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  1. Shybi is a truly unique space. When I rocked up here. I’d had a fair bit of experience in the obvious areas and the meaningful ones too. But I wasn’t comfortable. At first I thought this had nothing to do with my sexuality. I assumed Shybi was a meet up board by the way. Didn’t read the about or the rules. I obviously realized in a few seconds! I remember think oh well, nevermind. I was starving that day and overtired and my casual date had cancelled, but I stayed and read a few topics and thought - hey, I can reply to that! My life was a bit of a mess but I hadn’t connected that my sexual being and even my ability to love a person could exist fully, while still feeling pain, stress and shame about living an almost split life as a result. I’d actually shut down communicating with the people who mattered, just enough to keep us going along - it’s possible to be well matched with more than one person, only to realize that all of you need to work on yourselves as individuals and that compromise in a relationship can become self-sabotage without you even realizing. So I stuck around went through some harder times - AKA the cryptic status updates, for any of the older members who remember! Somehow supporting and interacting with you all made me feel useful. Despite having quite a lot in my life at the time, I didn’t feel that. Over time, your thoughts, feelings and experiences started to have this affect on me. As some of you were questioning yourselves and sharing your journeys, I began to look at myself and saw that I did have insecurities surrounding my sexuality, I responded and supported in the way that was and still is most authentic to me and I was surprised by how natural that felt. By being here, I was able to reconnect with myself and remember that my sexuality is part of me, it’s not an add-on that I need to sideline or usher away, I’m not the shout it from the rooftops kinda woman, but I am excited by the prospect of living, loving and experiencing again. The diversity here has enabled me to understand women better. Sounds silly, but since joining Shybi I understand and empathize more - I often don’t agree but I think without even realizing it, I was repressing parts of myself. Although I’ve always struggled to relate to women from a young age, the opposite of what many of you say, and that’s improved too. I’ve been on here 4 years? So I’ve had time to slowly work things out. Having said that, all of my close girlfriends are similar in nature and we do pretty much cover the spectrum and I’m lucky to have that, but I hadn’t talked to them about anything personal/relationships in years. Pretty ironic, you’ve gay and bisexual friends and it never comes up? Well it did and I was once pretty open, but I spent about half a decade, essentially locked in internalized homophobia. I didn’t see it setting in and so it’s no big deal they stop asking and you talk about other things. For me it came from a place of now your female, non-white, from a low background and it doesn’t matter that you’re almost totally fine, you’re still gonna be registered disabled and you won’t get picked first, second or third - so you can’t be bisexual as well, sorry. If you want to succeed while hitting every point of intersectionality, something’s gotta give. I’d constructed a fragile sense of self-worth from the only part I had control over. But then one day last year I woke up in hospital, half a decade had passed and while I’d survived, I hadn’t live. I’d been relentless in my pursuit that I failed my way to success, but the rest of my life was empty. I spent the rest of that year not just building a life, but building myself. You can do, go and change as many times as you like - it's gonna happen anyway might as well get on board! Now I've got choices, I'm well, I'm content and who know what's out there? Surely, in the long-term, in order to become the best version of yourself, you’ve got to accept the whole package and work it out as you go along. It also happens my package includes an obsession with building things, vision and how to make things better. Shybi has made me better, you've all made better so I’ve gotta accept that hopefully it'll work out in the end too. I don't want to watch it happen. I would immediately fund the site further, if I thought more of you could see what I see. But that’s ok - Shys is a wonderful place if you give it a chance in any state. @la-femme has changed so many lives, I really hope she lets you give back to the site and everyone comes together. Now feels like a good time for me to leave the island. I’m starting a new chapter offline, so perhaps it's a sign, that I’m ready. With any luck they’ll be a new and improved site for me to check out one day and if not I truly appreciate the time and the space, spent here with all of you.
  2. Disclaimer: I have no real right to start this thread. But things have to start somewhere. Everything below is personal opinion/thought and I encourage all of you to have your say. As many of you know/see there is an announcement banner at the top of the site for urgent donations and while those have been met it won't hold the site for very long at all. Now earlier on I posted in the chatbox with no right to do saying that because the quota had been met you shouldn't donate. It's not so much that I don't want you to, it's that I want you all to think carefully before you do. I was quick to donate because of my belief in the value of Shybi. I'm sure we all have our own feelings about the site and how our journeys have progressed because of this wonderful resource that @la-femme has run singlehandedly for a decade. I am truly grateful for this and I admire her for continuing to do so even though she has/is personally suffering as a result. For the site to move forward, it's going to need money, that's obvious. But for us as members this brings up a lot of questions and possibilities. There's also many ways that funding can be obtained in the long-term, but in the short-term if admin is reliant on us, we deserve a say and should not just blindly give without clear knowledge of what we receive. The digital world has advanced considerably since Shybi began. The only slight advantage I have here is that I do have some knowledge in this area. While some of us helped out today, we should have a say in the shaping of the site and we can't blindly give money and hope for the best it's not a solution and also there's always going to be current and future members who can't make financial contributions so it really is a case of coming together to make this a truly useful, accessible resource for those of us already here and all women who type bisexuality into a search engine. I am personally happy to support the site going forward, but I'm by no means writing this to impose myself as a leader - which makes this rather ironic But I do want to see the site grow, and remain because it's important and I will accept more responsibility if need be. Change is coming whether we like it or not, only by discussing it will the site be able to move forward. After giving my donation today, I felt sad not just because it could be lost, but because I've personally known for a long time the site wasn't at it's best - we've all been spoilt by having this place. Our site is a sinking ship and we can only help save it by taking a real interest and speaking up.
  3. I am curious to know what the women in this forum want from a woman in terms of their bi relationships. Are you looking for casual sexual encounters, an emotional connection too, or a full-blown love affair? There are quite a few posts where people seem to think that they can control the emotional side of things once they begin to have a sexual relationship with a woman, and I'm sure many of us know that this isn't the case. Sex with a woman can be an extremely intense and powerful experience (and downright explosive!), very different from sex with a man (even one you are genuinely in love with), so it isn't to be underestimated. For those of you who are in more than one relationship and/or who are in a relationship with a woman who is involved with someone else, how do you handle jealousy and other emotional complications? I personally find navigating the emotional landscape of two relationships at once very difficult, and have sometimes felt consumed with jealousy about my lover being with her boyfriend/husband, even though I am with someone else too (I know, it's totally hypocritical, but it's very difficult to control this sort of thing...).
  4. I posted these pictures in another thread, but I thought people might enjoy them in their own thread. Please feel free to add similar pictures that you find
  5. Hi ladies, my name is Alyssa. I've been lurking on the site for a minute but decided to finally introduce myself. I'm 23 and I live in Jacksonville, FL. I recently made the decision at the start of the new year to start dating women exclusively. I'm super excited, but also very nervous about taking this step in my life. I've come out to a couple of my close friends but haven't yet told any family members. I've felt attraction for other women for about seven years, since I was a junior in high school. I've tried rationalizing it away and thinking it was just a phase or something but as time has gone on my desire for women has become almost a hunger. My senior year in college I started attending some LGBT events and made a lot of new friends but thought maybe it was just a curiosity I needed to scratch. But for the past year or so, I think about women all the time. With Valentine's Day coming up, I'm a little sad I don't have that special lady to spend it with and that's part of the reason I decided to introduce myself now to just fellowship with like-minded ladies who may be experiencing something similar. I'm really glad to be here and I look forward to meeting some great new people. XOXO, Alyssa
  6. Anyone has a crush on anyone from Shybi? You don't have to tell us who it is, just yes or a no would suffice
  7. What makes Women Beautiful... Is it here soft flowing hair or her flush cheeks Is it here arched brows or the way her eyes blink Is it the way she speaks or the way she feels Is it the things she wears or her touch that gives you chills Is it the way she walks all grand and poised Is it the way that she smiles so full of joy What do you think it is that makes women Beautiful....
  8. Morning my beautiful sisters: I feel that if we unite-like here-with no pretenses or judgement we can be so intensely connected as women. I thought starting a stream of positive and empowering quotes, poetry, tattoos, art, videos, music would be a great way to connect and inspire us all while we navigate our journey's here. Much Love Zu
  9. My gf lives in the UK and im from Australia. We have had phone sex, online sex etc in our 6 month relationship but i feel like real life might be a bit different. We are both from sheltered south asian families so this will be our first everything together including first kiss as embarrassing as it sounds. I am of Hindu background and she is of Muslim.background but lived in UK all her life. . Its been hard to come to terms with our sexual orientations. I never thought i would explore this side till i met her. In our 6 months so far we have not had any issues. Our main issues will be intolerance and homophobia from the outside world. She is coming at a time when i have a work placement in a rural area away from.my family and friends so we can just be together and forget the outside world. Even when my family later encouraged to find a bf i never found someone i had enough emotional connection with to kiss. The guys i met online never had that emotional connection i have with my gf. I am hoping our first time to be a day together. As in the experience should last for a day at least. She asked me what lingerie i like for her so i told her the type and colour with garters so will request her to wear it on that day. I feel like i dont want to rush things so my idea of foreplay is going to be long. 1. Spend a day doing fun and adventurous activities she likes such as hiking and in between getting time for kissing. 2. First kiss as the sun sets on the beach and the waves gently caress our partially naked legs. Then going for a long walk along the beach while holding hands and caressing each other. 3. Candlelight dinner by the beach. Plus use of food as a tool to enhance intimacy. Whipped cream, melted chocolate, blindfolding her while she guesses the exotic fruits i eat off her body. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/gmp2736/food-sex/&ved=2ahUKEwjP0fv2luDYAhXHULwKHdICAoAQFjADegQIDxAB&usg=AOvVaw0Ss4LbINrd7Jwe_aqS9Js4&cf=1 4. Then heading to our romantically set out beach cabin with candlelight, rose petals and her favourite flowers. Her favourite flowers and music playing. She likes the song "love is in the air" and symphony. Or boyz2men "i'll make love to you." So hoping to slow dance while kissing her neck. We plan to go to these rainbow dance classes together where same sex couples and others can dance. I want to be able to do those dipping kisses. 5. Kissing and caressing her entire body from.top to toe while she is clothed. Undressing her bit by bit and kissing the freshly exposed skin from her upper chest, shoulders, cleavage, upper arms, arm pits and abdomen. Unhooking her bra then caressing/kissing her back. Taking a strap off an arm caressing/kissing the arm then doing the same on the other side. Likewise she can do the same to me. 6. Showering together so we can soap each other and kiss under the water 7. Or being in a bathtub together with rose petals in the water surrounded by candlelight. Feeding each other fruits and champagne. Telling her how lucky i am to know her and sharing poems we have written to each other over the 9 months. 7.5 with the skin being the largest sex organ with number of nerve endings ot definitely needs focus. Like smooth satin gliding over surface i will touch her gently and slowly with the tip of my middle finger over her shoulders, jaw, cheekbones, neck, arm, legs, feet, buttock, back of knees and sides. Then would run my fingertips over her body in wavy strokes. Using the heel of my palm i would use gliding and long strokes all over her body to relax her and more responsive. 8. A whole body massage from her feet, ankles, soles of her foot up her legs while using her favourite massage oil. Possibly also a feather or rose petal. Stroking and caressing her legs and feet. I feel like feet often get neglected and should be given extra attention. Then going from her fingers, up her hands and arms. Before i massage her scalp, face, neck, shoulders and back. At the end would be breast, nipples, knee, inner thighs and vaginal/clitoral massage with her permission. Hopefully i can help her have a few orgasms before we even start oral. On the phone when i talk about kissing/nibbling/sucking body parts she does orgasm. https://www.livestrong.com/article/35692-give-sensual-full-body-massage/ https://consciouslifenews.com/bring-woman-orgasm-tantric-clitoral-massage/11123208/ https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://m.youtube.com/watch%3Fv%3DgWZ2hBNE3W8&ved=2ahUKEwjdvK_HouDYAhWMi5QKHdSUD6wQFjAGegQICRAB&usg=AOvVaw0g1Ri4fzz_iUMAoYkQ8w0e Side effect of long distance relationships you end up having a good imagination and doing a lot of research while u are away from the person. The following parts are inspires from betterloverseminar a subcontinental sex ed column. 8. Whole body foreplay - running my fingers through her hair, kissing her forehead, eyebrows, eyes, cheeks, jawline, caressing her shoulders, fondling her ear lobes caressing her neck, stroking sides of arms, stroking back, fondling her buttocks, kissing her abdomen, stroking her inner thighs, nibbling her calves, licking and kissing the back of her knees, nibbling back of her neck, licking her armpits, sucking her ear lobes, nibbling undersides of her breasts, then covering her back with soft kisses and nibbling. Contrasting hot and cold sensations by first having something hot then kissing her then having an ice cube in my mouth for fee seconds then kissing her. Then to kiss her lips. But to gently move any hair out of her face so i can see all of her face. Holding her head and neck in my hands while kissing. Then when kissing would caress her face, up and down her back, her side,with fingers through her hair, her ear lobes, thighs and her arms, Then would hold her waist tight while kissing her mouth. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://stylesatlife.com/articles/different-types-of-kisses/&ved=0ahUKEwjy0vX2sODYAhVFlJQKHcg5BB8QFghGMAQ&usg=AOvVaw1zU36oYWMCwolfk0il7J1M breasts and her vulva at the end. Erogenous zones including the lesser known ones. Making sure to kiss, nibble, lick areas as appropriate. https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/the-lesser-known-erogenous-zones-and-how-to-find-them-10419267.html&ved=0ahUKEwj47rzeseDYAhUEE7wKHaivCssQFggyMAI&usg=AOvVaw2lFaSgHgGu80kwnavu0AlY 9. Focusing on the breasts From the base of the breast i plan to kiss, nibble and lick till i complete a circular round. Then to go up an inch higher and do the same in circular motions up to the areola to increase anticipation which can be a turn on. Then i would kiss the circular patch of the areola with the tip of my tongue. Finally would lick the nipple then lightly blow on it causing contrasting sensations of heat/moisture and then cooling sensation. Then would lower my mouth to cover her nipples with the moist warmth of the mouth with my tongue flicking around it internally. While taking the nipple in my mouth would lick, suck and use ny tongue around it while kneading her breast. Then would lick honey off from all over her breast with the flat of my tongue. While my mouth is on her breast i would gently squeeze one hand and fondle the breast with the other hand. Making sure i get feedback and letting her know how much i enjoy it. Not missing the areas between, under and around the breast. 10. Oral I will let her know im hungry and hoping for a meal only she can provide me.. Following a path kissing, licking, nuzzling down from her breasts, abdomen, knees, inner thighs etx Would want to kiss, nibble with my lips and lick my way from her inner thighs to her vulva Would then kiss and lick the area around the vulva. Then lick from the bottom of her vagina to the clitoris. Licking the outer lips with my tongue then nibbling. Then would move my tongue to lick her inner lips then the opening of her vagina circling around it, inserting my tongue inside moving it up, down and around. Then follow with a finger or 2. After she is fully aroused would lick her clitoris. Licking the underside of the clitoris and then the sides before direct stimulation on the clitoral hood when she is fully aroused. I will have my mouth on her vulva and then flick by her clitoris every 10 seconds. Once aroused i will suck her clitoris into my mouth and then rapidly flick it with my tongue internally. Going slowly with the speed of it. I will let her know how much i love giving her oral, there is no hurry and how much i want to enjoy each moment and how much i love the aroma and taste of her & ask for feedback regarding whether it is too intense or where she wants me to be. 11. Fingers Trim fingertips gently teasing from the vulva, to the inner thighs, her pubis to the perineum(area between vagina to anus) Would probably need decent amount of lubrication as would she. You can never have too much lubrication. Oral sex and insertion of 2 fingers etc Mixture of oral and fingers. 12. Tribbing and scissoring if she is ok with it and will maybe leave other fancy positions, any toys ot strap on etc to future love sessions if she is interested https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&url=https://sex.sofeminine.co.uk/relationships/album961435/lesbian-kama-sutra-100-sex-positions-for-women-0.html&ved=2ahUKEwj0kIfSreDYAhUMgbwKHaqoB0wQFjAAegQIEBAB&usg=AOvVaw2V4bGgR55X1jL81CiB3uXZ 13. Cuddles and holding her after and telling her what she means to me and how lucky i am to know her and to have her be my soulmate in life 14.. Breakfast in bed with use of food in a sensual way like above. I guess it may seem like im putting pressure on myself but i want her to have a magical time. Apart from myself and my ideas i dont have much in the way of experience to offer her. But i do have a lot of enthusiasm. If there are any romantic movie sterotypes ive forgotten please let me know. My gf is a romantic like me so we're both into cheesy activities. I will bring up these ideas with her but i want some elements to be a surprise. My question is what more you would have liked in foreplay for your first time? And also want to give hope to the long distance couples out there. People say it wont work but if you have love, commitment and a pathway for your relationship no distance can create distanve between 2 hearts. I never thought living in Australia i would fall in love with a british girl with a hot accent who would love me enough to think about moving permanently but i have. My gf is aware of me posting stuff online about our relationship and she is ok with it. Any other romantic suggestions are welcome. Cant discuss this with too many of my friends.
  10. I understand this may be the case for some people; however, as a happily married woman who can see herself loving a woman in addition to her husband (and perhaps I'm already developing feelings for a woman), I vehemently disagree with the following quote: "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second." - Johnny Depp https://pics.me.me/the-law-of-attraction-if-you-love-two-people-at-11657089.png Oh Johnny, poly may not be for you, but you should know love doesn't work that way. Here's a good site on polyamory: https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamory.html
  11. Exactly that!What happens when you meet the right person at the wrong time?When you never thought that you are not with the right one to begin with. Human beings are complicated and because we are emotionally complicated too we manage to make situations complicated.Relationships fail not only because the other person turns out to be the wrong one but also because you yourself aren't the person you need to be. Life is unpredictable we know that but some times life is cruel.Sometimes we meet the right person but the timing is so wrong for whatever reasons that we can't do anything about it. So,what you do?What happens when you meet the right person for you at the wrong time?!
  12. So I just have a question, if someone has been taking abuse through communication will it eventually turn physical?
  13. Forever and me, Forever & us.... Well it's been a while since I wrote a blog. I'm glad to say that of late my need to spill my emotions into a blog have eased. I do love writing of my life, and of my journey to finding myself though. So today I really feel the need to put down on here just how I'm feeling. How amazing, how energised and how truly excited I am feeling about my, about our future. This excitement is all thanks to one thing I think. One thing I've unknowingly always searched for. And I've found it and I can't begin to express just how lucky I feel. This one thing is my new business, our new business. My lovely girlfriend discovered our new venture. As soon as she saw it she knew it would be perfect for me and I couldn't be any more grateful to her than I am for introducing me to this. The thing is, she sold this business venture to me like a true professional. She didn't think this would be her type of thing, she didn't think she could ever do this type of thing initially. Luckily I soon had her realise that she actually could 'sell' too. We could in fact do this together. She sold it to me after all didn't she? I've always been in sales. Even when I was working as a hairdresser in a salon I've always loved selling the products that I've used and loved. It's not selling to me, it's about sharing something you enjoy using with your friends and family. When I gave up hairdressing to have my family I've still always sold things, I sold Avon to my friends for fun, never made any profit but had a lot of fun with it. (Typical me to not think making some money from it and securing my future!) lol I then went back to work part time and sold photo printers for Epson. Oh I loved that job. Demonstrating and talking to people all day. I was then asked to join the team at PC World selling computers. Omg I didn't have a clue about computers but I learnt the basics and did really well. The store manager wanted me because I was passionate about helping the other clueless customers who avoided the 'geeks'. I could sell on their level and I did really well. It was a fun time working with a crazy bunch of lovely 'geeky' people. Then I found my dream job. I became an 'assistant manager' for a new Lush store in our hometown.... This was an amazing job, an amazing company with even more amazing products. I eventually also became a regional trainer with Lush. We then went on and took our little Lush store to No1. in the company. I loved my time with Lush like no other. My family had to live eat and sleep Lush along side me. Poor them.... I focused all my energies into this job and it paid off. We were so successful. My 'friend' was the store 'manager' but we were both in high regard with the people that owned the company. We were on a roll and doing a fab job. I loved the front end of this job, selling and motivating the team. On the shop floor selling. Being the face of what we sold was what I loved. My 'friend' did everything behind the scenes fabulously. She could focus on the stock and paperwork and getting our name out there. She would talk on the radio about our store, she had our products in lights in the town (all for free) and she had friends and connections in useful places. She was a market trader by nature and great at what she did. Lush loved her. What happened next is something that leaves me sad but not bitter. One day I just realised the time had come to leave....and so I did. Just like that... I left the job I loved more than any other ever... Sadly she wasn't the 'friend' I thought she was. But hey ho, time to go... . So I was out on a limb and looking for a job. And so almost 6 years ago I started working in Boots. I was a Christmas temp and they put me on the electrical department. The amount of hair dryers and straighteners I sold that Christmas was amazing. Being successful there in my temporary job led me to be offered the job as a full time advisor for No7. This is a great job in Boots. The training is good, the products are good and the team were lovely. Yes, I was happy to have found something to like..it wouldn't replace Lush, but it was good and I felt lucky. (They paid better than Lush though) This job has been my saviour in a way. This past 3 years the girls I work with have helped me through a pretty tough time. No matter how much I've been struggling work has been my way of coping. It took me out of my reality Mind you I now only work 3 days a week, That's more than enough on a counter as busy as we are. Our team were 'team of the year' last year. This is a huge accolade for our store and our team and something we were really proud of. But that means one thing....more pressure, more targets to beat and managers that always want more.... It truly is an exhausting job. Silly really when you think, we only sell a bit of make up and skin care. But the girls I work with make it all worthwhile. It's been a good job and I've enjoyed it. And now I look back on my life and I see a girl who has finally found herself. I am a girl who lives with a man but is deeply in love with a woman. And I now look back and see that my working life has just been something to give me something to do. Something to enjoy and have fun doing. My job in Boots is no longer quite so much fun and I realise that being so fab at something when you work for someone else doing jobs like I have doesn't get you that far. I never had drive or desire to look at myself and want for more.... I was always happy just working hard for others..... .......... Forever.... Well now I'm older and I'm wiser and I'm Gay. Yes being gay and being married to a man is pretty hard tbh. I want to be in a position to live my life for me. I need to be financially more secure. I need to be able to survive, to live and to enjoy a full and exciting life where I can be true to myself, where I can treat my family well and do the things in life we all want to do.... And my darling girlfriend has just gone and found it for me.... As soon as she saw this opportunity she just knew this was made for me....or maybe I was made for this, but she found it and she saw it in me.... It's an uncanny coincidence just how this came about and I truly believe this was written in our stars and sent to us. Sent for us as a way of helping us move our life forward, forward to where we both eventually want to be..... Tess's sister originally found this opportunity and liked the look of it immediately. Tess's sis is a bit like me, she's a product kind of girl. She likes 'stuff'. Lotions and potions are just her thing too. So Tess's sis had an evening to show her new venture and her new product range to her friends. Tess enjoyed the evening but as sat listening to the chat about these lovely 'very natural Aloe Vera' based products she just thought of me. Yes, Tess sat there and just saw this opportunity and she just knew it was perfect for me. A few days later Tess's sis showed Tess a link on YouTube. The lady who featured on the link is called Natalie. Now Natalie is the #1 distributor for this company. She has been working with Forever for 8 years and her mum has been with the company for 18 years. Being #1 with the company has given Natalie a pretty amazing lifestyle tbh. A lifestyle that would be beyond most people's wildest dreams. So Tess took one look at Natalie's face on this link she was watching and could hardly believe it. Natalie was a mum from her sons school. Tess never knew what Natalie did for a job, she was just a mum who she saw often at the school gate. And there was Natalie talking on this link about this amazing business opportunity with this amazing company. That was it, Tess just knew she had to tell me more. So she told me again about Forever and what it's given Natalie and her mum. She told me of the fabulous product range and all the health benefits that you can get from this companies amazing products. This company who grow, hand harvest, stabilise and manufacture the purest Aloe Vera on the market. This company that are truly ethical, still family owned and are only sold directly, through passionate distributors such as Natalie and her lovely mum and she told me again, just how much her sis was loving her new 'job'. Thanks to Tess It didn't take me long to see this was the perfect opportunity for me. All of a sudden I had a focus, a vision and a dream.... Omg I felt excited like I'd not felt excited before. I could do this, I could do this well AND I could be doing this for me....for us, and for our future... and then I thought to myself that Tess could be doing this too. And so it took me just a few words, a tiny bit of extra convincing to assure Tess that she could too 'sell' Aloe Vera products. I told her she had in fact 'sold it to me' hadn't she.... and yes, she saw what I saw and so, together we were off. We were off on the start of a path than I truly know is going to take us where we want to go and I'm excited like you wouldn't believe. Together we could do this. Along with her sis and a truly inspirational support team we were off. The support, the company and its history, and mostly the really wonderful products we sell are what make me so convinced of this. I feel I've waited all of my life to find something like this. Something that I can do with a passion, and a drive, and a determination that will finally give me the credit that my work ethic, our work ethic deserves. I can't believe that Tess has found me this opportunity, and I'm so happy that she has joined me for the ride. I'm just so excited about our future you can't believe. She calls me her little puppy. She loves my crazy enthusiasm and the way I give 110% all of the time. The way my head is so full of plans and dreams and just everything Aloe. I truly am Aloe inspired. She grounds me and supports me in her calm, truly lovely selfless way and I just know together, with Forever we really are going to fly..... .......... Thanks for reading this girls. I'm sorry it's soooooo long but I just had to capture a bit of what we've found. If you, or anyone you know, may ever want to hear a bit more about this inspirational company and the opportunity we have been so grateful to have found then please don't hesitate to pm Tess or myself. You never know, it could be part of your path too..... Tess thank you baby for everything, and for loving me like you do. We've just shared another wonderful weekend away, it was perfect and I truly love you ..... 'forever'.
  14. I scribbled this last night when I had some writers block going on...decided to add a background to it. A Woman, Rising.pdf
  15. Morning beautiful ladies! Over the years I have spent being a mom, working with high risk children and youth, filling all the roles and responsibilities set out on my path... The one thing that keeps me vibrant, that helps me thrive, that keeps me balanced and well is SELF CARE. Here are some ideas. I thought we could use this stream to share ideas of how we maintain balance in our busy, hectic lives.
  16. Follow me, she said This girl of 21 Follow me to bed And let's finish what's begun. Her hair like satin silk Her skin that burns my touch Her lips so full and begging me Ive never felt this much. In twilights gloom I cling to her As our breathing's slowing down. I know I'm never letting go To this magic love I've found. Artemis3
  17. I love it when my phone lights up and it's you calling or texting me again asking "wanna chat?". You live a stone throw away from me and never in a million years I would have thought that I would be so lucky! Every night we sit outside, have a smoke and talk, we can talk forever and a day and it still won't be enough. Mostly it's you talking 'cause you are such a chatty girl, but I don't mind, I'm a "love to listen" kinda girl, we fit together. I love listening to how your day was, who pissed you off and what made you laugh and all the time we keep that eye contact going. Everytime our eyes meet you give me that sexy little smile and I feel myself go weak. Eventhough I love listening to you, there are moments that I get so lost in you that I sometimes don't even hear what you are saying, I really don't do this intentionally but damn you're so beautiful. I try to concentrate so hard, but your brown eyes are so alluring when they sparkle just for me, the way you move your hair away from your face OMG I wish I could do that for you, your laughter makes my heart skip a beat and everytime you lick your lips I just want to grab you and kiss you like no other has kissed you before. The sexual tension and connection between us is so strong that I fear that when the day comes for us, I think I might just go out of my mind. I want you so bad it hurts in places that I never even knew existed. And then it's time for us to part. We go in for a hug and just for a second I swear it felt like you moved in for a kiss but we both nervously turn our heads and hug instead. A hug that lasts longer than it should.....and then you walk away and do that thing that brings me to my knees, you wink and blow a kiss and say: "see you tomorrow night"! Fuuuuuck, I just can't wait that long! I adore you my girl.........these nights make my days worth living for.
  18. *Fill in the blanks xx Example: 1. Love is....a song. 2. Love is...NOT selfish or easy.
  19. The BBC ask "COULD YOU LOVE A ROBOT" and explains at http://www.bbc.co.uk/guides/zqq6sg8 It has certainly got me thinking on several levels. Since I was a very small child I have often 'fell' for any robot or android that has been in films or TV programmes. I have wept human tears for some of their situations and actions. Robert the Robot in "Fireball XL5" touched me HAL in "2001: A Space Odessey" The robot in "Lost in Space" amused me a great deal The giant robot in "The Day the Earth Stood Still" both terrified and amazed me in it's undying faithfulness Data in "Star Trek TNG" totally reached into my heart and stole it on occasion in his need to be more than the sum of his parts to understand and become more human. If only humans tried as hard to be better humans huh? Robin Williams the eponymous "Bicentennial Man" campaigning to be made more human and getting his own rights to own himself This list is hardly complete... I confess that it has only ever been on an emotional level I have 'related' to these sci-fi inventions. I have never imagined making love with a robot or anything physical happening ever. I can say the fact that most have had male gender names has not disturbed me at all as I have not been interested sexually in any way. I think what I have personally related to is their need to exist and be themselves freely (but that's another story and diversion we do not need here). Lots of us develop relationships with machines. Every one of my cars has been named and I have cried when they have gone off to be sold or scrapped. I do not name my guitars but I refer to them as female (maybe it's the curves?). We make love to ourselves and others sometimes using "toys" we have no emotional connection to but certainly we do sexually. So the who robot thing is not quite as far fetched as the BBC are talking about. Morally and eithically I believe in physical and many non-physical relationships being consensual about all things. Yet I eat meat and fish, drink milk and digest cheese and eggs where the animal has not consented to what we do to it. Somewhere in my rationale, therefore, I fall flat on my face. The whole concept, therefore, of robot (android) relationships is fraught with moral and ethical questions. I have no problem 'feeling' for a robot or android but if I change that to having a relationship what would need to be in place first for it to have a remote chance? Well, consent would have to be tantamount. I do not want a robot (with specific thought to android) obeying my commands. For me there has to be sentience and a need for the robot (android) to want to take part. Being subservient or some kind of slave would not be acceptable to me for anyone (thing) I had a relationship with. SEx, as far as I can possibly attach thought to it just now, would not be part of the bargain. Yet, for the robot/android it may need to have sex to feel whole. Because se is not involved at this stage their gender identity is not so imprtant to me but could be to them. I think if some robot got all macho my ideas may change but, to date, I have not put greater thought into it. When people meet and fall in love they should in the least grow and evolve together. I would want no less with a robot/android. I don't want them to be a 'thing' and I would want them to have rights as to their own 'life' This is all beginning to sound crazy as I write this so I am going to leave it here for now and see what other members think. Over to you ladies for your thoughts and opinions if you have any
  20. I personally don't mind it. But what is your take on that?
  21. So as far as i have known all my life i have been attracted to guys, but it is also true that i never really had an emotional connection with them as i couldn't get myself to trust them and mostly i have been hurt and rejected by them. From last year since the age of 20 i went to this volunteering group and i met this lady there and i don't know we just connected. When she touched me i got butterflies, but it was different to how it was with a guy, she acknowledged that there was a connection, but she was married. I had these feelings for a friend once at the age of 18 but pushed them away. So at the beginning of this year i met another girl and the way she spoke, the way she motivated me i just fell in love with her and i wanted to hold her hand and just be with her i also wanted to kiss her, but i couldn't. I haven't even kissed a guy yet so why do i want to kiss a girl? i don't get it. I guess i am a bit bicurious, but right now trying to figure things out i also think once i kiss a girl i will know for sure.
  22. - I can't stop thinking about the incredible sex we had last night. You were unhinged, intoxicating, forceful, lustful. - The moment I felt your hands caresssing the curve of my back, my breasts, hips, waist, I knew I was in for a treat. You hauled me from the depths of sleeping and my body responded to every touch until my hips grew restless with anticipation pushing against you for more. - Your hands and fingers working their magic between my legs, inside me, forcing me to breathe harder and faster. You continued to work, determined to hear me scream and gush out until I pleaded for you to fill me from the inside. - When you finally decided to do so, I couldn't help but gush out again, and scream out. I met each continuous thrust rhythmically.. You wanted something from me.. I abliged... and you couldn't contain any longer coming with such force. My body still trembling from the orgasms... and now from feeling you release... I love you we heard each other say, as we drifted off into a wonderful deep sleep in each other's arms.. - Thank you again for last night darling. -Feel free to share yours-
  23. Lets hear it for the man! - or woman- what do you appreciate about your partner or partners? - I appreciate his emotional maturity.. I appreciate the little things - laughing together - his playfulness - his thoughtfulness.
  24. "The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity." – Ulysses S. Grant Hi Family, Today, I would like to talk about when you find a new love.........everything is running good/smooth on all cylinders, then life hits you like a semi-truck, at full speed! "Real life" like ill parents, mental health issues, depression, sick children, expensive car break downs in the middle of buck nelly no-place, friendship bloops and blips, job changes, personal health issues, divorce, financial challenges, and other crises that can strain and perhaps even break up an otherwise solid relationship. Nothing like life coming in and screwing up your good thing.........right? During mid-life though, when we are supposed to be living our best lives, these swift kicks up the pants can be extremely distressing (especially for us seasoned beauties). We are trying to get our grooves back (which is my interest at this stage in life), and here are these competing interest staring you in the face. In a new relationship, sometimes you question whether your new love will be able to stand all of your rain. Well in my opinion, in a loving, mature relationship................when one has a problem............you both have a problem. For those of us in shiny, new, relationships with no issues.........do you ever stop to think about what you'd do if you or your partner had life issues that prevented you from seeing each other, making love to each other, even talking to each other at times? How would you handle these unexpected competing interest? Do you/will you stand firm, or do you tuck your tail and run? Do you/will you gripe, complain, and add more stress? Are you selfish.............or selfless? Are you a giver..........offering love, kindness and support? Or are you a taker..............yet another person attempting to suck the very life out of the relationship and woman you claim to love and cherish so deeply? " The true test of a person's character is how they stand during test of adversity" – Unknown This year alone, my new partner and I (of only a few months) have had so many challenges, it's literally unreal. Our lives are in constant transition it seems..........all awhile we are still trying to get to know each other, love on each other, and learn one another. Some of these life challenges belong to us............and we own them (i.e. divorces). But then, there are those unexpected challenges that come from nowhere fast to interrupt what should be an otherwise smooth time for us during our getting to know you phase. Our attitudes are "no matter what...........we are going to ride this out so that we can be together." We have chosen to look at the entire picture, long-term..............instead of only looking at the challenging moments. We take time to check on each other, and we assist each other with our problems. Sometimes it's just the brainstorming on how to solve some of our challenges and obstacles that makes our love stronger. I am competing with real life, and I want to win. I want her to win too. I want US to win at all times together. I am of the mindset that if WE continue to be selfless and work as a team.........WE can win. There is no "I" in teamwork. We women carry so many burdens and bags it's a damned shame at times. And not just our own bags and burdens, but also the bags and burdens of our spouses, children, parents, extended family members, good friends, acquaintances, and/or our jobs.........................It's hard carrying all of those bags and burdens alone. If you're fortunate enough to have found "Ms. Right," and she's a good Ms. Right, then you understand her value and worth. You understand and appreciate her in ways that most men can't comprehend. Most men simply don't have the capacity to do so. You as a woman know how it feels to have carried all those bags for years all alone. I finally know how it feels to have some help carrying those bags now that she has entered my life. It's like she is a mirror of myself...............she treats and supports me in a way I have wanted and wished for for years. If you have one of these special ladies in your life and she's stepped up to the challenge instead of fleeing like a bat outta hell when life decided to compete, don't forget to return the love! One day.............it will rain at your house. It's nice to be able to have someone to bring an umbrella to the rain shower for ya! Be the partner or lover that you have always wanted and deserved. For those of us who have decided to put do away with Joe, and snapped us up a beautiful, sensual, strong, voluptuous, loyal Jane.............you better appreciate her. A strong, beautiful woman walking next to you during life's adversities in my opinion is better than money and gold. It can be very difficult to survive lots of curve balls in a new relationship, especially for us middle aged beauties. When life deals us competing interests that attempt to impede our new relationships.....be a contender instead of a quitter. Try being/thinking selfless, instead of being selfish. If she's weak...........you be her strength. When she's too tired to love herself..............love her. When they've sucked all the life out of her...............you be there to fill her right back up. That's what true love is all about. In return, she'll remember all of the love you gave, and pour into you during your weakest moments. Love is patient...........and love is indeed kind. One last but important note. These aren't instructions for ANY woman...................these are life lessons for THE right woman. This won't work for any gal............it has to be the right gal. Choose wisely ladies. When life competes............play to win. True love is too hard to find these days, especially for those of us middle-aged sisters recently embracing or bisexuality. Live free, love freely, but don't forget to carry an umbrella for the rainstorms. Take very good care of your lover, as she is also your friend! " Prosperity makes friends, adversity tries them. – Publilius Syrus " Have a great evening! DIY Queen
  25. Hi Shybi Family!!!!!!! I am sure many women have been in enough relationships regardless of sex (hopefully more than one) to be able to decipher when a person's interactions with us means us good or harm. Today, I'd like to talk about we women being jaded (fooled) by politeness. A politeness so complimentary, nice, so disarming..................it sets you up to be betrayed. I have had been a victim of "politeness," disguised in many forms a few times in my life............by men and women. In terms of men.............it's the general scenarios where you meet some "nice" guy who's good looking, charming, charismatic................saying all the right things to get you. Whether it's to get into your pants or get your hand in marriage...........the guy clearly has an agenda (as you see later in the relationship). After sometime in the relationship you learn this person really isn't nice perhaps. Sometimes you learn the guy is a creep/pervert/sex addict. Sometimes you learn the guy lured you in for nothing more to take his mother' place in being his glorified maid, housekeeper, bed wench. Sometimes you learn the guy simply likes to control people.............you took the bait so you're it. Maybe he has mental health issues. A guy with multiple personalities, maybe he was bipolar or schizophrenic and on his meds when you met him...................polite and kind. He turned into a monster without them. Where oh where did that polite person go you ask yourself many a days. In any event, we end up in bad relationships with men sometimes because of their insincere politeness. Books have been written about men and their shenanigans. But it's the women that I would like to focus on right now. These same scenarios can take place regardless of sex. Politeness is a form of diplomacy..........easily disguised to ensnare an unsuspecting victim for personal gains. I have been straight jacked by some women in my life. I've also seen how we can turn our politeness on and off when it suits our needs. I've seen women use politeness to disarm and conduct absolutely stunning acts of betrayal. Like a high school best friend sleeping with my husband and sharing all of my personal secrets with him...............enabling him to come back and use them against me. Friends all throughout high school and she commits the ultimate betrayal. The same thing happened with another really good friend I helped a lot riding her around town in my car, having her at my home, breaking bread with her, even partying with her. She was nice, kind, mild, not the brightest apple in the barrel....................but she was smart enough, cunning enough, polite enough for me to allow her into my small circle to screw my boyfriend and fuck up my otherwise nice relationship. Nice right! I did all the things I was supposed to be, or so I thought. I was kind to someone that showed kindness. I was polite to people who were polite to me. I shared with people that shared with me...............I thought I had a firm grasp on protecting myself from being betrayed. Stabbed in the back. Pushed from behind by a ride-or-die friend or love. I was wrong. Being jaded by a woman can even be more difficult to get over than a man. We are supposed to have this invisible "sisterhood," regardless of age, sexual orientation, or ethnicity. We know how it feels to be poo poo'd on. We all have the horrible let down stories by friends and loved ones. But as a woman I must admit, being jaded and cut deep by a woman is so much more painful. Because most of us are sensitive, nurturing beings, it's almost inconceivable that a woman you're in love with could: Cheat Be Abusive (Physically, Emotionally, Sexually) Be Deceitful /Deceptive Act Selfishly, or Use Sex and Kindness as Weapons for Behavior Modification Yes my friends...............we women can be some ugly critters at times. If you haven't had the experience yet, count it as a blessing. If you have................I hope you have healed and moved on. I say all this to say that as women, we must be careful to not be jaded by politeness or early expressions of love. Sometimes when someone is being overly polite, there are motives to betray us. When people are about to screw you over, they aren't usually mean which would give us a heads up. They are generally nice to you, to get you to drop your guard before they stick you in your ass with a pitchfork. It's a form of manipulation. For women, it's a manipulation we women have been labeled with since the beginning of time.............back to Adam and Eve (for the religious). So ladies..............as you embark on your lady love journeys, be wise. How do you prevent being jaded by a new love or acquaintance (but can apply to anyone in general): Self-Awareness (Be Aware): Be aware of conversational moods. One minute you have red flags going off all over the place and hairs standing up on the back of your necks. Pay attention to people and their sudden or renewed interest in you. It's likely not you, it could be what you bring to the table. Over-politeness is often difficult to detect when meeting new people, so go with your gut. We women can be mean, vindictive, cruel, selfish, manipulative human beings. We can also be kind, beautiful, caring, compassionate, loving, attentive human beings. As we go throughout our lives experimenting, searching and finding love, and when it's not right for us...........letting go, please be go into (and out of) any and all relationships (casual, committed, or otherwise) with a do no harm perspective. Leave the woman (or women) in your lives better than you found them. Ladies, don't take her kindness for weakness. But the most important take away is to not allow another to disarm you, leaving you open to wounds. Have a wonderful week!