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How Do You Feel About Being Approached By Couples?

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This one is for the single women.

 

Do you find that you are approached a lot by hetero couples? Do you think being open about your bisexuality affects this?

 

I personally am approached a lot by couples. I'm unsure about how I feel about it. I feel like if you're the single third it puts you in a vulnerable position in this dynamic.

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Opps. Message deleted just seen the single bit I should read better!! Lol

 

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Would not wish to participate, not for me, tried it once and didn't like it as they say.....

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I'm single but only starting to come out, so I haven't been propositioned yet. I wouldn't want to do it with a couple. I feel it's just far too likely to go wrong. One of them would probably get jealous seeing me with their partner and cause drama. Even if it was kept between them I'd still feel bad for having been the reason behind it. Or somebody might develop feelings that can't be explored because of the existing relationship. Or any of a bunch of other things.

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I have been approached by couples on dating sites where I have stated that I am bisexual . I personally find it to be pretty gross. I feel like a piece of meat. I find ffm threesome erotica stories and porn to be hot but I would not want to pursue it in real life.

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I've been approached online by couples. I am not interested. And while I am still technically married, I am not interested in having my husband join myself and another lady. I just want me and her.

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I think it not only puts you in a vulnerable position, it turns what should be, hopefully, an intimate and sensual experience with another woman into just...sex...( not that just sex is bad, if that's what you're after).

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I haven't been approached by couples. I'm also not openly out as bi to everyone nor am I online except here and silly FB or Twitter which I don't discuss my sexuality there. I could see where things could go so wrong with a couple though

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I'm single and I've never been approached by anyone. Where I am it's totally the opposite. I'm the odd one... I don't belong at all. People here are too straight. Having said that, I'd never get involved in any type of 3 some. That's just me tho.

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I've never cared for it,

I have been approached by couples on dating sites where I have stated that I am bisexual . I personally find it to be pretty gross. I feel like a piece of meat. I find ffm threesome erotica stories and porn to be hot but I would not want to pursue it in real life.

anytime ibe been approached for this it was always an ex of mine wanting another go and free tutorial for the woman.
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BTW I was never openly bi in any of these relationships

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Me and my partner do get approached, but it is not something we have ever wanted.

Saying that though there have been times when it was quite tempting, but we have remained resolute as we don't want anyone else on what he have...we don't want to spoil it.

 

To answer your question on how it makes us feel, I would say flattered.

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I don't mind couples approaching me as long as they don't have a copy of watch tower in their hands.

It's always a no though. More than two is a crowd as far as I'm concerned.

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As Morgana said I would feel flattered but would not act on it..

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I'm not single, but my husband is mono and I don't date with him.

 

Originally I wouldn't have been interested in couples, however, as long as it's either

 

a. Just sex, but I have a connection with them

b. A relationship I am being treated ethically in

 

I am happy with being approached by couples now. However, most couples go the wrong way about it and like others have said, think of you like a piece of meat or other commodity.

 

At the moment, as well as my relationship with my girlfriend , I am talking to a couple as well. Not sure what sort of situation it would be quite yet, probably somewhere in between just sex and a full relationship.

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I have been approached by couples on dating websites about joining in but I have interest in joining them. It bugs me more because it has been very clearly put on my profile that I'm not interested in threesomes and they still pester me for it.

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Yes I have been approached and acted on it. It was wonderful fun. I highly recommend. But keep in mind you are not a person but an object. Don't expect a relationship.

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It's happened with me but I never acted on it threesomes are not my thing

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I have been approached when i was single and married, by other couples and its not for me.

Maybe I should have only tr

 

ied it with experienced couples as various problems occured..but both times i felt like the other women involved were only fullfilling the mans fantasy and that was the only reason i was there. Also both times the other women only pretended to be bi sexual and they got scared when it really came down to the nitty gritty. So not for me...

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Not single now, but we've all been at some point, right?

 

I don't inherently object to the idea of a couple. There are couples where I'm honestly attracted to both people. But it would have to be something that developed naturally and felt mutually respectful. I agree that couples on dating sites don't usually give a good vibe.

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Yes I have been approached and acted on it. It was wonderful fun. I highly recommend. But keep in mind you are not a person but an object. Don't expect a relationship.

 

It depends how you are approached. Succesful triads can work, but it is rare

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It depends how you are approached. Succesful triads can work, but it is rare

 

Good point. I was thinking as a threesome. But yes, triads do work.

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I'm not single, but the idea of a threesome does not appeal to me whatsoever. I don't have any issues with people that do have them, in fact I love it when people are able to do what makes them happy where they are fulfilled sexually. I say more power to them! But the idea of being approached about a threesome just because of how I identify, doesn't set well with me. It's actually part of what I dread about becoming more open with others about who I am. To my knowledge, there are no other 'groups' that people assume this with. I don't like stereotypes, and my god there seem to be so many with this. Maybe it's just me that this bothers, and I'm usually not super-sensitive about anything.

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I'm not single, but the idea of a threesome does not appeal to me whatsoever. I don't have any issues with people that do have them, in fact I love it when people are able to do what makes them happy where they are fulfilled sexually. I say more power to them! But the idea of being approached about a threesome just because of how I identify, doesn't set well with me. It's actually part of what I dread about becoming more open with others about who I am. To my knowledge, there are no other 'groups' that people assume this with. I don't like stereotypes, and my god there seem to be so many with this. Maybe it's just me that this bothers, and I'm usually not super-sensitive about anything.

Bi orientation is the logical choice to assume there would be an interest in interacting sexually with both genders. The assumption/generalization that would bother me here is that simply because a person is sexually attracted to both genders, that they would want to have sex with both simultaneously. For me it is about respect. If a couple approached with a question, rather than an assumption, and did not use me solely as an object of fantasy fulfillment, but they wished to experience the wonders of group sex. I would be Flattered.

 

 

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Bi orientation is the logical choice to assume there would be an interest in interacting sexually with both genders. The assumption/generalization that would bother me here is that simply because a person is sexually attracted to both genders, that they would want to have sex with both simultaneously. For me it is about respect. If a couple approached with a question, rather than an assumption, and did not use me solely as an object of fantasy fulfillment, but they wished to experience the wonders of group sex. I would be Flattered.

I agree, the assumption/generalization that it would be both simultaneously, just because I happen to be attracted to both, is where it's insulting to me. I can definitely see how some would be flattered, and it would probably depend on the approach I'm sure. However, I don't like the idea that someone, who hasn't taken the time to get to know me, is making a judgement about me based on the sole fact that I'm bi, it makes me extremely uncomfortable. This is just one of the many stereotypes that make so many resistant to be open when they identify as bi. If someone wants to take the time to get to know me to get a feel for whether I would be into a threesome or not, I would respect their courage once they finally asked. They didn't prejudge me, they took the time to get to know me and my interests, and took a chance by asking based on a vibe they got. Stereotypes are dangerous, and keep so many of us prisoners in our secret. It's like with me living in the south, some might prejudge me and think I'm uneducated and sleep with my relatives. I can guarantee both are not accurate. Somebody better take the f'ing time to get to know me before they think either one of those things, just because I'm from the south.

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