Rani

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  1. I came across this article written by a bi female. https://psiloveyou.xyz/a-rigged-outcome-why-bisexual-women-struggle-in-lesbian-relationships-5ef9636e0bc
  2. On Equal marriage equality page the premier page for fighting for lgbt rights there was an interesting article. Bisexual women speak out about what they want other bi women, especially younger ones, know. The equal marriage rights page focused on the bi aspect of the article. Post is from 9th March https://www.facebook.com/EMRAUST/ nice supportive comments ‘What I want young queer women in Australia to know’: leaders speak out "I want young women who identify with any label under the bi umbrella to know that your sexuality is valid" http://www.starobserver.com.au/news/national-news/international-womens-day/167030
  3. For the first time this year I marched in Mardi gras . I was on the south Asian LGBT float called Trikone. I know we had people of all flavours of the rainbow from bi, lesbians and gay guys as well as transgenders. We also had some straight allies. It was a great experience. I noticed some of the other floats had focused on other non gay identities focusing on bisexual and transgender people. It was an amazing experience marching on the roads, shaking hands and waving the rainbow flag. For a few moments with people like me all around I felt like an accepting world was possible.
  4. Would be great to find some in NSW if some exist. I have come across polyamory groups but hoping for one with bi females.
  5. People have this mistaken view that we can choose who to like being bisexual. That if i have choice of being attracted to a female why would i choose a female
  6. True. I did feel it was a bit generalised. I guess i will know more when she is here. There are a lot of assumptions in the above. I know not all guys are like that but i have not met one with the qualities of my gf. People say as a bi person you can choose. Why not choose a guy to make your life easier and free from homophobia? But you cant choose who you fall in love with
  7. I agree it depends on what an individual finds gratifying. Would you say more bi women are gratified by women then men or does it depend where they are on the spectrum? If they are 6 or more out of 10 with 10 being homosexual would they be more likely to be gratified by women than vice versa. In this book I was reading a guy was describing what female love is like compared to male love. Instead male love is more about protecting, professing verbally and providing. I wonder if it holds true in same sex relationships where there is love. Or if its just old fashioned way of thinking. I can see my gf having all these qualities but I wonder how common it is or if there really is a difference in terms of quality of love. "Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you—I mean really loves you?—she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so sure you were right, and hang on your every word, even when you’re not saying anything worth listening to. And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough. That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. "
  8. I had come across this book called "Act like a lady. Think like a man" written by this guy, a famous talk show host, on differences between male and female love. He was saying that women shouldn't expect the same type of love from a man. Their love is different. I wonder how true this is in same sex relationships. Is a woman's love really the same. "Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you—I mean really loves you?—she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so sure you were right, and hang on your every word, even when you’re not saying anything worth listening to. And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough. That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance. "
  9. haha I am 100% sure my dad will say the same when I come out to him. Where there is a will there Is a way. I know straight couples together with no children and some have foster cared. Being in a same sex relationship does not mean infertility It may be less spontaneous but not impossible
  10. That's great ChemFem. Sometimes I feel like we're going back backwards then forwards sometimes. I know in Texas there was some court case about benefits being denied to same sex couples but not sure of the details. IN Brazil they went from same sex marriage to now saying conversion therapy can be allowed. I am glad Arizona is going in the right direction. It was on a fb group and she apologised because others called her out. It didn't seem genuine. What bothered me was the lack of response by others. There were few who came forward but me and a lesbian girl were disappointed by the lack of response on this liberal page. Had it been about race/religious minorities there would have been more response .Instead after the apology people were saying she is from a culture where it is not accepted and she is moving in right direction. It is not good enough. the bar is set too low when it comes to discrimination against same sex couples.
  11. Sounds great. So far only been to west coast and Hawaii in the US. Is Wisconsin near Texas or the Midwest. I would love to visit and see natural beauty
  12. I thought it might give me some idea. You're right happiness. counts for a lot. Sometimes the homophobia I see around can be nauseating. Someone said to me he considered same sex attraction and sex a psychological disorder that can be treated. I told him gay conversion therapy was harmful and dangerous. I don't want to live a life I will regret on my final day. I want to be true to myself. I am trying to build a supportive network around me. At the moment all I have is online. It might be easier to have an open life once I have more people I can openly come out to. You have a great and clear approach to dating. I definitely want to be upfront with my sexual orientation and if someone is truly interested it will not bother them. Once I develop more confidence in who I am I think society will have less impact on me. I am still recovering from homophobia I faced during the marriage equality campaign in Australia. Lot of it from religious conservative people who do not have much compassion.
  13. That's sad he has to think about this at such a young age. I know a gay couple and they have 3 kids through surrogacy. where there is a will there is a way. I also know of a straight couple who have foster cared. It is just about what works for the couple.
  14. haha parents always have children in mind. Turkey basters, IVF, artificial insemination. Technology has made it a bit earlier.
  15. That's ok. You don't have to ever date women if it's not for you at this point. It's good that you are open minded and accepting of others. The community where I am from is quite homophobic. Coming out is not easy. Lot of Caucasian or mainstream LGBT might not even understand the feeling as there is more acceptance in the mainstream. I mean the other day people were discussing homosexuality and someone said they thought it was a psychological disorder to be treated by therapy and medications. Others called them out and said conversion therapy is dangerous and attraction is natural. It's a difficult world and sad that some people are narrow minded. Yes online can be hard to trust. Most of the lgbt friends have been from online sites as it is easier to meet and talk. I am cautious about internet relationships. I am ok for friendships and to meet in public though after knowing someone.