Keep Yourselves Safe In 2016: Domestic Violence And Abuse

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This is always a hard topic to raise at this time of year but I am asking for members from different countries to put their emergency helpline numbers on this thread with the country highlighted in bold. Thus...


Don't wait until it is too late. DV goes up by 33% at this time of year and if you are a bi female you are at increased risk. I have pinned this topic until after the New Year. Please try and keep it bumped over the holiday period. This thread is for helpline names and numbers only. If you are needing support from Shybi then please start a thread on the topic.




National Domestic Violence 24 Hour number 0808 2000 87


Broken Rainbow LGB & T Helpline 0300 999 5428




(Taken from the National Domestic Violence website)



Cover your tracks



Warning: if you are worried about someone knowing you have visited this website please read the following safety information.

How can an abuser discover your internet activities?


Please take a few minutes to read the warning below and to take steps to increase your safety when visiting this website.

As a rule, internet browsers will save certain information as you surf the internet. This includes images from websites visited, information entered into search engines and a trail ('history') that reveals the sites you have visited. Please follow the instructions below to minimize the chances of someone finding out that you have visited this website.

If you know what browser you are using, then skip to the relevant instructions below. If you do not know the type of browser you are using, click on Help on the toolbar at the top of the browser screen. A drop down menu will appear, the last entry will say About Internet Explorer, About Mozilla Firefox, or something similar. The entry refers to which browser type you are using – you should then refer to the relevant instructions below.

Internet Explorer:


Click on the Tools menu and select Internet Options. On the General page, under Temporary Internet Files, click on Delete Cookies and then OK. Click on Delete Files, put a tick in the box labelled Delete all offline content and click OK. Under History, click on Clear History and then OK. Now look at the top of the window and click on the Content tab, select AutoComplete and finally, Clear Forms.



Click on Tools and then Options, then click on Privacy. Click on the Clear button next to Cache and Saved Form Information.



Click on Tools and then Preferences. Click on the Advanced tab and then the History section on the left hand side. Click the two Clear buttons and the Empty Now button.

Deleting your browsing history:


Internet browsers also keep a record of all the web pages you visit. This is known as a 'history'. To delete history for Internet Explorer and Netscape/Firefox hold down the Ctrl key on the keyboard, then press the H key (Crtl, Alt and H for Opera). Find any entries that say, right click and choose Delete.



If an abuser sends you threatening or harassing email messages, they may be printed and saved as evidence of this abuse. Any email you have previously sent will be stored in Sent Items. If you started an email but didn't finish it, it might be in your Drafts folder. If you reply to any email, the original message will probably be in the body of the message – print and delete the email if you don't want anyone to see your original message.

When you delete an item in any email program (Outlook Express, Outlook, Thunderbird etc) it does not really delete the item – it moves the item to a folder called Deleted Items. You have to delete the items in deleted items separately. Right click on items within the Deleted Items folder to delete individual items.



Toolbars such as Google, AOL and Yahoo keep a record of the search words you have typed into the toolbar search box. In order to erase all the search words you have typed in, you will need to check the individual instructions for each type of toolbar. For example, for the Google toolbar all you need to do is click on the Google icon, and choose "Clear Search History".

General security:


If you do not use a password to log on to your computer, someone else will be able to access your email and track your internet usage. The safest way to find information on the internet, would be at a local library, a friend's house, or at work.

All of the above information may not completely hide your tracks. Many browser types have features that display recently visited sites. The safest way to find information on the internet, would be at a local library, a friend's house, or at work.


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Aww come on ladies. Even if your relationship is safe and secure I am sure you can find local numbers for your country and post... please? :)


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Woman's Aid (Scotland) - 0131 226 6606


Woman's Aid (Glasgow) - 0141 553 2006


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United States:


National Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-800-799-7233 (24/7)

Tennessee Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-800-356-6767


Hoping no one has to use them......stay safe.


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Thanks ladies for your inputs :)


I hope no-one needed the numbers but I have changed the title so the thread can remain maybe a help to anyone needing it


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Thank you very, very much for addressing this issue, lilac_lover.


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