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About HulaHoop444

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    Resident Bookworm
  • Birthday 03/29/87

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    Anything and everything
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    Upstate NY
  • Interests
    Reading, writing, law, film, theatre.
  • Signature Fragrance
    Nude by Rhianna
  • Favourite Book
    Too many to mention, I love Harry Potter, The Hunger Games and a bunch more
  • Favourite TV Show
    Friends, Modern Family, So You Think You Can Dance, Law and Order(all 3 series of them)
  • Favourite Film
    Ever After, The Color Purple, Dirty Dancing just to name a few

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  1. Hi girl, how are things?

    1. HulaHoop444



      I'm hanging on. I decided to leave graduate school and now I am starting my job hunt. 

  2. Thanks, I am doing well. I am in graduate school and come out again to myself and few friends as a lesbian. I have come to terms with my mom's homophobia and I am going to do what I think is right, no matter what anyone else thinks.
  3. I have always had a close relationship with my mother. The one thing we butt heads about it is my sexuality. She is in deep denial, refusing to believe that I am a lesbian. She keeps telling me, "You need to find the right guy," and "If you marry a woman, I'm not going to be a part of that." She thinks that only straight marriages are valid and are for people who want to raise children together. She also thinks that kids need both a mom and dad, and that gay/lesbian couples who raise families in her words, raise "messed up" kids because children raised without one biological parent will always want to know about that missing parent. I know in my heart that I am a lesbian and want kids. Hearing my mom say all this homophobic crap bums me out. I have tried for years to get her to see things differently but it's like talking to a brick wall. How do I come to terms with the fact that my mom is not going accept my sexuality or the family I hope to have someday?
  4. There was a meetup section but it was for trusted members and it looks it like it got deleted with the site upgrade, As of right now, I am just going to have to keep the loneliness away by saying busy and not let it keep me down.
  5. I don't have any friends who know single gay women. I am gonna die alone.
  6. I am really getting sick of being single. I feel so lonely lately and I don't know how to make myself self feel better. I stay busy all day but at night I lie awake, wondering if I am going to always sleep alone and ever have someone to share my life with. All my peers seem to be paring off, getting married, having babies and I have not been on a date in ages. I don't want to alone forever but at the rate things are going, I am doomed to be an old maid. I have done online dating but it's a big freaking joke. Dating sites are geared towards straights and the few dates I were able to snag didn't work out. I don't know any gay or bi women who are single so it looks like I am going to have to become a cat lady.
  7. Here is an update, Now that the initial rush of feeling free and content is gone. I feel very blue lately. I am lonely all the time and want to stay in bed and eat all the junk food, (which is something I would do if I were not a graduate student). I am a black woman, gay and overweight and I wonder if I will ever find true love and happiness when I feel like the stacks are against me. I've been messaging people on dating apps for eons, but nothing has come of it. I feel like I am always going to be alone which I have been for most of my life anyway. Did anyone else feel like a freak after coming out? I think things will look up when school is over; when I have a good job, and I am finally able to move out of my mother's home. Right now, things are just hard, and I don't feel like I have enough support. I don't feel accepted or loved by the people that matter to me. I can't just blow my mom off, she's threatened to kick me out before, and I can't let that happen. Does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom, so I don't completely lose my mind before next summer?
  8. I realized I wasn't bi but gay this summer. I clung onto the bisexual label for so long because of societal and family pressures to be straight. I came out to my mom who is still in denial about my sexuality. She thinks I just "need to meet the right guy." I don't know if she'll ever come around but l will no longer continue to live a life that is a lie Since I have embraced being gay, I feel at peace within myself and secure in my sexuality. Now I am hoping for my dream woman.
  9. Thanks for all the advice, ladies, I also changed my password to my laptop too so she can't snoop around. She has read my IMs in the past if I left my laptop unattended. My mom is worried I won't get my work done in time because in the past I have not done so well in school if I let my work pile up too much. By being on my behind, she thinks it will prevent me from flunking out of school.
  10. I am mainly telling her when things are due. I don't let her touch my laptop so she can't get into it. I can also do my work in my bed room so she isn't looking over my shoulder or I can go to school early before class and do my work there as well.
  11. The main problem that occurs when I have work is that she thinks I should have the work done as soon as possible which is stressful because I like to take my time with my work. I also recently wrote a personal essay that I did not let her proofread because it had stuff about my sexuality and she thinks I should keep it quiet. It's my assignment so I am going to write about whatever the hell I want. I have talked about my sexuality in class and everyone was supportive. Times they are a changing and the more we can live our lives openly the better.
  12. I really wish I could to my city's pride but I have no one to go with and I don't want to take the bus...or rock the boat with my mom.  It sucks not having supportive family.

  13. Thanks for all the support and tips ladies. I know cats will happen once I move out of my mom's house and hopefully I will find a lady love sooner rather than later.
  14. Thank you for the advice, BiTriMama! I am planning on going to my city's Pride this year which won't be until July. I am sure I will be able to find support there and at the local LGBT center.
  15. How do I find ladies that are gay/bi in my community? How do I deal if my mom disowns me?