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#1 OFFLINE   misstake

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Posted 15 November 2015 - 03:43 PM

This one is for the single women.

Do you find that you are approached a lot by hetero couples? Do you think being open about your bisexuality affects this?

I personally am approached a lot by couples. I'm unsure about how I feel about it. I feel like if you're the single third it puts you in a vulnerable position in this dynamic.

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Posted 15 November 2015 - 04:18 PM

Opps. Message deleted just seen the single bit I should read better!! Lol

Edited by Jane77, 15 November 2015 - 04:25 PM.


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Posted 15 November 2015 - 06:46 PM

Would not wish to participate, not for me, tried it once and didn't like it as they say.....
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Posted 15 November 2015 - 10:02 PM

I'm single but only starting to come out, so I haven't been propositioned yet. I wouldn't want to do it with a couple. I feel it's just far too likely to go wrong. One of them would probably get jealous seeing me with their partner and cause drama. Even if it was kept between them I'd still feel bad for having been the reason behind it. Or somebody might develop feelings that can't be explored because of the existing relationship. Or any of a bunch of other things.

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Posted 16 November 2015 - 01:04 AM

I have been approached by couples on dating sites where I have stated that I am bisexual . I personally find it to be pretty gross. I feel like a piece of meat. I find ffm threesome erotica stories and porn to be hot but I would not want to pursue it in real life.

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Posted 16 November 2015 - 01:10 AM

I've been approached online by couples.  I am not interested.  And while I am still technically married, I am not interested in having my husband join myself and another lady.  I just want me and her.

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Posted 16 November 2015 - 02:06 AM

I think it not only puts you in a vulnerable position, it turns what should be, hopefully, an intimate and sensual experience with another woman into just...sex...( not that just sex is bad, if that's what you're after).

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Posted 16 November 2015 - 10:48 PM

I haven't been approached by couples.  I'm also not openly out as bi to everyone nor am I online except here and silly FB or Twitter which I don't discuss my sexuality there.  I could see where things could go so wrong with a couple though

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Posted 16 November 2015 - 11:57 PM

I'm single and I've never been approached by anyone. Where I am it's totally the opposite. I'm the odd one... I don't belong at all. People here are too straight.  Having said that, I'd never get involved in any type of 3 some. That's just me tho.

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Posted 17 November 2015 - 12:53 AM

I've never cared for it,

View PostHulaHoop444, on 16 November 2015 - 01:04 AM, said:

I have been approached by couples on dating sites where I have stated that I am bisexual . I personally find it to be pretty gross. I feel like a piece of meat. I find ffm threesome erotica stories and porn to be hot but I would not want to pursue it in real life.
anytime ibe been approached for this it was always an ex of mine wanting another go and free tutorial for the woman.
"Sometimes courage is a small voice at the end of the day saying, 'tomorrow I will try again' "

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Posted 17 November 2015 - 12:54 AM

BTW I was never openly bi in any of these relationships
"Sometimes courage is a small voice at the end of the day saying, 'tomorrow I will try again' "

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Posted 17 November 2015 - 07:34 AM

Me and my partner do get approached, but it is not something we have ever wanted.
Saying that though there have been times when it was quite tempting, but we have remained resolute as we don't want anyone else on what he have...we don't want to spoil it.

To answer your question on how it makes us feel, I would say flattered.
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Posted 18 November 2015 - 08:56 PM

I don't mind couples approaching me as long as they don't have a copy of watch tower  in their hands.
It's always a no though. More than two is a crowd as far as I'm concerned.

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Posted 19 November 2015 - 03:01 AM

As Morgana said I would feel flattered but would not act on it..

Edited by SimplyTrouble, 07 December 2015 - 03:39 AM.

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Posted 20 November 2015 - 10:04 PM

I'm not single, but my husband is mono and I don't date with him.

Originally I wouldn't have been interested in couples, however, as long as it's either

a. Just sex, but I have a connection with them
b. A relationship I am being treated ethically in

I am happy with being approached by couples now. However, most couples go the wrong way about it and like others have said, think of you like a piece of meat or other commodity.

At the moment, as well as my relationship with my girlfriend , I am talking to a couple as well. Not sure what sort of situation it would be quite yet, probably somewhere in between just sex and a full relationship.
Married bisexual woman (30 yrs old) with kids.

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Posted 27 November 2015 - 08:42 PM

I have been approached by couples on dating websites about joining in but I have interest in joining them. It bugs me more because it has been very clearly put on my profile that I'm not interested in threesomes and they still pester me for it.

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Posted 28 November 2015 - 01:25 AM

Yes I have been approached and acted on it. It was wonderful fun. I highly recommend.  But keep in mind you are not a person but an object. Don't expect a relationship.

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Posted 29 November 2015 - 09:40 PM

It's happened with me but I never acted on it threesomes are not my thing

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Posted 02 December 2015 - 04:29 PM

I have been approached when i was single and married, by other couples and its not for me.
Maybe I should have only tr

ied it with experienced couples as various problems occured..but both times i felt like the other women involved were  only fullfilling the mans fantasy and that was the only reason i was there. Also both times the other women only pretended to be bi sexual and they got scared when it really came down to the nitty gritty. So not for me...

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Posted 04 December 2015 - 02:26 AM

Not single now, but we've all been at some point, right?

I don't inherently object to the idea of a couple. There are couples where I'm honestly attracted to both people. But it would have to be something that developed naturally and felt mutually respectful. I agree that couples on dating sites don't usually give a good vibe.





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