Tpearl002

What made join Shybi?

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I've been on here for a week or two. I decided to join and try to be a active member of Shybi to meet and chat with other women having similar experience as I have. I'm not out to the people around me so I don't get to talk about my sane sex attraction or openly discuss a woman I may like. Basically, a part of me is squashed. Joining Shybi gives me a way to be my full self until I am ready to come out to those close to me. 

If anyone wants to share what made you join Shybi?

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I joined because I am only out to two friends, neither of whom are local, and only one is queer (a gay man) at that. I figured if I couldn't have a native community I could seek one out online. It's the best way I know, for now, how to exercise all parts of myself.

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We're in the same boat basically. This site is a nice way to discuss and feel connected to women who share the same or similar experiences.

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In a funny way admitting it was easy. The hard part is figuring out what that means in praxis. What are the next steps, who (if anyone) do I tell, how to I flirt with other women, how to address biphobia, blah blah blah. So having this forum of a bunch of other women moving through the world in similar situations is comforting. It means nothing going through my head is insurmountable.

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Just join today and wanted to know how to deal with my curiosity of wanting to be with a woman. So I thought I join and maybe be more comfortable with this idea that I have not express to anyone 

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Even though I have not came out to and yet, this site does make the idea of coming out eventually seem less stressful. I'm not saying I will do so tomorrow but I am more at ease with discussing it and can see myself being completely honest one day 

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All of my close friends that are in my circle are very conservative and very closed to any type of relationship other than a man and a woman.  With LGBTQ in the media we actually had a conversation over lunch and they were very clear that they do not support any type of alternative lifestyle so needless to say I will not be sharing my feelings with them.  This leaves me feeling isolated in this journey as I have no outlet to discuss my feelings and experiences with anyone other than my husband and let's face it...not exactly the best outlet.  So I went on a search for a group of woman that would take the "crazy" out of what I feel are normal emotions and feelings.  I have found exactly that here.

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Leigh1968, I'm glad you found this site and are able to openly disuss your feelings. I can imagine it is a lonely feelings not to be able to talk to your friends due to their negative feelings about the LGBT community.

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I came across the shy bi website when I did some research after being subject to some pretty unpleasant and scary biphobia when I moved into the house I live in now three years since. I never told my new neighbours that I have had some bisexual experience (obviously, why would I), I appear to have a stalker who is doing that for me. This information is being passed on wherever I go in the community despite the fact that my experiences date back some 27 years ago now. It is very interesting and comforting to me to be part of the shy's community as at the time of my experiences I thought I was the only one. I have learnt a lot of other things about human sexuality since being a member here as well. So I guess I am well informed even if those that live around me are not. I live in total isolation these days having lost my primary partner five years ago and struggling to make new friends and move on.

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I stumbled across this site whilst searching for support for menopause believe it or not. After reading a bit thought, Wow, I've struck Gold... actually finding ladies who felt like me. I could never figure out why I felt different and assumed I was just a nutter. Who can actually love a man or a woman. So many women I'd actually fell for. I couldn't understand why I'd like both. Shy's helped me to understand who I was. That I was NO nutter..... well not in this regard. lol

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I discovered this site after finally accepting I was Bi, even though I've known since childhood. It has been a great source for information and support. Initially when I first joined about a year or so ago I was only out to a few friends and now I am out to all my friends and Facebook as well as my husband. Still haven't come out to any family though besides my husband. 

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I joined shybi about 10 months ago, looking for a community of women who get it, who could relate to what I was going through. I found that and more. This place has given me solace when I needed it most. It's a place for me to be free, somewhere I don't have to pretend. I can't tell you how much it means to me to be able to express this side of me, here and only here can I do that

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It seems most people have a common reason for joining this site, being able to openly discuss your feelings with others when they cannot do so in their personal lives. I know that is goal of Shybi. I'm happy that we all found this site and are  able to form a safe supprtive community for each other.

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Curiosity!I was bored one night and I don't even know what I was searching or if I was searching something.I was not a member of any kind of site and I felt relaxed here and I joined 

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I came out 20 years ago as bi.  Then gay.  Then gay-leaning bi (as I met my now-ex-husband).  And now I am back to identifying as gay.  Sexuality is a complex beast.  I have been fortunate enough to be safe being out.

While I was married, my ex and I searched for a third for a triad.  One woman we'd been talking to backed out, but she told me about this site (I have no idea what her screen name is here, if she's a member).  I joined to talk to other women who might understand the situation, even though I was out about it with the people in my life.

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I joined because I came across this site when I was looking for ways to find support for being bisexual and married.  I am glad I did because I have found amazing advice and support on here.  I was raised in an extreme Christian family, so I could never talk with any of them.  I have discovered there are other women who have been through situations similar to me.   Best wishes to all of you!

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I joined, because I was looking for a way to get advice on dealing with my attraction to women, without damaging my marriage.  I am very glad to have found this site, although I'm not on as often as I used to be

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I'm glad you you found the support you were looking for @Questioningmylife and@roselove. I haven't been on here for long but I'm already starting to feel a sense of community.  I love that I now have an an outlet to talk about things I cannot with family and friends

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Very similar reasons to everyone else. Its a nice safe forum. I think we joined within an hr of each other Tpearl002.

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I joined because I wanted to talk to like minded women. I'm in my 30's. I'm from the chat room era. Instagram doesn't snap my bean.

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The female bisexual mafia made me do it.

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I stumbled upon this site and saw that it was full of amazing women who support each other. My husband and a few close friends are the only ones who know I'm bi but they fully support me. I am so glad I found a place to relate to people. I thought I was all alone!

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I found this site when reading articles about women becoming more bi curious and bisexual as they age.  I had been feeling somewhat guilty about liking lesbian porn, and feeling like maybe something was wrong with me.  I started to see articles about being bi, and my curiosity was really piqued.  My heart pounded as I contemplated joining this site.  It was a huge step for me.  But I'm glad I did it.  It's nice not to have to worry about being judged.  I talk about it with my husband some, but it's not the same as talking with women who can understand how I feel.

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Google linked me up after my "awakening" a few months back as I was lookin for a community of like-minded women in a similar situation. A place where not only you could fully relax and feel at home, (walk around in your sweats with no make up on and not be judged type deal,...just fully be your authentic self), but also a place to learn from other woman either ones with more experience or even less with a different view point! 

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On 7/1/2017 at 11:31 PM, Tpearl002 said:

I've been on here for a week or two. I decided to join and try to be a active member of Shybi to meet and chat with other women having similar experience as I have. I'm not out to the people around me so I don't get to talk about my sane sex attraction or openly discuss a woman I may like. Basically, a part of me is squashed. Joining Shybi gives me a way to be my full self until I am ready to come out to those close to me. 

If anyone wants to share what made you join Shybi?

That was pretty much exactly why i joined. I was out to maybe 3 people, and had recently fallen hard for a girl i thought might have been into me too.  I needed a way to process my thoughts and feelings, as well as get advice on this girl.  I'm now able to mostly discuss it all with my husband, and I'm out to most friends now, but it's still a cathartic place to come and be immersed in a community of women like me.  

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