourite massage oil. Possibly also a feather or rose petal. Stroking and caressing her legs and feet. I feel like feet often get neglected and should be given extra attention. Then going from her fingers, up her hands and arms. Before i massage her scalp, face, neck, shoulders and back. At the end would be breast, nipples, knee, inner thighs and vaginal/clitoral massage with her permission. Hopefully i can help her have a few orgasms before we even start oral. On the phone when i talk about kissing/nibbling/sucking body parts she does orgasm. https://www.livestrong.com/article/35692-give-sensual-full-body-massage/ https://consciouslifenews.com/bring-woman-orgasm-tantric-clitoral-massage/11123208/ https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DgWZ2hBNE3W8&ved=2ahUKEwjdvK_HouDYAhWMi5QKHdSUD6wQFjAGegQICRAB&usg=AOvVaw0g1Ri4fzz_iUMAoYkQ8w0e Side effect of long distance relationships you end up having a good imagination and doing a lot of research while u are away from the person. The following parts are inspires from betterloverseminar a subcontinental sex ed column. 8. Whole body foreplay - running my fingers through her hair, kissing her forehead, eyebrows, eyes, cheeks, jawline, caressing her shoulders, fondling her ear lobes caressing her neck, stroking sides of arms, stroking back, fondling her buttocks, kissing her abdomen, stroking her inner thighs, nibbling her calves, licking and kissing the back of her knees, nibbling back of her neck, licking her armpits, sucking her ear lobes, nibbling undersides of her breasts, then covering her back with soft kisses and nibbling. Contrasting hot and cold sensations by first having something hot then kissing her then having an ice cube in my mouth for fee seconds then kissing her. Then to kiss her lips. But to gently move any hair out of her face so i can see all of her face. Holding her head and neck in my hands while kissing. Then when kissing would caress her face, up and down her back, her side,with fingers through her hair, her ear lobes, thighs and her arms, Then would hold her waist tight while kissing her mouth. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://stylesatlife.com/articles/different-types-of-kisses/&ved=0ahUKEwjy0vX2sODYAhVFlJQKHcg5BB8QFghGMAQ&usg=AOvVaw1zU36oYWMCwolfk0il7J1M breasts and her vulva at the end. Erogenous zones including the lesser known ones. Making sure to kiss, nibble, lick areas as appropriate. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/the-lesser-known-erogenous-zones-and-how-to-find-them-10419267.html&ved=0ahUKEwj47rzeseDYAhUEE7wKHaivCssQFggyMAI&usg=AOvVaw2lFaSgHgGu80kwnavu0AlY 9. Focusing on the breasts From the base of the breast i plan to kiss, nibble and lick till i complete a circular round. Then to go up an inch higher and do the same in circular motions up to the areola to increase anticipation which can be a turn on. Then i would kiss the circular patch of the areola with the tip of my tongue. Finally would lick the nipple then lightly blow on it causing contrasting sensations of heat/moisture and then cooling sensation. Then would lower my mouth to cover her nipples with the moist warmth of the mouth with my tongue flicking around it internally. While taking the nipple in my mouth would lick, suck and use ny tongue around it while kneading her breast. Then would lick honey off from all over her breast with the flat of my tongue. While my mouth is on her breast i would gently squeeze one hand and fondle the breast with the other hand. Making sure i get feedback and letting her know how much i enjoy it. Not missing the areas between, under and around the breast. 10. Oral I will let her know im hungry and hoping for a meal only she can provide me.. Following a path kissing, licking, nuzzling down from her breasts, abdomen, knees, inner thighs etx Would want to kiss, nibble with my lips and lick my way from her inner thighs to her vulva Would then kiss and lick the area around the vulva. Then lick from the bottom of her vagina to the clitoris. Licking the outer lips with my tongue then nibbling. Then would move my tongue to lick her inner lips then the opening of her vagina circling around it, inserting my tongue inside moving it up, down and around. Then follow with a finger or 2. After she is fully aroused would lick her clitoris. Licking the underside of the clitoris and then the sides before direct stimulation on the clitoral hood when she is fully aroused. I will have my mouth on her vulva and then flick by her clitoris every 10 seconds. Once aroused i will suck her clitoris into my mouth and then rapidly flick it with my tongue internally. Going slowly with the speed of it. I will let her know how much i love giving her oral, there is no hurry and how much i want to enjoy each moment and how much i love the aroma and taste of her & ask for feedback regarding whether it is too intense or where she wants me to be. 11. Fingers Trim fingertips gently teasing from the vulva, to the inner thighs, her pubis to the perineum(area between vagina to anus) Would probably need decent amount of lubrication as would she. You can never have too much lubrication. Oral sex and insertion of 2 fingers etc Mixture of oral and fingers. 12. Tribbing and scissoring if she is ok with it and will maybe leave other fancy positions, any toys ot strap on etc to future love sessions if she is interested https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://sex.sofeminine.co.uk/relationships/album961435/lesbian-kama-sutra-100-sex-positions-for-women-0.html&ved=2ahUKEwj0kIfSreDYAhUMgbwKHaqoB0wQFjAAegQIEBAB&usg=AOvVaw2V4bGgR55X1jL81CiB3uXZ 13. Cuddles and holding her after and telling her what she means to me and how lucky i am to know her and to have her be my soulmate in life 14.. Breakfast in bed with use of food in a sensual way like above. I guess it may seem like im putting pressure on myself but i want her to have a magical time. Apart from myself and my ideas i dont have much in the way of experience to offer her. But i do have a lot of enthusiasm. If there are any romantic movie sterotypes ive forgotten please let me know. My gf is a romantic like me so we're both into cheesy activities. I will bring up these ideas with her but i want some elements to be a surprise. My question is what more you would have liked in foreplay for your first time? And also want to give hope to the long distance couples out there. People say it wont work but if you have love, commitment and a pathway for your relationship no distance can create distanve between 2 hearts. I never thought living in Australia i would fall in love with a british girl with a hot accent who would love me enough to think about moving permanently but i have. My gf is aware of me posting stuff online about our relationship and she is ok with it. Any other romantic suggestions are welcome. Cant discuss this with too many of my friends.
  4. That sounds amazing. I want to make the first time for my gf similarly magical
  5. I noticed there was a thread on what people want from sex. Many said foreplay. So the question is what more do you want from foreplay? Also will probably have sex for the first time with anyone when my gf comes and visits from overseas. Its also her first time. I want to make sure it is the perfect experience for her. We would have known each other for 9 months then. What did u wish u had more of in your first time or first time with a woman? The rest below was what my idea of foreplay is from what ive read online and what females like. Since ive never had sex with male/female this is theoretical knowledge i hope to apply in 3 months when my gf comes over. It will be the first time for both of us. We have had phone and online sex but not met yet. She likes and responds to what i say on the phone. I dont know if this belongs in this sectiom or the fantasy thread. It is what i hope to make the first time.for her. ********* We have had phone sex, online sex etc in our 6 month relationship but i feel like real life might be a bit different. We are both from sheltered south asian families so this will be our first everything together including first kiss as embarrassing as it sounds. I am of indian Hindu background and she is of bangladeshi Muslim.background but lived in UK all her life. . Its been hard to come to terms with our sexual orientations. I never thought i would explore this side till i met her. In our 6 months so far we have not had any f issues. Our main issues will be intolerance and homophobia from the outside world. She is coming at a time when i have a work placement in a rural area away from.my family and friends so we can just be together and forget the outside world. Even when my family later encouraged to find a bf i never found someone i had enough emotional connection with to kiss. The guys i met online never had that emotional connection i have with my gf. I am hoping our first time to be a day together. As in the experience should last for a day at least. She asked me what lingerie i like for her so i told her the type and colour with garters so will request her to wear it on that day. I feel like i dont want to rush things so my idea of foreplay is going to be long. 1. Spend a day doing fun and adventurous activities she likes such as hiking and in between getting time for kissing. 2. First kiss as the sun sets on the beach and the waves gently caress our partially naked legs. Then going for a long walk along the beach while holding hands and caressing each other. 3. Candlelight dinner by the beach. Plus use of food as a tool to enhance intimacy. Whipped cream, melted chocolate, blindfolding her while she guesses the exotic fruits i eat off her body. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/gmp2736/food-sex/&ved=2ahUKEwjP0fv2luDYAhXHULwKHdICAoAQFjADegQIDxAB&usg=AOvVaw0Ss4LbINrd7Jwe_aqS9Js4&cf=1 4. Then heading to our romantically set out beach cabin with candlelight, rose petals and her favourite flowers. Her favourite flowers and music playing. She likes the song "love is in the air" and symphony. Or boyz2men "i'll make love to you." So hoping to slow dance while kissing her neck. We plan to go to these rainbow dance classes together where same sex couples and others can dance. I want to be able to do those dipping kisses. 5. Kissing and caressing her entire body from.top to toe while she is clothed. Undressing her bit by bit and kissing the freshly exposed skin from her upper chest, shoulders, cleavage, upper arms, arm pits and abdomen. Unhooking her bra then caressing/kissing her back. Taking a strap off an arm caressing/kissing the arm then doing the same on the other side. Likewise she can do the same to me. 6. Showering together so we can soap each other and kiss under the water 7. Or being in a bathtub together with rose petals in the water surrounded by candlelight. Feeding each other fruits and champagne. Telling her how lucky i am to know her and sharing poems we have written to each other over the 9 months. 7.5 with the skin being the largest sex organ with number of nerve endings ot definitely needs focus. Like smooth satin gliding over surface i will touch her gently and slowly with the tip of my middle finger over her shoulders, jaw, cheekbones, neck, arm, legs, feet, buttock, back of knees and sides. Then would run my fingertips over her body in wavy strokes. Using the heel of my palm i would use gliding and long strokes all over her body to relax her and more responsive. 8. A whole body massage from her feet, ankles, soles of her foot up her legs while using her favourite massage oil. Possibly also a feather or rose petal. Stroking and caressing her legs and feet. I feel like feet often get neglected and should be given extra attention. Then going from her fingers, up her hands and arms. Before i massage her scalp, face, neck, shoulders and back. At the end would be breast, nipples, knee, inner thighs and vaginal/clitoral massage with her permission. Hopefully i can help her have a few orgasms before we even start oral. On the phone when i talk about kissing/nibbling/sucking body parts she does orgasm. https://www.livestrong.com/article/35692-give-sensual-full-body-massage/ https://consciouslifenews.com/bring-woman-orgasm-tantric-clitoral-massage/11123208/ https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DgWZ2hBNE3W8&ved=2ahUKEwjdvK_HouDYAhWMi5QKHdSUD6wQFjAGegQICRAB&usg=AOvVaw0g1Ri4fzz_iUMAoYkQ8w0e Side effect of long distance relationships you end up having a good imagination and doing a lot of research while u are away from the person. The following parts are inspires from betterloverseminar a subcontinental sex ed column. 8. Whole body foreplay - running my fingers through her hair, kissing her forehead, eyebrows, eyes, cheeks, jawline, caressing her shoulders, fondling her ear lobes caressing her neck, stroking sides of arms, stroking back, fondling her buttocks, kissing her abdomen, stroking her inner thighs, nibbling her calves, licking and kissing the back of her knees, nibbling back of her neck, licking her armpits, sucking her ear lobes, nibbling undersides of her breasts, then covering her back with soft kisses and nibbling. Contrasting hot and cold sensations by first having something hot then kissing her then having an ice cube in my mouth for fee seconds then kissing her. Then to kiss her lips. But to gently move any hair out of her face so i can see all of her face. Holding her head and neck in my hands while kissing. Then when kissing would caress her face, up and down her back, her side,with fingers through her hair, her ear lobes, thighs and her arms, Then would hold her waist tight while kissing her mouth. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://stylesatlife.com/articles/different-types-of-kisses/&ved=0ahUKEwjy0vX2sODYAhVFlJQKHcg5BB8QFghGMAQ&usg=AOvVaw1zU36oYWMCwolfk0il7J1M breasts and her vulva at the end. Erogenous zones including the lesser known ones. Making sure to kiss, nibble, lick areas as appropriate. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/the-lesser-known-erogenous-zones-and-how-to-find-them-10419267.html&ved=0ahUKEwj47rzeseDYAhUEE7wKHaivCssQFggyMAI&usg=AOvVaw2lFaSgHgGu80kwnavu0AlY 9. Focusing on the breasts From the base of the breast i plan to kiss, nibble and lick till i complete a circular round. Then to go up an inch higher and do the same in circular motions up to the areola to increase anticipation which can be a turn on. Then i would kiss the circular patch of the areola with the tip of my tongue. Finally would lick the nipple then lightly blow on it causing contrasting sensations of heat/moisture and then cooling sensation. Then would lower my mouth to cover her nipples with the moist warmth of the mouth with my tongue flicking around it internally. While taking the nipple in my mouth would lick, suck and use ny tongue around it while kneading her breast. Then would lick honey off from all over her breast with the flat of my tongue. While my mouth is on her breast i would gently squeeze one hand and fondle the breast with the other hand. Making sure i get feedback and letting her know how much i enjoy it. Not missing the areas between, under and around the breast. 10. Oral I will let her know im hungry and hoping for a meal only she can provide me.. Following a path kissing, licking, nuzzling down from her breasts, abdomen, knees, inner thighs etx Would want to kiss, nibble with my lips and lick my way from her inner thighs to her vulva Would then kiss and lick the area around the vulva. Then lick from the bottom of her vagina to the clitoris. Licking the outer lips with my tongue then nibbling. Then would move my tongue to lick her inner lips then the opening of her vagina circling around it, inserting my tongue inside moving it up, down and around. Then follow with a finger or 2. After she is fully aroused would lick her clitoris. Licking the underside of the clitoris and then the sides before direct stimulation on the clitoral hood when she is fully aroused. I will have my mouth on her vulva and then flick by her clitoris every 10 seconds. Once aroused i will suck her clitoris into my mouth and then rapidly flick it with my tongue internally. Going slowly with the speed of it. I will let her know how much i love giving her oral, there is no hurry and how much i want to enjoy each moment and how much i love the aroma and taste of her & ask for feedback regarding whether it is too intense or where she wants me to be. 11. Fingers Trim fingertips gently teasing from the vulva, to the inner thighs, her pubis to the perineum(area between vagina to anus) Would probably need decent amount of lubrication as would she. You can never have too much lubrication. Oral sex and insertion of 2 fingers etc Mixture of oral and fingers. 12. Tribbing and scissoring if she is ok with it and will maybe leave other fancy positions, any toys ot strap on etc to future love sessions if she is interested https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://sex.sofeminine.co.uk/relationships/album961435/lesbian-kama-sutra-100-sex-positions-for-women-0.html&ved=2ahUKEwj0kIfSreDYAhUMgbwKHaqoB0wQFjAAegQIEBAB&usg=AOvVaw2V4bGgR55X1jL81CiB3uXZ 13. Cuddles and holding her after and telling her what she means to me and how lucky i am to know her and to have her be my soulmate in life 14.. Breakfast in bed with use of food in a sensual way like above. I guess it may seem like im putting pressure on myself but i want her to have a magical time. Apart from myself and my ideas i dont have much in the way of experience to offer her. But i do have a lot of enthusiasm. If there are any romantic movie sterotypes ive forgotten please let me know. My gf is a romantic like me so we're both into cheesy activities. I will bring up these ideas with her but i want some elements to be a surprise. My question is what more you would have liked in foreplay for your first time? And also want to give hope to the long distance couples out there. People say it wont work but if you have love, commitment and a pathway for your relationship no distance can create distanve between 2 hearts. I never thought living in Australia i would fall in love with a british girl with a hot accent who would love me enough to think about moving permanently but i have. My gf is aware of me posting stuff online about our relationship and she is ok with it. Any other romantic suggestions are welcome. Cant discuss this with too many of my friends.
  6. I may end up being out to friends who are accepting and gay friendly. Maybe not to some family members, to religious homophobes and those who know them in my family social network. Maybe not out professionally. If i pretend to be single for a long time people will figure it out. So i might need a gay male friend for social cover yet will live with my gf. I agree it will put a strain on my relationship so just going slowly at moment. Counting down 85 days till she arrives
  7. Thanks for the reply. Its given me good food for thought. I guess id only know which one id really prefer after trying both. For me having an emotional and romantic connection is just as important. Have found that with only a few guys but they werent that sexual and didnt feel that attracted to them. I think i like being reciprocal more than For me personally penetration isnt that big a thing for me as i think oral and fingers would be adequate. Im happy if there is more but ok if there is not. It depends on the individual for me some males/females make effort others dont. I had plenty of disappointing experiences beforr my gf. Had it not been for her i would have ended up trying to pursue a relationship with a guy. Like with your sexual experience with a woman i just want to try it once and possibly have children but not sure about that. Arms around you with oral or hugs? Is it like how woman can move your head in deeper.
  8. @Shy_Kat great thread. There are some good websites and videos online. Even some classes which train you then you and partner can perform on each other if going to a massage therapist does not seem reliable. I plan to do one on my gf and vice versa
  9. You are right. I dont need to be out. My gf is fine if i am not out and everyone thinks of her as my close friend. I think eventually people will figure it out especially if we have children. Friends and family keep asking me if i like any guys, or dating anyone. Whether they should set me up on blind dates to get me married. My gf has said if we meet and i dont feel chemistry she will understand. She wants me to be happy even if not with me but she will always love me. She said she wants to remember every moment with me. She says i need to be confident in my abilities and never doubt myself. She said her body reacts to my voice, my kisses and touch (on the phone). That she often dreams of me and cooking for me. She said i need a bigger ego. She says the perfect things to me and i feel i cant leave her just to explore even if thats what i wanted initially. When i cant sleep due to the past she tells me bedtime stories. So like u said i should just be happy with love and see how it goes. I think i kind of outed myself during the marriage equality campaign even if npt directly. But it does feel like double standards not wanting those rights for myself like i want for others. Sometimes i think i just want social cover like a gay guy so people dont ask me if im dating a guy. Like a trophy husband for occasions. Then i think it would be a farce not a real marriage and children wouldnt be an outcome. Youre right. For now I just need to respect the love and the one who loves me.
  10. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4549126&ved=2ahUKEwjc1aCP6t_YAhVP57wKHWWVD7sQFjAGegQIEhAB&usg=AOvVaw2xHqBSHhhyovZnh0TqudAB Shane carmen scene for u ..oral sex at 431 https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3D2CWFN3EQxJk&ved=0ahUKEwiNgL6d8d_YAhWBtpQKHTkPDN8QtwIIJTAA&usg=AOvVaw2-8E4Nk3ZBqNcw3rMinIiT I always like to help out my fellow country women
  11. Out of curiosity in what ways is falling for a woman, being in a relationship and having sexual relations different from that of a male. I guess it depends on the individual person but in what ways were the relationships different. I havent had physical relations with a female or male and maybe after trying it out i can make a better decision.
  12. I have a thread on differences in sex with men vs women. According to you what was better with women then men when it comes to sex and relationships? I have a gf who i love and would have wanted to be exclusive with but i wonder if i should try being with a guy as a comparison as ive never been with one.
  13. Agree with you. I am more emotionally and romantically inclined towards women. Probably will be sexually too. I have not had sex with either but from romantic and flirtatious interactions i am more inclined towards women and wining and dining a woman i am in love with is a dream. I think it maybe depends on whether someone lets a female into their heart to be romantic and intimate with or if its a purely sexual thing. Either way it should be made clear from the outset so there are no mismatched expectations or any leading on. It could be fear of homophobia. Its not easy to have a same sex relationship compared to being in a heterosexual relationships. Many may feel it is easier to be with a guy than have true love with female. Heteroflexible is another term ive heard for someone who is otherwise heterosexu but flexible to have a physical relation with a female once in a while. Sinilarly there is a term called homoflexible. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heteroflexibility&ved=0ahUKEwjc1aCP6t_YAhVP57wKHWWVD7sQFggxMAI&usg=AOvVaw0xgxdORcLOClFcpvbIsqOU Heteroflexible could be a shade of bisexual or another identity. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/4549126&ved=2ahUKEwjc1aCP6t_YAhVP57wKHWWVD7sQFjAGegQIEhAB&usg=AOvVaw2xHqBSHhhyovZnh0TqudAB
  14. What are your fav love scenes in tv and movies? This is one of my favourite kissing/love scenes. From the movie Elena undone Easy to get undone watching this https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DZHKznWabwj4&ved=0ahUKEwiG5qvr3N_YAhUGoJQKHRYdAVYQtwIIJTAA&usg=AOvVaw3Wu6moKY6SRj-2rPW5DZuF Shane and Carmen scene from the L word. In english https://youtu.be/LJfUIXaaKIk Found it in spanish https://tune.pk/video/4382514/shane-and-carmen-season-2-hot The same scene with a song https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DZHKznWabwj4&ved=0ahUKEwiG5qvr3N_YAhUGoJQKHRYdAVYQtwIIJTAA&usg=AOvVaw3Wu6moKY6SRj-2rPW5DZuF
  15. There is actually an app and a book called lesbian kama sutra. I came across this article and found it quite interesting. 100 positions with great cartoon illustrations. How many have you tried? https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://sex.sofeminine.co.uk/relationships/album961435/lesbian-kama-sutra-100-sex-positions-for-women-0.html&ved=2ahUKEwimyNfQyt_YAhVFpJQKHePTBBcQFjAAegQIEBAB&usg=AOvVaw2V4bGgR55X1jL81CiB3uXZ https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.lesbiannews.com/your-lesbian-kama-sutra-positions/&ved=2ahUKEwimyNfQyt_YAhVFpJQKHePTBBcQFjAMegQICBAB&usg=AOvVaw3acIjkXhN4rqnOiHkHTrLo Being of indian background i am obviously an expert in all this just kidding. Some of these positions would definitely require some yoga, pilates etc