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About HulaHoop444

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    Resident Bookworm
  • Birthday 03/29/1987

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    Anything and everything
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    Upstate NY
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    Reading, writing, law, film, theatre.
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    Nude by Rhianna
  • Favourite Book
    Too many to mention, I love Harry Potter, The Hunger Games and a bunch more
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    Friends, Modern Family, So You Think You Can Dance, Law and Order(all 3 series of them)
  • Favourite Film
    Ever After, The Color Purple, Dirty Dancing just to name a few

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  1. I realized I wasn't bi but gay this summer. I clung onto the bisexual label for so long because of societal and family pressures to be straight. I came out to my mom who is still in denial about my sexuality. She thinks I just "need to meet the right guy." I don't know if she'll ever come around but l will no longer continue to live a life that is a lie Since I have embraced being gay, I feel at peace within myself and secure in my sexuality. Now I am hoping for my dream woman.
  2. Thanks for all the advice, ladies, I also changed my password to my laptop too so she can't snoop around. She has read my IMs in the past if I left my laptop unattended. My mom is worried I won't get my work done in time because in the past I have not done so well in school if I let my work pile up too much. By being on my behind, she thinks it will prevent me from flunking out of school.
  3. I am mainly telling her when things are due. I don't let her touch my laptop so she can't get into it. I can also do my work in my bed room so she isn't looking over my shoulder or I can go to school early before class and do my work there as well.
  4. The main problem that occurs when I have work is that she thinks I should have the work done as soon as possible which is stressful because I like to take my time with my work. I also recently wrote a personal essay that I did not let her proofread because it had stuff about my sexuality and she thinks I should keep it quiet. It's my assignment so I am going to write about whatever the hell I want. I have talked about my sexuality in class and everyone was supportive. Times they are a changing and the more we can live our lives openly the better.
  5. I really wish I could to my city's pride but I have no one to go with and I don't want to take the bus...or rock the boat with my mom.  It sucks not having supportive family.

  6. Thanks for all the support and tips ladies. I know cats will happen once I move out of my mom's house and hopefully I will find a lady love sooner rather than later.
  7. Thank you for the advice, BiTriMama! I am planning on going to my city's Pride this year which won't be until July. I am sure I will be able to find support there and at the local LGBT center.
  8. How do I find ladies that are gay/bi in my community? How do I deal if my mom disowns me?
  9. I began to realize my attraction to other women around 8 years ago. I got a huge crush on a classmate of mine when I was going to community college. I thought since I have had experiences with both men and woman, and would consider a relationship with either gender, I thought I was bi. I was able to form a relationship with a woman I met online which went from friendship to my first real romance. We dated for 3 years but after so many complications, I ended it. It will be 3 years this fall since the break-up and I have played around with dating apps and even got a few in person dates and all of these dates were with women. I began reflecting on my past experiences with both men and women. I came to the revelation that my feelings and relationships with women were much more intense than the feelings I had for men. My first real love was my ex-girlfriend. I did date a guy when I was 20 before my lady crush but I think what I liked about the relationship was the fact that he was the first man that took a real romantic interest in me. I went along with it because I thought in time I would grow to love him. Things ended abruptly with him because he ended things by just not calling me anymore. In retrospect, I did things when boys/men because it is something that most people expect women to do. I am also of Jamaican descent which means that my mother has echoed some very homophobic views towards me. She hates the fact that I like women and when she finds out that I am not bi and just a full blown lesbian, I know my relationship with her will be in major jeopardy. As of now, I have only told a handful of friends about my change in labels, They have all been supportive. I am so glad I figured out all this stuff before I ended up marrying some dude just appease my family and society. I just turned 30 so I still have plenty of time to be able to form the kind of life I want for myself which is a big lesbian stereotype. I want to find love with an amazing woman, get married, have children and adopt all the cats. If anyone has any advice for me going forward that would be cool. If not, thanks for reading my story. I just wanted to get this off my chest.
  10. Thanks for the follow! How have you been, lady?

    1. endilwen


      Been okay hun how are you?? 

    2. HulaHoop444


      I am good, I am in grad school and loving it.

  11. It surprised me how easy and natural being with a woman felt. My experiences with men were just uncomfortable and I just went along with them because that is what I was "supposed" to do. Once I realized that I loved women and I can have a happy fulfilled life with one; my romantic and sexual focus turned towards them.and never changed.
  12. I no longer identify as bisexual. Yesterday I came to the conclusion that since I have preferred my experiences with women overall, I am gay. I feel so relieved and at peace!
  13. I have come to the conclusion that I am not bi after all, I am just a huge lesbian. Happy pride month everyone!

  14. So here I am back again, asking for advice about how to deal with my overbearing mom, this time, in particular, its about my school work. I am a new graduate student,stuyding to become a teacher and my mom is putting all this pressure on me to get my work done. I am actually doing a good job at getting everything done on time and my grades so far are high. Since my classes are in the summer season they are not as long as a fall or spring semester of classes, due dates are strict. As a result, my mother is full of anxiety over my heavy workload and sits up at night worrying about if I will get my assignments done on time. She even made a study schedule for me. Her anxiety rubs off on me and I am putting enough pressure on myself to get all my work done. I try to tell her to back off but she persists and gets involved anyway. What can I do to get to give me some breathing room so I can work in peace?
  15. Hi girl, how are things?

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    2. Freckle Faced Mamma

      Freckle Faced Mamma

      Glad to hear. Keeping myself busy too.

    3. HulaHoop444


      Busy is good. I also came out again to myself as gay. Denial just isn;t a river in Eygpt 

    4. Freckle Faced Mamma

      Freckle Faced Mamma

      Knowing yourself is essential to loving yourself.