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lostgirl78 last won the day on January 20 2015

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  1. The other thing is, even though I’ve always been bisexual, I haven’t always admitted it to myself. When I started to realize my desires for being with a woman were getting very intense, I would talk to him about it. Like four play. Mentioning how fun and sexy it would be to have a threesome. At first he was all over it. Agreeing with me. Then when he realized how much I really wanted it, he started to get worried and straight out asked if I was a lesbian. That is when I admitted to myself, and him, that I am bisexual. It never occurred to me to keep those feelings and thought to myself. I guess hindsight is 20/20.
  2. This. Sometimes I wish I never would have told him about my sexuality at all. Then I could have a female fwb and he wouldn’t be any the wiser. But because he does know, and because he knows I’ve cheated before, I can’t even have a perfectly platonic girls night out with a straight friend without him being suspicious and jealous. What am I talking about? I just can’t have one. Period. He gets mad if I go to work events. Or Skype with my lifetime best friend who lives far away. Much less want to go out with some friends.
  3. I think that’s exactly it. I just don’t know exactly what that is yet.
  4. Thank you. It’s been a struggle. When I first came out to myself, I did to him as well. He wasn’t okay because he thought I wanted to leave him for a woman. He was afraid I was a lesbian, not bi. I tried to reassure him. I even said I wanted my first experience with a woman to be with him. As a threesome. (I know most women on here are very against that) He would go back and forth. One day saying he’s up for it, then the next being very insecure. It created a huge wedge between us. I felt I couldn’t talk to him. After that he became very distant and upsupportive in every aspect of my life. I became depressed and that’s eventually what caused me to cheat. The need for affection. Since then he has been very untrusting and insecure about every single friend I make. Even new work relationships. So needless to say, we don’t talk about it. AT ALL!
  5. Holy friggin hot!!!! Damn, I need a cold shower after reading that!
  6. Glad you’re on here! Now get to posting so you can start to have more access to things and PM!!
  7. Thank you all for your responses. I’m not asking if I should leave my husband or not. I know that that’s a question only I can answer. I guess I’m asking how anyone can manage being in a maogomous relationship when you have these desires to be with both sexes?
  8. Thank you hun! I know we talk a lot about this. And I very much appreciate your friendship and your advice!! Xoxo
  9. Yes. STILL. Sometimes I feel like it’s getting better, then it goes right back. It’s like two steps forward and four steps back. I just don’t know anymore. We are supposed to be working on being together. But it’s not really “good”. I don’t know if the trust will ever return. And probably for good reason since I’m constantly thinking about being with a woman again. I’ll PM you when I can.
  10. I think that Kenzie needs to start posting and commenting! Get in there girl! Build up your posts and make some friends!! 

  11. I would appreciate any input you have on this, actually. Will you PM me with your thoughts?
  12. Hey ladies! I am an older member, meaning I’ve been on the site for several years now. I tend to come and go. I haven’t been actively on for about a year now. But here I am again, struggling with my thoughts and emotions, and just needing some advice and support. A little background since most of you on here don’t know me. I’m married and have kids. My husband knows I’m bi and has never really been okay with it. I came out to him many years after we were married. Mostly because I was in denial myself. A while back I cheated on my husband with a woman. We are still together but he is still not over it. Since then I’ve been trying to be the good, devoted wife. But I’m not happy. And I know that part of the reason I’m not happy, among other things, is that I still want a woman in my life. My kids are younger, and I don’t want to destroy our family and leave my husband just so I can give in to these desires. But I also don’t know if I can live like this for the rest of my life. Always wanting something I can’t have. Always being scrutinized. Never being trusted to have any friendships with either men or women. Even at work. Never having a life of my own. Never again feeling the loving, soft, sensual touch of a woman. What I wish I could have, and know I never could, is for my husband to be okay with me having a female fwb. But since that isn’t a possibility, I’m stuck fantasizing about it, and driving myself crazy! What do I do? How do any of you that are married to men, deal with it? Sometimes the desire is so strong that I find myself thinking about cheating again. (I know that sounds horrible) Does anyone have any insight or advice to offer me?
  13. Feeling so lost and confused lately. Again. ~sigh~ Don’t know if I’ll ever get my life together. 

  14. Hey my peep do you remember me.. I thought you left hadn't seen you around for awhile.. Hope life finds you well.. Hugs :-)

    1. lostgirl78


       Hey hon! Nice to see you! I did actually leave for a while. I’ve only just been back on recently. Haven’t really done much on the forums though. I’ve just really needed support again lately. But it doesn’t seem like there’s many of my old friends on here anymore. Glad to see you’re still here! You should PM me and can catch up!

    2. SimplyTrouble


      Good to hear from you.. Yes we need to catch up.. I come and go myself on here and yes all the oldies are mostly gone it sucks.. Not the same.. I'll pm when I get more time soon .. Hugs Hun :)

  15. I’m a very sexual woman. I love sex. I need sex. I have had casual sex in the past. I was completely fine with it. I can fantasize about haveing mind blowing sex with both women and men I meet. And I know it would be just that. Certain people I want to have sex with, I know I couldn’t have a relationship with. (Not that I act on these impulses, as I’m married) But it’s just sensual pleasure. And fun. That being said, I am a very emotional person in general. I get emotionally attached. I have been completely in love with two women in my life. Neither one did I ever tell about my feelings. Because they are both great friends and married. I knew I didn’t want to affect our relationship. But I fantasized all the time what it would be like to be in a romantic and sexual relationship with them. Point is, I can do both. I can be in love with both men and women. But I can also just have a purely sexual relationship as well. I would be fine having a woman fwb, if my husband was okay with it. If I end up divorced, then I’d probably want to marry a woman next time, and have a man fwb. ;)