BiTriMama

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About BiTriMama

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    Ladylike as Fuck
  • Birthday 03/03/1980

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    California
  • Interests
    Triathlon, hiking, backpacking, camping, surfing, the outdoors in general, furthering my education, running, trail running, skiing, travel
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    Swingers, Sideways, Kissing Jessica Stein

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  1. Welcome! As you can see, this is a great place to connect with women who get it, and to find support while you navigate these waters. The members here are from all walks of life and from all over the world (large UK presence), and plenty who have been married for a long time or are newly separated. It's hard to "re-learn" how to date after many years of marriage, as dating has changed, but you will find your way. If you haven't already, be sure to check out How Our Forum Works to see the site rules and other helpful posts!
  2. Welcome to the site, Korey! I also served during DADT, and it was quite a challenge. I'm a former corpsman, and there were TONS of us who were LGBT. It's wonderful your boyfriend is supportive! What a difference it makes. If you haven't already, be sure to check out How Our Forum Works to see the site rules and other helpful posts. Semper Fi!
  3. Welcome! This is a wonderful supportive site with lots of women who have been through or are going through confusion as well. You'll find many posts about this sort of thing! First, stop by How Our Forum Works to see the site rules and other guidance, then dive into the forums. When you're ready, start responding!
  4. I think it can be a huge turn-on, especially with someone with strong writing skills and a naughty imagination.
  5. I’ve had periods of my life where I’ve considered dating someone attached. I had a FWB for years who was engaged when we met (his fiancée knew about me). I think it can work for some, but it’s not something I would have ever done for the long haul. Ultimately I’ve figured out that polyamory doesn’t work for me, and thankfully my partner is the same way.
  6. First, welcome! You’ve found a wonderfully supportive community. One that gets it. Next, you’re FAR from alone, and I would discourage you from compromising on this (by doing something with him there), because you will grow to resent him. Check out the posts here, and you’ll see there’s a lot about talking to your husband about what you really want. It’s possible that you may get what you want, or at least find a compromise at some point that works for both of you. It’s hard to get someone who isn’t bi to truly understand the difference between genders and how the needs are different from each and can only be met by that gender. I have yet to find a book that’s specific to bisexuality, but there are a handful of good ones about polyamory, open relationships, etc. I liked The Ethical Slut by Janet W Hardy. I’ve also heard good things about Opening Up by Tristan Taormino. No one wants to be “supervised” while they’re sleeping with someone, and you’re either into your husband watching or you’re not. And even fewer women will be okay with it. I haven’t yet heard a success story about this, quite frankly, or heard from someone on here who’s dying to sleep with a woman while the other woman’s husband was there watching. Good luck with your journey! Also, if you haven’t already, be sure to check out How Our Forum Works to see the site rules and other helpful posts.
  7. Depending on the age of the post, it may have been automatically archived, in which case I don’t think it’s retrievable. @la-femme would better be able to speak to that one.
  8. Welcome! If you haven't already, please check out How Our Forum Works to see the site rules and other helpful posts. Have you told your boyfriend? What keeps you from doing so, if you haven't? Why haven't you told anyone around you? You might consider seeking out a support group in your area, if only to feel a bit less alone and to connect with people face-to-face. This site is a great start!
  9. My first experience was when I was 18, and it was a young woman not much older than me and her fiance. TBH, she wasn't the best, but touching her and doing things to her was an experience that got me through the 15 years that followed with no meaningful contact with a woman.
  10. There are PLENTY of gay girls who are totally feminine and prefer to dress very girlie. You do you! Do what feels comfortable and expresses who you are. And FWIW, fit/muscular girls are Uber hot!
  11. I felt more empowered dressing more masculine, like it was easier to see I like women. Even more so when I chopped off my hair and went super short. When I left my ex-husband, I went pretty butch for awhile, but I've softened up since then. Now I'm somewhere in between. But I do like when it's obvious that I'm into women. I can totally understand how it feels like you're connected to that part of yourself when you dress a certain way. My clothing choices really depend on the mood.
  12. Please be aware that this is not a dating site or a place to meet women. We are a support site. Please see the site rules in How Our Forum Works. It's wonderful that your husband is supportive! I hope you're able to find what you seek!
  13. We have closed some of the forums where people shared photos. Partly because it encourages that dating site mentality, which, of course, we discourage.
  14. Welcome! You’ll find women who have struggled all across the board here. Poke around the forums, and you’ll likely find a lot of relatable topics. If you haven’t already, be sure to check out How Our Forum Works to see the site rules and other helpful posts.
  15. Welcome to the site! This is a wonderful place for support and community. Free (respectful!) expression is encouraged here, and helps us all relate to one another. If you haven’t already, be sure to check out How Our Forum Works to see the site rules and other helpful posts.