More Nervous, Or Conscious, Around Females Than Males...
Posted 31 January 2012 - 06:00 AM
When I walk past a girl crush, everything feels so slowed down and almost calculated. I have to pretend as if I am not looking at her and she's just another everyday person passing by, who doesn't mean much(possibly for the sake of not feeling like a creeper or revealing my curious sexuality). That special breath-hitching sensation is still there.
When it comes to guys, it's more better or naturally played off. I don't have to do all of that but the intensity isn't as much and there's a less fear of getting caught staring.
I wish I wasn't such a wimp or hopeless romantically. I had the guts to order an anonymous valentine to a guy I liked but I have a feeling that he's already 'talking' to another girl and I'll feel like an idiot.
Posted 31 January 2012 - 08:28 AM
i can't breath, my heart is ridiculously having a major concert inside my chest
and when our eyes meet, feels like i fell into an endless abyss of euphoria...ahhhh girls...
Posted 31 January 2012 - 09:09 AM
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Black tongues speak faster than the car can crash.
You supply the rumours and I'll provide the wrath ♥
Posted 31 January 2012 - 12:42 PM
- Duke of Montrose.
Posted 31 January 2012 - 02:17 PM
I don't seem to have any trouble interacting with guys. I could probably befriend them easier than girls. I wish it was the other way around.
Posted 31 January 2012 - 03:47 PM
I guess for me. . . I'm more aware and used to picking up when guys are hitting on me or interested in me as more than friends. Sometimes I'm sensitive to it, and kinda put the "not interested" signals out just in general to the world as a result. . . but I definitely notice that tension more with guys than girls. And when I'm in a space where guys are seeming to swarm with that intent in their eyes, I'm much more nervous or conscious of guys.
It may be that historically, I've dated more guys. . . and kinda ignored attractions to women. And I've like, zero gaydar I'm sure. . . I'd need to work on developing some of that So am more aware when guys seem to be sexually interested in me, and when I'm not in the mood or not looking or there's just "too much" of that energy around me. . . yeah, I'm more uncomfy with guys.
With women. . . I guess since I'm still half blind to seeing if there's that mutual interest as anything more than friends. . . I don't know. I'm comfy chatting with people, and am genuinely interested in what someone has to say. . . so easier to get tied up in the conversations with women for me, and develop friendships.
Mind you, this may be because I've not really tried flirting with women I find attractive around me as of yet (I know, I know. . . ). So have longer history of just meeting awesome friends without that sexual tension complication. . . and I think when I have a crush, I'd be aware of them more now (whatever gender).
Posted 31 January 2012 - 03:54 PM
Who know crushes could feel like this at this age? I love it!!
Posted 31 January 2012 - 09:41 PM
the sun goes down
the stars come up
and all that counts
is here and now
Posted 01 February 2012 - 02:03 AM
Men are so simple...not much complexity to them... they're easy to befriend and easy to get lol so I'm totally relaxed around 'em....
Definitely more nervous and conscious around women!
Posted 01 February 2012 - 02:09 AM
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Posted 01 February 2012 - 04:19 AM
Who know crushes could feel like this at this age? I love it!!
written perfectly! lol... I cannot even speak English when around her! Actually, speaking is the last think on my mind... I don't even think I need to utter a single word! I'd be happy to purr though
Posted 01 February 2012 - 06:22 AM
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Posted 01 February 2012 - 09:33 AM
And maybe that's why I am not able to interact with women. Maybe I don't understand the female point of view. That's strange, because I understand my own point of view, and I am a female. Anyway, my rare female friends are not "regular" girls, in the sense that they behave differently than the perceived "norm" for a woman. They are the few women I feel at ease with: the "particular" ones. And they are surely a minority! Girls usually come to think that I don't like them. (And this is true, for the most part of them)
And when it comes to dating girls... I don't know anything about it. My male friends sometimes gave me advice, but I think those things work only with heterosexual girls. Sooo... whenever I tried, I failed!
My partner says that I have to befriend more women, trying to understand how they think, how they manage problems... and maybe one day I'll be able to successfully date them. Mhh. Maybe. What do you think about it?
Posted 01 February 2012 - 11:13 PM
Only recently have I found my groove with flirting with women. I was at a dance (of the ballroom variety) and who was there but my crush from afar from the natural health foods store, who I had been crushing on for 2 years almost! What did I do, I walked up to her without thinking or caring (I was with my husband too!) and introduced myself, asked her a few questions and started dancing with my husband. After every dance I would seek her out and chat with her. By the end of the dance we were dancing together, foolishly, and she was coming up to me to talk. She ended up asking me for my contact info!
I only realized afterward that I had finally crossed over my female bridge, finally figured out how to be natural and normal. I never once asked if she were into girls, I never said anything to make her think that I was. I asked her about her top, touched her arm when we were joking and made eye contact. She could have stopped talking to me politely, but she didn't.
As for the resolution? There isn't one yet. We see each other on FB, flirt here and there, but really I don't think that I am ready for a gf outside of my marriage, even if she is totally tantalizing. Breathtaking eyes. Such a beauty. But who is to say what it would amount to? I guess I just don't want to start something that might turn major, without being prepared for it first.
Posted 03 February 2012 - 11:15 PM
Only to someone who has the valor and daring
To cut pieces of their soul off with a knife
Then weave them into a blanket to protect you." ~ Hafiz