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  1. erotica

    Good thing the kids went to stay with my parents tonight. Nicely done!
  2. So the last month or so since really exploring my mind and feelings towards women and after reading so so much on this forum. I’ve come up with a theory. I believe women are so much more open to being bisexual because we don’t get nurtured by our male counterparts like we crave as humans. Females inherently are more nurturing (of course there are exceptions) and I think since we give so much of ourselves we are looking for somebody else to reciprocate that nurturing. I think this is why so many women crave and desire a sexual relationship with their best friend. I feel like me and my best friend nurture and support each other. And at times wonder if a sexual relationship will develop naturally out of the closeness we share. Shit we have matching tattoos. Is this just lacking in my marriage? Anybody else feel this way? Sorry if this has been discussed before.
  3. @Beck Does your husband know? Mine seems to be trying harder to show some of these attributes that men typically don’t show. Now that still doesn’t stop my feelings and desires to be with a woman. However it has made us feel closer and open up communication some more.
  4. I'm new here. I've commented a couple times. Here's my "story". I'm 37 years old. I've been with my husband for almost 18 years and married for 14 years. We have 2 beautiful little boys (7 and 9 years). I am out as bisexual to my husband and my best friend. He is understanding but I can tell he is scared and somewhat hurt even though he says he isn't. I came out to him about being bisexual about 2 years ago. Recently we've been discussing it more after not talking about it at all after my initial confession. I know he didn't forget about it. I came here to find advice and share my feelings and fears with other women that would understand what I am going through. Talking with him and then reading the things on this forum have made me feel not nearly as alone. This is exactly what I was looking for.
  5. I second The Ethical Slut. Me and my husband are currently reading it and it has opened up amazing discussion. I would still say so far we are wanting to keep our marriage closed but the book is making me think of the why behind that decision and it’s making it feel more like a decision and not just a social expectation.
  6. Isla Muejures, MX If you could go anywhere in world where would you go?
  7. Fixing to have sex with my husband for the 3rd time today. He’s so turned on by me being with a woman.
  8. We’ve both started ready The Ethical Slut. We haven’t made it far but so far it’s a really good read. Interesting info.
  9. @pinklotus Yes very tricky. Luckily me and my husband have a great relationship although this revelation is straining it some. We are doing our best to communicate with each other better but it is difficult when neither of us are sure of how we feel about all this. Currently I’m not seeking out to experience a woman but if something happens naturally we’ll cross that bridge.
  10. I currently do not have any desire to have a threesome. It doesn’t appeal to me currently because I have never experienced a woman and do not want to share my first experience. He initially was interested in a threesome but then he realized he would most likely not enjoy that as much as he initially thought. Although he does say the thought of me being with a woman with or without him is a huge turn on. He is scared of the emotions that would come with me being intimate with a woman. I am too honestly. If I ever get to experience a woman on my own I may be open to sharing with him.
  11. I’ve had this convo with my husband. I think it would make it easier if he were bi. Unfortunately he is not. At this point he does not want me exploring anything with a woman. It’s not the sex it’s the emotions he’s worried about. Which I understand.
  12. For me it was more of a gradual process of discovery that straight girls don’t look at women like I do. I think the ton of bricks moment happened maybe 3 years ago. I was at a youth soccer game and I could not keep my eyes off a female coach from another club. The way she looked, moved, and talked I was completely frazzled and distracted. That’s when I knew for sure. And not long after told my husband.
  13. I have fibro and rheumatoid arthritis and see my rheumatologist for both. Have you been tested for RA? I have what is called sero-negative RA so I do not show positive on the traditional blood test. My rheumy says fibro and RA often go hand in hand.
  14. My biggest fear is not preparing my sons properly for this world they are going to live in.
  15. Happy Women’s Day! If women ran this world everything would be a lot more organized and not chaotic (USA Im talking about us). I am so thankful I found this amazing place. I keep telling my husband how supportive everybody is. I’m not sure he totally believes me. (I won’t let him read anything).
  16. Interesting. I am more physically attracted to women than men but I can’t imagine being married to a woman or in a serious relationship. I like the simplicity of men in that way. They’re easy to keep happy really. Well at least my husband is. Or was. I suspect he’s not real pleased with me at the moment.
  17. We are only friends. We’ve never kissed even. But sometimes I just wonder if there’s more. It’s a very close intimate friendship that’s for sure.
  18. Mine too. Hopefully as time moves on they’ll both change their minds.
  19. If you don’t mind me asking; what’s holding you back?
  20. Yes!!! Your sex life now is about love and enjoyment (I’m hoping) embrace it. It’s so nice having somebody understand what you are going through or have been through.
  21. I suspect it would increase my desire as well and that scares the shit out of me.
  22. It totally makes sense. You did everything you could to be invisible so nobody would see the manipulated version of yourself that you lost yourself completely. For me the actual abuse wasn’t as bad as the manipulation. Especially now that I’ve dealt with it. The manipulation made me hide myself and wasn’t exploring life like I should have been. It really robbed me of that time.
  23. I think I’m fulfilled in my marriage as much as I can be with a man. I wonder too if my desire would fade after being with a woman. I also am terrified that it would increase. I’m not emotionally ready for what comes with that so when the hubs said he wasn’t ok with me exploring this side of me (right now) I was ok with that.
  24. I’m somebody that needs to understand the “why” about everything. It’s really annoying.
  25. I seriously could have written this. How old are you now? Have you been to counseling? Does your significant other know? I too was molested for much of my childhood. First by a older kid in my neighborhood cand later by my older brother. I ask these questions because as I got into my 30s (I’m 37 now) I started feeling more comfortable with my body. Then I told my husband. Not too much after that I went to counseling. I was being very self destructive before I told anybody. I was very closed sexually until after I had my second son at 30. I think the 3 things above helped me tremendously. Me and my husband now have a great sex life and are not inhibited at all.