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  1. these-broken-wings(TBW)

    I miss you so much

    Hey you (o= Sending you well wishes in your time of heartache. xoxo
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    I don't understand

    Fathers NPD aside - thats something I'm use to (except seeing him disregard others feelings re: feeling secure, etc after a mass shooting)... Its interesting watching JoeBlogs do it in everyday conversations, something I've not paid much attention to, until now. I see mothers do it to children without blinking, ie "You can't go outside wearing that!" Without consider the childs feelings. Anyway, thanks everyone! I'm going to chalk it off as threatening my fathers worldview and as such, he mentally shuts down and switches off. As mentioned on here, afraid of his own emotions. This notion will help me deal with others who do the same with more empathy in future. A 'Danger, Will Robinson!' type response.
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    I don't understand

    it works for me too!
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    I don't understand

    He's actually NPD and I'm use to him ignoring my feelings, something I've had to endure all my life, but when he put down the feelings of others (the feelings which were directly expressed to me), I wanted to shove his worldview up his arse, lol. Pensioner or not. Not sure he'll ever understand feelings... unless... unless... someone stole his money.
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    I don't understand

    Hehe @VirgoGirl Yes it does have beautiful lyrics. The song is how/why I chose my name on here. @contessmed aww thats a shame. I find religion fascinating. I'm not religious so I'm pretty open on the subject but I hear you that it's a topic that can get quite heated. @Tala Saga I'm happy to answer your question. The robust discussion was between me and my father (as written in the OP). I've had discussions with others who blatantly ignore acknowledging feelings too. Ie, I feel hot. Answer: you shouldn't be its not even 25 degrees. Not... "oh so you feel hot, blah blah blah..." I hear you about upbringing. Typically I should be like my father and either fight back, yell, rant, or view feelings as being weak or wrong. I don't view feelings that way at all, and I don't need to justify them or have them validated. They are what they are and are 100% correct all of the time. The answers on here provided the aha moment that my father, like many others, literally cannot comprehend my worldview, and at the time, vice versa. Which was something I overlooked. Now all I have to do is find a way to converse with them using their lingo in order to help them see my worldview (if at all possible). Much like the movie Avatar. Quite a task for those blocked off from acknowledging feelings in general. I know it's not a topic my father would openly discuss. It was a shame he negated the feelings expressed by others regarding the traumatic event here. It was sad to see he tried to shut the conversation down based on his view of their feelings. It's always interesting when someone has an opinion on the way you are feeling.
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    Breakups and Biphobia

    I agree, and yes, not all gay/lesbian women as you've mentioned. There was a post on bi-erasure which really resonated with me. Women shouldn't be fighting women, period, regardless of orientation. Its hard enough trying to even the playing field without having to fight each other. Sorry IW this has been your experience. I do wonder if these ladies are threatened by men? I'm not so I can't relate, but... perhaps some are? I'm bi and it really doesn't matter whom I'm married to, I'm a monogamous creature, and not just gender-monogamous. I have utter respect for those who choose a poly lifestyle, those who are gender-monogamous, etc. I'm sorry your orientation has been used against you.
  7. these-broken-wings(TBW)

    I don't understand

    Yes I really need to work out how to respond to those who have no regard for others feelings. Its difficult but not impossible I'm sure.
  8. these-broken-wings(TBW)

    I don't understand

    Aww sorry you deleted your post @contessmed I did read it but didn't have time to respond. Thankfully I have an open heart for all walks of life and can appreciate and converse with anyone on their intellectual level. I've just got to figure out a way to handle narcissistic people who don't have empathy. Though, like @VirgoGirl said, it might be a losing battle.
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    I don't understand

    @VirgoGirl what... this one? https://youtu.be/nKhN1t_7PEY
  10. these-broken-wings(TBW)

    I don't understand

    Hahaha I need a laugh. Aww bless x
  11. these-broken-wings(TBW)

    I don't understand

    I love how you've given a different perspective. Yes language is indeed complex and a lot of people are honed in on fixing/solving/repairing, and sadly, without listening. Or maybe they do listen but have a completely different mindset - a fix it mentality. I suppose my father would fall into that category.
  12. these-broken-wings(TBW)

    I don't understand

    Aww thanks! And yes I agree. Perhaps they are not in touch with their feelings and I do make them feel uncomfortable.
  13. these-broken-wings(TBW)

    I don't understand

    This resonates with me. I could almost hear the alarm bells ringing... Its possible my worldview challenges their firmly held belief system, thus they literally cannot relate. It creates dissonance and the fastest way out is to negate my feelings! Ha! This reduces their dissonance (discomfort) and saves them from having to entertain a different perspective. Thanks for that. It makes sense. Now... I just have to work out a way to help increase their awareness or support the fact their worldview is being threatened - it happens to the best of us, but probably more often to narcissist (an assumption here). I'd say in relation to my father, feelings are irrelevant things that are as mysterious and mystical and a flying dragon. In other words, they don't exist.
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