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About wickedcat

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    crazy cat lady
  • Birthday 07/22/1965

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    Eclectic. I love classical, folk, classic rock, pagan folk, medieval and renaissance. . .
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    North Carolina
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    Knitting, reading (current favorite: Nordic Noir), writing, gardening, nursing, all things witchy and pagan, my cat family, renovating our 90-year-old farmhouse
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    I'll need a few paragraphs for this. . .
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    Sense8 at the moment
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    far too many to name

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  1. My first was when I was 17. We were each other's first. We had been friends for awhile and had gradually developed a sexual attraction, and had talked about it for some time before it finally happened. It was utterly and completely amazing! I'm 52 now and still remember each and every detail as though it were yesterday.
  2. Honestly, it sounds like there's a lot of potential for drama. While you are in an open relationship, she is not and it sounds like he is already having problems with it. If I were you I'd steer clear of the situation. These things only work if everyone involved, meaning not only the two of you but your primary partners as well, are on the same page. Since there's already some distance it's a good opportunity to fade away gracefully. Best of luck to you.
  3. Kate Bush was my first celebrity crush and is still #1. Then Emily Deschanel. Then Tuppence Middleton the way she looks in Sense8. And Max Riemelt too.
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  5. A couple of days ago my husband came in the house from outside and asked me if I'd taken down our rainbow flag. We have been flying it for two years, since the ridiculous anti-transgender bathroom law was passed in North Carolina. For those who don't know what I'm talking about, our former governor passed a bill stating that people must use the bathroom that corresponds to the gender they were at birth. Thankfully this has been repealed. Anyway, I went out on the porch and saw that the 3 x 5 foot flag and the pole attaching it to the corner of the house were gone! We live out in the country. We are surrounded by Trump-supporting conservative neighbors, but we are all respectful of each other here and I don't think this was done by anyone on the street. I am so mad I could scream. Part of me wants to replace the flag while the other part of me doesn't want to invite any more aggression. I don't want any harm to come to our home or our rescue cats. It's getting scarier by the day in America.
  6. Fall is my absolute most favorite time of year. I feel myself come alive when it starts to cool off and the leaves start to turn. Best of luck with autumn *adventures*
  7. I am also an RN. Welcome!
  8. I can definitely relate to this. My husband is a sweet, wonderful partner and my very best friend, but our sex life is almost nonexistant at this point. Much of this I believe is due both to menopause and that I have had two back surgeries in the last year and a half. I'm very much on the mend from all of that, thankfully. He has always known I am bisexual and has said repeatedly that he's ok with my having a girlfriend. I'm just really afraid that if I experience a woman again I won't want to be intimate with him anymore. I don't want to give up on my marriage. Ugggghhhh. . . so confusing!!
  9. I am struggling with this too. I am 52 and my parents are all 80. I feel guilty that I've never told them, like I haven't been completely true to myself. I am married to a man and thus always able to easily never have that conversation. All 3 of my folk are liberal and accepting and I don't even know what holds me back. Except for one time when my mom said she could understand being gay but not being bi. My dad would most likely be ok and might try to say he figured it out when I was in college. My stepmother would probably be completely unphased. As I mentioned in another post, I am feeling greater pressure from myself to be out. I'm American and I feel that I am not adequately supporting the LBGT community in this horrendous political climate by keeping this secret. Had I ended up in a long term partnership with a woman instead of a man I would have been all out. I wish I knew why it feels so complicated.
  10. I'm sorry you had to go through all the pain and craziness but it sounds like you learned a lot in the process. Moving forward you'll know what you do and don't want. You'll be stronger and more able to forge the relationship you want and need when you meet the right woman.
  11. I am only out to close friends and not even to family. My husband has less reserve about my being out to people than I do. We once had a fight in the early days of our relationship because he outed me to a friend of his I'd only just met. He's never done it again. Lately I've felt more pull towards being out because I want to be proud to be part of the LGBT community. I'm American and the political climate here is so horrible right now that I sometimes feel that I am not truly supportive of the community while keeping my own identity a secret. It's complicated because I am not out to family and that is a whole other can of worms. I'm trying to work this one out.
  12. I would advise you to get out now. I've been through both emotional and physical abuse in the past and I wish I'd left when it started instead of staying and hoping it would change. The longer you stay and the longer the patterns of abuse become established, the harder it is to leave.
  13. @NatashaYork How is your relationship going with such a long break in sexual activity? I'm really struggling with this in my marriage. We average once every few months and honestly I don't miss it. He'd like more but hasn't put pressure on me. I think it's partly menopause. I feel guilty sometimes because I don't lust for him anymore but do long for a girlfriend. How are you managing and how is your partner handling it? If you don't mind my asking.
  14. I'm 52 and so glad there are so many women here in my age group now. I like to think of my age as the F*** It Fifties. I just simply do not give a f*** what anyone thinks of me and my choices anymore. If I ever did, lol.
  15. My first girlfriend and I wrote long letters to each other. I still have a couple of them and I still take them out and read them from time to time. I don't know why I didn't keep them all; it's been 30 years and a few moves. I wish I had. There is an undeniable intimacy in a hand-written letter that is simply not as intense in an email.