[BlondiegirlFl]

Alright, so heres my situation and i'm hoping someone can help. I am scared to death to approach girls or even talk to them unless I know they r really into me. Basically I am bisexual have been with a few girls and loved it and had a great time....but I can't meet girls basically....I have this mind set that I am afraid to talk to them because I don't want them to not be bi and freak out on me and then i'll feel like a idiot. I know it sounds stupid as I know u make urself feel stupid not the other person....but how do I get over this.....with guys I guess its easier for me as I know that guys typically like girls so if I think they r looking at me most likely they r LOL...but with girls how do u know??? I have a b/f and a few of his exs were bi and he says they just went and talked to girls and they just "knew" I guess I lack that ability??? I don't know?? Maybe its lack of self confidence?? But, it's really starting to bother me as I have numerous times been very sure girls r flirting with me but to afraid to approach them.....I feel like i'm in grade school when u would play stupid games with guys and hide ur face b/c u were embarrassed....How do u know??? What can I do to get over this???? I really appreciate any feed back or help....

[Kiya]

Flirt. I'm assuming that you can flirt with guys - you just have to flirt with girls, too. It might be a slightly slower process, since women often tend to be a little more - friendly - with each other without it meaning anything, but after a time or two of flirting with the same girl, I'd suspect that you'd have a better idea of whether she's into women, and whether she's into you.

And, ya know, rejection is part of life - and while it might be you, there's an equal chance that it's them, too.

[guitargirl]

I guess just be generally friendly and a bit flirty and see what happens. If the girl flirts back keep going and see what happens. Sometimes you can ask questions that will help reveal if they are bi or lesbian - something that involves bi-ness or gay-ness and see what her reaction is. But if you're both busy flirting i thik this would a be a bit of a chemistry killer!

[jiggleznsmilez]

I feel that I am so in your position. So far, I haven't had the courage to go up to any girls. I've done the online thing bit I don't think thatd the same. You can tell that they are already into you or at least girls for that matter. My boyfriend says that I need to just do it and get it over with already. Like a bandaid, right off. He's like, whatd the worst they can do? I just feel that I put too much on it. I know nothing about them. What if I end up not liking her, based on her personality? What's helped me talk to girls that I've been introduced to by my boyfriend is pretending that I already have known them for a while. It kind of makes me feel a bit comfortable at first. But that kind of backfires because I am not really showing that I am into them. Almost like the moment has passed. My boyfriemd suggest flirting right away. Like start off complimenting them on the thongs you like about them. I have yet to try it. Also like you, I have a hard time discerning whether or not they are just being nice or flirting. I never pick up on it right away. My follow throughs are the worst. Like you said, guys seem to be much easier. Another thing he mentioned was that, no matter what you do or say, unless you end up accidently injuring them, if they are into you it would be pretty hard to blow it. You just have to first, allow yourself totalk to her to het the time and chance to tell. I wish you luck andmyself.