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Afraid To Act On It

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So I have been curious and turned on by the thought of being with a woman for maybe eight years now. I only watch lesbian porn and get so turned on by the thought of being with a woman but can't work up the nerve to do it. I'm 35 and hope I work up the nerve to try something I have been thinking about and fantasizing about for years. Any woman in the same boat?

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Firstly Welcome to the Shybi family. Yes we all feel that way at times. I have been with a woman but not in years. It was 21 years ago and I haven't had the opportunity since. I sometimes wonder if I ever will again. If sure you will find that someone. Keep positive. Is there any LGBT groups in your area? Maybe join a dating site? Good Luck to you I hope you find someone. Cheers :)

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Firstly Welcome to the Shybi family. Yes we all feel that way at times. I have been with a woman but not in years. It was 21 years ago and I haven't had the opportunity since. I sometimes wonder if I ever will again. If sure you will find that someone. Keep positive. Is there any LGBT groups in your area? Maybe join a dating site? Good Luck to you I hope you find someone. Cheers :)

 

Thanks. Hoping to work up the nerve soon.

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Keep active on here as well as sometimes people will post about up comming meet ups in your area. There's some wonderful ladies here.

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So I have been curious and turned on by the thought of being with a woman for maybe eight years now. I only watch lesbian porn and get so turned on by the thought of being with a woman but can't work up the nerve to do it. I'm 35 and hope I work up the nerve to try something I have been thinking about and fantasizing about for years. Any woman in the same boat?

 

This is my story, exactly. I spend a lot of time alone in hotel rooms, and would love to spice it up - but I would like for things to happen naturally. . .

 

Do you have an update?

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This is a great place to explore your sexuality and your feelings. As you learn more about your feelings and read the forums on this site, it will help you to gain confidence and will make you notice things you never thought to look for.

 

I had never watched any porn until I was on this site and when I did that increased my awareness even more that I was attracted to women. I didn't necessarily always think about having sex with women because I need to have a connection for that to happen, and that happened when I met my fiance on this site. We had and instant connection as as soon as we were together and decided that we were meant to be together, I didn't have to watch porn.

 

Just have fun it and enjoy getting to know this side of yourself.

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I was! Same age, too. Lol

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So I have been curious and turned on by the thought of being with a woman for maybe eight years now. I only watch lesbian porn and get so turned on by the thought of being with a woman but can't work up the nerve to do it. I'm 35 and hope I work up the nerve to try something I have been thinking about and fantasizing about for years. Any woman in the same boat?

 

I'm not in the same boat (I started my lesbian love life when I was a teenager), but still remember how I went about meeting women when I left college and moved to NYC. If you are really serious about it, then go to lesbian clubs bars or events of other kinds (networking parties, dining clubs, etc.), join an LGBT group or use an online dating site (as Vampire suggested). Those are all ways that you will definitely come into contact with other bi and lesbian women who are looking for friendship, sex or romance.

 

Do you have any female friends who are bi or gay? If so, you could ask them to go with you to a gay venue.

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I'm in a similar boat. I've been turned on by the thought of another women for over 15 years, but was always to chicken to act on it. I'm married to a man now who would not be supportive so I'm no longer hoping to work up the nerve. I hope you are able to find the courage! Let us know

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Women are...ughhhhh, I don't even have the words.

I had read on here that when you truly accept ur sexuality, you'll find women much more beautiful in everyday life.

It took me a while to get there, but I now completely agree!

 

And a pair of beautiful breasts on your breasts? Ughhhhh...

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Am I afraid to act on it? I don't know.

 

It seems to be an anxiety trigger for me, and I'm not entirely sure why. Intellectually, I'm not at all afraid, but tend to freeze up, pull back, and basically act like I'm the total opposite of interested when anyone actually does hit on me.

 

I'm pretty sure I could get past it with the right person. But I'm perhaps a little overly picky about the right person. I've had opportunities I haven't taken, and now I've gotten myself fixated on someone who would probably never go for it.

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Yes!

The only porn I watch now is lesbian porn. I have yet to even kiss a woman, but the thought of making love to one drives me insane.

People have mentioned lesbian bars, but I have heard that the LGBTQA community is not the most welcoming to the "B" part of it. I have no desire to explain that I am not confused in my preference.

 

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On 4/8/2017 at 5:24 AM, Neeq79 said:

Yes!

The only porn I watch now is lesbian porn. I have yet to even kiss a woman, but the thought of making love to one drives me insane.

People have mentioned lesbian bars, but I have heard that the LGBTQA community is not the most welcoming to the "B" part of it. I have no desire to explain that I am not confused in my preference.

 

You don't necessarily need to start with bars. There are other types of meetups. For instance, I just went to a queer game night at which everybody was quite nice. And if people ask you can just say it was a game night without mentioning the demographics. Surely nobody would object to you going out and playing Glue, right?

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I'm on the same boat! 38 years old, married two kids. I only watch lesbian porn and the thought of being with a woman turns me on so much!! But I'm not sure if I have the guts to persuade it or how to find the opportunity. I'm glad I found this forum as it helps feel that I'm not alone in this journey.

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On 9/18/2017 at 8:55 AM, ChemFem said:

You don't necessarily need to start with bars. There are other types of meetups. For instance, I just went to a queer game night at which everybody was quite nice. And if people ask you can just say it was a game night without mentioning the demographics. Surely nobody would object to you going out and playing Glue, right?

This was supposed to say going out and playing Glue *facepalm* this is why you should always check your spelling.

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On 3/16/2017 at 9:08 PM, Kleigh said:

 

This is my story, exactly. I spend a lot of time alone in hotel rooms, and would love to spice it up - but I would like for things to happen naturally. . .

 

Do you have an update?

I’m still in the exactl  same place, afraid to act on my sexual feelings toward woman. 

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2 hours ago, raeoh said:

I’m still in the exactl  same place, afraid to act on my sexual feelings toward woman. 

It took me two years here but I believe I got over this. The key is to admit. I know why I was afraid but I need to do this. I am certainly not bi and admiting this to myself brought a whole new set of  doubts in me. But I am going to do it and deal with the consequences after. Of course I am not going to just sleep with anybody  :P In two years I only felt safe and managed the connection I want only with two but things don't always go as we plan :P That's life right? 

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