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What age were you when you first realized you were attracted to women

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#41 OFFLINE   L_st

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Posted 21 January 2014 - 11:34 PM

I was about 17 when I realised however with hindsight, I was probably about 8 when I first felt attracted to girls.

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Posted 23 January 2014 - 12:51 AM

I'm 45 & had my first crush on a girl when I was 12. At the time, I only knew there was gay & straight. The way I responded to her was the same as with guys I liked. Nervous, fluttery, giddy, etc. I understood I was interested in a girl, but, didn't know what the implications were.

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Posted 30 January 2014 - 07:10 PM

between 17-20

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Posted 30 January 2014 - 08:37 PM

15 but didn't act upon my feelings until years later.........
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Posted 30 January 2014 - 08:39 PM

I would have to say 16-20.  I guess maybe looking back it could have been sooner but I had no clue what those thoughts were.  It wasnt till I was a little older that I started to realized what they were.

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Posted 01 February 2014 - 03:56 PM

21-25 was when I absolutely knew but I had experiences earlier. Looking back I'd probably had crushes on other women before I was a teenager but just didn't realise what they were at the time.

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Posted 01 February 2014 - 04:15 PM

I was about 11-12 when i knew but didn't know what it was called x coz your where either gay or stirght there was nothing in-between x
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Posted 02 February 2014 - 02:11 AM

I think i first realized when my mom asked me if I was "fruity like that" but i never really thought about it much before then, or after then, but it hit me hard once i was in my senior year or high school & the feeling has grown since then

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Posted 05 February 2014 - 10:58 AM

About 13, I used to have crushes on both genders. In my teens I thought it was a phase and I would end up one way or another but by about 20 I knew I was definitely bi.

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Posted 05 February 2014 - 07:50 PM

Late late late!!!! Only in the last couple of years.  Still have confused feelings and not acted on anything yet!

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Posted 09 February 2014 - 07:55 PM

I voted 16- 20.... Although I was first curious at 13 .... I've never really accepted it until recently......
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Posted 10 February 2014 - 12:57 AM

I was 20...in college.. my first full blown sexual experience was with my college roommate.  But the first time I knew I was attracted to women was when my OTHER college roommate basically attacked me in our dorm room (and instead of being disgusted by it....I realized I was VERY turned on...)

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Posted 04 March 2014 - 03:06 AM

I think I've always been fascinated with boobs, like, from a pretty young age... but I think I realized I might be bi when I was in 8th grade. I had a crush on one of my girl friends... turns out she was lesbian but didn't tell me til we parted ways at the end of the year. :(

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Posted 04 March 2014 - 04:34 AM

Around 16-20. I remember I couldn't stop thinking about a female teacher in my primary school then when I was in high school, I had a major crush on a girl. I remember her kissing me on the cheek and I wish I kissed her back. I don't want to be the woman I like. I just love her beauty and I have some feelings inside when I see them.  I remember I was around a teacher and I remember she came beside me and I loved that moment. She was so adorable.

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Posted 04 March 2014 - 06:08 AM

16 to 20


Start out in the big world, starting in the shop.  Seeing women all day eery day


Tryed to hide how i felt made me unhappy

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Posted 06 March 2014 - 05:14 AM

I think I always just kind of knew, I remember telling my first real boyfriend when I was 14 that I liked girls too, and it wasn't just a "thing". I have always just felt that way.

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Posted 06 March 2014 - 10:36 AM

I knew I was attracted to a friend at the age of 11/12 around the beginnings of puberty.  We used to play at sex together, which is just a game really, but i know i was also very very emotionally attached to her.  We never actually thought or talked in terms of attraction, and at school from age 8 or 9 onwards as usual all the kids wanted to play at girlfriend-boyfriend, but the game didn't interest me.  At secondary school I was aware that all my friends were into boys and I wasn't.  I wished i was, because then i could have been more "normal", but I really couldn't find myself attracted to any of the guys that they all swooned over.  At uni I fell for a girl, but although i felt drawn to her, fascinated by her, to the point of obsession, i don't think i actually thought of it in terms of being attracted to her.  I just wanted to be with her all the time, I had really strong feelings, but also really strong fears.  All my friends had boyfriends, and again i struggled to see the attraction in any of the guys.  The girl i was attracted to did make advances on me, in a very friendly way.  She could see how naive i was, I think, and how confused i was, but I was so scared, i literally ran... I really didn't understand the feelings i had, and they were so in contradiction to everything i had grown up to expect as "normal" that I was overwhelmed.  I made a really conscious effort to find a boyfriend, ended up with him for 18 years.  That's a different story.  During the time i was with him I was aware of attraction to one or two other women in my life.  I always kept it secret, hid it, always kept it as a friendship, scared of ever being found out.  Believing people would think me crazy for having attractions to women who were supposed to be my friends.  In all of this the men in my life just were there, nothing special, people i worked with or were friends with, but no strong feelings.  Finally in my late 30s i started to talk about this in therpay, as part of a bigger set of issues i was dealing with.  i think the last seven years of my life were very destabilising, and very crazy.  I went a bit off the rails, got into some crazy relationships, really pushed the boundaries.  Now i feel the ground beneath my feet, and the sun on my back, i feel stable again.  Being gay/bisexual really isn't a big deal for me.  It is a small part of my identity and of my life.
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Posted 06 March 2014 - 11:55 AM

I knew when I was 9 years old and watching Xena Warrior Princess whenever it was anywhere on TV :maninlove:

Since I came from such a sheltered family I didn't know what gay was until freshmen year in high school and by then I was too ignorant of the whole lifestyle to really act on it until the end of high school.

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Posted 09 March 2014 - 12:54 AM

I was 13

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Posted 16 March 2014 - 08:56 PM

I was a late bloomer i figured it out at 31-35.
After being married to two men i finaly feel right being with my Phalen.
Idk why it took me so long to figure it out but it just did
I was always raised to love men, get married and have kids..
Never thought of being with a women at that time in my life.
Now i wouldnt change a thing i have been with her now for 7 years and going strong.
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