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How must experience do you have with your bisexuality?

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#1 OFFLINE   Nikki Myles

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Posted 12 February 2009 - 10:40 PM

My first poll. I hope this thing works!

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Posted 12 February 2009 - 10:52 PM

I was with a woman once about sixteen years ago.

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Posted 12 February 2009 - 10:53 PM

Aha! It worked. :spruce_up:

This poll was inspired by another thread about "Why we come to Shybi.com". I would guess that the curious ones (like myself) tend to romanticize bisexuality because of the mystery/newness of it all... posting titillating stories, rants, etc.... all of that pent up energy about to explode! Then after we experiment a little, we settle into a routine that is more about companionship and being understood by the other members. I.e. liking women is still great but not a really huge HUGE deal anymore.

That's the process I went through coming out transgendered. In the beginning, all I ever did was post about gender. Now that the *urge* is gone, I've mellowed a bit and just want to hang around people who understand me. I bet sexuality works in a similar way, in that our more experienced members probably have somewhat different conversations than the rest. Just wondering, anyway.

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Posted 12 February 2009 - 11:07 PM

View PostNikki Myles, on Feb 12 2009, 05:53 PM, said:

Aha! It worked. :spruce_up:

That's the process I went through coming out transgendered. In the beginning, all I ever did was post about gender. Now that the *urge* is gone, I've mellowed a bit and just want to hang around people who understand me. I bet sexuality works in a similar way, in that our more experienced members probably have somewhat different conversations than the rest. Just wondering, anyway.


Yes. I agree Nikki. For me, the excitement factor has come and gone. When I first came out as a lesbian at 16, it was new and shiny and fascinating to me. But, then I settled into it. And then I married a man. He didn't care for the fact that I had been with a woman for 3 years, so I shut all those feelings down. New husband, new "coming out" about my bisexuality and I'm off and running again-- this time with a husband who gets it and appreciates me for who I am. But, again, I've settled down. I am comfortable with my sexuality and now seek to be around like-minded people. And it's really cool that my husband and I have the same tastes in women-- we often joke about competing over someone.

Sometimes, it rather amazes me how many new women join here. I think it's great, a wonderful resource, supportive, and fascinated by how many women are willing to come to terms with these feelings. It can be quite overwhelming at first.

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Posted 12 February 2009 - 11:19 PM

OK. I think this counts as my first post. My husband and I have done threesomes with another guy and foursomes with other couples.  I was not with the other woman at all. Now, we would love to meet another woman to have a threesome with.  It will fullfill his ongoing fantasy and my brand new one!

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Posted 12 February 2009 - 11:57 PM

Darn it... I posted this to the wrong forum.

If a moderator reads this, can you move it to the General Free For All forum? Pretty please?

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Posted 13 February 2009 - 01:10 AM

No experience with a woman here. It is rather exciting now that I have acknowledged these feelings and want to act on them. I think you're right about the women who have more experience don't post about it as much as those of us with less experience. I'm just really enjoying being able to come here and talk about anything without having to keep some parts of myself to myself!

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Posted 13 February 2009 - 02:01 PM

View PostNDgirl, on Feb 12 2009, 08:10 PM, said:

No experience with a woman here. It is rather exciting now that I have acknowledged these feelings and want to act on them. I think you're right about the women who have more experience don't post about it as much as those of us with less experience. I'm just really enjoying being able to come here and talk about anything without having to keep some parts of myself to myself!


I think we are in the same boat.  Its so strange to have these feelings that I thought I would never,  ever have.  I want to experience this.  But part of me is very nervous and the other part is very excited.

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Posted 13 February 2009 - 07:32 PM

I've kissed and touched girls but have never gone all the way.  Over the past few years I have come to terms with my bisexuality and have met a few girls I've really liked.  One was particularly special and I feel she really helped me accept my feelings for women.

Unfortunately things never went any further than kissing as I was in a long term relationship.  Ha.  Look how well that turned out!!!  Unfortunately she is in a long term relationship now!

I would love to meet a girl but would want my first time to be really special so it may take a while!

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Posted 13 February 2009 - 11:47 PM

I have kissed one girl.  But knew as soon as I had that this was what I wanted after being married for over 20 years.
I would love to have the chance to have more with a woman.  Only time will tell

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Posted 14 February 2009 - 01:25 AM

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Edited by Tellie, 04 May 2009 - 05:05 PM.


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Posted 15 February 2009 - 08:36 AM

I came out as bi about 10months ago when a good friend hit on me, nothing happened with her but it brought my curiosity back to the front of my mind. Since then I have had sex with 3 woman all the way and fooled around with a few others. Had really strong feelings for one girl.

I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

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Posted 15 February 2009 - 09:15 AM

*sings
I kissed a girl and I liked it.

I dont really fit into any of the above
currently in a realitionship with two amazing women :)

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Posted 15 February 2009 - 07:37 PM

kissed friends when we were young and drunk-had a threesome with my friend and bf... and I'm allowed to go with girls if i want to as long as I tell my bf but haven't had the oppertunity to go meet anyone anything and be open that even though I have a bf I like girls,  anything that happens have evolves from friendship that have a lot of trust other than kisses with added alcohol.

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Posted 15 February 2009 - 07:42 PM

Since coming to terms with my bisexuality some years ago, I have had 2 serious relationships with girls.

The time I spend thinking about being with a woman as compared to being with a guy would be about 70:30


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Posted 17 February 2009 - 06:52 AM

Define involved...I have definitely kissed and touched another woman in a way that was NOT just about being good friends, but we haven't gone further--yet!  However, we have plans for a date in the near future.  So I picked "involved with both men and women," since I've also done similar things with her hubby (they are in an open relationship and both omgsohot).  No threesome yet though, more's the pity...

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Posted 20 February 2009 - 09:02 PM

I've done stuff with a girl before, but not very much, kinda supressed/lost my attraction to women over the last few years, but it seems to have come back again!

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Posted 22 February 2009 - 05:56 AM

I've never so much as kissed a girl...not so much as a caress...all which makes me sad...and frustrated....I've only just opened up and told my closest friend and hubby that I am bisexual...but have known for years...Now with Hubby's approval..I'd LOVE to experience my 'firsts' with a very special lady...not just anyone thanks...she's the only one I crave anyway...

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Posted 22 February 2009 - 05:35 PM

Kissed a girl a looong time ago, but not much else. *sigh*

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Posted 22 February 2009 - 06:21 PM

i have had varied experience with women.

some wonderfull some awfull.




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