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polkadot last won the day on October 19 2014

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About polkadot

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  • Birthday 06/01/1982

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    Piano, swimming, camping, yoga, dogs

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  1. Saw you stopped by so hope all is well with you have a nice evening :)

  2. For those of you who are attracted to women, how do you handle being married to a man? Do you have "arrangements" with other women? Do you cheat? Do you fantasize? Do you love your husband so much you don't need to have a woman in your life? I actually like women more than men, but I'm having better luck dating men for some reason and am starting to wonder if I want to marry the guy I am dating now. I feel very happy and sad about this...I think nonstop about women, but I also love our relationship. I am not the type to have the internal stability to have an open or poly relationship. He doesn't want that either, and he knows I am bisexual.
  3. I tried the online dating thing...over and over....I lost my confidence I would find long-term potential that way. I think I found the secret!... MAKE FRIENDS WITH LESBIANS OF ANY AGE!!!! They will know single lesbians, and they might even know if they think you are a good match or can set you up on a blind date. Happened to me tonight- went to a LGBT event of older lesbians, but one said they knew a woman my age who was just coming out and was wondering if we could share contact info. Heck ya!
  4. The first thing you need to do before you leave the house every day is turn your gaydar on. How do you do that? It’s easy. You realize that 1 out 4 people have gay tendencies, whether they admit it or not. So the chances that the cutie pie at the checkout is into girls is actually higher then you think. Even if she hasn’t dated women before it doesn’t mean you can’t be her first. So turn your gaydar on by simply realizing that we’re everywhere. I know, I know, life would be so much easier if we all wore some sign or name badge identifying our sexuality, but we don’t. So get over it and step out of your little box long enough to realize that the girl you’re eyeing may be just as terrified as you, of making the wrong assumption. (from cardcarryinglesbian.com) Basically this is my personal technique for activating my gaydar: I assume that every woman I meet is either gay or at least bi until proven otherwise. That way I don’t close the door to any opportunities that might present themselves. Try it. It works. You’ll find yourself making eye contact more often, letting your eyes linger a bit longer on her lips, looking for signs of her queerness in the way she dresses or moves. You’ll start to get better at this the more you do it. Like anything, having good gaydar takes practice. So before we go any further with how to meet women, let’s work on recognizing fellow lesbians and ladies that may just be open to another woman, regardless of her current label. So my homework assignment for you is to do the following: Next time you’re at any store that you frequent, assume that the cute girl you see is gay. Just pretend that you know for a fact that she is. This doesn’t mean jump her bones in the chip and cookie aisle. It just means to act as if she is. Notice if you feel more comfortable around her? Make more eye contact and see if she holds your gaze, does she look at your lips and then back up to your eyes? But more then her reaction, it’s your reaction I want to know about. Let yourself act as if we live in a world where gay people outnumber breeders. Try not to be so self-contained, self-conscious and cautious all the time. (This doesn’t mean be reckless if you live in an area that you could get stoned for being gay.) I’m talking about a subtle attitude change that will affect the way you relate to other women.
  5. So I've been thinking to myself, ideally...would I want to be with a woman who is younger than me, my age, or older than me. I realized I was turned on by the thought of being with someone where there is a bit of age difference. For example, I currently have a mini crush on a 23 year old, and also a 40 year old woman (I'm in between). Younger women make me feel younger and more hip and untarnished or something, and older women know what they want most of the time and there are less mind games. Do you have a preference about age difference? :confused0006: