brokengirl0407

Is it just Me??? My Libido

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Is it just me or does anyone else experience their increase in their libido as they age? I am going to be 37 in a couple of weeks, and I swear I am so much hornier now than when I was in my 20's ( and that is saying something).  I think of  being intimate much more often especial with my g/f , I masturbate more frequently and I am more likely  to initiate intercourse  than 5-6 years ago and when I do it is so much more satisfying.  I desire being with a woman more now although I still enjoy being intimate with my hubby.  In short I am much homier  than I can ever remember, Am I alone?  Does this seem normal? At times I  wonder if this is because I was a late bloomer  sexually in my teen years , or maybe because I can't have children, my body doesn't  realize this and it is my body's way to get me to reproduce. Other times, I think  how I feel more at peace and less stressed now, more settled in my life than ever before and that allows me to enjoy my relationships more.... I would be very interested in how others feels or felt  in their mid 30-s,  or if they have insights  as to my uber -horny  situation ( btw, I'm not complaining, I'm just curious as to why)

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I'm mid thirties and have only in the past couple of years embraced my bisexuality. In the beginning of my sexual awakening I felt liberated, confident, just generally good about myself. I was involved in an online affair with a woman (no physical contact), I felt more alive and more sexual than I had in my life. I desired sex with my husband more and like you mentioned, I was more sexually satisfied. But my husband had a negative reaction to my bisexuality and my affair, which I admitted to him. I was forced to stop my affair in order to save my marriage. I lost my confidence and my alive feeling, and with it, my sex drive. I don't think age has much to do with it, I think it's all about contentment, it's totally a psychological thing. When we feel good about one aspect of our lives, the rest follows.....same goes in the negative direction unfortunately 

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@Cute&Curious I 100% agree with you.  Just after turning 38, I hit this roller coaster of sexual awakening which really came following the realization of a crush on a woman.  Not sure if it was age or circumstance but I experienced this huge burst of libido. It was a win for everyone and my husband was thrilled to reap the benefits of this new found confidence all bc I explored with a woman that opened my eyes to a whole new concept re: sex.

 

@brokengirl0407 I can relate to what you shared, so no, you are not alone! 

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It's been the opposite for me, but maybe because I am exhausted all the time. My GF is younger and has a much higher sex drive then I do and I wish I could keep up with her. I love her so much and it kills me that I don't want it more. I am sure she would prefer that and I don't blame her.

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I don't know I had a pretty high libido when I was younger, but I was less likely to act on it. I had this feeling or sense that I was supposed to act a certain way to attract the kind of relationship I wanted or thought I wanted. I think now a lot has to do with giving a lot less f@#$ about what people think. After going through hell, having what were supposed to be the perfect relationships and have those people tell people what to think and create narratives about me which were far worse than anything I could or would actually ever do, what else is left? After beating them at their own game to slander and defame me, and seeing what the true colors of people really are, and likely that it would be terribly difficult for me to have children anyway, I guess I just feel like I have a lot less to lose. Since that time I focus on my sanity, well being and mental and emotional health. That means also having those boundaries in line with any sexual relationships I have and setting the terms there. Perhaps when I was younger I would have been more vulnerable and less able to protect myself and my well being as well.

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I turned 37 earlier this year, and I seem to hit spurts of sexual peak. About a year ago I had a hysterectomy, but kept my ovaries.  I thought that my sexual appetite would change, but it just keeps going. There are times that even after sex I want to keep having orgasms. I masturbate regularly and usually end up with 2 or three orgasms - depending on how much time I have to invest. LOL 

-  I have read that for women; we tend to reach a sexual peak or awakening in our thirties - unlike men who have it earlier in their 20s. My sexual libido has always been high, but I do experience more instances where I just want to keep having sex, or even just being aroused all day long.. 

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I found from 35 I was horny all the time. 37 now, hope it stays around;)

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I'm 37, and I have a pretty healthy appetite, definitely more so than in my 20s.  I think it's partly that I know better what works for me (including women) and that I'm more comfortable with my identity.  Wish I had someone to enjoy this energy with!  LOL In my last relationship, I would've had sex with her three times a day if I could have, regardless of my energy level.  And when we did have sex, I was insatiable.

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I'm 47 and I have to agree with you. The last few years I am always either in the mood or not far from it.  I've embraced my carnal desires with age and experience and am really enjoying myself.

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My libido is crazy at the moment. I just think I will make the most of it while it lasts - one day I may become one of the people who prefer a cup of tea instead......until then.....I will indulge myself as often as I physically can without killing my partner tee hee :D

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Fluctuating hormones will get ya everytime ;)

 

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Totally agree, it fluctuates with me but I've found that now that I'm in my 30s my sex drive has increased and I'm much more adventurous. I've been with my husband since I was 20, I had no idea about what I wanted sexually and when I did, I wasn't comfortable to ask for it. Now I'm much more comfortable with sexuality and have the confidence to ask for things...slowly. My husband has been very receptive and in return has upped his game, asked for things he never has before. My sex drive is through the roof now.

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You are not alone, and I'm glad to hear from many more ladies have experienced the same

I feel better in myself as confusing yet exciting as these last 2yrs have been with my libido out the roof

Masturbating at least 3x a day

Craving for connection 

More satisfying orgasms

Absolutely loving lesbian porn 

I'm 40 now and its been settling down

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