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    Life is dancing and dancing is life. But aside from that being the motto of my life, interests are Politics, Philosophy, Psychology, History, Astronomy, Physics, Biology, and books books books
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    Crime and Punishment, Dune, The Shining
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    The Walking Dead, Stranger Things
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    Picnic At Hanging Rock, Stepford Wives (1975), Professor Marston and the Wonder Women

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  1. CallistoDidNotWin

    Autism Spectrum Disorder

    Hi @WingedPixie. From what I have been reading and learning online, it seems like most particularly for women, they often don't discover they are on the spectrum until late in life. Although that is changing a bit now, I think (I hope). It seems like women who are on the spectrum are just much better at masking the traits, and are skilled at "fitting in" and not being noticed as having difficulties. I have posted several youtube clips on this thread, just wanting to put info out there. There is one up above called "autism in females" that talks a bit about this. And then the TedTalk clip "hidden Aspergers" I really liked. This girl talks about how she took a test for Aspergers and "passed" 100%, showing that she absolutely positively did not have Aspergers -- when in fact she is autistic, but just found it very easy to "fake" being normal for the test. I know I have definitely done a lot of "faking being normal" in my life. Anyway, if you think you might be on the spectrum, may be a good chance you are. And just remember what Greta Thunberg says: It is a Super Power.
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    Your Best 80S Songs.

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    Sexy, sultry songs?

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    Are Males the Dominant Sex?

    I used to think exactly that way, that men were dominant, they were they inventors, the leaders, the "doers" etc., while women were, basically, just sitting home knitting and cooking the dinners. Used to think that way. I recently had the opportunity to audit an online college course for free (one of the greatest side benefits of the internet revolution) and it was a class on women's history, a class on feminism, a class about all the things I did not get taught when I was younger. I suppose my single greatest take-away from the class is angry resentment about all that I did not know, all that I was not told about, all the amazing efforts of amazing women through history. The class began with the professor noting the most key point. She noted "the victors write the history." Men have been the "victors," so men wrote the history. And naturally that is the history of men, and all the things men have done and all the things men have accomplished and invented and discovered. The victors write the history. Under that surface is the reality -- all sorts of amazing women who did amazing things that we never heard of. But, happily, that is beginning to change as bit by bit this "hidden history" is starting to be told. One example: Did you know we would not have the internet or wifi or cell phones were it not for a woman? I saw a documentary recently (one of the producers was Susan Sarandon) about Hedy Lamarr (yes that Hedy Lamarr) and did you know she was an inventor? She came up with the concept for "frequency hopping" and without that, we would not have all these amazing communications media since her idea of frequency hopping proved to be the fundamental basis out of which all these other inventions grew. She got a patent on it..... but the military, interested in using the concept to create secure secret communications, buried the patent, locked it away, and never gave her due credit for her invention -- while they went ahead and made use of it. (The documentary is on Netflix, called "Bombshell: The Hedy Lamarr Story") So, when we go through these long lists of all the things men have done, invented, created, gave to the world..... I think we need to dig just a little deeper and find out about the women behind the scenes. Because we have been hoodwinked, we have been deceived, by the "history" books. One thing men have definitely been "dominant" at is taking credit. But that is changing, thank goodness. I still continue to feel pretty resentful of all the stories of all the women I never heard of, why I never got to hear those stories, especially when I was younger. With the recent anniversary of the Apollo Moon landing, I learned it was a woman, a woman engineer, in the midst of this good ole boy's club of NASA, who was responsible for seeing that the astronauts got safely home, she being the one who plotted and planned and calculated the necessary trajectories etc. to bring them home on target and safe. Previously, I had studied (or thought I had) everything I could get my hands on about the Apollo missions, was totally obsessed with them as a kid and read every book I could find and never, I mean never did I hear anything about any women being involved -- other than the astronaut's wives posing for pictures. Watching that recent documentary, I felt so furious I never heard any mention before of that woman engineer at NASA. And then I watched another documentary, and found myself so furious I never heard of a group of 13 women who went through the same tests the men went through to become the Mercury astronauts -- and how not only did these women perform as well as the men on these tests, but some of those women even performed better, women having certain biological physical characterstics that enabled them to withstand certain physical stresses better than men could. It is perhaps the case that women may have a higher pain threshold/tolerance than men, and greater endurance under certain sorts of physical stress. But the doctor performing these tests on these women did not have "official" authorization from NASA, so when NASA got wind of what he was up to, NASA squashed it, was not going to have women astronauts. And it was shortly thereafter, Russia (how pathetic is that, that Russia was more enlightened on this) put the first woman in space. (See the documentary about these 13 women on Netflex, called "Mercury 13") The victors write the history. But at last it is the case that some have started re-writing that history to include what was missing, often led by women spear-heading these efforts to bring these things to light. And I just wanted to add a thank you to @BenedettaC and @celeste teal for the books and articles you both have cited, here and elsewhere on other topics and in blogs, as this has also been an inspiration to me to investigate further. I think we all owe it to ourselves to "investigate further." Bias is so insidious, and the male bias has been so rampant for so long, it takes our active participation to get ourselves out from under it. So, thank you for the info.
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    The Depth of Our Erotic Power

    Although I did write my little essay above as a rather personal confession, a personal story, I do not want to be lost the main point I was wishing to get at. Erotic Power. As Audre Lorde pointed out, in her complex, nuanced, but poetic way, she meant "erotic power" as something far beyond just "sexuality." She was referring to something in the very core of our being, a power and a strength and an -- attitude? -- that can be and should be part of every aspect of our lives as women, a power to infuse into everything we do. My essay was my account of my awakening, now, to "feminism." I had had, to this point in my life, the most trivial knowledge of and understanding of feminism, a cartoon caricature of it. I even at times had a bit of a dark view of it, having subsumed into myself the view of some men, seeing "feminists" as just a collection of overly strident women engaged in male-bashing. Yes, indeed, I am quite ashamed to confess this, but I had succumbed to that view. It was only fairly recently that I had been at last made aware of my error. And that new awareness came like a slap to my face, suddenly waking me up to the fact that so very many of my views on so many things were..... the male view. As Audre said "every oppression must corrupt and distort...." My essay above shows that at an early age, I recognized something was "wrong" in the way all doors were open to men, while women had to do a fair bit more of pushing to crack a door open for themselves. I recognized the wrongness and unfairness of this .... but, ultimately, I kind of just shrugged and capitulated. Oh, in my life, I fought defiant little battles here and there, little acts of rebellion and nonconformity, but they were largely symbolic and trivial. What I did not do was pursue my dreams. I did not seek to crash hard through any of those slightly closed doors. I took the "easier" path. I got married. I got an innocuous degree. I hopped from trivial innocuous job to trivial innocuous job, and followed my husband, making his goals and dreams our collective priority. Not that my husband did not consult with me. He was never demanding that I do this or that, that I agree to this or that. He always consulted. He always asked. And I know he would have gladly and happily bent over backwards to help me in pursuing any dream I might have had. When it came to job goals, where would we live, where would we move to, he would ask what I wished to do, and invariably, I replied, "whatever you want to do is fine with me." My husband was not my oppressor. I was my oppressor. And it was the Patriarchal Society that had enabled this, by corrupting and distorting what lay within me: my Erotic Power. And I thus became my own worst enemy, doubting myself, setting aside my wishes and dreams as unreachable things, so why even try? I wrote about the "depth and breadth of our erotic power" as a statement both of my awakening, but also with the wish to inspire an awakening in other women who might happen upon my ramblings here. Recognize that power within yourself. If you are a bisexual woman, then recognize the immensity of that power within yourself. I mean not the slightest disrespect to lesbian women or heterosexual women, but I do feel that a sense of eroticism that spans the whole spectrum, which is the nature of the bisexual, is such a fabulously wonderful and powerful and far reaching and all-encompassing nature to possess. If, in one's sexuality, one can cast such a wide and all-inclusive net, then just imagine if you take that erotic sense, that erotic power, and infuse it into absolutely everything in your life. Just imagine! Of course, perhaps this is all just "delusions of grandeur" on my part. Perhaps. In transitioning from a repressed and lacking-in-self-confidence woman to an awakening to feminism and an awakening to the validity of bisexuality, an awakening to not only accept my nature as it is, but to see the beauty of it.....perhaps all that has now happened to me is a starburst of pure insufferable egomania within me. Perhaps. But I do know one thing.... you are never too old to dream, and I am setting out to pursue one of my dreams. I am writing a novel. And not just the trivial piece of fluff I had originally intended, no, I am aiming higher than that. If it comes to nothing, well, I don't really care, because the pursuit is what matters, and I will feel great joy in that pursuit. Because Erotic Power will infuse every page of this novel..... as it will infuse every day of the rest of my life. I have a dream, and I am pursuing it. To anyone happening to pass by, reading this blog: Join me, Lovely Ladies? Pursue your dreams; life is too short not to.
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    Autism Spectrum Disorder

    My new hero: Greta Thunberg, the 16-year-old climate change activist. She is autistic (Asperger's). She is what I mean when I say your "disadvantage" can be your "advantage." Wow, is she amazing and wonderful and I am bowing at her feet. What an inspiration. And the children shall lead, eh? Here are some clips of her
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    Your Best 80S Songs.

    I still laugh every darn time I hear it.
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    Runaway Utopias

    These are all so very lovely @celeste teal, thank you so much for posting them. Two favorites for me, one where the two girls are going down the dirt road, one of the girls blurred as she appears to be leaping or skipping, and then the one with the girls all in uniforms sitting in the trees, climbing the trees, the whole composition of that shot, just so perfect. Thank you again. @BenedettaC, Ah yes! Picnic at Hanging Rock did pop into my mind too, as I looked at these.
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    @Androgynygrl, oh, I didn't even consider the point about how she was nude for her husband, but maybe the clothes stayed on because of the other sex being the frowned upon variety. Did not even think of that. Well, being a person of boundless curiousity, I think I might look a little more into the Orthodox Jewish views and customs on sex. Anything "sex" is interesting to me after all even if the topic is "repression thereof."
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    I did finally get to see this movie. I loved it. And I was completely blown away by the sex scene. I understand some people grumbling a little about the clothes mostly staying on. Is this connected to Orthodox Judaism? I had wondered about that, since in the sex scene with her husband, Esti stripped completely nude and then climbed under the sheets. So I was a bit puzzled. In fact, adding as a side note, I did very much appreciate that contrast, how her sex with her husband was depicted as just a routine chore Esti engaged in..... so sad. But back to the point, I do know that Mormons, well the most devout anyway, keep their temple garments (that is, special underwear) on during sex. So I guess something similar could be with Judaism? I wondered perhaps also whether the reason might have to do with making sure they did not get the box-office-killing rating of NC-17 ? , and so they just wished to tread very carefully on a lesbian sex scene lest the censors have a cow? But in any case, I loved it, because I am a big believer in "less is more" in film. Everything does not have to be shown, and when things are concealed from the eye, I think that can really ratchet up the intensity of the moment. I think that is true in horror films, that "less is more," and things can be so much more frightening when they are concealed and hidden from view instead right in your face. And the same goes for the erotic.... when you do not get to "see" everything, then it is up to your imagination to color in the rest..... and one's own imagination is, well, always right on target for self-arousal, which is why masturbation never seems to fail to achieve its goal, eh? Since whatever you picture in your own mind to achieve arousal is always perfect, always the perfect lover for you. Also, to me, the sex scene was so fantastic because of the passionate energy both actresses exuded, plus the drawn-out lead up to it in the story....the fact they had to travel so far to get a room and be discreet, that sexual tension just building and building and building, how on the way there, walking in an alley, Ronit stops to push Esti against the wall and kiss her, just because that tension was getting to be too much, and then take a deep and they continue walking. So, not just the "less is more" rule, but also the "delayed gratification" rule can send a sex scene, when it finally arrives, rocketing into the stratosphere. And as for the "spitting"..... well I just wish there was a different word to use, even though that word is technically correct, I think it gives people who have not seen the movie the wrong idea. It was not "spitting" so much as....well....call it "sharing bodily fluids?" That is not any more poetic, but I loved it. It shocked and startled me at first, and then I was just swept away by the...... oh I just cannot describe it. It is not about words, it is about how very intense the connection can be between two passionate women, and to me that spitting moment was just....exquisite soft carressing passion. I liked the ending of the movie too, the way it was not a complete fairy-tale ride off together into the sunset ending. But there was still enough happiness there to make it satisfying. Much like real life, eh?: No fairy-tale, but enough happiness to get by.
  11. "All that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream" -- Edgar Allan Poe



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    2. CallistoDidNotWin


      Ah, a riddle.  I am no good at riddles.  There was, of course, also a movie long ago that literally quoted that quote, and you and I know which movie that was :wink:.  But a movie you saw recently..... hmmmm..... any further clues?

    3. celeste teal

      celeste teal

      The movie I saw was released in 1973. There was a re-make of it in 1999, which I also watched, after the original. 

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      Hmmm, I am afraid I must give up, I cannot guess the movie.  I at first thought perhaps Solaris, but the dates do not fit, that was 1972 and 2002.  Stumped on a movie question..... I am so ashamed by my failure.  :rolleyes: