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  1. these-broken-wings(TBW)

    Masturbating with only your hands

    Know I know why they call them a DILdo Anyone worried they could get scratched? I suppose you'd peel it?
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    Ask The Person Below You A Question????

    Italian and German btw Love Italy! If money was no object, where would you spend the day/evening on your first date, and what would you be doing?
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    Do you believe that women, in general, are built to fear success?

    oh wow! No I haven't. I did look it up though. I can imagine this being useful for the lady I fell in love with, to help identify what exactly happened (it wasn't true love I'm sure because it was a too far fetched kind of obsession), so yes, I'd like to know why I was attracted to her on a subconscious level. As opposed to my husband, I'm not feeling the need for therapy, if this makes sense. Thanks for posting! I love learning new theories!
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    Bisexual erasure

    I hadn't given this much thought until it popped up on here in a conversation. "Bisexual erasure or bisexual invisibility is a pervasive problem in which the existence or legitimacy of bisexuality (either in general or in regard to an individual) is questioned or denied outright. For example, two married women might spend time in community spaces dominated by lesbians. Perhaps one of the women is bisexual and objects to the assumption that she is a lesbian (i.e., when others call the two women a “lesbian couple”). However, every time she mentions this, others insist that she can’t really be bisexual or that her orientation doesn’t matter (perhaps with the subtext that she shouldn’t talk about it) now that she is partnered" Rather than copy the entire page, more can be read here... https://www.glaad.org/bisexual/bierasure From the posts I’ve read on here many ladies now identify as lesbian, which is great. I fully support people creating their own labels. Given sexual fluidity, I would say identify as bi. What I appreciate is knowing that it really doesn’t matter who I’m sexually intimate with. I am bi because of my history, regardless of gendered monogamy. I found material on bi erasure to be quite disheartening. Almost as if some view it as a shameful part of their transitioning from heterosexual to lesbian. On one hand it is liberating to be able to label ourselves, on the other hand it feels almost like the word bisexual has become dirty for some. All I can say is that I am bi and proud simply because my sexuality changed, and the word itself covers my journey, and as the article states, talking about bisexuality can save lives. Sad for those who ignore bisexuality, happy for those to label themselves as they see fit.
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    Ask The Person Below You A Question????

    That is beautiful @CallistoDidNotWin It reminds of a time I watched a dancer (professional belly dancer) doing a solo act at a club. Small intimate room. A ladies night out for the girls, and halfway thru the act she looked directly at me. I felt as if I had been slapped with a wet fish. Then she looked again before lowering her gaze and then boom! looking into my eyes, all the while doing her sexy dance. Of course it was part of the act. She was very alluring and it worked! There are many! A Surgeon. I admire anyone who can save lives. A Zoologist. I admire people who work with animals. A Scientist. I admire people who work in labs. A Translator. I admire people who can speak several languages including sign. A Judge. Love the idea of slamming the gavel and telling people how it is. Ahh too many to choose from! In general I love positions that assist people, animals or the environment. Where was your best vacation and why?
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    Do you believe that women, in general, are built to fear success?

    I'm starting to see a possible connection to your TF. Often we connect with a person who mirrors our childhood wounds. Hence the attraction to them.
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    Is this it?

    Aww thanks @Delia If I had to pick one person (to give you an idea), it would be Shuhada Davitt (formerly Sinead O'Connor). Her eyes, nose, teeth, smile, shape face, hair (or lack of it), freckles, feminist views, voice, accent and age. I have no idea what her personality is like, but if we're only going by looks, that's it. So when I see similar women I want to get to know them on a personal level. What's your type Delia?
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    Is this it?

    Been there done that. It was exciting as blowing a man. Didn't turn me on. I did it because it turned her on. And I'd do it again with the woman I'm in love with, if its something that she enjoys.
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    Ask The Person Below You A Question????

    T-shirts! Pretty boring huh What's the sexist thing you've ever seen?
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    Multiamory podcasts, open relationships and more

    Thanks for posting! I'm going to have to check them out.
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    Is this it?

    Thank you for your beautiful post femmekat. Yes I viewed my relationships as being gendered monogamous too. Sadly, it still didnt quite fit for me either. This is the part that saddens me. For example, when I see the type (yes I have a type) that attracts my attention, I'm instantly weak at the knees, just want to run and hug her and learn as much as I can about her. It's like finding my people. Just the other day I saw this lady grabbing coffee at a cafe and I wanted to walk up to her and say "you're the kind of women I'd like to date. Where do all your people hang out?" Desperate much? And then I'm left feeling sad because I know gendered monogamy doesn't quite fit. Even if there is no physical intimacy. Until I overcome the underlying psychological issue, I'm going to remain boundaried. Sadly.
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    She Texted...again

    Check out limerence forums, you may find some stories like yours? I don't know if she is obsessed with you or not. What I do know, from reading various accounts that being obsessed has nothing to do with the way Hollywood portrays it. An obsession limerence style can be about a secret attraction which has no rhyme or rhythm, which does not have to be acted upon, and isn't always explicit (sits in the deep dark recesses of the mind). So in terms of your friend, one can never truly tell I guess. Not unless, or until, she discloses. But. I'm only suggesting it since its your friend who keeps popping up (by sending short messages)... unless I've got the wrong end of the stick? In all honesty, I cant say if she is or isn't. Just making a random guess which may or may not help.
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    Is this it?

    It will indeed. It will indeed. Cognitive dissonance huh. The heart and head are on the same page this time and I'm still conflicted. The thing is, both a penis and vagina are ugly imo. So its definitely an attraction to qualities. And looks. But nothing below the belt.
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    Ask The Person Below You A Question????

    I would have said wine in the past. Now its mindless TV (not one for being engaged with/by TV). I use it to zone out which means if anyone said to me "did you see that? Did you hear that?" My answer would be "no" even though I'm looking at it. What's the sexist thing you've ever seen?