The Personal Messaging (PM) system is automatically open to you after 50 posts when you then become a 'trusted member. By then we are 99% sure you are a genuine member here. It is not a lot to post and most members here do it within a few days to a week. After this time you may PM other members and chat privately, one to one.
Before 50 posts you may PM Admin or Moderators if you need anything

The Chat Room will also automatically be open to you for chat anytime you wish after 50 posts.

ON THURSDAYS 3PM UNTIL FRIDAY 8AM (UK time) THE CHAT ROOM IS OPEN TO ALL MEMBERS HERE, regardless of posts.

This gives newbies a chance to meet each other as well as some of the regulars here,and it also covers most time zones. So don't feel shy about popping in we'd love to see you there.

The Shoutbox also has a 20 post restriction on it. This was due to abusive and offensive posts by a few new members, since banned and probably men.

For your OWN protection please do not post up personal details up on this on this board. For the following reasons we have chosen NOT to allow this on the general boards.

1) All sorts of spammers 'harvest' these details and if picked up, you will be bombarded, not with replies from nice girlies here, but with endless 'penis enlargement' and Viagra spam. I guess that's not quite what you were hoping to get from this board ???? (There shouldn't be many on here require penis enlargements )

2) I'll be blunt....MEN !!!!!! You make yourself an easy target for men looking for cheap thrills. Your details are up there and men pretending to be women can easily take advantage. Again not what we're hoping for from this site.

3) This is a discussion board above ALL, and one we hope will turn into a great community of bi and bi-curious females. A lot of you will be used to plain old message boards where the messages go along the lines of 'hey I want to met someone tonight in *******' and 'oh I'm up for a shag tonight email me'. NOT how it works here.

This site isn't a cheap contact board. We want to be a non-intimidating, sleaze-free place where newbies to the bi world and experienced bi's can chat and discuss issues and have a bit of a laugh doing it. That's why the 50 posts thing is in place. Once you can Personal Message and Chat Live you can arrange and pass on whatever details you like IN PRIVATE! And everyone knows that if you've posted 50 times then there's a 99% chance that you're a serious member here.

And that's it ladies, for your own protection and for the good of this board, please refrain from handing out any personal details about yourself until you can do so safely and privately.