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#1 OFFLINE   Janey

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Posted 24 October 2008 - 10:25 PM

This has probably been posted about before...please let me know and I'll delete if so!

It seems like it's easier for hetero flirting because it's generally more "accepted" or obvious, but how can you tell if a girl is bi? Or is into you?
It's frustrating when the orientation field on myspace/facebook profiles is left blank! hahaha!
I would like to know how to find out without asking outright or being too forward, or making advances and coming on too strong and making them uncomfortable... and I don't want to embarrass myself either, of course!  :hiya:
I was once had a crush on this girl but she moved away and I think I missed my chance! I don't want that to happen again!

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Posted 24 October 2008 - 10:56 PM

View PostJaney, on Oct 24 2008, 05:25 PM, said:

This has probably been posted about before...please let me know and I'll delete if so!

It seems like it's easier for hetero flirting because it's generally more "accepted" or obvious, but how can you tell if a girl is bi? Or is into you?
It's frustrating when the orientation field on myspace/facebook profiles is left blank! hahaha!
I would like to know how to find out without asking outright or being too forward, or making advances and coming on too strong and making them uncomfortable... and I don't want to embarrass myself either, of course!  :D
I was once had a crush on this girl but she moved away and I think I missed my chance! I don't want that to happen again!

I don't know Janey, but if you ever find out would you let me know? LOL

In all seriousness though, try bringing up someone in conversation who is bisexual like Angelina Jolie or Lindsay Lohan.  I think that would probably be a safe way to get a read on another girl feelings without the risk of embarassing yourself.  

Now, as far as if another girl is genuinely into you?  I wish I knew   :hiya:

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Posted 24 October 2008 - 11:20 PM

I seriously cannot tell. :/
Guys seem more easier for me to tell.
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Posted 24 October 2008 - 11:41 PM

IRL, who knows.  In the MMOPRG I play, it is easy and fun to flirt with the ladies and see what they do, however there is about a 50-50 chance that that "girl" is really a guy playing a girl toon. LOL

I have found this is a fairly fun way to play around with the topic.

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 01:07 AM

Beats me!

In my opinion, it is hard to tell when  a woman is bi.
A lot of women tend to be flirty with each other and mght even make a pass or two, but it is all in fun(ha ha..so they say!).
Even bringing up the topic might not be helpful because some are embarassed and will not admit it to themselves, let alone someone else.

I guess the only true way to tell ~is~ to make a few plays for someone and see how they react. If they recoil..then you will most likely know.

Also, I am thinking you should watch the body language of someone that is playing around with you. In my experience when someone has done that to me, they are all laughs and joking around, as opposed to a little more serious.

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 01:59 AM

View Postpipelle, on Oct 24 2008, 03:41 PM, said:

IRL, who knows.  In the MMOPRG I play, it is easy and fun to flirt with the ladies and see what they do, however there is about a 50-50 chance that that "girl" is really a guy playing a girl toon. LOL

I have found this is a fairly fun way to play around with the topic.
Lol. Thats how it was for the rpg i used to play. Or boys seem to play the female characters.
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Posted 25 October 2008 - 02:54 AM

What a question! I just happen to be one of those girls who is very...what's the word...shy about being bi.  :wub:  I think blonde was on to something though, try just bringing up bisexuality or homosexuality into the conversation and see how she reacts.
Some of us shy girls like a little bit of aggressiveness though, and if she's a stranger, the worst that'll happen is...you'll never have to see her again!

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 05:35 AM

There should be a manual for this! lol.
I really have no idea when it comes to shy bi girls. But I guess you can tell if you start a conversation about it. I personally get too quiet on those topics, just drop a word here or there that implies that I don't disapprove, but I'm really too shy to admit anything :wub:

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 06:11 AM

From what I've experienced... there are two reactions that are similar so you have to pay attention. Girls who are totally straight will likely laugh and joke about being with a woman or will flirt in a joking, kidding way and girls who are into it tend to flirt in a more serious way. The differences in the two types of flirting are slight, but you can definitely tell. It's all in the energy of it- if you are really clicking with a girl and making a real connection, you can feel it... if not and she's totally just messing around, there's no spark.

However, there are the bi girls who dont know they are bi who give off the connection vibe without meaning to. They are attracted to you, but wont admit it to themselves, let alone you- but who knows, with girls like that, you could be the one to pull her out of the closet. So, its a win-win situation... that is, unless she's hell bent on staying in the closet.

You just have to feel a girl out and pay close attention to how she reacts and react to her accordingly and just see where it goes and try to be confident in yourself. I know, easier said than done, right? lol

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 09:42 AM

You could ask her. Worked for me in the past.

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 09:50 AM

calico and kyra, excellent combo, good advice
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Posted 25 October 2008 - 10:03 AM

Totally agree with Calico and Kyra. I think asking is the best way to find out, whether I could actually do it is another question!

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Posted 25 October 2008 - 04:55 PM

I don't think its possible to tell if a girl is bi or not. They never give off any hints to me. :(
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Posted 25 October 2008 - 05:32 PM

All the other ladies give great advice but if you're a bit too shy to ask you could always check out her body language. Like does she touch you a lot when she talks to you? lean in more than she has to? Or look at your lips a lot more than your eyes is sometimes a bit of a give away.  That's just what i've noticed as i have some family members who are bi and gay and they are outrageous flirts so i just watch and learn. :(

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Posted 27 October 2008 - 09:41 AM

I've always wanted to know the answer to this question!
If only i had the balls to be forward, maybe i'd be able to get myself a hottie.  :wink!:

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Posted 27 October 2008 - 10:34 PM

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Posted 28 October 2008 - 02:50 AM

Well comeing from a shy bi myself when I give off signals that I'm bi I useually tend to stare at her a lot and try to talk a little but choose my words carefully. When given a comment I blush a lot  :)  and will most likely say something back to you. Comming from another end of sides persay.
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Posted 28 October 2008 - 03:08 AM

OK, here's one for those who said to ask...  what words would you use?  I mean, how do you work that into the conversation in a non-creepy way?
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Posted 28 October 2008 - 10:05 AM

If you don't know her well and have no idea what she thinks about homo- or bisexuality, why not talk about something like the l-word or a les movie first and if the reaction is okay proceed to something like "Have you ever had a crush on a girl?"

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Posted 29 October 2008 - 11:22 PM

I'm with Michelle. On myspace, I have left my orientation blank because whilst I haven't got to the point where I can say 'I am bi', I also feel like a bit of a fraud calling myself straight. Also, only you lovely ladies actually know of this demon which haunts me. On facebook, there is no 'bi' option, so that is also left blank. Personally, I would be suspicious about anyone who has left their sexuality a blank, I can't see any other reason why it wouldn't be on there.

As for knowing whether a girl is bi, to be honest I think Calico and Kyra are right. The best thing to do is ask. If you haven't known them long, and they're offended, you haven't lost anything, if they are friends, you're getting to know them (ask it when theres a deep personal discussion going on perhaps) and hopefully they'll forgive you. On the more positive side, they might be as into you as you are into them. It's risky really, but the best thing to do is try and work out whether it's worth that risk or not.




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